In the life of every person there are situations from which, it would seem, it is impossible to find a way out. In such cases, the main thing is not to give up and not lose confidence in yourself. To get rid of problems and stop the flow of failures, use effective methods.
Life is unpredictable. As experience shows, every person has encountered situations from which it is very difficult to find a way out. At such moments, it seems to us that it is already impossible to return peace and harmony to our lives. However, it is not. It turns out that in many cases a person invents problems for himself, because of which there is a feeling that a black streak has begun in life. If you're having trouble, don't get lost and depressed. Instead, pull yourself together and try to resolve a difficult life situation. Three simple but effective ways will help you with this.
Method one - stop the internal dialogue
Not always our thoughts are correct and reasonable. Sometimes the inner voice is our indispensable assistant, but in difficult situations we too often succumb to emotions. Because of this, it is impossible to make the right decision.
Before you pause your internal dialogue, ask yourself again:
- What tools are available to me to deal with this situation?
- Is the situation really complex and hopeless?
- Perhaps I am jumping to conclusions?
- Are my thoughts correct in this situation?
- Is there another way to look at this situation?
- Is it true that my situation is so terrible?
- Do my thoughts help find a way out of this situation?
After asking yourself the above questions, try to answer each of them. After that, very often it turns out that the problem is just a figment of your imagination. In fact, your situation is not as deplorable as you think.
If you have come to the conclusion that there really is a problem, start looking for ways to solve it. By answering the first question, you will be able to find out what tools and options are available to you to deal with this situation.
Sometimes thoughts only bring us down and do not help us find the right way out. In this case, action is required. Perhaps, once again thinking about your problem, you are only delaying time. By answering the last question, you can summarize and proceed to the solution.
Method two - rely on life experience
Everyone has faced difficult situations at least once in their life. Based on life experience, you will be able to find the right solution to the problem both in the present and in the future.
In difficult situations, you can rely not only on your own, but also on the experience of loved ones. As you already understood, at such moments the help of others will not hurt you. You can choose a friend or relative as an adviser. You need to fully open up to the person and describe in detail the picture of what is happening. To understand the complexity of this problem, ask the interlocutor to be as frank with you as possible. Perhaps with the support and advice of another person, you can solve the problem.
If you do not want to share your problems with others, try to get the most out of your own experience. Remember: you may have had to deal with a similar nuisance before. Consider what advice you would give your friend if he were in your position. At the moment, the solution to your problem depends only on you, and the answers to the questions posed may be hidden in your past.
Method three - find the source of the problems
Environment, work, memories of the past - all this can be the cause of your problems. It is necessary to understand your life and understand what could have caused this situation. If you realize that there is a burden in your life that prevents you from moving on, you need to get rid of it immediately, otherwise difficulties will haunt you all the time.
Try to analyze the problem again and think about what led to its appearance. Sometimes the reason lies precisely in our environment: the friends we trust and with whom we share our experiences are sometimes not the ones they try to impersonate. In this case, their advice and help will only harm you. Sadly, in this case, there is only one way out - to break unnecessary ties. By getting rid of useless relationships, you can eliminate difficulties and change your life for the better.
Work is one of the common causes of our difficulties. Pressure from the authorities, the intrigues of colleagues, low wages can drive us into the most hopeless situation. Consider: maybe you are in the wrong place right now. In this case, do not be afraid to change your life and boldly go in search of a new job. It is likely that soon you will get rid of problems and discover new talents in yourself.
Sometimes we ourselves are to blame for our troubles. We make unnecessary acquaintances, waste time in vain and try to cling to the past. In this case, you need to conduct a thorough work on yourself. Learn to get rid of negative thoughts and make only deliberate decisions. Always plan your actions and do not let random situations ruin your plans. In this case, you will learn to control your life and be able to overcome any difficulties that come your way.
People tend to help each other in difficult situations. However, sometimes, without noticing it ourselves, we hang other people's problems on ourselves, because of which they automatically become ours. To avoid difficulties, find out
Today we will talk about situations where there is no point in living and about the people who found themselves in them and made a fatal choice, as well as about those who continued to live.
