Most parents face whims: the child does not want to go to bed, put away toys, brush teeth, bathe, eat and leave the playground on time. Such problems are familiar to every mother. Persuasion, notations and requests do not bring results, the mother feels powerless, gives up and breaks into a scream. What provokes a new round of whims and tantrums.
What to do?
There is a very effective, and at the same time simple way to help a child cope with disobedience. Try not to scold the child, but tell him a fairy tale! A well-chosen fairy tale will help to gently and effectively change your child's behavior for the better.
Sounds too easy, right? But this is the whole secret. Read to the end and I will tell you how a fairy tale helps in education.
Fairy tales for the unwilling
Listening to a story or fairy tale, the child identifies with the hero. The fairy tale helps the child to feel that he is not alone, that other children can also experience the same emotions when they find themselves in similar situations. This calms the child: it turns out that he is not the only one so stubborn and disobedient, other children also sometimes do not get along with their parents.
Childish “I don’t want!” This is an attempt to defend their boundaries. A little resistance to mom's words can eventually develop into tantrums for any reason. And if the mother indulges and agrees to everything, the child is lost from permissiveness. But too strict, authoritarian approach also does not bring the desired result: tantrums and whims intensify, the child becomes uncontrollable. In the Obedient Baby in 4 Weeks course, we learn to strike this balance between sensitivity and firmness.
The task of fairy tale therapy is to give the child a model of correct behavior without pressure and moralizing. When we say to a child: “you can’t run away from mom” - for him it’s just a bunch of words. From about two years old, figurative thinking actively develops in children, so at this age it is already possible to slowly connect metaphors and stories.
The fairy tale helps to gently convey the necessary information to the child, and, using the example of the main character, shows what happens if you do not obey your mother and do it your own way.
How to tell fairy tales to a child?
In order for a therapeutic fairy tale to have an effect, it is important not only to tell it, but also to discuss it with the child. Some psychologists believe that only the child should initiate the discussion, and this makes sense. For the fairy tale to work and the child to draw conclusions, he needs to learn and think about the story, live it again with the characters. And the child's psyche itself will tell you what elements it lacks to draw up a complete picture.
But for a better consolidation of the tale, you can talk to your child immediately after reading it. You can say the main events of the tale or ask the child to retell them. It will also be useful to talk about the connections: who went where, what they did, what result they got and how they solved the problem. Such pronunciation will help the child to structure the information and remember it for further reflection.
It does not matter if your child does not return to the discussion of the fairy tale after a while. In the right situation, you can casually remind him of the story: “Fidget Cloud also ran away from mom, remember?”. So the child will learn to impose theoretical experience from a fairy tale on practical life situations.
To solve the problem of disobedience, you can use different fairy tales with the same theme. I have selected for you a few fairy tales for little ones who do not want, and I hope they will help your children become more obedient and complaisant.
Tale of the naughty Sun.
In this tale, we meet a boy named Sunny, who loved to play very much, but did not want to go to bed on time at all. One day, Sunny got stubborn and decided not to go to bed at all. He played as much as he wanted. And the next day I saw what sad consequences it led to.
The tale of the naughty Sun is useful to all children who do not want to go to bed and argue with their parents. It touches upon the theme of friendship, disobedience and responsibility for one's actions. The story about the poor health of the Sun after a violation of the sleep pattern will also help the child draw the right conclusions.
Tale of Naughty
This is a story about a little girl who completely, completely disobeyed her parents and did the opposite. And Naughty was so mischievous, offended mom and dad so much that they left her to live in the forest. To celebrate, the girl played so much that she did not notice how the ants dragged all her lunch into their anthill. Naughty was not at a loss and dined with sweets, after which her stomach ached badly. Fortunately, mom and dad loved their daughter very much, and returned home to cure her tummy. But Naughty understood everything, and since then she has always obeyed her parents.
The story of Naughty contains several messages. First of all, the fairy tale teaches to be obedient and not upset adults, but it is not about manipulation “be good, otherwise mom will feel bad”. The idea is that adults get upset when a child deliberately is rude, calls names and fights. And here the logic is perfectly shown, what result can be obtained by doing one way or another.
The second educational moment of the tale is the mode and quality of nutrition. The author emphasizes that you need to eat on time, and if you dine only with sweets, your stomach will hurt.
And the third aspect gives the child a sense of security: no matter how harmful he is, no matter how badly he behaves, his parents accept him, he is still a desired and beloved child. The kid knows that mom and dad are always there, and will come to the rescue, no matter what happens.
