It is impossible to remain indifferent during a difficult period in the life of a loved one. Anyone can be in a prolonged depression, it is important to become support in time and provide all kinds of help. Methods must be effective, and words must be convincing, only then the result will be maximum. What to do if you can’t find words and fall into a stupor at the sight of a suffering person? Do not panic and read the instructions carefully.
8 effective methods of supporting a person in difficult times
Being nearby
Stay in sight, keep your phone on, and be there for a friend 24 hours a day. Stay overnight, if necessary, devote all your free time to a loved one. Show the skills of Sherlock Holmes and identify the true cause of the experience, and then try to eradicate it.
Do not say memorized phrases that only make it worse: “you can handle it,” “time will put everything in its place,” and the like. Make it clear that you are support and support, so you will provide comprehensive assistance.
Distracting maneuvers
Distract the person in every possible way, even if you have to stand on your head or dance on the table. Now it is important to eradicate grief, which soon threatens to develop into a prolonged depression. Contribute to the return of a friend or relative to normal life at least for a few hours a day. Take a trip to a park, a movie theater, a photo exhibition, or a place where there are no people at all.
An excellent option would be home gatherings with pizza or rolls, another option for dishes is possible. Turn on modern comedy, but not with the effect of melodrama, turn up the volume and delve into it. Try to comment on the actions of the characters and change them in your own way. Be tactful, it would be inappropriate to invite to a nightclub where everyone around is drinking and having fun. Although you know better the preferences of a loved one.
Expression of emotions
You can't deal with strong emotions by keeping them deep inside. It is important to throw out all the pain, and you, as a friend, must help in this. Provide an opportunity to show the despair, resentment, disappointment and sadness that hurts the heart.
An improvement in the general condition, both physical and psychological, will occur only after the expression of a storm of feelings. There are times when in such situations a person closes. Provoke him with an appropriate conversation, but watch the reaction and don't overdo it.
Desire to speak out
The ability to listen is valued in the same way as the art of speaking. Listen to all the words of your opponent, do not interrupt. The story can be long and repeated several times, that's okay. Do not make remarks “You already told (a)” or “Stop repeating!”. If a friend does this, then it is necessary.
Take for granted everything that is said and happening, provide support, assent, if necessary. You don't have to sit and ponder who did the right thing and who didn't, or why it happened the way it did. Limit yourself to the use of monosyllabic phrases “yes, of course”, “of course”, “I understand”, “exactly noticed”.
Useful advice
After going through an emotional discharge and many hours of monologue, it is your time to speak. At this stage, share your own thoughts on this or that matter, be persuasive and do not question your words. Give similar examples from your life and tell how you coped with grief (if similar happened before).
Simulate the situation by putting yourself in the position of a friend. Being of sound mind, you have an undeniable advantage to use. Show concern and genuine concern for your emotional state. Perhaps the time has come to gently reason with the person about his erroneous actions and assumptions (if so).
Help
Offer to help around the apartment, do the cleaning and laundry. Pick up the kids from school, go to the store, pay the bills. Prepare or order a delicious dinner by buying a bottle of good wine. Surely you have an idea about the taste preferences of a loved one, play on it.
Of course, it will not be possible to restore the former balance in an instant, but you will clearly ease the situation. Help until the condition returns to normal and life returns to normal. It will take time, as always. This method is considered the most effective among all tested.
Assessment of the situation
It is important to understand the gravity of the situation, not to condemn or reproach. Perhaps a loved one will have unreasonable outbursts of anger, do not answer back. A mental storm makes people look at things differently, show indulgence and patience.
Do you see the absurdity of what is happening? Keep quiet, wait for a convenient moment to report it. Constant irritability is also common, take emotions with humor, turning everything into a joke. If you notice that you yourself are already on the verge, take a walk and gather your thoughts together.
A few steps ahead
Listen to your intuition, watch the reaction to actions and words. Judge by the situation and you will see progress. Do not use template methods, tears do not flow according to schedule. Be two steps ahead of a friend/relative, be always ready.
Man is a purely individual person. What works with one will fail with another. Empathy, constant attention, care - that's what really matters!
Everyone needs a solid shoulder of relatives during an illness. There are a number of recommendations developed specifically for this purpose.
- Show love and make it clear that you value the person.
- Prove that the disease did not affect your plans in any way, even if this is not true. It is important to show all the love and care, to make the patient feel needed.
- Make plans to implement together after discharge. Arrange to go to the movies or visit your favorite bar, work out several options for spending time together.