What situations can be called hopeless or those in which people lose the meaning of life? The criteria for hopelessness depend on several factors. From the personality of the person himself, from the intensity of experiences, internal and external causes of the difficulties that have arisen.
There is a fragile nervous system, when a traumatic event causes a stupor or hysteria a little more than usual, there is a strong nervous system, when a person accumulates everything in himself, holding his nose up, and then one failure becomes the last straw ...
The intensity of experiences is associated not only with the personal characteristics of a person, or with objective external problems, but also with a person’s attitudes. For some, the loss of a highly paid, prestigious job is one of the main losses of life, for another, the loss of a loved one will be similar ... A series of failures makes someone stronger, but finishes someone off. And the one whom a series of failures made stronger in his youth - in old age, a newly appeared black streak can lead to a state of depression.
We will talk about serious problems, and not about the whims of teenagers who confused reality with the game and completely absurd cases when people came to despair because of nonsense. I doubt whether the suicide of a 17-year-old girl “tired” of life, who had everything: looks, loving parents, friends, health, a good financial situation thanks to her parents, was really a hopeless drama, but she was simply attracted by black butterflies in the night against subtle sadness after another hookah smoking ... And this black hole, having grown from a grain, poisoned the soul and led to tragedy. The reasons for leaving are either oversaturation with life, depreciation of life, or mental problems.
But it is precisely such stories, when people seem to have everything, both from the subjective and objective side, without separation from loved ones, losses, debts, problems climb into the noose - there are more. Psychologists call one of the versions of this behavior
the growth of cities, high-rise buildings, faceless offices, the reduction of natural areas. It seems to be an absurd reason - urbanization, but if you look at it, everything is natural: a person is lost in the chaos of soulless gray anthills with floor-to-ceiling windows, where everyone becomes a cog in a system that fights for empty goals. Residential buildings in densely populated areas are planted like mushrooms after rain: one opposite the other, in a bunch, sometimes there is only one playground for five 20-story buildings, one tree per quarter.
In this collection of fragile stone skyscrapers, the connection with nature is lost, a person often feels worthless, small, lost. And those who grew up in such conditions, and almost did not know a different life, live with an understanding of the normality of the fact that a soulless city is the whole world. This already forms in their character an easy attitude to the depreciation of life, indifference to the death of their own and their own kind, since human life has long merged with the stone wall of another skyscraper.
Do you know the city of Shanghai in China? The dirtiest city in the world, filled with tall houses, towers, shopping centers, smoky, filled with factories, industries, cars. And also in China, the highest suicide rate in the world ... Strange coincidence, don't you think??
The percentage of depression, mental disorders has increased significantly in recent years. And both situations deserving sympathy and antics due to whims occur against the backdrop of urbanization, the depreciation of life, which doubly aggravates the situation of both.
And there is another trend - the people actively accuse others of being weak-willed, but more and more often each of us finds himself in the position of those convicted by us yesterday ..
I analyzed the reaction of the “public” to several sad stories that have happened over the past year. And below I will tell about the results. The public is, of course, viewers and observers of the Internet.
The mother killed herself and three children. The beginning of spring, the pre-election euphoria, did not actively make this case public. That did not stop people from washing the bones of victims, potential perpetrators for a couple more weeks on the Internet.
The first reaction after the news of the incident: people write that they are in shock, they say, how could they take babies with them to the Other World, they blame the government for having brought the people to lack of money, emptiness, loans, debts, that the mother probably despaired, could not feed the children.
A little later, new details come from neighbors, verbose, talkative relatives, friends, acquaintances, who for some reason did not help the woman during her lifetime, but revived after her death. She was recently divorced, she was about 40 years old, her ex-husband was the same age. He found a mistress much younger, gave birth to a child, sued his ex-wife in order to take the children away, while his mistress never saw them with his own eyes.
The mother seems to have despaired, life lost its meaning and decided to end her suffering by killing herself and taking her children with her so that they would not remain useless to anyone.
At the same time, the family was not a beggar: a large apartment, relatives helped, the children were well dressed.