Tale of a naughty baby elephant
A story about a little elephant who didn't listen to his mother and ran away so far that he got lost. In search of his mother, he wandered through the jungle and met the same naughty kids who were in trouble. The baby elephant helped them cope with difficulties, and although he was very tired and pretty scared, he still managed to find his mother and help new friends.
In addition to the obvious conclusion that disobeying a mother is bad, this wonderful tale teaches a child empathy. Can you help others when you yourself are not in the best position? The fairy tale gives an unequivocal answer: if you can, help someone who needs your help. And even if you yourself do not solve your problem, a grateful friend can help you find a way out of a difficult situation.
Fidget, or the Tale of how clouds turn into thunderclouds
This tale will tell about a small cloud, a fidgety Cloud, who was generally obedient, but sometimes still flew farther than her mother allowed. One day, the little cloud liked the garden of her new friend Mishutka so much that she forgot herself and did not notice how she worried her mother and accidentally caused a storm. The restless cloud was very surprised and frightened, because she did not know why her mother reacted so violently.
The fairy tale demonstrates the adequate reaction of the Cloud-Mom to the disobedience of the Cloud-fidget. Cloud knows that usually her mother supports her and approves of her actions, so her mother's sudden displeasure surprises her and makes her think about what caused it. Mom gets more and more upset, and the storm that breaks out helps the baby understand that her mother's patience is not unlimited, makes her feel how she really loves her mother and is afraid of losing her.
The child understands that no matter how angry the mother is and scolds him in an emotional outburst, she continues to love him at this moment. And she is angry not at him, but at his negative actions.
Unfortunately, fairy tales are not always enough. Very childish behavior requires an immediate response. How to learn how to correct tantrums without screaming, you will learn in the course "Obediant child in 4 weeks." As a result, you will be able not only to avoid disobedience and tantrums, but also understand why your child behaves in this way, get working algorithms for working with all difficult situations in education.
FOR THE FIRST TIME ON THE "HOME PATH" AND IN THE "WORKSHOP OF GAMES"!
NEW TRAINING - WORKSHOP for teachers and parents
IN THE WRITING OF FAIRY TALES,
HELPING TO SOLVE PROBLEM SITUATIONS IN
EDUCATION AND DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN AND COMMUNICATION WITH THEM
At the training, we will compose fairy tales together with you that help us and our children solve the problems that have arisen in upbringing and development (does not want to brush their teeth or wash their hair, is afraid of dogs or peers in the sandbox, says "toilet words", does not want to share toys, too trusting or, on the contrary, distrustful, etc. - according to your requests and situations of specific children and mothers - participants in the training),
we will learn how to tell them to children correctly, play, discuss.
learn what to do and how to do it so that the fairy tale helps us and the child to establish relationships and mutual understanding, support each other in difficult times, gently and easily solve difficult situations of communication.
We will share the results with each other, support and help each other, receiving professional help from child and family psychologist Natalya Barinova, her tips, advice from her experience.
Individual fairy tales that you will learn to compose at the training for your child are:
- the key to success and joyful creative communication with children,
- a key that will always be with you - at home and on the road, in winter and summer;
- a key that gently, easily and lovingly will help you solve problems in raising children.
The training includes:
- Introductory webinar about why, how to compose fairy tales for your particular child, taking into account his characteristics, family characteristics and the problem that you want to solve. How to tell a story to a child? What should be changed in the texts of finished fairy tales and how can they be edited taking into account the peculiarities of your situation?
- Two webinar workshops, where we will help each other to compose a fairy tale for our specific children of the course, discuss our fairy tales, suggest ideas, phrases, plot points to each other, and the host of the training, a child and family psychologist Natalia Barinova, will guide you at the webinar and will help each of you.
- Communication of training participants with each other in the forums of the remote class, group support.
- Communication with the training leader - family and child psychologist Natalya Barinova, her help to each participant course, answers to your questions, analysis of fairy tales. Natalia will always guide, help to see that. which is not immediately visible, prompts
- Collections of fairy tales composed by the participants of the training(will be ready following the results of the training after its completion).
- Appendix - All records of our old course "A fairy tale will help - 1, 2, 3", which took place on our website and in the Games Workshop "Through the game - to success!" four years ago (full set of webinar recordings, Q&A, fairy tales, practical materials). Here's what's included in this "old version of the course" bundle - see below
TRAINING DATES: July - August, each participant of the training studies at an individual pace
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GET TO KNOW THE TRAINING LEADER NATALIA BARINOVA AND THE METHOD OF FAIRY TALE THERAPY:
TV SHOW OF THE FIRST EDUCATIONAL CHANNEL "WE LEARN TO EDUCATE CHILDREN BY THE METHOD OF FAIRY TALE THERAPY".