- For those who are not seriously ill, buy an interesting present in a comic form, hinting at a speedy recovery.
- If you are colleagues, repeat more often about boring workdays without your buddy. Share funny stories that happened during your absence.
- Come to the hospital as often as possible. Share news, contact the patient for advice / help, ask for an opinion.
- Bring backgammon, checkers or poker to the clinic, borrow a friend. Everyone knows how boring bed rest can be. Have fun together and play pranks on each other if the ailment is not serious.
- Create a normal room from the ward (as far as possible). Bring personal items from home, place a vase of flowers, or set up the kitchen table with a tablecloth and normal cutlery. If there are no contraindications, order your favorite food, as it is a source of good mood. Who doesn't love delicious food?
- Download some movies to your laptop or purchase an e-book to brighten up the patient's gray days when he is alone.
- The above methods are mostly effective for people with mild illnesses, but how to support someone who is seriously ill?
Be there every day, put aside all your affairs and make it clear that now only the health of your loved one is important to you. Buy nice little things, make gifts with your own hands and reveal secrets. Ask for advice, cheer up and do not let the patient lose heart. If he wants to talk about an illness, keep the conversation going and be gentle.
Your loved ones need you in times of despair, grief and emotional distress. Rely solely on intuition, act according to the situation and show indulgence. Look for the right words of support, provide comprehensive assistance, use effective methods of distraction. Show all the love and care you can, be around as often as you can. You know your loved ones well, help them and goodness will return a hundredfold!
Video: words of support in difficult times
Perhaps one of your friends or acquaintances has lost a loved one. Most likely, you want to support this person, but it is often difficult to find the right words in such a situation. First, express your sincere condolences. Then provide the necessary emotional support. Listen to the grieving person. It is also important to provide practical assistance. For example, you can help with cooking or cleaning.
Steps
Establish contact with the person
- A person who has lost a loved one can very acutely perceive the attention of others, even after the funeral. So if you want to offer help, approach your friend or acquaintance when they are alone.
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Express your sincere condolences. When you learn that a loved one of your friend or acquaintance has died, try to contact him as soon as possible. You can send an email. However, it will be better if you call or meet with the person who has lost a loved one in person. You don't have to talk too much during such a meeting. Say, "I'm sorry, sorry." After that, you can say a few kind words about the deceased. Also promise that you will visit the person again soon.
Mention that you are ready to help the person. During the next meeting, you will be able to fulfill your promise by providing the necessary assistance. Be specific about what you can do for the grieving person. Thanks to this, he will know what you are ready to do for him, and it will be easier for you to keep your word. Tell us what kind of help you are willing to provide and how much time you will need.
- For example, if you're short on time, suggest that the grieving person take flowers from the funeral to the hospital or donate them to a charity.
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Accept rejection with understanding. If you offer help and the grieving person turns you down, then listen to their wishes and leave your offer of help until the next meeting. Either way, don't take it personally. Because a grieving person may be offered help by many, it can be difficult for them to make the right decision.
- You can say, "I know you're having a hard time making decisions right now. Let's talk about that next week."
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Avoid sensitive topics. During the conversation, be very careful about mentioning something funny. If you don't know the person very well, avoid jokes altogether. In addition, the causes of death should not be discussed. Otherwise, the person will treat you like a gossip instead of a sincere and sympathetic person.
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Invite a friend to visit a bereaved help group. If you see that he is having a hard time coping with his feelings, offer to enlist the support of people who can help him with this. Find out if there is a bereaved support group in your area. You can do your research using the internet. Invite a friend to attend meetings with them.
- Be very careful when asking a friend to use a support group. For example, you could say, "Recently I learned that there are special groups of people who meet to talk about their loved ones who have passed away. I don't know if you would like to take part in such meetings. If you want to go, I'm ready do it with you."
Choose the right time to talk. Before moving on to communicate with a grieving person, make sure that he is ready for this. A person who has lost a loved one can be very upset. Besides, it might be busy. So ask him if he can make time for you. If possible, talk to the grieving person in private.
To begin with, understand and accept one thing: even though you have known each other for a long time and you know a person as flaky, now this does not mean at all that his behavior will meet your expectations. “There are certain general stages of grief. You can fully focus on them, remembering, of course, that each of us still needs an individual approach, ”explains psychologist Marianna Volkova.
