There are times when we look for sophisticated ways to improve the quality of our lives. And in moments when we are under stress or someone pissed us off, we begin to actively think about how to calm down. Psychotherapists offer their help, yoga schools offer theirs. But there are ancient ways that can help you get yourself in order much faster than other means that require a lot of time or money.

We have prepared for you 12 ways to help yourself calm down and stop being nervous.

Method 1: Take a break

This way to relieve emotional stress is suitable in cases where you are trapped, cornered and cannot escape anywhere. For example, sit at a planning meeting and listen to your boss, boiling internally. You can't escape, but... At the same time, being distracted by contemplating something extraneous, neutral and being carried away by this extraneous is the best way not to wind yourself up over trifles.

For example: “What, however, does Masha have a manicure ... I wonder how she did it?”

It only works if you yourself understand the benefits of such a strategy - do not look at the nasty things, do not listen to the nasty things. If you like to boil and get into disputes, this is your right.

Method 2: Get out of the annoying situation (aka the emotional zone)

Did something make you sad at someone else's birthday party? On a picnic? Do you hate some group, public, page on a social network? Do you dream of removing an unpleasant person from your friends list?

So, quickly left the group forever. They banned a provocateur-debater, a troll, a boor, a fool. Deleted your profile, if that.

They quickly called a taxi (don’t sting, don’t sting), smacked the hostess and rush home - away from the party, away from the barbecue, away from the annoying, emotional zone.

Method 3: Drink some water

Now this is the crown recipe of all brilliant general practitioners who do not sell dietary supplements from pharmaceutical corporations.

A glass of water, drunk slowly, stops all seizures known to science. The first thing that is offered to a person who has been twisted by something terrible is a glass of water. Drinking water starts the mechanism of self-rehabilitation of the body. Most often, people become ill for two reasons:

hysteria (sympatho-adrenal crisis in a different way),
dehydration not noticed in time.
Since we don’t listen to our body and don’t teach life safety, we drink tea, coffee and soda all day long - we all have dehydration, and you have it too. Go drink a glass of water right now and then read on.

Method 4: Get Involved in an Exciting, Interesting Thing

This method is suitable in a situation where you cannot “let go”. You need to break the jam on chewing “And they, And I, And yes, all of them” with something flying, even stupid and tasteless. Reading detective. Computer game. Hunting and gathering. Surveillance and tracking. An attempt to reveal someone's secret. Even peeping and eavesdropping, damn it.

You must be involved in intrigue, in a detective story, in the rapid development of events, in a hunt, in a game, in courage, in flight.

Your ears should rise and your tail should twitch.

You yourself know what can captivate and amuse you. Everyone has their own, individual. Just don't play this game. Do no harm to anyone.

Method 5: Physical Discharge

Everyone is familiar with this method by hearsay, but, as usual, no one cares. And I remind you once again that the rapid physical discharge, which includes:

walking,
- swim,
- general cleaning of the apartment (you can - someone else's),
- sex,
- destruction of rubbish,
- work in the garden
- dance,
- mopping and hand washing
relaxes knotted muscles and relieves stress, frustration fantastically effectively. General hand washing even helps to cope with grief - again, the advice of the old doctor, which I share with you.

Method 6: Get in contact with water

Washing dishes is a free hypno-psycho-therapy session. The noise of clean running running water relieves our fatigue and takes away with it all the "dirt", not only household.

In addition to washing dishes, there is a well-known classic: take a bath, take a shower, go to the bathhouse, go early in the morning or in the evening - swim in the sea, in the river, in the lake, in the spring. Refresh, in short.

Method 7: Positive reframing of a stressful event

So much has been written about positive reframing (including by me) that I don’t want to repeat myself. I'll just give an example:

“It’s good that it happened that I won’t go anywhere this summer! Finally, I look like English courses, fitness and even self-development courses! When else would I allow myself such a "useless" luxury? Yes, and in the summer there is a dead season everywhere and there are only discounts around. So I'll save even more!"

Method 8: Could be worse, others even harder

You are not satisfied with the outcome of the event? Imagine what could have been a worse outcome. Imagine how bad some people around you are. If you master this art and stop turning your nose up at this strategy, then you will not need any psychotherapy at all.

Method 9: Laughter kills everything scary and terribly important

Ridiculing, lowering, vulgarizing something inflated and important is an old recipe for human culture, dating back to the Neolithic. Thanks to grandfather Bakhtin for his term "carnival-laughter culture". Read, ask.

Or watch one episode about the adventures of SpongeBob SquarePants. When he was terrified of speaking at a school seminar, a smart squirrel gave him super glasses. Wearing these glasses, SpongeBob could see all the students and the teacher... in their shorts. That was funny! True, from laughter, he did not read out his report. And what kind of panties the teacher had .. Mmm ...

