I am sure that each of you at least once faced with a situation where a person tells you one thing, but does something completely different. Why is this happening? This is a lie, weakness, insecurity ... What drives people at this moment?
In life, it is very important to be able to understand people. Even more: it is necessary. Without it, you will never have a successful love life. Without this, you will not see good relations with colleagues. And you won’t even make real friends without the ability to understand people.
Ask yourself - can you do it? Can you feel others? Do you know what to expect from them? How many broken hearts... how many deceived depositors... how many lawsuits... And the problem is the same everywhere - the inability to understand people.
But how to learn it? To get started, remember one simple thing: everything people say is not true. Sounds scary, doesn't it? Everything that a person says is not true - because everything is either better than it actually is, or worse.
Never listen to what people say - look at their subconscious attitudes. The truth is in the subconscious program that each of us has.
If a man says he wants a million dollars, is that true or not true? Lie! He doesn't speak. He wants a million dollars, but in such a way that he does nothing for it. So, not to stress. Right or wrong? Check it out! Otherwise, he would have had this million long ago.
If you run out of battery in your car, you call your friend and he says that he will come and help you. He's lying! He doesn't speak. He will come and do everything for you. He will come himself, he will connect the wires himself, he will check everything himself and he will start everything himself. His subconscious has a program - to help friends, to go to any lengths for the sake of friends.
And another friend says to you: “I will always help you! Call any time! Brother, anything for you." And he also lies. It depends on his desire. There will definitely be a situation when he will answer: “Listen, nothing today ... One, two, three ... Come on next week.” Familiar? How about...
Have you heard the saying "Friends in need are known"? What a person will actually do, how to act, is in his subconscious. You can call it a subconscious life program.
That is why we tell ourselves: “First you need to get to know him better,” before building a relationship. But what you really need to know is not him, but his subconscious life program.
What do you think, when a husband tells his wife that he will not cheat anymore ... - is this true or not true? Do not believe a single word of his, look at his subconscious life program. On his habits. On his inclinations and interests. To his instincts. All answers are there! Once changed - everything, the second time to repeat it - a matter of technology. If a husband cheated on his wife, he will 90% do it again. Sooner or later. In a year, maybe in 10 years.
The subconscious mind is thousands of times more powerful than the conscious mind. And if it seems to us that one day we will be able to change ourselves, this is nothing more than self-deception. We act only in accordance with the subconscious life program that is embedded in each of us.
Our brain is, in a sense, a computer. He himself, without the participation of consciousness, determines the frequency of contraction of the heart muscle. He himself perfectly regulates the number of inhalations and exhalations. He himself determines when exactly you need to go to the toilet. He himself decides whether you are cold or warm, he determines whether you want sweet or salty.
We spend 80–90% of our lives on autopilot. All this time we regularly follow this program.Watch yourself and you will be surprised. Be surprised how your hands turn the steering wheel to the right when you need to turn right. And before that, automatically stretch to turn on the turn signal.
Watch yourself - and you will notice how one day is similar to another. How similar are the actions we take today to tomorrow. These regularities, these repetitions are the moments of manifestation of the subconscious life program.
Therefore, if people tell you one thing, but act differently, and this surprises you, you simply do not know how to understand people. You could not assume / foresee / expect / believe / get used to ... Maybe this will come with experience. But to limit yourself from such unpleasant surprises, watch carefully.
Learn to understand people! published
Vitaly Shevtsov
There are times when we see the only way to stand up for ourselves in the ability to offend the interlocutor. It is worth recognizing that this method is not always justified, and, at times, can even lead to negative consequences. But still there are situations when it is very difficult to do without it. There can be many such situations, and we will consider some of them in more detail. self defense When someone allows themselves to speak offensively in our direction, often, we "boil" in response. Few people manage to restrain their emotions in such a situation and ignore the attacks of an aggressive interlocutor. Of course, if a person has managed to achieve the highest degree of self-control or simply cannot decide on an offensive response, then he is able to ignore negative words addressed to him. And yet, more often than not, holding back is not easy. Defense of the weak There are situations when we cannot help but pay attention to the fact that someone allows himself an insulting attitude towards another person. It is especially unbearable to watch this when a spouse, your child, a shy girl or even an unfamiliar pensioner falls under the shelling of offensive words. In general, aggression awakens in many of us when a weaker person suffers, who finds it difficult to fend for himself. Of course, in this case, the injured party needs protection, and, undoubtedly, will experience a deep sense of gratitude, having received it. Animal protection This point is somewhat similar to the previous one, but the difference is that this time it is not about a weak person, but about an animal. Some of us, seeing, for example, how teenagers torture a cat or a drunken person kicking a dog, try to pretend that they simply do not notice what is happening, but the majority still cannot look indifferently at the suffering of the “smaller brothers”. Of course, in this case, insults on your part will be more than justified.