Our experts:
Anna Shishkovskaya
Psychologist at the Nina Rubshtein Gestalt Center
Marianna Volkova
Practicing psychologist, specialist in family and individual psychology
How to support a person if he is in shock
Stage #1: usually a person is in complete shock, confusion and simply cannot believe in the reality of what is happening.
What to say. If you are really close friends, it is best for you to be there without relying on the phone, Skype or SMS. For some people, tactile contact is very important, the ability to see the interlocutor in front of you live. “At this time, conversations and attempts to express condolences are not needed,” Marianna Volkova is sure. - None. Therefore, if your friend asks you to be around and at the same time refuses to communicate, do not try to talk to him. Contrary to your expectations, it will not get easier for him. It is worth talking about what happened only when the loved one is ready for this. In the meantime, you can hug, sit next to me, hold your hand, stroke your head, bring tea with lemon. All conversations are strictly on business or on abstract topics.
What to do. The loss of a loved one, sudden terrible illnesses and other blows of fate require not only reflection, but also many worries. Don't think that giving this kind of help is easy. It requires a lot of emotional return and is very exhausting. How to support a person in such a situation? First, ask how you can be of help. A lot depends on what state your friend is in. You may have to take on organizational issues: call, find out, negotiate. Or give the unfortunate a sedative. Or wait with him in the doctor's waiting room. But, as a rule, it is enough to at least deal with everyday issues: put things in order, wash the dishes, cook food.
How to support a person if he is acutely worried
Stage #2: accompanied by acute feelings, resentment, misunderstanding and even aggression.
What to do. It is clear that it is difficult to communicate at this moment. But right now, a friend needs attention and support. Try to come more often, be in touch if he is left alone. You can invite him to visit for a while. It is important to clearly understand whether you are mentally ready for this.
Words of condolence
“Most people, when expressing condolences, use conventional phrases that do not carry any meaning. Actually, this is a courtesy and nothing more. But when it comes to a loved one, you need something more than a formality. There is, of course, no one-size-fits-all template. But there are things that definitely shouldn’t be said,” says Marianna Volkova.
- If you don't know what to say, shut up. Better hug once again, show that you are there and ready to help at any moment.
- Avoid expressions like “everything will be fine”, “everything will pass” and “life goes on”. You seem to promise good things, but only in the future, not now. Such conversations are annoying.
- Try not to ask unnecessary questions. The only appropriate in this situation: "How can I help?" Everything else will have to wait.
- Never say words that might devalue what happened. “And someone can’t walk at all!” - this is not a consolation, but a mockery for a person who has lost, say, an arm.
- If your goal is to give moral support to a friend, first of all you yourself must be stoic. Sobbing, lamenting and talking about the injustice of life is unlikely to calm.
How to support a person if he is depressed
Stage #3: at this time, a realization of what happened comes to a person. Expect depression and depression from a friend. But there is good news: he begins to understand that he needs to somehow move on.
What to say. We are all different, so the best thing you can do is ask what exactly a loved one expects from you.
- Some people need to talk about what happened.“There are people who, in a difficult situation, it is vital to speak out loud their emotions, fears and experiences. A friend does not need condolences, your task is to listen. You can cry or laugh with him, but it’s not worth giving advice and putting in your five cents in every possible way, ”advises Marianna Volkova.
- Some people need a distraction to get over grief. You are required to talk on extraneous topics, to involve a person in solving some issues. Invent urgent matters that require full concentration of attention and constant employment. Do everything so that your friend has no time to think about what he is trying to escape from.
- There are people who, in difficult life situations, prefer loneliness - it is easier for them to cope with their emotions. If a friend tells you that they don't want any contact yet, the worst thing you can do is try to get into his soul with the best of intentions. Simply put, forcibly "do good." Leave the person alone, but be sure to make it clear that you are there and ready to provide all possible assistance at any time.
What to do.
- In the first case, help of a domestic nature is often required, especially if your loved one is not one of those who easily negotiates, communicates and can easily choose the best of several proposed options.
- You have to help your friend step back a little from what happened. If you are connected by work issues, you can carry out distracting maneuvers in this direction. A good option is sports. The main thing is not to torture yourself and his grueling workouts, but choose what you like. You can go to the pool, to the court or to yoga together. The goal is to try to have fun.
- In the third case, you only need what you are asked for. Don't insist on anything. Invite “to go out and unwind” (what if he agrees?), but always leave the choice to the person and do not be intrusive.
How to support a person when he has already experienced grief
Stage #4: This is a period of adaptation. You could say rehab.