EXPERT AND GUEST OF THE PROGRAM: NATALYA BARINOVA, LEADER OF OUR TRAINING ON FAIRY TALE
See you at our fabulous training! Our children and we need the world of fairy tales so much!
A fairy tale is the key to happy communication with children and to the easy resolution of many problem situations. But this key still needs to be able to use. How? We will cover this in our course.
In this course you will learn:
- how to compose a fairy tale to solve your child's problems,
- how to tell it to a baby to get results,
- How edit to fit your needs Ready-made psycho-corrective fairy tales from books or other sources for your child,
- what stories and how to help To you in different specific situations raising children (the baby is afraid of something, does not use the potty, cannot wean the pacifier, does not want to go to kindergarten, is shy of guests, does not want to dress or cut his nails, is afraid to wash his hair and many others).
Problems often arise in the upbringing of children. One baby is embarrassed by strangers, the other does not want to dress for a walk or put away toys, the third cannot part with the pacifier, the fourth loves to grimace, the fifth has difficulty going to kindergarten every morning, the sixth has difficulty finding a common language with peers, etc.
How do you prefer to deal with these situations? Which option do you usually choose?
Option 1.
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The goal of fairy tale therapy- help the child develop in the most optimal and natural way for him, realizing his abilities
Fairy tales and fairy tale therapy are a tool that every parent and teacher who loves children really needs. It is a fairy tale that often helps when nothing else helps. That is why I invited Natalya Barinova, a child psychologist, to conduct a whole series of webinars with us on the basics of fairy tale therapy. And now this cycle is available to everyone.
The choice is yours.
Part 1. "A fairy tale will help - 1: How to compose and tell fairy tales? A brave child"
This is a basic webinar of the cycle "A fairy tale will help"
The set "A fairy tale will help - 1" includes:
1.Four videos(total duration - 129 minutes)
1.1. How to write a fairy tale to solve a child's problems? How to change the finished fairy tale, taking into account the characteristics of your baby? (video lecture - 39 minutes)
1.2. How to tell your story to a child? (video lecture - 17 minutes)
1.3. Courageous child: what you need to know about children's fears and anxiety, about communication with the child for each parent and teacher, what mistakes are important to avoid? What are the causes of children's fears and anxiety? (video lecture - 28 minutes)
1.4. Answers on questions - video recording of the webinar (45 minutes).
2. Mini-book "Brave kid" with webinar materials.
3. Reader with poems, games, texts of fairy tales.
You will learn:
| "A fairy tale will help - 2" |
Part 2. "A fairy tale will help - 2: fairy tales for young children" What is included in the set "Fairy tale - 2 will help": 1. Recording of the webinar "A fairy tale will help - 2" (1 hour 45 minutes). 2. Practical application - mini-book "A fairy tale will help - 2. Fairy tales for kids."
You will learn:
- What to do if the baby cannot get rid of the pacifier?
- How to teach a baby to potty use?
- What to do if the baby does not want sleep in your own crib away from your parents?
- How will a fairy tale help if the baby doesn't want to go to kindergarten?
- What if the baby doesn't clean up after himself toys?
- What if the baby does not want to bathe or cut his nails?
- Why is your baby asks for hands on the street and how to be in this case?
- How will a fairy tale help a child who don't like to dress up?
- What to do if your baby tease often?
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Part 3. "A fairy tale will help - 3. Fairy tale therapy. Gender approach" - fairy tales that bring up masculinity and femininity The kit includes: 1. Fairy tale therapy: gender approach (video lecture - 25 minutes)
- What is gender education?
- What is the difference between women's and men's fairy tales, women's and men's paths in life?
- What are mixed tales?
- Do girls need to read "male" fairy tales, and boys - "female" and why?
2. Tales for boys and not only - male fairy tales (video lecture - 20 minutes):
- How did our ancestors instill masculinity in boys?
- How does a fairy tale teach a child to be flexible in life?
- What does the story about the three little pigs teach the boy?
- The archetype of the struggle and the road in the folk tale
- What ideas and life scenarios are embedded in fairy tales for a boy: Gingerbread Man, Three Little Pigs, By the command of a pike, fairy tales about Ivanushka - a fool?