How to morally humiliate a person without a mat
Not each of us is able to humiliate a person without resorting to swear words. However, if you learn this, then you can say that you have mastered the art of the most "subtle" insults.Clever phrases to shut up a person
If you want to put a person in his place, with some kind of veiled insult, take note of a few phrases.- Open your mouth at the dentist! Usually, those who cannot manage their own climb into someone else's life. Do not fall under a hot hand, so as not to fly away under a hot leg.
Cool and funny insults
Such insults can seem cool and funny not only to the person who utters them, but also to the person to whom they refer. However, it all depends on how touchy your interlocutor is. If he is too sensitive to the slightest hint of insults and overly vulnerable, then, of course, he will not be funny in this situation.- Yes, close your laugher already! Stop waving your tongue like a flag in a parade.
Offensive sharp phrases
If you want to offend someone with a sharp and offensive phrase, then, apparently, this person really managed to hurt you. Of course, in no case should you show that you are offended or angry - in this case, you will not achieve the desired effect. Speak sharp phrases in a calm tone, which may well be accompanied by a slight smirk.- Looks like the stork dropped someone on the way. And more than once. You would have been taken to the Kunstkamera even during your lifetime. One more phrase like that, and you will have to move through life in jerks. You should think about saving nature by sterilizing yourself. It must be difficult for you to love nature, after what she has done to you.
How to culturally send a person by calling witty words
You may well offend a person, even being with him on “you”. To do this, it is not at all necessary to switch to obscene words or direct insults. One witty phrase is enough. Therefore, you can even say that, in this way, you will send a person culturally.- Are you leaving already? Why so slowly? I'm too busy a person to pay attention to your complexes. Shock me, finally say at least something smart. It seems that youthful maximalism has not gone away with you. .I hope that you are not always so stupid, but only today.
Play on his weaknesses and complexes
If the situation develops in such a way that you have to insult a woman (we note that these are still the most extreme situations), then, of course, you can play on her complexes. Most often, the weak point of a woman is her appearance. Even if she does not show that your words somehow hurt her, most likely, you will still achieve the goal - she will remember what you said and it will disturb her. It is also worth noting that some men can also be offended by mentioning their appearance or physical parameters. Although most often a male representative can be offended by mentioning his unenviable mental qualities, most men react quite painfully to these remarks. So some examples:- Alas, you cannot save the world with beauty. However, with your mind too. Woman, you are not so beautiful as to be rude to people. Just looking at you, I can believe that a person really came from a monkey. Don't worry, maybe one day you will say something smart. Where did you learn to do makeup in the style of Valuev? What, no one wants to get married, why is she so angry? Is everything really tight? Well, at least try to spread your bone marrow. It’s immediately obvious that your parents dreamed that you would run away from home. It’s true they say that the brain is not everything. In your case, it's nothing at all.
