Material wealth and well-being, as a stage on the path to yourself. Emotional well-being of a person

The personality is the integrator of all mental activity of the individual. Personality in its real existence, in its self-consciousness is what a person, realizing himself as a subject, calls his "I". "I" is a person as a whole, in the unity of all aspects of being, reflected in self-consciousness. To his "I" a person to a greater extent refers to the internal mental content. In a very broad sense, everything that a person experiences, all the mental content of his life, is part of the personality.

For the psychology of personality and psychology as a whole, it is especially significant that the experience of well-being is the most important component of the dominant mood of the individual. It is through the mood that subjective well-being, as an integrative, especially significant experience, has a constant impact on various parameters of a person’s mental state and, as a result, on the success of behavior, the productivity of activity, the effectiveness of interpersonal interaction and many other aspects of an individual’s external and internal activity. This constant influence is the regulatory role of the subjective well-being of the individual. The experience of well-being (or trouble) is influenced by various aspects of a person's being, it combines many features of a person's attitude towards himself and the world around him. Personal well-being consists of a number of components:

Social component

The socialization of the individual in modern conditions of social development leaves an imprint on the entire life of a person, determining its orientation, the system of value orientations, and relationships. In the process of socialization, internal criteria for evaluating oneself, the system of relations, life activity and other objects of the social field in which the person himself is located and in which his behavior and activities are realized are also formed. The system of internal relations of a person is formed on the basis of her ideas, which set a certain coordinate system in which she places all the most important, significant events; this system includes internal and external instances, dynamic in time and forming wholes in which they can correlate, contradict or coincide. Social well-being is the satisfaction of the individual with his social status and the current state of the society to which he belongs. It is also satisfaction with interpersonal relationships and status in the microsocial environment, a sense of community. The leading factors that make up social well-being are: social dependence, personal characteristics, predictability of life (optimism - pessimism), confidence in life and emotional mood, satisfaction with one's fulfillment in work, satisfaction with the state, intuitive and contemplative attitude to reality, social comfort , citizenship, value attitude to the future. The range of opinions regarding the scope of belonging to social well-being is unusually large. Social well-being is considered at different levels: on the one hand, as a phenomenon of social consciousness and social psychology, on the other, as an individual-personal state. Along with the assignment of self-feeling to the highest floors of social consciousness - to the sphere of ideological, political, spiritual phenomena - there is also a tendency to include it in the system of deep unconscious individual mental phenomena.

Material well-being - satisfaction with the material side of one's existence (housing, food, rest), the completeness of one's security, the stability of material wealth. We all strive for material well-being. Everyone has different dimensions of this very "material well-being". Rich is not the one who has a lot of money, but the one who has enough. Each of us has our own needs and opportunities. It is on the possibilities that the level of material well-being of a particular person at a particular moment depends mainly. As wealth changes, opportunities change as well. Because of this, the quality of life is different for everyone. An indicator of the direct characteristics of the quality of life is the final version of the First International Scorecard, developed in 1978. In total, this system of indicators includes 186 indicators divided into 12 groups: demographic characteristics of the population; sanitary and hygienic living conditions; food consumption, housing conditions and the provision of durable consumer goods; education and culture, employment and working conditions; income and expenses of the population; cost of living and consumer prices; vehicles; organization of recreation, culture and sports; social security, human freedom. .

Religious Component

Spiritual well-being - a sense of belonging to the spiritual culture of society, awareness of the opportunity to partake in the riches of spiritual culture (to satisfy spiritual hunger); understanding and experiencing the meaning of one's life; the presence of faith - in God or in oneself, in fate (predestination) or good luck on one's life path, in the success of one's own business or the business of the party to which the subject belongs; the ability to freely express adherence to one's faith, etc. Religious people believe that a person's well-being depends entirely on obedience to the Lord. There is indeed a great blessing in keeping the commandments of the Merciful Father. All the cares of God, constant love, care, amazing intentions towards people should bind hearts and establish feet for following the path of obedience to Him. We must fear the Lord, we must walk before Him, love Him, serve Him with all our hearts and with all our souls, keeping the commandments and ordinances. The physical bliss of the body is in health, the bliss of the mind is in the knowledge of the truth, and the bliss of the soul is in the love of God. There is no greater consolation for weary and often discouraged hearts than the unshakable confidence that God loves them, and there is no higher bliss than to have an ardent love for Him.