Method 10: Count to 10

Just read to ten. Slowly. Controlling your inhalations and exhalations. To myself, not out loud. This is the recommendation of doctors and sports coaches.

Method 11: Cry

Crying relieves stress. With the tear fluid, the body leaves those toxic substances that are formed under the influence of stress hormones. You can’t cry about your own - come up with a pitiful topic and specifically cry over it.

Method 12: Verbalizing everything that is on the soul

Pronunciation or verbalization - wrapping a vague "something" in clear words. However, great thing. And even better - write it all down on paper, write a long letter.

Just don't send it anywhere!

Save these methods for yourself and use them to calm down.

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I'll tell you how to learn to keep calm and composure in any situation without the use of motherwort and any other harmful things. Applying the above techniques in practice, you will reduce the level of nervousness at times. It will be very interesting, but first read a short introduction.

Over the past millennia, modern man has forgotten how to run all day after potential prey and spend all his calories received, but he has acquired the ability to get very nervous over any trifle. Unrest, and, as scientists have already proven, entail SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES, most of them fatal. And no matter how a person understands this, he still continues to be nervous even because of a broken nail.

Why is the person nervous?

We all experience strong internal discomfort when we are nervous, and usually the nerves are stretched when some important and responsible event or event is coming. For example, a karate competition, public performance (dance, singing, theater, presentation), interview, negotiations, and so on. All this makes us nervous. But here it is important to take into account the physiological and psychological aspects of the personality. The physiological aspects are related to the properties of our nervous system, and the psychological ones are related to the characteristics of our personality: a tendency to overestimate any events (blowing from a fly to an elephant), uncertainty, excitement for the end result, which leads to strong anxiety.

As a rule, a person becomes nervous in those situations that are considered dangerous for him or that threaten his life, or when he attaches excessive significance to this or that event. The first option is no longer necessary, since the threat in our lives does not often loom before us. But the second option is precisely the reason for everyday nervousness. A person is always afraid of something: to hear a refusal, to look like an idiot in front of the public, to do something wrong - this is what makes us very nervous. Therefore, the causes of nervousness are more played by the psychological attitude than the physiological aspect. And to stop being nervous, we need to understand the origin of nervousness, and, of course, begin to strengthen the nervous system. Having dealt with this, we will understand how to calm down.

Symptoms of nervousness

Do you think nervousness is a defense mechanism or an unnecessary hindrance? I think you will say both. When we are nervous, our palms and armpits begin to sweat, the heartbeat quickens, there is confusion in the head, it is difficult to concentrate on something, irritability and aggression appear, it is impossible to sit in one place, abdominal pain and, of course, I want to go big. I think you are familiar with all this. These are all symptoms of nervousness.

How to calm down and stop being nervous?

Therefore, firmly understand to yourself that the tendency to nervousness is not a natural reaction of the body to some event or an incurable disease of your personality. I'm guessing it's more of a psychological mechanism that is firmly entrenched in your habit system. Or it could be a problem with the nervous system. Nervousness is your individual reaction to what is happening, and no matter what the situation is, you can react in every possible way. I am sure of one thing, nervousness can be eliminated and must be eliminated, because when you are nervous:

• Your thinking ability drops sharply, and therefore it is very difficult for you to focus on something specific, and this can only complicate a situation that requires clarity in your head. For example, on the stage you can forget the words, at the exam you can’t remember the necessary information, and while driving, you can press the wrong pedal.
• You lose control over your intonation, facial expressions, gestures, which can lead to an undesirable outcome on a date or negotiations.
• Because of nervousness, you quickly get tired, and this is very detrimental to your health. And if you are often nervous, you can become seriously ill, which is highly undesirable.
• You worry about the little things, because of which you do not pay attention to the most important and necessary things in your life.

I am sure that it will not be difficult for you to recall cases from your life when you were very nervous, as a result of which this had a bad effect on the results of your actions. I am sure that in your life there were such moments when, due to psychological pressure, you broke down, lost control of yourself. From this we can draw the following conclusions:

• From nervousness there is no benefit, it only interferes, and very strongly.
• The only way to stop worrying is to work on yourself.
• In fact, in our life there are no real reasons to worry, since nothing threatens us and our loved ones, we are mostly nervous over trifles.

I will not drag out the rubber, and I will tell you about the first way to stop being nervous. This is considered one of the best ways. Have you noticed that when you are nervous, you rush around the room, you move!!! So, if you do a jog, jump, sip iron or beat a punching bag - you will stop being nervous and you will feel much better. After exercise, you should definitely do breathing exercises (more on that below), or do yoga. helps and slows down the rate of aging. Why don't you have a reason?