3. Fairy tales for girls and not only - women's fairy tales (video lecture - 40 minutes)
- How do fairy tales teach a girl to create a cozy, comfortable environment around herself and accept help?
- What does the metaphor for sorting seeds mean?
- How do fairy tales bring up in a girl the expectation of love as happiness?
- What is female happiness?
- How to "unfreeze" love in yourself?
- What is female power and its source?
- What is the danger of guilt and resentment?
- What fabulous images are most often tried on by modern women?
- Who are Cinderella, Snow White, Little Red Riding Hood, Snow Queen, Gerda in modern life?
- How not to turn from a source of love into a source of pain?
4. Webinar for answering questions and clarifying the information of video lectures (webinar recording - 46 minutes). Analysis of specific fairy tales and specific cases of the influence of a fairy tale on children.
You will learn:
- How, with the help of three piglets, to teach a boy to weigh his strength in the fight against the enemy, and with the help of beans to teach a girl to be picky in suitors?
- Which fairy tales should be read to boys and which to girls?
- How to read fairy tales to children and how to read "girlish" fairy tales to boys, and how to read "boyish" fairy tales to girls.
- How to read fairy tales if your family has children of different sexes?
- What do we - adults - need to know about masculinity and femininity in order to be happy in our lives and raise happy children?
- How not to live your life in the scenario of Little Red Riding Hood or the Snow Queen?
- How to correct a child’s gender-inappropriate behavior with the help of a fairy tale?
- and much more.
- For parents- moms, dads, grandparents - who love their kids and care about their happiness and health,
- For teachers of kindergartens and children's centers, interested in fairy tale therapy and wishing to use a fairy tale in the upbringing of children,
- For teachers of family clubs and associations.
| Author |
- Winner of the Moscow Grant in Education (2009)
- Winner of the All-Russian Competition of Professional Excellence "Educator-psychologist of Russia"(2009) and the competition "Professional vocation".
- Practicing child psychologist, specialist in parent-child relations, owns fairy tale therapy, art therapy techniques, author of psychological and pedagogical developmental programs for children.
- Has over 30 publications on the topic of psychological development of children
- Takes part as a specialist - a child psychologist in the television programs "Mom's School" First educational TV channel.
- Head of the psychological department of the Center for Natural Development and Child Health.
- Member of the Expert Council of the All-Russian Toy Expertise to "Expertise for Children".
- Mother two adult children.
- Journal editor - family and pedagogical almanac "Children's Question"
Design of webinar materials and organization- Valasina Asya, host of the Internet Workshop of educational games "Through the game - to success!", author of the site "Native path", candidate of pedagogical sciences.
For all questions - please contact: valasina@site
We wish you creative inspiration, new fairy tales, joyful communication with your kids and successful solution of their problems with the help of fairy tales!
See you on the course!
candidate of pedagogical sciences.
Until we meet again on the "Native Path"!
In all ages, at all times, people have helped each other. Someone found himself in a difficult situation, confused, does not know what to do next - how good it is if there are those who will help with advice, a kind word or deed. The tale "Help a friend" is about those who helped in time.
Once upon a time there were two hedgehogs, two friends, one was called Squishy, and the other was Clever. Hedgehogs have been friends for a long time. The smart guy liked that Squishy always believed in his strength. And Squishy was glad that Egghead knew how to share joy with his friend, did not laugh at his shortcomings, which Squishy had plenty of. He himself knew about them.
Yes, Squishy was afraid of unfamiliar sounds, sometimes he was careless, and, most importantly, he did not know how to stand up for himself. The Clever Hedgehog tried to help his friend get rid of his shortcomings, but it was not so easy to do.
Once the hedgehog Clever walked along the path and whistled something merrily.
“I’ll go to Squishy,” he thought.
But Squishy was not at home. The wise guy did not find a friend either in the house, or in the pantry, or in the yard.
"Where did the Squishy go?" Clever hedgehog said aloud.
“I saw,” said Beauty, flying past, “how your friend was talking to some unfamiliar wolf, whose black tail ends in a white fluff. Your friend and the wolf - all hee hee hee yes ha ha ha. Apparently, after that your friend disappeared.
“Where is he, my gullible friend, my dear Squishy?” groaned the hedgehog Clever. - What to do, where to find it?
- Well, all right, - said the magpie Beauty, - I'll fly, see if I can meet this wolf with a white fluff somewhere.