Physical Component

Physical (bodily) well-being - good physical well-being, bodily comfort, a sense of health, a physical tone that satisfies the individual. More specifically, it is possible to define the physical well-being of an individual as the natural state of the body, characterized by its complete balance with the biosphere and the absence of any pronounced painful changes. It depends on the physical activity of a person, rational nutrition, personal hygiene and safe behavior in everyday life, the optimal combination of mental and physical labor, and the ability to relax. It can be preserved and strengthened only by giving up excessive drinking, smoking, drugs and other bad habits. The state of health can be objectively established only by a combination of many parameters: anthropometric, clinical, physiological, biochemical parameters, determined taking into account gender and age factors, as well as social, climatic, geographical and meteorological conditions.

Psychological component

Psychological well-being (mental comfort) - the coherence of mental processes and functions, a sense of integrity, inner balance. Psychological well-being is more stable with the harmony of the individual. The harmony of personality is the consistency of many processes of its development and self-realization, the proportionality of life goals and opportunities. The concept of harmony is revealed through the concepts of consistency and harmony. Slender means "having the right relationship between its parts." Personal harmony is also the proportionality of the main aspects of the personality's existence: the space of the personality, time and energy of the personality (potential and realizable). Psychological health depends on the person's thinking system, attitude to the world around and orientation in this world. It also depends on the ability to determine one's position in the environment, one's attitudes to people, things, knowledge, etc., and is achieved by the ability to live in harmony with oneself, with family, friends and other people, the ability to predict various situations and develop models of one's behavior taking into account needs, opportunities and desires. Psychological well-being is a set of personal resources that ensures the subjective and objective success of the individual in the "subject-environment" system. In modern psychological science, there is an ambiguity in the relationship between the concepts of "subjective well-being" and "psychological well-being". Some researchers consider subjective well-being as a component of psychological well-being, others consider psychological well-being as a part. In some works, these concepts are treated as synonymous. In foreign psychology, approaches to the study of psychological well-being are conditionally divided into eudemonistic and hedonistic. As the researchers note, the main drawback of the hedonistic approach is its theoretical underdevelopment, while the eudemonistic approach is difficult to empirically assess psychological well-being. Attempts to overcome these shortcomings have led to the convergence of these approaches, the construction of integrative models of psychological well-being. So, in foreign psychology, the most popular among researchers is the multidimensional model of psychological well-being by K. Riff, which was based on the main theoretical concepts focused on the study of the positive psychological functioning of the individual. This model includes six main components of psychological well-being: self-acceptance, positive relationships with others, autonomy, environmental management (competence), having goals in life, and personal growth.

Components of psychological well-being and their components

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The main criteria for the psychological well-being of a person are objective success (social, physical, psychological and somatic health) and subjective experience of well-being, manifested in a sense of happiness and satisfaction with life in general. The level of psychological well-being is determined by various subjective and objective factors, including the characteristics of the environment, the degree of influence of which is determined by their significance for the individual.

All of these components of well-being are closely interrelated and influence each other. The attribution of many phenomena to one or another component of well-being is to a large extent conditional. For example, a sense of community, awareness and experience of the meaning of life may well be ranked among the factors that create spiritual comfort, and not just social or spiritual well-being.

In subjective well-being (in general and in its components), it is advisable to single out two main components: cognitive (reflexive) - ideas about certain aspects of one's being, and emotional - the dominant emotional tone of attitudes towards these aspects. The cognitive component of well-being arises with a holistic, relatively consistent picture of the world in the subject, understanding the current life situation. Dissonance in the cognitive sphere is introduced by conflicting information, the perception of the situation as uncertain, informational or sensory deprivation. The emotional component of well-being appears as an experience that unites feelings that are due to the successful (or unsuccessful) functioning of all spheres of the personality. Disharmony in any sphere of personality causes at the same time emotional discomfort. It is in it that the troubles in various spheres of the personality are quite fully reflected.

The subjective well-being (or unwell-being) of a particular person is made up of private assessments of various aspects of a person's life. Separate assessments merge into a sense of subjective well-being. These aspects of life are the subject of study of various scientific disciplines. Well-being is an interesting subject of study and an actual problem for psychology. Well-being depends on the presence of clear goals, the successful implementation of action plans and behavior, the availability of resources and conditions for achieving goals. Well-being is created by satisfying interpersonal relationships, opportunities to communicate and receive positive emotions from this, to satisfy the need for emotional warmth. Well-being is destroyed by social isolation (deprivation), tension in significant interpersonal relationships.

To overcome alienation and feel unity with the outside world, on the one hand, and awareness of one's own separate and indivisible "I" - on the other. This well-being implies the full birth of a person, the realization of the potential inherent in him, that is, his awakening, getting rid of averageness, gaining the ability to experience the full range of feelings - from stormy joy to deep sadness. At the same time, a person must be able to create, respond to the world around him, answer both to himself and to everything that surrounds him; to appear as a whole person, really existing in the world of animate and inanimate objects.