Now let's talk about the excessive importance that we attach to certain events. Recall from your life those events that made you very nervous: your boss calls you for a serious conversation, you take an exam, you invite a girl or a guy on a date. Remember and try to assess the level of their importance to you. Now think about your life plans and prospects. What do you want to achieve in this life? Remembered? Now answer my question, is it so scary to be late for work and is it worth being nervous about this? Is this what you need to think about?

After all, you will agree with me that in those moments when you are nervous, it is difficult for you to focus on the goals that are important to you. Therefore, instead of worrying about trifles, it’s better to start thinking about your own and think about the future, because this is what really matters to you. I am sure that after changing the focus from unnecessary to necessary, you will stop being nervous.

But no matter how positively we set ourselves up, no matter how hard we try to convince our minds that it’s really not worth being nervous, the body can still react in its own way. So let's take a step forward where I will explain to you how to bring your body into a state of relaxation and calmness before any upcoming important event, both during and after it.

How to calm down before an important event?

So, how not to be nervous before an important event? Every minute we are getting closer and closer to a responsible event, during which our ingenuity, will, ingenuity will be severely tested, and if we manage to withstand this serious test, then life will generously reward us, and if not, then we are in flight. . This event can be a final interview for a specific position that you dream of, the conclusion of an important contract, an exam, a date, and the like. And if you read the article carefully, you are well aware that it is necessary to get rid of nervousness so that it does not interfere with focusing on the goal.

After all, you perfectly understand that the most important event awaits you not far off, but no matter how important it is, anyway, even the worst outcome of this event will not be the end of the world for you. So that stop dramatizing and endowing the event with undue importance. Understand that this is too important an event, and you should not let nervousness ruin it. Therefore, be collected and focused and do everything necessary for this.

So, put all thoughts of defeat out of your head. Try not to think about anything, clear your head of all thoughts, relax completely, take a deep breath, and then exhale. As I said, yoga will help you with this. Here I want to give you the simplest breathing technique.

Here's how to do it:

• Breathe in for 5 counts (or 5 heartbeats)
• Hold the air for 2-3 counts/strokes,
• Exhale for 5 counts/strike
• Don't breathe 2-3 counts/beats.

In general, as the doctor says: breathe - do not breathe. 5 seconds inhale - 3 seconds hold - 5 seconds exhale - 3 seconds hold.

If your breathing allows you to take deeper inhalations and exhalations, then increase the delay time.

Why are breathing exercises so effective? Because in the process of doing a breathing exercise, you are focused exclusively on breathing. It's the kind that I talk about all the time. Meditation helps a lot to calm down and stop being nervous. Your head is in a state of emptiness, so you stop being nervous. By practicing breathing exercises, you will not only calm down right here and now, but also put your nervous system in order, and this will allow you to be less nervous without exercise.

So, here we are preparing ourselves for an important event. Now let's talk about how to behave correctly during an event in order to be calm like a boa constrictor and relaxed like a vein.

How not to be nervous during an important event?

My first advice to you - radiate calm no matter what. If a positive attitude and meditation did not help you stop being nervous, then at least try to externally portray calmness and serenity. The manifestation of external peace will be reflected in the internal. It works on the principle of feedback, that is, not only your inner feeling determines your gestures and facial expressions, but also gestures and facial expressions determine your well-being. It's not hard to check this. When you walk down the street with a straight posture, squared shoulders and a confident gait, you. If you walk stooped, barely move your legs, look at the floor, then the conclusions about you are appropriate.

So watch your facial expressions, gestures and intonation, namely, eliminate all movements of a nervous person. How does a nervous person behave? He picks at his ear, pulls at his hair, bites his pencil, stoops, cannot express his thoughts clearly, is pressed to a chair. Instead, sit cross-legged, straighten your shoulders, straighten your back, relax your face, take your time with the answer, first think, then speak clearly and clearly.

After a meeting or event, whatever the outcome, the same techniques given above will help you calm down. It would be better if you stop scrolling in your head fruitless thoughts like, if I said so ..., and if I did so ...., and it would be better if I kept silent ...., and so on. Just stop thinking. You may not be able to do it right away, but over time you will still forget.

Finally, I want to tell you that you should not create a cause for concern. Many people just wind up things in their minds that it’s not even clear how they thought of this, especially for women. Apparently, their imagination is more developed than that of men, but they just need to direct it in the right direction. Before you start to worry, properly analyze whether it is worth it. If you can’t calm down, then just accept your position and put up with it. Be nervous about your health, because sooner or later everything will end, and you will definitely calm down.

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How to stop worrying - What to do if the excitement does not recede?

- When do we get nervous?

- When do we get nervous?
- 7 lessons on how to stop being nervous
How to calm down right now
- How to get rid of anxiety - instructions for action
How to stop anxiety?
- Conclusion

Nervousness and jitters is that feeling of discomfort that you experience on the eve of important, responsible events and events, during psychological stress and stress, in problematic life situations, and you just worry about every little thing.