Create long-term systematic pressure on the enemy
Naturally, in this paragraph we are talking about psychological pressure - the influence on the interlocutors, which occurs in order to change their psychological attitudes, decisions and opinions. Often this method is used in situations where, for some reason, you cannot openly be rude to a person, but you are also unable to not react to his behavior in any way. So, what types of psychological pressure exist? Moral pressure It can also be called humiliation, which is expressed in the desire to morally suppress the interlocutor. Systematically, you point out some feature of a person, even if your words are not true. Thus, you intentionally sow complexes in your opponent. For example, you can always hint or directly tell someone: “How stupid you are,” “You are very clumsy,” “You still need to lose weight,” and the like. In this case, it becomes difficult for the interlocutor to control himself, and if at first he practically does not pay attention to your words, then later they begin to seriously offend him. It is important to note that this technique is appropriate to apply to people who suffer from self-doubt. Compulsion Such a method can be used by a person who is endowed with some kind of power - finance, information, or even physical strength. In this case, the opponent is not able to give a worthy rebuff, realizing that in this case he may suffer financially, not receive the necessary information, and so on. Belief This kind of psychological pressure can be called the most rational. By applying it, you are trying to appeal to the logic of a person and his mind. This method is applicable to people with a normal level of intelligence who are able to understand what you are trying to convey to them. A person who tries to act by the method of persuasion should select the most logical and evidential phrases, not allowing doubts and uncertainty in his tone. It is important to understand that as soon as the "victim" begins to notice any inconsistencies, the force of such pressure will begin to weaken. suspension In this case, the person makes an attempt, as it were, to “starve out” the interlocutor. You are trying to put pressure on someone, but when they try to convict you of this, then you step back or move on to other topics. You can also, in response, accuse the opponent of inventing everything, twisting it, and so on. Suggestion This method of psychological attack can only be used by a person who is somehow an authority for his “victim”. One way or another, you are trying to inspire something to the interlocutor, speaking in hints or directly.Is it permissible to use obscene names and curses
Of course, we are not always able to control ourselves and cope with ourselves in peak situations, but you should make every effort to achieve this. If it has come to the point that you do not see any other way but to get nasty to a person, then try to do it subtly and beautifully. As they say, there is no need to stoop to the level of “bazaar women”. Of course, if you couldn’t restrain yourself and switched to a mat, then there’s nothing to be done, and still try not to allow this, and put the person “in their place” in other ways. It’s not that you can somehow especially hurt interlocutor. It is simply believed that a person who has "descended" to obscenities is not able to defend his opinion in ordinary words - to some extent, this is how we demonstrate our own inadequacy. Of course, it’s another matter if you, in principle, always communicate with the abundant use of swear words, but this is a completely different conversation.
How to learn sarcasm using cheeky funny words
Having learned to use bold and funny expressions to the point, you will surely be able to gain fame in a close circle as a person with a good sense of humor and mastering the technique of sarcasm. But it is important not to forget that insolence can be fraught with consequences, and with such phrases you can provoke the interlocutor to an unpredictable reaction.- Go, lie down, rest. Yes, at least on the rails. It would be possible to offend you, of course, but nature has already coped for me. Nobody scares you, you will be scared at the mirror. A stapler would not interfere with your mouth at all. go.
- If these beeps continue to come from your platform, then your dental staff will have to move. Are you sick or do you always look like this? you, but life has already done it for me.
Hearing
The main thing is to be sure to let the person talk. Do not be afraid of the flow of revelations and panic: no one requires you to be active and immediately solve all problems. It is also better to leave questions, advice and universal wisdom for later: at this stage, a person just needs to know that he is not alone, that he is heard, that they sincerely sympathize with him.
To listen does not mean to freeze like an idol and be silent until the very end of the monologue. This behavior is more like indifference. It is possible and even necessary to show “signs of life” in order to console a loved one: say “Yes”, “I understand you”, sometimes repeat words or phrases that seemed key - all this will show that you really care. And at the same time it will help to gather your thoughts: both to the interlocutor, and, by the way, to yourself.
This is a gesture
There is a simple set of gestures to help sympathizers. An open posture (without arms crossed on the chest), a slightly bowed head (preferably at the same level as the head of the person you are listening to), understanding nods, an approving grunt in time with the conversation and open palms are subconsciously perceived as a sign of attention and participation. When it comes to a loved one with whom you are used to maintaining bodily contact, soothing touches and stroking will not interfere. If the speaker becomes hysterical, and this also often happens, then one option to calm him down is to give him a big hug. By this, you will inform him, as it were: I am near, I accept you, you are safe.
It is better not to experiment with unfamiliar people in relation to bodily contact: firstly, you yourself may feel embarrassed; secondly, a person with a rigid personal space can be repulsed by such behavior. It is also worth being very careful if you have a victim of physical violence in front of you.
no change
You can not go in cycles in stress, many of us believe. “Pull yourself together!”, “Find a reason to be happy” - these are the standard set of phrases that the culture of global positiveness and lightness of being hammers into our heads. Alas, all these attitudes in 90 cases out of 100 have the opposite effect and do not help to comfort a person with words at all. Sacredly believing that it is necessary to look for pluses in everything, we learn not to work on the problem, but to fill it with a mass of conditionally positive experiences. As a result, the problem does not disappear anywhere, and it becomes more and more difficult to return to it and try to solve it every day.
If a person constantly returns to the same topic, it means that stress is still making itself felt. Let him talk for as long as it takes (assuming you endure the process yourself). See how it got easier? Great. You can slowly change the subject.