What really pushed the woman to this step - we will never know. But this is not necessary, it is more important to understand that not only specific thoughts, actions can push a person to a fatal choice, but also an affective dead end, when in a moment everything seems hopeless, final and the only way out is death. Psychiatrists also call this state narrowing of consciousness.
In another period of life, the same person copes with difficulties to the envy of all enemies, and in another period, it seems to break down and allow the thought that he cannot cope. This snowball winds up and one little thing becomes fatal.
Forensic psychiatrist Vinogradov (often his opinion is shown in stories in people who have committed high-profile crimes) calls one of the reasons when a mother kills children - hatred of her husband (former or present, or simply the father of children). And in children, she wants to kill the image of her father, to avenge him for everything through the murder of children. She can be calm, accumulate everything in herself, restrain herself, harboring a grudge against her husband, enduring his negativity, but at some point her patience bursts and the state of passion covers everything. Either this is not an affect, but a cold disgust for her husband, children who are from him. At the same time, very often such mothers themselves cannot kill themselves.
Another reason: the mother could love the children, but at some point they began to interfere with her .. to arrange a personal life and the like. And she takes out all the accumulated evil on them.
Situations when mothers leave with their children themselves - others for motives ... Revenge on the ex-husband can also be involved, but also humanistic motives, they say, no one will need children without a mother. Or the whole world of the mother collapsed after some terrible events for her (the house burned down, the war, the betrayal of her husband, his death, etc.) and she, not wanting and not finding the strength to experience this grief, understands that life will never be like before.
And a woman who is in a state of a broken psyche and depression is not capable of living in a new way, therefore she sees the only way out is to kill herself and those who formed the basis of her world.
The Internet, social networks give people the opportunity to get bread and circuses sitting on a comfortable sofa without leaving home. And often those who condemn the same desperate mother do it because there is nothing to do. What kind of versions were not put forward by the people in a couple of days, as soon as they did not condemn her, they did not pour mud on her.
And only an adequate person will be able to understand that in such situations it is not necessary to judge by the first intuition ... And she may not be sick, but simply at some point believed in the illusion that there is no way out. Perhaps if she had survived for some time, all yesterday's circumstances would have seemed absurd and unworthy of her to say goodbye to life because of them, but she did not survive. And it's her choice...
Or another situation. A woman's husband dies and the house burns down. Three children remain in their arms, they live with their mother in temporary housing, they are trying to restore the old house, the mother works three jobs, but there is still little money, there was no help from the state. Due to the lack of male upbringing and other problems, the eldest son began to run away from home, to hooligan, he was registered in the police room, and the social services took care of the family, which at one point removed the children from the woman. The mother was so desperate that she roared unrestrainedly, and then she simply committed suicide, because she did not see life without children.
And even here, couch commentators reproached the mother for weakness, for not having endured temporary troubles and did not continue to fight. And where was everyone when she was alive and the family could be helped? Where was the same state, why didn’t they allocate a house to the family? Why didn't they help financially? The mother is not an alcoholic, she took care of the children and loved them. Why do our social services sometimes do not help the family, but finish off normal people, drive them to suicide? What did they achieve in the end? Are the kids better now? Without a mother and in an orphanage, with life-long psychological trauma, complete orphans?
In this situation, the mother, who experienced a series of severe psycho-traumatic events (the death of her husband, the loss of a home) and lived in difficult conditions (three jobs, her eldest son ran away, reproaches from social services) - the removal of children was the last straw, there was an acute impulsive reaction to all the troubles against the background of exhausted state of the nervous system. Perhaps if someone supported a woman, she survived a couple of days, gathered her strength, she would go to fight, win back her children, but she simply broke down in an instant due to an impulsive influx of emotions.