It is important to understand that nervousness has both psychological and physiological causes and manifests itself accordingly. Physiologically, this is connected with the properties of our nervous system, and psychologically, with the characteristics of our personality: a tendency to experience, overestimation of the significance of certain events, a sense of insecurity in oneself and what is happening, shyness, excitement for the result.

We begin to get nervous in situations that we consider either dangerous, threatening our lives, or, for one reason or another, significant, responsible. I think that the threat to life, not so often looms before us, the townsfolk. Therefore, I consider situations of the second kind to be the main reason for nervousness in everyday life.

The fear of failing, of looking inappropriate in front of people, all of these make us nervous. In relation to these fears, there is a certain psychological setting, it has little to do with our physiology.

Therefore, in order to stop being nervous, it is necessary not only to put the nervous system in order, but to understand and realize certain things, let's start with understanding the nature of nervousness.

- 7 lessons on how to stop being nervous

Lesson 1. The nature of nervousness. A necessary defense mechanism or a hindrance?

a) Nervousness does not bring any benefit, but only hinders.
b) You can get rid of it by working on yourself.
c) In everyday life, there are few real reasons to be nervous, since we or our loved ones are rarely threatened, mostly we worry about trifles.

Lesson 2 How to stop being nervous for any reason?

Think about all those events that plunge you into nervousness: your boss calls, you pass an exam, you expect an unpleasant conversation. Think about all these things, assess the degree of their importance to you, but not in isolation, but within the context of your life, your global plans and prospects.

At such moments, focus on the purpose of your life, think about the future, distract from the current moment.

Such a psychological setting helps a lot to stop being nervous for any reason.

Lesson 3 Training. How to calm down before a responsible event.

Free your head from thoughts, relax your body, exhale deeply and inhale. The simplest breathing exercises will help you relax.
It should be done like this:

a) inhale for 4 counts (or 4 beats of the pulse, you must first feel it, it is more convenient to do this on the neck, and not on the wrist)
b) hold your breath for 2 counts/beats
c) exhale for 4 counts/beats
d) hold your breath for 2 counts/beats and then inhale again for 4 counts/beats - all over again

Breath! Do not breath. 4 seconds inhale - 2 seconds hold - 4 seconds exhale - 2 seconds hold.

If you feel that breathing allows you to take deeper breaths / exhalations, then do the cycle not 4/2 seconds but 6/3 or 8/4 and so on.

Lesson 4 How to deal with nervousness during an important meeting.

a) Act calm.
b) Pay attention to facial expressions, gestures and intonation.
c) Eliminate all markers of nervousness.
d) Take your time.

Lesson 5 We calm down after the meeting.

Whatever the outcome of the event. You are on edge and still experiencing stress. Better take it off and think about something else. Try not to think too much about the past event. Just get rid of all thoughts from your head, get rid of the subjunctive mood (if only), everything has already passed, put your breath in order and relax your body.

Lesson 6 There should be no reason to be nervous at all.

Usually a significant factor in nervousness is the discrepancy between your preparation for the upcoming event. When you know everything, are confident in yourself, then why should you worry about the result?

We must try not to create stress factors for ourselves in the future! Think ahead and prepare for business and important meetings, do everything on time and do not delay until the last moment! Always have a ready-made plan in your head, and preferably a few! This will save you a significant part of the nerve cells, and in general will contribute to great success in life.

Lesson 7 How to strengthen the nervous system and how to stop being nervous over trifles.

In order to stop being nervous, you must also bring the body and mind to a state of rest.

a) One should meditate regularly.
b) Go in for sports and carry out a complex of health-supporting measures (contrast showers, healthy nutrition, vitamins, etc.). Sport strengthens the nervous system.
c) Walk more, spend time outdoors, try to sit less in front of the computer.
d) Practice breathing exercises.
e) Quit bad habits!

How to calm down right now

Stressful situations, worries and unreasonable anxiety haunt people all their lives, and in order to become happy, you only need to prioritize correctly. You should not take everything “to heart”, for many this statement does not give anything, they do not know how to stop worrying and continue to be nervous. Helping yourself and your friends in this problem is very simple, learn how to overcome your fear and be happy right at the moment, no matter what happens.

1) Perceive yourself and your actions with optimism.

Sense of duty and responsibility for their actions are instilled from childhood, some parents, having overdo it a little, inspire a person with their complexes and a constant sense of guilt, hence the feeling of constant worry for their words and actions arises. To overcome this, you need to convince yourself of the correctness of your actions, and also adhere to the following rules:

a) Relieve yourself of guilt.
b) Get rid of imaginary problems.
c) Get rid of fear.
d) Be yourself.