If specifically
What words to comfort a person? Often, the person in trouble feels like a social outcast - it seems to him that his misfortunes are unique and no one cares about his experiences. The phrase "Is there anything I can do to help?" seems banal and insipid, but nevertheless it shows your willingness to share the problem and be in the same boat with the victim. And it’s even better to offer something specific: “Do you want me to come to you right now and we will discuss everything?”, “Dictate a list of what you need - I’ll bring it within a day”, “Now I’ll call all the lawyers I know (doctors, psychologists), maybe what will they advise” or simply “Come at any time”. And even if the answer is an irritated grumbling in the style of “No need, I’ll figure it out myself,” the very desire to help will have a positive effect.
Help should be offered only if you are really ready for exploits, wasting time, money and emotions. Do not overestimate your strength, promising what you cannot deliver, in the end it will only get worse.
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Assurances like “Don’t touch me, leave me alone, I want to be alone” often speak not so much of the desire to cope with the situation alone, but of excessive obsession with the problem and, unfortunately, a state close to panic. Therefore, it is not recommended to leave it alone for a long time. Unless for an extremely limited period of time, while being close and keeping abreast.
Quite often the mood to withdraw into oneself provokes the excessive curiosity of others, sometimes even those who are not close at all, their excessive pity, patronizing attitude. Nobody likes it. Therefore, when you see someone in such a state in front of you, you should moderate the level of your feelings and sympathy (at least externally) and make it clear that you are not going to teach him life or crush him with authority, but at the same time you sincerely want to help.
He she
We are used to believing that a woman is an emotionally unstable creature and is always prone to hysterical reactions, while a man is strong and resistant by default, therefore he is able to cope with stress alone. However, this is not entirely true.
Recent studies by scientists show that a socially isolated man tolerates stress much worse than a woman left alone: he is more prone to withdrawing into himself and depression (and girls even increase immunity in force majeure situations!). And the problem that we, emotional, will survive and still forget, can torment the male brain for a long time. Psychologists believe that such a protracted reaction is a consequence of the fact that boys are taught from childhood to be silent and to monitor their reputation more than a state of psychological comfort.
A man needs comfort, but actions will bring it rather than words. How to console a loved one? Your arrival, a delicious dinner, an unobtrusive attempt to stir up will work much better than verbal confessions. In addition, the active behavior of someone nearby brings men to themselves. And also let him know that it won’t hurt him to speak out and you don’t see anything wrong with that.
Saving those who help
Sometimes we get so carried away with saving drowning people that it becomes an obsession. Which, by the way, the victim himself indulges: having got used to your willingness to listen, he, without realizing it, turns into your personal energy vampire and begins to dump all negative emotions on your fragile shoulders. If this goes on too long, you will soon need help yourself.
By the way, for some people the opportunity to help someone turns into a way to get away from their own problems. It is absolutely not worth allowing this - sooner or later there is a risk of coming to a full-fledged nervous breakdown.
If, after long and, as it seems to you, therapeutic conversations, you feel squeezed out like a lemon, fatigue, sleep disturbances, irritability appear, you should slow down a bit. In this state, you are unlikely to help anyone, but you can easily harm yourself.
Depression
We like to use the diagnosis of "depression" with or without cause. And although only a specialist can diagnose this disease, there are still common signs, in the event of which you need to urgently seek qualified help. This:
Apathy, sadness, the prevalence of bad mood;
Loss of strength, motor retardation or, conversely, nervous fussiness;
Slowing down speech, long pauses, freezing in place;
Decreased concentration;
Loss of interest in habitually joyful things and events;
Loss of appetite;
Insomnia;
Decreased sex drive.
At least a couple of symptoms from the above - and you really should find a good psychotherapist for the victim.
Text: Daria Zelentsova
Behind all the spoken words
should be honest, sincere,
an open personality is the basis of mutual understanding.
We all sincerely want to be always understood, we want to learn to trust and dream of being heard. Where do problems in the family come from, quarrels, quarrels, broken deals and misunderstandings, we all speak the same language, we speak clearly and correctly?
We bring interesting proposals, but in return they refuse us, they don’t hear us, they don’t support us, they don’t understand. Who is guilty? Maybe we do not know how to speak correctly so that we are understood? Why did our ideas remain unspoken? How to learn how to speak correctly so that our initiative, idea or concern is heard?
The meaning of words for a person
Our success, and indeed our whole life, depends on the ability to speak. All failures in most cases are pursued only because we could not convey the idea, expressed ourselves incorrectly, presented ourselves in the wrong light.