Another woman came to the capital, fleeing her tyrant husband, undocumented, non-Russian, with two children. It is not clear how, but without documents, she got a job - washing floors, rented a room in a communal apartment. But the money was barely enough to make ends meet. She did not tell anyone about her troubles, mother and children were friendly. The woman was fired from her job, they were left without a livelihood. The neighbors in the communal apartment will later say that they did not hear complaints at all and that the family did not know without food, the woman was friendly, but reserved. They suspected something was wrong when the family did not leave the room for two days. They opened the doors, and there were dead mother and children. And a note with the words "there is no strength to live on, the hardest thing is when there is no one around and no one can help."
Sofa commentators also reproached the mother that she did not go to ask for help, did not try to fight. How does anyone know how much and how she fought? And to ask for help ... Here comes a man to ask for help, and they will also pour mud on him and send him to work without rest. Before my eyes, there was a situation when a family (mother, children, without a father) remained on the street. The mother is good, she took care of the children - they turned to the authorities - only standard phrases and replies in response.
Another situation: a mother with children lived in an emergency dilapidated house, cement was pouring from the walls and ceiling from huge cracks, the authorities were obliged to allocate temporary housing, then relocate the family to normal permanent conditions. The mother achieved resettlement through the court, so the mayor's office also began to appeal this decision, believing that the family could continue to live in the house, which is now literally collapsing.
Sometimes the media act and appeals to caring citizens (and the media need to be addressed many times), who themselves know what troubles are ... But a woman from our story may have been so intimidated by her husband, a tyrant, or by the society in which she used to be, that she did not believe anyone and I couldn't scream about my troubles...
Or a situation where people lose their families in an instant. For example, a daughter with her grandchildren flew to her mother and died in a plane crash along with her children. Her mother buried her husband a couple of years ago. How and why should a mother live? Usually, the state after the loss of a loved one is called post-traumatic stress syndrome, a depressive episode.
But here the syndrome is multiplied several times. Many in old age live for the sake of their grandchildren, children, and when they are all lost in an instant, life loses its meaning.
Or: once upon a time there was a family, a wife, a husband, two children, the husband took the children from their grandmother from a suburban village and at the turn into the city there was an accident - everyone died, the mother was waiting at home ... How and why should the mother continue to live?
And men lose their families.. I remember the story about Vitaly Kaloev, who killed the controller of a crashed plane with passengers flying on board, including his wife, son and daughter Kaloev. It always seems to me that men are easier to experience the loss of loved ones, because their parental instinct is less pronounced, but there are situations when men were also hard pressed.
Those who say that everything will be fine and we need to live on, knocking on the shoulder haggard from grief and tears, most likely do not even delve into other people's troubles and they do not care about this grief ... During such periods, you can only be close to a person. In a couple of months, when it becomes easier for him, he himself will decide to live on. And those who are left completely alone in such tragedies very often decide to take a fatal step, because they see no way out, cannot endure the heartache from the loss of dear people and no one is around.
It is very difficult to give advice from outside. In our ordinary state, it is impossible for us to imagine what a person experiences who has lost his family or who is desperate to achieve something, finding himself in poverty and tired of the blows of fate.
But still, if you try to survive acute periods of grief, at some point it becomes easier, a new meaning to life appears.
Believers say that Satan can push to suicide and depression, because he is a murderer, and by any means inclines people to sin, especially to such a fatal step. Despair and grief can and should be experienced - according to Christianity, nothing is worth dropping your hands and putting a noose around your neck. You can go to church and ask for help - after all.
Those who experienced great grief, overcame incredible difficulties, later, to the answer “why live on?”, They answered that then, in difficult moments, they sometimes lived out of habit, sometimes reassuring themselves with the thought that there are those for whom you need to live or relatives who have gone to another world would not like to see the unfortunate survivor.
And when the difficult moments passed, and it became easier - people said that life is worth living in order to help others overcome difficulties, to tell their children that the strength of the spirit is able to survive in "hell" and all these reserves are in a person, he can overcome a lot.
In a person's life there are many complex and sometimes hopeless, impasse situations. And often people do not know what to do and how to get out of the impasse.
Today, on the site of psychological assistance in difficult life situations website, you will read the recommendations of a psychologist and learn how to find a way out of critical, seemingly hopeless situations in life.