Giving a true answer to the world, the human-creator is at the same time able to really perceive this world. In a creative attitude to the world, a person must consider it as a product of his own perception. As a result, this world ceases to be something alien and distant for him and becomes his own. In the end, well-being consists in subduing your ego and reconsidering life priorities. A person must renounce acquisitiveness, from striving for his own inviolability and exaltation. The meaning of life should not be the eternal thirst for possession, accumulation, profit and consumption, but the joy of being itself, the awareness of one's own uniqueness in this world.

With what I have said, I have attempted to correlate the development of human individuality with the history of religion. Due to the fact that this article is devoted to a comparison of psychoanalysis and Zen Buddhism, it seems to me necessary to consider the evolution of religion, at least in some psychological aspects.

As I have already noted, being itself poses a question to man. This question is generated by the contradiction inherent in man: belonging to nature, on the one hand, and being outside of it, due to the awareness of one's own being, on the other. A person is "religious" if he approaches this fundamental question not formally, but strives to answer it with his whole life.

Similarly, any system is a "religion" if it tries to give its own answer to this question and forces people to do so. Accordingly, any culture and any person who does not seek an answer to an existential question is essentially non-religious - the best example of which is the person of the 20th century. Preoccupied with thoughts about material wealth, prestige, power, career, modern man tries to avoid answering this question, trying to forget about the very fact of his existence, and therefore, about the fact of the existence of his "I". A person who does not have his own answer is not capable of development, in his life and death becoming like one of the millions of things he has produced. It does not matter how deep his religious beliefs are, how often he thinks about God or attends church. Such a person, instead of believing in God, only thinks about him. However, religions in their answers to the existential question can fundamentally differ from each other, and it would be a mistake to generalize them in this aspect. Existing religions in all their diversity give two radically opposite answers to this fundamental question.

The first answer is to restore unity with nature through assimilation to animals, the rejection of the mind, the return to the primitive way of life deprived of consciousness. Such an idea can take on a wide variety of incarnations. As one of the extremes, one can cite the example of the German underground societies of "bear shirts". A recruit initiated into this organization must become like a bear and "change his human appearance in a fit of aggression and unbridled rage, becoming like a raging beast."

The desire for a primitive unity with nature can take a lot of other, not so archaic religious incarnations. This idea can be traced in the religions of the tribes, where there is an identification with a totem animal, where there is a cult of a tree, lakes, caves, etc. This is also manifested in orgiastic cults, seeking to suppress reason and moral attitudes in a person. Everything that brings a person closer to primitive closeness with nature is sacred to such religions. The one who stands closest to the goal, such as a shaman, will be a "saint".

All religions belong to the opposite camp, where the answer to the existential question is the idea of ​​the evolution of the human mind, the education in a person of the ability to love, and as a result, finding harmony with nature and other individuals. And although in some relatively primitive societies such ideas were only partly traced, there is no doubt that the period between about 2000 BC and about 2000 BC was a kind of Rubicon of humanity. e. and before Christmas. This time period was marked by global changes in man, expressed in the emergence of such religions as Taoism and Buddhism in the Far East, the religious revolutions of Akhenaten in Egypt, the birth of the Zoroastrian religion in Persia, the religion of Moses in Palestine, Quetzalcoatl in Mexico.

These religions are brought together by the idea of ​​unity - no longer in a regressive sense, achieved by erasing individuality and returning to a heavenly harmony deprived of consciousness. Unity is now considered on a new plane; a person can come to it only by overcoming alienation, isolation of himself from the surrounding world and thereby realizing a true birth. The human mind must reach full development, after which the individual will have access to active, intuitive penetration into the real world, which is an indispensable condition for achieving such unity. The aspiration of these religions is directed not to the past, but to the future, and their goal is determined by the concepts of "tao", "nirvana", "enlightenment", "good", God.

Sociocultural differences between the countries of origin of these religions determined the choice of this or that symbol. The imperious image of a majestic monarch or tribal leader was a characteristic symbol for Western society. However, already in the Old Testament era, this image begins to undergo changes. The Almighty Arbiter of Fates is now bound to his subjects by agreements containing certain promises. For example, the achievement by man of harmony with nature at the time determined by the messiah is the goal of the prophecies; Christianity is characterized by the representation of God in human form. In popular Western religions, anthropomorphic authoritarian components practically do not change. An example of their almost complete absence is the philosophy of Maimonides, or mysticism.