What to say. It was at this time that a person re-establishes contacts, communication with others gradually takes on its usual form. Now a friend may need parties, travel, and other trappings of a mourning-free life.
What to do. “If your friend is quite ready to communicate, you don’t need to try to somehow “correctly” behave in his company. Do not try to forcefully cheer, shake and bring to life. At the same time, you can not avoid direct looks, sit with a sour face. The more habitually you adjust the atmosphere, the easier it will be for a person,” Marianna Volkova is sure.
Visit to a psychologist
Whatever stage a person is in, friends sometimes try to provide help they don't need. For example, forcibly send to a psychologist. Here you have to be especially careful, because sometimes it is necessary, and sometimes it is completely unnecessary.
“Experiencing trouble, sadness is a natural process that, as a rule, does not need professional help,” says psychologist Anna Shishkovskaya. – There is even a term “work of grief”, the healing effect of which is possible provided that a person allows himself to go through all the stages. However, this is precisely what becomes a problem for many: to allow yourself to feel, to meet experiences. If we try to “run away” from strong, unpleasant emotions, to ignore them, the “work of grief” is disrupted, “getting stuck” at any of the stages can occur. That’s when the help of a psychologist is really needed.”
Support cons
The tragedy experienced sometimes gives people a reason to manipulate others. This, of course, is not about the first, most difficult period. But you may be required to be present for long periods of time. Your personal life, work, desires will not be taken into account. Let's say you invited a friend to stay with you for a while - a fairly common practice. But all the agreed terms have long passed, and the person continues to visit. You are silent, because it is impolite to talk about inconveniences, but spoiled relationships will be a natural result.
Equally important is the financial issue. It happens that time passes, everything that was needed is done, but the need for investment does not disappear. And you, by inertia, continue to give money, afraid to refuse. " I noticed that you are starting to sacrifice yourself and your interests, which means there is a reason to talk and clarify the situation,” recalls Anna Shishkovskaya. - Otherwise, the accumulated resentment and indignation will one day provoke a serious conflict with mutual claims. It would be nice not to lead to a scandal, but to mark the boundaries in time.
Personal dramas are just one of those troubles in which friends are known. And your behavior during this period will certainly affect your relationship in one way or another. Therefore, it is worth rushing to help only if you sincerely want it.
If your friend recently broke up with his girlfriend, or your girlfriend is with her boyfriend, and he or she is in a deep depression, or your close friend is trying to lose weight, but so far without success, you should do everything in your power to provide moral support! You can become a real support for your friends when they need it most.
Steps
Support a friend when their life circumstances change
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Contact a friend. When you find out that one of your friends is going through a crisis, whether it's a divorce or breakup, illness or death of a loved one, contact your friend as soon as possible. People who find themselves in a difficult or crisis situation tend to feel lonely.
- If your friend is far away from you, call him, send an email, or write a message.
- You don't have to say what you know about the situation. Just be there, console and provide all possible assistance to those who are struggling with the hardships of life.
- Visit a friend personally, warning him in advance of your visit. This is especially important if your friend is sick and does not leave the house.
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Listen without judgment. When a person is in trouble, he wants to speak out. Of course, you may have your own view on this issue, but there is no need to share it unless you are asked to.
- By focusing on your friend's problem, you can help him get on the path to recovery.
- You can ask if your friend needs your advice, but don't be surprised if the answer is no.
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Offer practical help. Instead of offering advice, provide physical help. This is very important for those who are struggling to cope with a difficult situation. Even small things can make a difference.
- Help a friend with household chores, such as grocery shopping, cleaning the house, walking the dog. As a rule, a person who finds himself in difficult circumstances does not want to deal with such matters at all.
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Let your friend deal with his emotions when he is ready. Emotions that a person who has experienced difficulties (illness, death of a loved one, divorce or breakup) can experience, as a rule, are undulating. Today your friend may be in a good mood, but tomorrow he may be in pain and sadness.
- Never say, “I thought you were fine, what happened?” or “Are you sad too much?”
- Try to deal with your emotions. Of course, you also experience strong emotions when you care for a person who has experienced grief. Do not think of yourself in such circumstances. Think about your friend. Make sure he can talk openly with you about his feelings.
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Offer your support. Make sure your friend knows you are around and ready to help. Of course, it is good if someone else provides support to the needy, but be among those who are ready to be there.
- Tell your friend that he does not burden you. Tell him, “Call me anytime you feel bad! I want to help you deal with this difficult situation."
- This is especially important when it comes to divorce or the end of a relationship. Tell your friend that he can call you when he has a strong urge to call his ex.