Desperate situation - life's impasse
In most dead ends in life, people wind themselves up. And most often, any hopeless situation is only regarded as such by the person himself, because. at this critical, stressful moment, he cannot fully, to the fullest extent, use his intellect, knowledge and skills.
When a person is under stress, he thinks stereotypically, and on emotions - he is annoyed or depressed.
What is a stalemate, a hopeless situation in a person's life?
A psychological impasse, or a hopeless situation in life - it is also called a stalemate - is when a person cannot make the right life choice, is unable to find a solution to a problem, or does not know what to do under any difficult or critical circumstances.
He is under stress, depression or neurosis at this moment, therefore he cannot think and act adequately to the situation “here and now”.
What to do if you find yourself in a critical, difficult life situation?
The first thing to do in a crisis, deadlock situation is to understand in advance for yourself that there are no hopeless situations.
You can always find a way out of the circumstances and make your choice.
Prevention of crisis and hopeless situations in life
In order to prevent crises - to have as few of them as possible in life - you need to constantly expand your worldview - to make a wider model of the world, a map of reality.
And not to live constantly in stagnation, in your "comfort zone".
In other words, in order for you not to have serious impasses in life, you need to constantly engage in personal growth and self-development.
"Constantly" is a lifetime. Then you do not have to look for a way out of the impasse - you simply will not get into it.
How to find a way out of a hopeless situation
If you have ALREADY found yourself in a dead-end, crisis situation, then you need to immediately get out of it. First of all, by relieving stress and changing the attitude towards the problem itself.
How to find a way out of a dead-end, hopeless situation?
- You can relieve stress almost instantly, for example, by relaxing with the help of psycho-training, deep breathing, or by changing your negative thoughts about the problem to more positive or neutral ones;
- After you normalize thinking and emotions, you will be able to assess and adequately characterize the problem (often, only by changing your attitude, the problem disappears on its own);
- If you have few obvious choices, for example only two, you will be able to rationally and adequately (without nerves) expand your worldview and see other possibilities for solving the problem;
- If all choices are evil, then the lesser of several evils is chosen;
- If you can’t get out of a hopeless situation on your own, resort to help ...
Help in a difficult life situation
When people cannot get out of life's impasse on their own - they are stressed, depressed, "nervous" - then professional, psychological help is needed in crisis situations.
After the removal of neurotic symptoms, it will be possible to find a way out of almost any hopeless situation.
Consult online psychologist-psychoanalyst Matveev Oleg Vyacheslavovich
How to find a way out of a hopeless situation?How to find a way out of a hopeless situation?
Life presents each person with a variety of, sometimes unimaginable situations. We can't even imagine what tomorrow holds for us.
In everyday troubles and worries, rarely does anyone think about their security. As a rule, we begin to “be baptized” and “lay straws” when the thunder has already struck, when we have to retreat not to pre-prepared positions, but into the unknown, into nowhere.
Often it begins to seem that in the abyss. In a famous song there are the words "... love will suddenly come, and every evening will immediately become surprisingly good." What if trouble suddenly strikes? The sun is fading, the earth is slipping away from under your feet, and it seems that no one and nothing will save, help, come to the rescue.
In his misfortune, a person becomes vulnerable, and troubles begin to literally “stick” to him. "Trouble does not come alone," they say in such cases. Two primordially Russian questions arise before a confused person and begin to torment him: “What to do?” and “Who is to blame?”. Or rather, on the contrary: “Who is to blame?” And only then - "What to do?". Most of us still begin the analysis of the situation with the search for the culprit in our misfortune, and not with any constructive reflections and steps.
So, the first rule that life has taught me is do not look for the guilty, forgive everyone you want to blame, and yourself first of all. Forces will be useful for searching, for fighting, for exiting, for recovery.
Of course, you can blame the whole wide world, hide in a corner and wait for the situation to resolve itself. That's what all kids do. They never try to solve the problems that confront them, but try to “forget” them, put them in the back of their minds in anticipation of a successful outcome, a wizard in a blue helicopter, or a miracle. Nothing good comes from such a position. That is why parents should form a trusting relationship with their children in order to always be aware of their problems and come to the rescue in time, showing ways out of difficult situations. And not at all for taking measures in the form of punishments and other sanctions.