Judeo-Christian and Zen Buddhist thinking is brought together by the idea of ​​the individual's refusal from the egoistic desire to coerce, command and suppress the inner and outer world. Instead, a person should become open, receptive, awake, able to respond to the challenges of the outside world.

Zen calls this state "being empty", and this term does not have a negative connotation, but, on the contrary, characterizes an individual open to perception of the external world.

In the Christian religion, the same idea is expressed in terms of self-denial and submission to the will of divine providence. At first glance, the differences in Christian and Buddhist postulates are not so significant, and the difference exists only at the level of wording. In fact, Christian ideas, as a rule, are interpreted in such a way that a person completely entrusts his fate to the great and almighty Father, who protects and takes care of him, while all independence is lost. Naturally, in this case, a person becomes meek and humble, but in no way open and able to respond. Genuine renunciation of selfish aspirations as following the will of the Lord takes on a real meaning if the concept of God is absent as such. Only by forgetting about God, a person, paradoxically, sincerely follows his will. To be "empty" in the terminology of Zen Buddhism does indeed mean the subjugation of one's will, but at the same time excludes the possibility of returning to the slavish hope for the support of the Father.

Well-being is considered a calm and happy state of a person. Indeed, we call people happy if they are satisfied with themselves and the world that surrounds them. The most difficult question is how to achieve such a state, and scientists and philosophers have been arguing over it since ancient times to this day.

Many believe that the path to prosperity is a large amount of money in the wallet. Often, people with limited means believe that wealth will open the door to a happy life for them. However, this is not always the case, and money can only make a person happier for a while. According to numerous studies of scientists, there is no direct relationship between wealth and well-being, and often residents of poor countries, such as Cuba or India, feel happier than the much more affluent citizens of Japan or Norway.

Many people believe that the main component of well-being is health. But this issue also remains controversial. Indeed, there are many perfectly healthy people around who cannot fulfill themselves, find themselves and feel their lives are meaningless. At the same time, there are many examples of people with disabilities living a full life, doing creative work, raising children and rejoicing in their fate.

American psychologists have summarized existing knowledge about the factors of human well-being. They presented them as a pie, each piece of which is a certain group of factors. So, the first piece is external. This is the state where a person lives, his social environment and natural conditions, the degree of financial well-being of the individual. The second piece is the psychological traits of the individual, such as temperament, character, heredity. The third piece is the results of a person's choice: the goals that he sets for himself, his occupation and lifestyle. The first group of factors has the least weight in the result - only 10%, while the second and third are very significant (50 and 40%, respectively).

Thus, our happiness is at least half dependent on ourselves. Of course, it is difficult to change what is given by genetics, but everyone is able to change jobs, pursue their hobbies, move to another city. But even such significant steps are not always required. Sometimes it is enough to look at your life from a different angle. For example, you broke up with your loved one - which means you will soon meet someone with whom you will have a happy relationship. At the most important moment, the computer freezes - which means you need to relax, take a little walk. At work, they didn’t give a vacation - that means no time, and your best vacation is ahead.

Different loves look at the same situations in different ways. There is no stability in the country, there is no professional and material growth at work, and no one marries? You can be sad and cry over this, or you can try to change something: work, country of residence, manner of behaving and men, etc. After all, our well-being is, first of all, in our hands.

We continue our anniversary training competition. In previous articles, we talked about how spiritual practices affect your life - health and rejuvenation, your relationships with other people, etc. The theme of this final week is "Wellbeing".

What is Welfare?

This aspect is much broader than it seems, and includes not only finances and money. In the Reiki Plus Club Courses, by well-being we mean a very, very multifaceted sphere of human life.

Well-being is a life in which there is a place for everything:

• Favorite business.
• material wealth.
• Fulfillment of desires.
• Leisure and hobbies.
• The simple daily joys of life.
• Self-development.
• The time you spend with your loved ones

Only such a life can be called prosperous.If you spend 70-80 hours a week at work and earn decent money, then when and where to spend it? With such a pace of life, there will simply be no time to spend money. Over time, the joy of great career achievements will dissipate - success is already perceived as part of the job, as a duty. In addition, the joy of achievement will be replaced by health problems in the family.

And so that you do not fall into the trap of "well-being = financial success", today we reveal 5 principles of true well-being. You will find more theory and meditations on each of these principles in the Reiki Plus club courses, so if you are not a member yet, sign up for the Club.

So, 5 principles of well-being

1. Check your desires and goals for truth.

“Do I want this, or do I have this desire because it is customary?” - ask yourself this question. Unfortunately, society often imposes goals and desires on us. Through books, TV, the press, movies, we are shown (that is, imposed) examples of a supposedly successful and cloudless life. And we have to follow some rules in order to get this life.