2) Believe only in the best.

Evaluation of the problem or incident that has arisen should be carried out only after it happens, in order to foresee the course of the event, it is better to immediately consider what could happen in the worst case. Having put everything “on the shelves”, it may turn out that there is nothing terrible in the future, everything is explainable and solvable. To eliminate such concerns, you need to determine for yourself:

a) Goals in life.
b) Prioritize.
c) An interesting case.

3) Appreciate what you have.

It is impossible to expect something more from life and not to make efforts for this, ideal conditions will not be created by themselves. Of course, sometimes favorable circumstances arise, and then only it is worth using them correctly, and unfortunately rarely anyone can do this. Most often, opportunities are hidden under far-fetched problems; after their solution, ways to solve problems are immediately visible.

Take note of a few tips:

a) Live for today.
b) Limit contact with unpleasant people.
c) Don't pay attention to the little things in life.

4) Don't feel sorry for yourself.

You won’t be able to stop worrying right away, but by following the tips in question, you can quickly cope with this difficult feeling and achieve any goals, as well as infect others with your optimism. The main thing to remember is that all thoughts are material, their execution gives a joyful mood and faith in a better future, for which it is worth living.

- How to get rid of anxiety - instructions for action

Tip 1. Don't fight the excitement.

During periods of great excitement, do not try to get rid of this condition.

This struggle sometimes takes more strength than simple excitement. Therefore, instead of fighting with excitement, accept it, feel it, find the reason for your excitement, and then you will feel better.
Also find advantages in an exciting situation, and then it will become much easier for you.

Tip 2. Go in for sports!

The excitement caused by fear binds every muscle in our body.

In such situations, overcoming anxiety is quite simple! You just need to give your body a physical shake-up. When endorphin rushes into your body, the excitement will noticeably recede.

Tip 3. Don't worry about trifles.

Very often we worry about a fictional situation.

For example, we didn’t have time to submit a report today and we begin to worry that tomorrow it will be too late. But you can just tell the boss that the work on the report was a little delayed.

However, in reality, we ourselves complicate our lives.

Tip 4. Breathing helps in the fight against anxiety.

Try Herry Herminson's Balloon Breathing Exercise.

Sit down, close your eyes and imagine a tennis ball in front of you. Take a slow and deep breath, imagining how the ball slowly and smoothly moves from the stomach to the throat. Exhale - and the ball moves down just as slowly.

After doing 10 repetitions, you will noticeably relax and be able to overcome the excitement.

Tip 5 Stay positive and stop worrying.

During periods of unrest, we are often overwhelmed by phrases such as: “I can’t”, “I’m a loser”, “I will definitely embarrass myself”, etc. But know - these phrases are just limiters in our brain.

Repeating to yourself day after day about failures, you really become a failure.
That's why start programming yourself right!

Tell yourself:

a) I will do it!
b) I am the best!
c) I can do everything!

Many psychologists believe that the constant scrolling of positive phrases helps a person cope with anxiety and achieve their goals.

How to stop anxiety?

Here are some tips on how to stop worrying and start enjoying life right now!

1) Play a game of "what's the worst that can happen?" with yourself.
Imagine the worst case scenario so you can prepare for it or try to prevent it.

The second step is to imagine something for which you would be grateful even in an undesirable situation. This gratitude exercise teaches you not only to be prepared for the worst, but to see the positive in it!

And most importantly, if you can imagine the worst, you can imagine the best!

2) Get rid of the habit of worrying (yes, it's a habit!).
Get rid of thoughts that upset you and choose thoughts that focus on a positive outcome. Control your mind and stop worrying!

3) Be in the here and now.
You worry about what might happen in the future or what happened in the past. But the truth is that you are creating the future NOW! Therefore, if you want to stop worrying, your thoughts must be devoted to what is happening NOW. Concentrate and think, feel, act and speak in the best possible way… from the point of view of the present. Such thoughts, feelings, actions and words improve your future!

4) Help others.
There are countless people who are much, much worse than you. Help them as much as you can. This will help you look at your own problems more objectively, develop a sense of gratitude, and you will not have time to think about your problems when you are helping other people (or animals, the environment, etc.).

5) Talk positively to yourself and about yourself.
How many times a day do you berate yourself for the mistakes you make? How many times a day can you say "I" along with something negative?

For example:

a) I am poor
b) I'm lonely
c) I can't do it
d) I will be rejected.

Don't talk like that! "I" is a word that has a strong energy! No need to exercise yourself with these life situations. When you eliminate such negativity from your speech, your mental state will improve and you will be less prone to anxiety. You will also be motivated to take positive action.

6) Action gives you confidence and control.
Take action. Think rationally, analyze the situation, weigh all the options and choose the best course of action, based NOT on reflexes or emotions, but on calmly taking the steps necessary to improve the situation, on what you want - on the best scenario that you visualize.