So, pull yourself together. Get yourself together. Do an analysis of the situation. Get help from everyone you can. And do not think that your problems are indifferent to people close to you. They love you and will help you with advice and concrete deeds. It is very important that there is a person nearby who you can rely on. But this doesn't always happen.
"Ask and it will be given to you" - remember? Ask not only relatives, friends, acquaintances. First of all, ask and pray for the help of the Lord and your highest patrons. Find your temple if you don't already have one. Go around, if possible, everything that is nearby, and somewhere you will want to stay.
Or maybe you just find your place near the icon closest to your soul in the only church near your house. This place is sure to exist, and the soul will prompt, respond to it. The main thing is to go and ask. Ask for forgiveness, help, intercession, patronage. Read prayers (or affirmations if you are an atheist) instead of delving into gloomy thoughts or indulging in despondency. In other words, control your thoughts. You can’t think about something productive - you read prayers, and gradually your consciousness will clear up and the necessary decisions, ideas, assumptions, hopes will come to your head.
Learn to relax both emotionally and physically. Take up meditation. Relaxation can be achieved in many ways. Can focus
- firstly, on your breath;
- secondly - on relaxing your body (First, tension of all muscles is performed, and then relaxation. This is done gradually, starting from the feet and ending with the muscles of the neck and face.);
- thirdly, on some visual image or sound (This may be the image of sea waves that run ashore or the singing of some kind of sound “oomm”, “aah.” In Robin Sharma’s book “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” there is a description of the “admiring the rose” technique).
If desired, and the current capabilities of the Internet, you can pick up several such techniques - whichever one you like more than others, stop at that one. Yoga helps a lot, whether you practice at home or in a specialized club. Choose a few exercises for yourself and perform them to pleasant music, and there are also recordings for relaxation with the sounds of nature: forest, sea.
And also water. Ordinary water. Rather, water procedures. Various baths - relaxing, soothing, sea, coniferous, with aromatic oils, etc. Sauna or steam room. A real feast for the body will bring relief to your soul. Swimming pool. You swim like a fish, and nerves and thoughts come into order through muscle load. Pouring. Shower.
Walks. If there is a companion, he is also an interlocutor - good. If suddenly this does not turn out to be - it's okay, go for a walk alone. It is only advisable to choose a medium or fast pace of movement, depending on your fitness, and return with a little physical fatigue. It's great if your route runs along the river bank, park, quiet, unfussy streets.
Care of the garden, plants has a very good effect on our mental state: planting, transplanting, weeding and all sorts of other chores. Open your books, catalogs, atlases on floriculture, look through them, admire the beauty of nature.
Another way to divert your thoughts from a difficult and unpleasant situation is to watch your favorite movies, read books that once gave great pleasure.
If you have had health problems for a long time, but it was not possible to deal with them, now is the time. Start a course of preventive treatment of your osteochondrosis, gastritis, migraine. Even if there is no exacerbation. And it often happens in stressful situations in the presence of chronic diseases, and then treatment should not be postponed all the more.
There is another good way to deal with stress that accompanies difficult life circumstances, it has proven itself, especially among women, but it should also help men: shopping. In other words, go shopping, find something you've been dreaming of for a long time (a unique crochet or fishing hook), or buy yourself a gift spontaneously.
Here's something you like right now - buy and enjoy. Earrings with diamonds, a silver ring, a beautiful dress, a tie, a car or… a toy. Please yourself. And if absolutely no desires arise - then a loved one, a child, any person.
Fulfill the dream of an intangible plan. We have long dreamed of jumping with a parachute, riding a water bus, walking barefoot on the water, saying a kind word to a neighbor, planting a tree, throwing away a boring service, standing on our heads, learning a melody for a piano and an orchestra, getting a kitten or a puppy, going to Paris or the countryside. ? Take action.
The main thing is not to get hung up on the problem, not to go headlong into it, but to realize the opportunity to put your thoughts and feelings in order, begin to analyze and take reasonable steps to resolve the situation or to realize the need to exist in new circumstances.