But each of us can do everything much better! You need to figure out for yourself how to learn how to speak competently so that what you say is understood exactly as you would like.
Every day we pronounce millions of words, communicate with people, with ourselves, while we do not think that each word spoken carries a certain meaning. We throw words that later turn into garbage, empty remarks, offensive phrases, broken promises. And in essence, we are exactly what we say, how competently we speak and how we perceive what is said to us.
Small children, starting to speak, try to convey their desires and feelings. They express their emotions and desires in words. These are the first lessons that not everyone learns. We grow up, but not everyone understands that our colloquial speech, the ability to speak correctly opens the door for us to achieve our goals. Our goals are varied, but the rules that help people speak correctly are very simple and the same for all occasions.
Hear yourself
If we want to be heard, then, first of all, we need to hear ourselves, convince ourselves of the truthfulness and sincerity of our words, thoughts, desires. Because the first step to success and communication is the ability to live harmoniously with yourself, to have your own undeniable point of view, the ability to conduct an internal dialogue and sincerely believe in every word you say.
Believe in yourself. Listen to yourself, listen to what you say to yourself. Want to know how to talk to yourself the right way? Do not tell yourself: "I will not succeed", you need to say: "I can achieve a lot." Enjoy communicating with yourself, because you are your first listener.
Three main areas of communication
- First area
The first flow is talking to yourself, and first you need to know how to talk to yourself correctly. Do not be surprised, everyone talks to themselves, gives themselves advice, makes them do something, scolds themselves, dissuades themselves. It is an ongoing and unconscious internal dialogue. In the head of each of us there is a scheme laid down in childhood, according to which we live.
The inner voice that scolds us is the forbidden voice of the parents, it is a relic of the past. We have been listening to this voice as children for several years: “you can’t, don’t touch, don’t interfere,” many consider it the voice of conscience, but this is the voice of parents deposited in the subcortex.
Try to gradually get rid of it. Believe in yourself, in your strengths and abilities, convince yourself that you can do everything, praise yourself. By improving your inner monologue daily, you will be able to achieve harmony with yourself, and you will notice that it becomes easier for you to talk with people. And how to learn how to speak correctly, you will think less often.
- Second area
The second most important area of communication is speaking correctly with interlocutors. We talk all the time, trying to convey our thoughts, trying to convince people that we are right, but we don’t know everything how to learn to talk to people.
We talk a lot, but sometimes we say far from what we think, and sometimes we think, but for some reason we don’t say it, and in most cases we don’t say it. As a result, a constructive dialogue does not work.
You will not understand how to learn how to talk to people until you yourself believe in what you intend to say, and that what you say is really important to the interlocutor.
The secret to learning how to talk to people lies within yourself. Emotions, doubts, nervousness, feelings, intonation - everything is transmitted along with the words.
B. Russell experiment
In 1987, Professor B. Russell conducted an experiment at the University of Pennsylvania. He found out that during communication between people, information flows arise, which, when decomposed into components, showed an amazing result:
- the meaning of the spoken words has only 7%;
- 38% falls on the intonation and timbre of the voice;
- 55% of information is transmitted through transmission channels (posture, gestures, facial expressions, articulation), that is, something that is absolutely not connected with words.
That's the whole secret of how to learn to talk to people. It is very difficult to control non-verbal channels, but if the conversation is about your future, you will have to learn.
Third area
Of great importance in how to learn to talk with people has to do with criticism, or the ability to present it. This is the third area of communication. All people are sensitive to criticism. Any object, any action, each of us sees in his own way.
Before you openly criticize, you need to make sure that you and your opponent speak the same language, that is, you see the subject in the same way. The only way to find out is through dialogue.
In a conversation containing criticism, there are two sides: the speaker and the receiver. How to adequately accept criticism and what to do with it? There is always a problem in front of a person. There are exactly as many opinions as there are people, so the person himself must decide how to accept criticism.
creative criticism
Before you start criticizing, make sure that your opinion is necessary for the person. And being an unexpected critic is a pointless exercise, but if you really need it, then approach criticism from a creative side. Before you start criticizing a person, try to praise him. Then he will more easily accept the criticism itself.
For example, if you need to make a remark to a person on the text that he wrote, it is advisable to immediately tell him that the text is very wonderful, that the idea is presented perfectly, and finally, talk about the shortcomings. But you need to point to your vision of what does not suit you.