Action keeps you active, helps you focus your mind away from worry, and makes you feel GOOD because you feel more in control of the situation, if only because you're doing it yourself.

- Conclusion

Almost every person on the plane has at least once experienced anxiety and anxiety. Some people experience this feeling all the time. Sometimes this anxiety has no basis, but a person still continues to wind himself up over trifles, losing precious time that he could spend on his self-development or on relatives and friends.

How often do you worry about things that are not worth your attention? And how to stop worrying for no reason?

First of all, you need to realize that your excitement will not bring you any benefit. Only harm. Train your confidence. Confident people almost never have a reason to worry.

And stop worrying about what is out of your control, it's useless. It is foolish to spend time on something that only spoils your mood, it is better to spend it on improving your skills and increasing your self-esteem.

The material was prepared by Dilyara specifically for the site

Let's ask ourselves what happens to us and our body when we are nervous?

In today's world of constant movement and activity, people regularly face stress. Constant stress haunts us at work, on the way home, and we try to do everything in time - this makes the nervous tension only stronger. Stress has become a mandatory companion on the life path of every person.

And then we begin to think: how to become more restrained, remain calm and stop being nervous in various stressful situations.

At the moment of stress, all systems of our body are involved in the process of nervous excitement.. One of the most common side effects of stress is a migraine. It occurs due to spasms of muscles and blood vessels, which lead to a slight shift in the internal organs of a person. This reaction of the body provokes a decrease in the amount of oxygen in the blood and subsequent oxygen starvation. Also, nervous overexcitation leads to an increase in the hormone "cortisol" in the body. In normal amounts, this hormone performs a protective function, however, when it becomes too much, it leads to poisoning and subsequent destruction of the body and human health as a whole.

Psychology says that the experience of stress and the habit of worrying and being nervous is the cause of loss of health, premature death, problems in the family and personal life.

Beware of drugs!

The easiest way to cope with stress, stop being nervous and relax is medicine. However, it must be taken with great caution.

Sedative drugs, in addition to benefits, can cause significant harm to the body, because. have contraindications and can be addictive.

Preparations are divided into three groups, which are based on methods of influencing the body, each of which has its own characteristics:

1. Used for excessive anxiety, heart palpitations, irritability
2. The second type of drugs is a strong antidepressant, prescribed for reduced body activity, lethargy
3. The third - should help when the symptoms of the first and second type alternate each other.

Any of these drugs are prescribed by a doctor and taking them without a prescription can lead to sad consequences. Therefore, in the case of slightly pronounced symptoms of nervous overexcitation of the body, herbal preparations help well. They help to relax and do not have a significant effect on the body. These medicines include:

• Valerian tincture;
• Motherwort;
• Negrustin;
• Persen;
• Novo-passit.

The last three preparations contain St. John's wort, lemon balm, mint, motherwort, hops, etc. All these herbs have a beneficial effect on the human body - they calm the heartbeat, relax, reduce pressure, and help to control oneself in situations of stress.

It is possible to control oneself in a stressful situation without resorting to medications!

Be that as it may, and no matter how the pages of magazines, newspapers and television are not full of offers of drugs with which you can calm down and relax without harm to your body - all the same, this is an external and in some cases chemical effect on your body. Each person wants to use fewer pills, strengthen the nervous system and start living using internal resources. But is it possible to learn not to be nervous and calm down on your own? Psychology tells us yes. And it is within the power of almost everyone.

Exercises

If you find yourself in a stressful situation, when you feel that everything infuriates you, you can’t think about anything but a problem, your heart rate increases, you start to freak out - you should start doing simple exercises:

• To begin with, count to 10. You need to breathe slowly, tracking your every inhalation and exhalation.
• Water brings peace. You can use it in different ways - ideally, you need to swim. However, if this is not possible, wash yourself, wash any thing that is at hand, wash the dishes, trying to breathe slowly. Drinking a glass of water is the easiest way to calm down in any stressful situation.
• Walk. Any physical exercise - whether it be running, dancing, exercising in the gym or walking - will help improve your health, remove toxins from the body and help release negative energy.
• Tears cleanse the soul. And so is your body. Toxic substances that are released into the blood during moments of stress are released along with tears.. That is why in some situations crying is not something that is not forbidden, but will even be useful.
• And finally, get out of the situation that infuriates you and makes you angry. If you are in a difficult meeting, or have an unpleasant conversation, etc. The easiest thing you can do is get out. Both literally and figuratively. Give yourself time to calm down, use the methods listed above and, when you are calmer and no longer nervous, return to the situation.