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Encourage your friend to keep their needs in mind. When someone is going through a difficult life situation, as a rule, personal needs go by the wayside. This is why people who are battling a serious illness or grieving the death of a loved one tend to forget to eat, stop caring about their appearance, and rarely leave the house.
- Remind them to shower and exercise. The best way to do this is to invite a friend to take a walk together or have a cup of coffee together. Your friend will be forced to make a little effort to put his appearance in order.
- If you want your friend to eat, bring prepared food with you so they don't cook or do the dishes. Or you can invite a friend to eat at a cafe (if he is ready for this).
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Don't take control of a friend's life. While you may have good intentions, when it comes to helping, try not to overdo it. When a person is going through a divorce, illness, or the death of a loved one, they may experience a sense of powerlessness.
- When proposing to a friend, let him choose and make a decision. Don't just take a friend out for lunch, ask him where he wants to have dinner or lunch. By allowing him to make decisions, even small ones, you enable a person to feel their importance and strength.
- Don't spend a lot of money on a friend. If you spend a lot of money on a friend, he will feel like he owes you. In addition, by doing so, you are making your friend feel like they are unable to take care of themselves.
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Take care of yourself. If a close friend of yours is having a hard time, chances are you will also experience negative emotions from it. This is especially true if you have experienced something similar to what your friend experienced.
- Set boundaries. Even if you want to help your friend, make sure your life doesn't start revolving around him.
- Determine what behaviors and situations motivate you to take action. If you are dealing with a friend who has recently left a home where they have experienced abuse and abuse, and you have had such problems in the past, help the friend, but be aware of your feelings.
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Keep helping. People tend to be very caring in the beginning, but over time they stop being helpful. Make sure you don't. Your friend needs to know that he can call you if he needs it and that you are ready to be there when needed.
Support a friend who is depressed
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Identify the symptoms of depression. Not always a person can be depressed, he can just go through a difficult period in his life. However, if your friend has symptoms of depression, it may be worth taking a closer look at his condition.
- Does your friend experience constant depression, anxiety, or irritability? Does he experience feelings of hopelessness or despair (everything is bad, life is terrible)?
- Does your friend feel guilty, worthless, or helpless? Is he constantly tired? Does he have difficulty concentrating, is it difficult for him to remember something, or make a decision?
- Does your friend suffer from insomnia, or does he sleep a lot? Has your friend lost or gained weight lately? Has he become restless and irritable?
- Does your friend think or mention death or suicide? Has he attempted suicide? Your friend may think the world would be a better place if he wasn't in it.
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Understand his pain, but don't stop there. Remember that pain, feelings of hopelessness and helplessness are real. Try to understand how your friend is feeling and try to help.
- People with depression may respond to distractions. Don't make it too obvious. If you are walking, for example, pay attention to a beautiful sunset, or the color of the sky.
- Constantly mentioning negative feelings can actually make your friend feel worse, since he is constantly in such a state.
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Don't take everything to heart. When someone is depressed, it is difficult for them to communicate with other people.
- A depressed person may say something hurtful or unpleasant. Remember that your friend is acting this way because he is depressed.
- This does not mean that you should calmly respond to hurtful words. If your friend is behaving abusively towards you, then most likely he needs the help of a psychotherapist. It is unlikely that you yourself will be able to help your friend, he needs qualified help.
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Don't underestimate the seriousness of depression. Depression is often associated with a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is much more than just sadness or unhappiness. A depressed person experiences despair and depression.
- Never say "come to your senses", or think that he will be better off if he "does yoga", "loses weight", "goes for a walk", etc. Your friend will feel worse because he will feel guilty.
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Offer help. A depressed person cannot cope with housework, it is difficult for him to wash dishes, clean the house and do other household chores. Help him, it will ease his condition.
- People who struggle with depression spend most of their energy fighting their negative emotions. Therefore, they have no energy at all to perform household chores.
- Bring dinner, or offer to clean up the house. Ask if the dog needs to be walked.
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Be a compassionate listener. Depression is not something you can just fix. Just listen instead of giving a lot of advice or expressing your opinion about the current situation.
- You can start the conversation like this: "I've been worried about you lately" or "You've been feeling down all the time lately."
- If your friend doesn't join the conversation, you can ask a few questions to help them: "What is the reason you feel unwell?" or “When did you start feeling depressed?”
- You can say: “You are not alone, I am with you”, “I will take care of you, I want to help you during this difficult time”, or “You are very important to me. Your life means a lot to me."