And so, during prayers, meditations, walks, swimming, gardening, while watching movies, your consciousness will gradually lead you to the right path. Previously unfavorable circumstances will turn the other side, joyful and necessary events for you will begin to occur. Changes for the better will begin in your life, new opportunities and chances for success will appear.
With God's help, with the participation of close people and your own calm and positive attitude, the Door will open for you, which you did not suspect some time ago.
And this Door will be not only the Exit from a difficult life situation, but also the Entrance to a new, beautiful, huge and happy Life.
We give advice right and left that there is a way out of any unpleasant situation, and not even one. We tune in to the positive and try to console others that not everything is as bad as it seems at first glance. But when we ourselves are overcome by troubles that are coming from all sides, the advice that we ourselves offered looks simply ridiculous and helpless.
What to do in a difficult life situation, where you see one dead end? There are practical tips on how to proceed in this case.
1. First of all, try to calm down and stop. No need to quickly rush into the pool with your head and take incomprehensible actions that can lead to even bigger problems. You need to pause and decide where you are and how you ended up in this position. Take some time to think about why it turned out the way it did, and not completely different. When you can find the entrance, then you will find the exit in one moment.
2. Effective advice on how to get out of the impasse is to get rid of the emotions that overwhelm you at that moment. Fear, anger, disappointment interfere with normal concentration in front of the resulting problem. Often, our negative emotions, which take on a huge scale, we make an elephant out of a fly, and it’s done, we don’t see any way out, one dead end. If you want to smash something to smithereens - do it, if you want to scream and swear - go ahead, give vent to your anger, do not keep destructive energy in yourself.
3. When you are overcome by complete devastation, only then will bright thoughts begin to come into your head and everything will become clear from a different angle. Prepare yourself tea with lemon and ginger, or make yourself hot coffee, energy drinks will help your brain work faster. Take a piece of paper and start writing down absolutely all ideas for getting out of an impasse, even the most absurd ones, in such cases all means are good.
4. Do not think alone, seek help from your comrades and loved ones who have not turned away in difficult times. There is a proverb "One head is good, but two is better." Perhaps they will offer their own options that will be useful to you, because sometimes it is more visible from the outside.
5. The next step will be a full analysis of the proposed ideas. Consider all the pros and cons. Make three thorough plans to get out of the crisis. Plan A and B are the most effective, and Plan C is the back-up. Clearly thought-out scenarios, several options, give much more percentage of success than one.
6. In a difficult life situation, gather your strength and spirit and begin to put into action your anti-crisis plan. Going step by step, not stepping back, you will achieve what you want and get out of the troubles surrounding your life, and understanding what to do will come by itself.
7. In difficult times, people who care about you and to whom you are very dear will help you survive misfortunes. Don't push them away or isolate them from your society, let them help you. You can even ask them for help yourself, in such situations you understand who the most devoted and faithful people are.
8. In our life, we rely a lot on circumstances, while realizing that they do not bode well. You can't do that. We create our own destiny, so pull yourself together and do not let circumstances take over you.
9. Another effective way to get out of a deadlock is to exclude people with. In the environment of each person, there is sure to be such a person who will exaggerate and lower faith in yourself. Such people do not see happiness and positive moments, they have only one negative around them. If possible, avoid them, do not let them lower your self-esteem, otherwise, you will panic and give up.
10. When you are in trouble, look for something that will motivate you during the time that you get out of the current situation. Strive to associate with those who believe in you and know that you can withstand any blow.
11. In difficult moments, you should not be afraid to take risks and think about mistakes, everyone has them. It will be stupidity that you will sit idly by. Each of your mistakes will be a lesson from which you will draw useful and necessary information for yourself.
12. Do not listen to those who say that they know how you better live and be. They will constantly remind you and poke you for past mistakes. Send them away from you, let them hang noodles on the ears of others, the same losers as they are. This is your life and only you can decide if you can get out of trouble or not. Believe in yourself and you will succeed. You are not a loser, but a winner!