The tips listed above will help answer the question of how to learn not to be nervous, how to cope with a stressful situation, and become calmer here and now. However, there are many people among us who, due to the specifics of their temperament, character and lifestyle, are prone to excessive anxiety and nervous overexcitation in situations where there is objectively no reason for this. In this case, it is necessary to start changing the way of life and thinking.

Live in peace and harmony with yourself

The changes that need to be made in your life are related to all its aspects. First, it is a way of thinking.

We need to learn to stop being nervous for any reason, and the reasons for calmness are in our heads.

Secondly, a positive attitude towards your body and body and work with it helps not to be nervous over trifles, and thirdly, a certain lifestyle in general contributes to calmness. The following are tips on how to implement this:

1. Proper nutrition. A system of simple rules will help strengthen the body, not be nervous and feel energized all day: eat more fruits and vegetables, do not forget about dairy products, morning cereals. Try to minimize the consumption of fatty and sweet, but do not overdo it - sweet in the morning is even useful, because it contains glucose, which is necessary for your body.
2. You need to start exercising regularly. Immediately waking up, turn on the music, warm up, dance. Develop a system of physical exercises.
3. Learn to relax. This means that in addition to your main duties, you have hobbies, places where you feel good and calm, friends, etc. When you find yourself in a situation that pisses you off, think about it.
4. Keep a record of situations that make you nervous. Have a notepad handy at all times to record when you are experiencing symptoms of anxiety. Regularly analyze them - find the common and the reasons. For example: “I am constantly nervous in the company of strangers”, “I break down when they argue with me”, “I begin to worry before an important event”, etc. Once you understand what situations and why unsettle you, you will be ready for them and be able to manage them.
5. Always remember that it could be worse. Many people have a bigger problem than you.. The thought is material.
6. Have clear goals and plans. An aimless existence is a cause for stress, because time passes, and nothing changes in life.

Set achievable goals for yourself, strive for them - and you will see how small failures and unpleasant situations will stop bothering and worrying you.

1. Plan your business. Very often the cause of stress is lack of time. Follow him, give yourself enough of it to live and do something slowly. Also, planning will allow you to track your performance and maintain control over the situation and your life.
2. Strive for an adequate assessment of your personality and what happened to you. Very often we overestimate the significance of events and situations, think about the bad and begin to get nervous and worry about the fact that over time it loses its importance.

Try to keep in mind what you define as the most important thing in life, for example: family, children, travel, career, etc.

Accordingly, everything else becomes less important and it makes no sense to worry. You must try not to blame - you are not God and not perfect, like all people. Be kind to yourself - "I snap because I have the right to it, but I start to fight it"

1. You need to stop thinking about the bad. This means that we create a problem situation in our head and begin to worry about it, although in reality it does not exist and may not exist at all. Your thoughts about possible failures and losses are just fear that speaks of your insecurity in yourself, in your loved ones and prevents you from living.

Remember - there are no hopeless situations!

Drive away negative thoughts and do not let them control you.

1. Try to think less and worry about how others perceive you. Or rather, don't think at all. You can never be sure of your assessment of what people think of you. So is it worth worrying about? Moreover, we greatly exaggerate our own importance in the eyes of others. Others have their own problems, and they think first of all about themselves, not about you.
2. Nobody owes you anything! Always keep this in mind when you start to get irritated and nervous because someone's behavior is not the way you would like. You have no right to force others to act solely in accordance with your interests.. Try to see the good in the bad.
3. Keep a balance between work and leisure. Both work and play should be present in your life. Have the opportunity to do work and relax at the time you need it.
4. Take your time! The desire to do everything and do several things at the same time is the first cause of stress. Set priorities, and always keep in mind that your healthy body and peace of mind are the most important and expensive thing you have.

Peace, only peace!

The ability to manage your emotions in different situations, maintain a good mood and think positively is the basis of longevity and a happy life. Yoga, meditation - first of all, they teach how to stop being nervous in situations of stress and calm down. In the life of every person there are many situations that make you very worried, nervous and annoyed, you just need to learn how to treat them correctly.

No one will relieve you of stress, but making it as safe as possible is in your power.

By using your life organization model and stress response techniques, you can manage your condition, relax, and change your life for the better.

The state of nervousness is not alien to every person, especially given the high pace of life and the huge amount of information flows. Under such conditions, even minor failures can lead to depression, apathy and other nervous disorders. In order to stop experiencing with or without it, you need to learn to control your emotions. There are certain ways to help calm down and stop being nervous.

Causes of nervousness.

The state of anxiety and mental anguish can be triggered by various circumstances. Each person has different values, and for this reason, different situations can throw him off balance. Often, a person himself inflames the situation, giving excessive significance to things that are not worth it. Reasons for anxiety can be:

• Dangerous situations that pose a threat to health or life;
• Fear of failure or, in fact, failure itself;
• Fear of appearing inappropriate in front of others;
• in anticipation of important events;
• Excitement due to conflicts, household trifles.