• “Every woman is obliged to start a family before the age of 25”
• "All decent people have nice, big cars"
• "You have to make a career"
• "A rich man is happy with a model beauty."

Surely you have noticed that the rules have already entered our lives and everyone is “obliged” to follow them.

Following these patterns, the girl marries the first candidate that comes to hand. She does not think about how they fit each other. After all, she will soon be 25 and she still does not have a family, what will others say?! ...

A person buys a car that turns out to be completely unnecessary to him, and only adds to the problems ... One week of joy, and years of hard labor - maintenance, gasoline, insurance. Just to look like in the movies?

A man makes a career by spending days and evenings in the office. But he feels unhappy and disappointed in life. Or imagine, a son was born to such a man, and the boy has no one to play football, take the first step on camera, talk like a man about girls, hammer the first nail.

So that you do not have this -be sure to check "for the truth" your desires and goals. This test will show whether this desire is really yours, and your Soul needs it - or is it another stereotype imposed by society.

How to check? For example, in our Club courses there is a meditation "Truth Check".

2. Heal and use your fears.

Fear is an internal "brake" that prevents you from moving towards your goals. Even if your goal is true, you may be afraid of the unknown or mistakes. You may be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. You can simply subconsciously fear the fulfillment of your dreams. These are common problems, but they can and should be solved!

For example, after 30 or 40 years, it is scary to go to work in a new specialty. It seems that you want it, and the Soul asks ... But it's scary to leave your familiar place, and lose stability, risk your salary. Although they seem to offer good conditions, something inside is holding them back.

What to do? There are 2 approaches:

1. Go "for fear"- i.e. take and do what you are afraid of, no matter what. Only this can be a very difficult step, and in some cases impossible. Not everyone can decide, even if they want to.

2. Negotiate with your fear.Understand your fear, negotiate with it and transform it into your assistant, motivator. To do this, the Club courses have a special meditation "Transformation of fear", as a result of which fear either decreases or disappears completely.

3. Learn from your mistakes.

In coaching and in positive psychology they say "There are no failures and defeats, there is only feedback from the Universe."

If you treat life this way, failures will not unsettle you. On the contrary, you will be able to take into account your experience, identify successful, not very successful or simply failed actions in order to do better next time.

For example, if you went to an interview about a job and were refused, then this is not a reason to get upset and refuse interviews.

Perhaps this is not your place at all. And your favorite work is waiting for you in the near future - and you just need to continue an active search.

Or maybe you didn’t prepare for the interview or made some mistake. Next time you will not make this mistake, which means you will go to the meeting more boldly.

4. Keep the balance of reception-return.

There is a constant exchange of energy in the world. The balance of acceptance and return is manifested in any relationship between people. For example, in relationships between spouses, between friends… It also manifests itself in work.

Many people have a block - to take decent pay for their work. “It’s somehow inconvenient to say how much a service costs” - does it happen? In this case, the balance of giving and receiving is disturbed - such people only give, but do not dare to receive. As a result, they will spend a lot of energy on work, and receive little money and gratitude.

What to do? Find in the club courses "Reiki Plus" the meditation "Balance of Reception-Return". If you are a member of the Club - do it regularly, for your work, to restore balance.

And if you are not in the Club yet, then just analyze whether your balance is broken. Think about why, how badly it is broken, and how to restore it. And join us, we will be happy to help you figure it out!

5. Maintain harmony in your life

A prosperous person is not a person who earns a lot of money. This is a person in whose life small and big successes in all directions are harmoniously combined, and the financial side does not “pull” the whole blanket over itself.

Well-being is a harmonious life in which there is a place, time and for everything:

1. To take care of your health, rest and recovery.
2. For communication with loved ones, the pleasure of relationships.
3. For good earnings, where the income is enough for your needs - but at the same time you still have time for rest, for your family.
4. For development and spiritual growth.
5. For hobbies, hobbies or own business (self-realization).

Apply these principles and be prosperous in life!

In the Wellbeing club course you will find special techniques and meditations that will help you bring wellbeing into your life. In the course you get detailed theory and techniques for deep study of all these principles and subtleties.

Principles in action...

So your desires and practice can work wonders. By the way yesterday was the second round of voting for the best story. So that you can once again be convinced of the effectiveness of certain principles.

If you haven't voted yet -vote on this page . And thanks for your vote, I will invite you "to visit" onfestive online seminar on Thursday, March 5th.

It was theory, but practice?

Already today, all participants of our training-competition will receive interesting practical materials on the topic of well-being. What exactly?

Remember, today we talked about meditation from the club course, which helpsdeal with your fear?This is what we'll do.

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