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Remember that you are not a psychotherapist. Even if you are an experienced therapist, you should not practice on your friend, especially if you are not at work. Being with a person who is experiencing depression and listening to him means taking responsibility for his mental state.
- If your friend constantly calls you in the middle of the night when you are asleep, talks about suicide, and feels overwhelmed for months or years, he should get qualified help from a psychotherapist.
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Encourage your friend to seek professional help. Although you can support your friend, you cannot give him the professional help he needs. It may not be easy for you to talk to a friend about this, but it is extremely important for the improvement of your friend's condition.
- Ask a friend if they would like professional help.
- Recommend a good doctor if you know a good specialist.
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Know that depression can come and go. Depression is not something that comes on once and then the person does not experience it again as soon as they take a little medicine (it's not chicken pox). It can be a lifelong struggle, even if your friend is on the required medication.
- Don't leave your friend. Depressed people experience loneliness, they may feel like they have lost their minds. By supporting your friend, you can alleviate his condition.
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Set boundaries. Your friend is important to you, and you want to do everything in your power to make it easier for him. However, do not forget about your needs and needs.
- Take care of yourself. Take breaks from interacting with the depressed person. Spend time with people who don't need your support.
- Remember, if your friend doesn't connect, the relationship will become one-sided. Don't let this happen in your relationship.
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At first glance, there is nothing difficult in supporting a person in difficult times or sympathizing with him when necessary. And yet, so many people find it incredibly difficult to find the right words in situations where they are needed most. How to support a person in difficult times and what to say? There is no universal "recipe". And yet, you can learn to understand which words are relevant in which situations. This will allow you to find exactly the support that a person needs most.
Faith and trust
In general, people in life speak very little and hear phrases such as "I believe in you" or "I trust you." Moreover, psychologists believe that it is the lack of direct expressions of feelings and support that leads people to withdraw and “go into themselves.” That is why it is very important not to be shy to say such words to a person. Of course, it is desirable to speak them sincerely, but even if you have doubts, such support will be very useful.
Also, do not confuse the issue of faith and trust. In the first case, it is rather about how parents believe in their child, the wife - in her husband, and so on. But trust, rather, is relevant for friends, comrades, colleagues and those who need to know your attitude towards them. Therefore, when your relatives, friends or acquaintances have any problems or difficulties, just say that you believe in them. As a rule, sometimes already such a small step will be enough for support.
no pity
Often you can meet those who, due to the inability to sympathize or a complete misunderstanding of their words, begin to express pity. It is worth remembering that pitying someone and expressing sympathy or regret are radically different concepts. In most cases, pity will not console or support anyone. Rather, such words will make a person even more withdrawn into himself and feel unnecessary. No wonder it is pity that is considered one of the most destructive feelings.
Therefore, even if you are talking to a very sick person and trying to support him, do not express pity. Instead, try to bring a smile and create a good mood.
condolences
In most cases, people have the hardest time finding the right words when it comes to death and burial. How do you support someone who has just lost a family member or friend while experiencing boundless grief? Many people believe that words are completely unnecessary in such situations, but often this is not the case. It's best to say what you think. People always feel sincerity and reciprocate it.
Even if you find it difficult to find the right words in such a situation, try to offer any help you can. Show that you share the grief and are ready to support the person.
Support and inspiration
Often, support has a lot to do with inspiration. It is enough to say a couple of necessary words so that a person not only gains faith in himself, but also finds the strength to overcome any difficulties. Most often, this type of support is distributed in families. For example, when a husband or wife decides to change jobs and begins to doubt whether they can find a decent job, there is nothing better than support. The faith of the dearest people can inspire any person, but it is worth understanding that it must be expressed, and not kept in oneself. Not all people are able to understand and “read” even those people with whom they have lived for years, therefore, in the right situations, it is important to say everything that you think.
Not without reason, most creative people can repeatedly increase their performance and aspiration if they have a source of inspiration. Otherwise, they will not be able to do even what they have always done without much difficulty. Moreover, a creative person does not always need even words, it is enough to support him with presence or attention.
support for depression
The most common situations when people need support are bad mood, depression and various problems. It is in such cases that the words of a friend, girlfriend, relative or even work colleagues can “pull” a person out of the abyss of despair and bring him back to life. Psychologists always emphasize that people are social beings, therefore the desire to constantly cope with problems alone, although it can train character and willpower, will never make you live in happiness and harmony.