The emergence of moral discomfort under any stress factor is not a physiological process, it is a psychological setting. From a physiological point of view, nervousness is associated with the properties of the nervous system, and from a psychological point of view, with personality traits. Thus, the disposition to be nervous is not a natural reaction to stress, but the reaction of a particular person to what is happening.

Ways to stop being nervous.

Thanks to hard work on oneself, it is possible to overcome the state of nervousness. Here are some ways to help control your emotions:

Avoidance or elimination of stress.

If you know that this or that situation causes you bouts of excitement and negative emotions, then, if possible, you should avoid them in advance. If the situation arose spontaneously, then try to find an opportunity to eliminate it. However, not all problems can be "run away". This method is suitable if you are upset by a movie, communication with a new acquaintance, news on a social network - close the movie, leave the meeting, log out of the network.

Abstraction.

If it is impossible to use the method of avoiding negativity, this method will be appropriate. If you are forced to be in an environment that makes you nervous, it is worth trying distraction techniques. A good option is a mental distraction - to think about something of your own, but a visual distraction works even better - contemplation on something extraneous. This strategy is suitable for meetings, travel in transport.

Drinking water.

A simple yet scientifically proven way. A glass of water, drunk without haste, is able to start the mechanism of self-rehabilitation of the body. The method is relevant in any situation.

Passion for interesting things.

The method is suitable if you cannot “let go” of the problem, if it torments and unnerves you again and again. The techniques can be: reading a fascinating book, knitting, drawing, computer games, outdoor activities. You should be interested in some kind of intrigue, courage, the rapid development of events. In pursuit of new sensations, it is important to follow the rule - do not harm anyone else.

water procedures.

Water is a healing agent for improving the psycho-emotional state. Water, both literally and figuratively, washes away all the “dirt”. As techniques, you can use: taking a bath or shower (can be combined with music therapy and light therapy), visiting a sauna or bath, swimming in a river / pond / sea. Even the usual washing of dishes will help to distract and benefit in the form of directly clean dishes and normalization of the state of mind.

Physical discharge.

This method physiologically causes physical relaxation and, as a result, moral relief. Among the effective methods are: long walks in the fresh air, dancing, general cleaning, gardening, sports training, destruction of old things.

Intimate intimacy.

Sex is a great remedy for blues. Ideally, sexual contact should take place with a loved one, but other options are also acceptable. The main thing is to approach the issue wisely and do not forget about the means of protection, otherwise the stress that you can experience after passing a pregnancy test will overshadow all other efforts.

Comparison.

It is enough to compare your situation with a worse scenario. This method teaches you to appreciate what you have and to realize that your situation is not worth such nerves. An effective method can be called for minor problems that are not related to health and a significant decrease in the quality of life.

Positive look.

The stressful event should be evaluated in a positive way. That is, you need to find the pluses in the fact that this happened. Maybe, thanks to this, you will get much more and pleasant events await you.

Laughter and tears.

These two opposite phenomena can bring moral relief. Although their interweaving is also possible: laughter to tears, crying to laughter. Making fun of the problem itself or laughing at something else will lift your spirits and help you move away from anxiety faster. Crying, moreover, the stronger, the better, relieves stress. Although in the process of sobbing it seems to you that relief is still far away, a new wave of emotions may flood you, but at the end of the hysteria, you will definitely feel better. With tears, toxic substances that were formed during stress leave the body.

Check.

The standard method of counting to 10 will help normalize breathing and control the surge of negative emotions. The method is suitable for athletes, and in situations where you want to avoid conflict.

Job.

Passion for your duties at work, additional tasks are very appropriate if you need to distract yourself from the problem. This method is suitable for long-term stress.

Verbalization.

Keeping a personal diary that you trust in all moments of your life. Not everyone will like this method, but systematically writing down your thoughts on paper will help you get through unpleasant moments faster.

Chat with friends.

It is not necessary to speak out on a disturbing topic, especially if it is not significant. It is better not to remember the unpleasant incident once again, but simply to communicate and enjoy it. But, as an option, discussing your problem is also acceptable. Friends will listen, it may be important for you, and they can advise something else.

What methods are best not to resort to.

There is a group of ways that have only an apparent positive effect on the fight against nervousness:

• drinking coffee
• "Jamming" problems
• Smoking
• Drinking alcohol
• Admission of narcotic substances

Perhaps these methods will help to survive stress, but their use, especially in large quantities, brings great harm to health and, ultimately, to the whole life of a person. Therefore, the harm far outweighs the benefit.

It is very important to learn to live without burdening yourself with worries about trifles. Your health depends on this useful skill, since frequent nervous breakdowns can lead to its deterioration.