You may have to change your mind, and if you are right, then the criticized, after praise, will appreciate the criticism, or take it as a lesson. This is another secret of how to talk to other people. A positive attitude towards people, even in criticism, is perceived by them as a long-awaited clue.
On the beauty of speech
When it comes to how to speak correctly, the colloquial speech of the intelligentsia of past years comes to mind. In the documentary chronicle, you can listen to the speech of each of them.
Faina Ranevskaya (actress), Nikolai Drozdov (hosted the program “In the World of Animals”), Yuri Senkevich (hosted the program “Club of Travelers”) are wonderful representatives of connoisseurs of the art of the word, from whom you can learn to speak correctly.
These are people who express their thoughts in such beautiful words that are heard less and less these days, or even completely out of speech. The beautiful Russian language is gradually turning into surrogate phrases from all over the world. It's a shame, but a self-respecting intelligent person will not replace the word "beautiful" with the word "cool" or "outrageous".
Beautiful speech is a speaker’s weapon and what distinguishes it
For those who believe that the Russian language is still great and do not know how to learn how to speak correctly, there are elementary rules that will help them. We are all speakers at heart, each person has words to express his thoughts. But this does not mean that we are all correct.
A skilled speaker always knows how to talk and has several advantages over the general mass of people:
- erudition and erudition. The more knowledge a person has, the better he can express his thoughts, the richer his vocabulary, and the easier it is for him. This is the necessary equipment for an inspiring and impressive speech;
- intelligible and clear speech, the absence of defects in diction, persuasiveness and understandable presentation - very important qualities for a person speaking to an audience;
- to some extent, every speaker must be a psychologist in order to understand the mood of the masses and join in the appropriate form. It is unlikely that anyone will listen to a sad, sleepily talking person. The speech of a true orator seizes the souls of listeners;
- the speaker knows exactly the difference between oral and written speech, and will not allow himself to read his speech instead of speaking beautifully and confidently, looking into the eyes of opponents.
A lot of literature, trainings, methods on how to learn to speak competently are available to the general public. We comprehend the sciences, it would seem that we speak correctly, but they don’t want to listen to us or don’t hear us?
Where to look for the catch, those threads that will help get through to the interlocutor, how to learn to speak so that you are correctly understood, listened to and heard? What is the secret of how to talk?
Mastery Lessons
We speak correctly only when we have studied the subject of conversation thoroughly.
No matter in what setting the conversation takes place: speaking in front of an audience, talking with a friend, talking to a family or a presentation, we must apply four techniques:
- link to an authoritative source. When we want to convince a person of something, we must first find out which source will be of interest to him. It will be necessary to refer to it later. For example, will your interlocutor listen to the opinion of a public person or to the opinion of Vasya from the second entrance? That is, in a conversation, an undeniable opinion should be involved;
- reference to the opinion of a specialist or expert. It is necessary to find scientific facts, statistical data in order to make up your own evidence base from them. Many people unquestioningly believe the facts;
- appeal to popular opinion. People not knowing what to do often pay attention to what others are doing. Use this trick, convince the person that many people think so;
- personal experience. If your opinion is authoritative, then your personal experience will be listened to.
It's easy to learn how to speak fluently
We come to the main thing - to competent speech. How to learn to speak competently, are there any special rules, do you need to practice literate speech?
There are rules by which you can achieve the desired results:
- Reading a huge number of books does not guarantee you a competent speech. It is important what literature to read and how to perceive it. Fiction is great for developing conversational language, but by balancing reading fiction with journalism and scientific research, you will be able to achieve great results. Vocabulary will be replenished in various aspects.
- Known and recognized speakers will tell you how to speak competently in the best possible way. You need to watch the speeches of beautifully and competently speaking people who already have the skills and speak exactly the way you like, the way you would like to speak in the future. An example would be Nevzorov, Parfyonov, Pozner. It is important to pay attention not only to what they are talking about, but also to their behavior, melody of speech, intonation, facial expressions.
- Learning to speak correctly and knowing how to choose the right words will help the game with yourself in the selection of synonyms. While waiting or in transport, try to mentally pick up a few synonyms for any word. If you conduct such classes daily, then your vocabulary will increase very quickly.
- And, of course, the notorious tongue twisters. You won’t be able to mentally pronounce them, so at home, with every free minute, try, first slowly, and then quickly pronounce the tongue twisters you like. The lesson is fun and useful for the development of speech.
This is a small but very effective part of the rules, thanks to which you can become a pleasant and interesting conversationalist or a famous speaker in the near future. It all depends on what you are striving for.