And she flew. At the foot of the Green Mountain, the magpie met the wolf she was looking for. Magpie Beauty quickly flew to the hedgehog. The Clever Hedgehog went on the road, and the magpie showed him the way.
Having reached Zelenaya Gora, Umnik the hedgehog hid and began to watch the wolf. The wolf wandered back and forth and suddenly went somewhere abruptly.
- Probably, he went to his house, which is called the "lair," thought the hedgehog.
And exactly. The wolf house was well camouflaged.
"Good shelter," thought the Hedgehog Egghead.
And suddenly he heard some strange sounds. Either someone snorted angrily, or groaned, or grinned. And suddenly it dawned on the Clever:
- It's Squishy! He's locked up somewhere, and he's snorting.
- Will you say where your whole hedgehog family hid? – suddenly heard Clever.
"So that's why the unfamiliar wolf didn't eat Squishy," thought Egghead. - He decided to find out from him where his family is hiding in order to feast on everyone for glory!
Squishy didn't answer the wolf's threatening question.
“We urgently need to save Squishy,” decided the hedgehog Egghead. - But how?
And then a thought came into the head of the Clever. He quietly called out to the magpie Beauty and she flew up to him.
- Fly, call your sisters here. And then shout out loud:
- In Strawberry glade, hedgehogs are celebrating a holiday! And everything in this spirit. The wolf will run there, and here we will unlock Squishy and run home.
And so they did. Soon Squishy was released. He realized that the salvation was due to the clever idea of the hedgehog Egghead and the help of the magpie sisters. He, of course, thanked the magpie Beauty and her sisters. And the hedgehog Umnik said:
- Thanks you're a real friend! Helped me out of trouble.
And what is a wolf?
He came to Strawberry Glade, but there was no one there!..
Fairy tales help in education, but there are very harmful fairy tales.
The fact is that fairy tales are fairy tales only for us. We understand that there are no miracles. For children, fairy tales are a real reality, because children in the first years of their lives live in a fairy tale. We adults are wizards. They still don't know how to do anything, but we can do everything. At least in their eyes, we can do everything. And indeed, everything they need in the first years of life, they get from us. Unfortunately, often we give them more than they need, and, worst of all, before they ask. This is how the need develops to get more than what is needed, without making one's own efforts and without even expressing one's desires. I am afraid for the fate of a child who, at the age of eight, does not know who he wants to be. I already wrote about this. The most destructive fairy tales for people are fairy tale of sleeping beauty And fairy tale about Santa Claus. Unfortunately, these fairy tales are firmly included in the script of many adults. There are women who can sleep like a sleeping beauty for 100 years and dream of marrying an 18-year-old prince at 116. They, instead of working on themselves, lead a thoughtless life. But when they wake up, it turns out that there is no longer either youth or beauty.
Many men live in this fairy tale. Especially I saw a lot of SLEEPING BEAUTIES among athletes. They lived like they thought they were going to score goals all the time and get big money. Life is like a fairy tale. Only when you wake up, then there is no longer either youth or beauty. So I'm trying to wake people up with my books. It makes you want to shout: "WAKE UP!"
IMPORTANT THESIS
Many also believe in Santa Claus, who, no matter what you do, and even if you do nothing at all, will still come on New Year's Eve and put an expensive gift under the tree. When the children living in this fairy tale grow up, they are convinced that no one does anything to them just like that, even on New Year's Eve. But they themselves have not learned to do something and still continue to hope for something.
There are many more tales in which idleness is rewarded, for example, “At the command of a pike”, “The Little Humpbacked Horse”, “Ilya Muromets”, “Little Red Riding Hood” and many others. Often children ask us questions that contain a real vision of reality. After all, after all, the Prince got into trouble by marrying a nero? outside - Cinderella. And in the fairy tale about Little Red Riding Hood, children rightly pity the Gray Wolf. After all, the case ended with the fact that the hunters killed the wolf, and Little Red Riding Hood and the 45-year-old grandmother stuffed his stomach with stones before throwing him into the well. And this illusion is not needed that you can sit on the stove for 33 years, like Ilya Muromets, and then after a five-minute conversation with the Magi and taking a glass of water, become a hero. And Emelya will not be able to fool the whole retinue and the king, as it was written in a fairy tale. Many people have the opinion that when a difficult moment comes, then a person will quickly learn everything. I want to express my opinion.
A fragile skill is performed even worse than when you are in a calm state.
I know only one fairy tale that glorifies work - "The Three Little Pigs". There Naf-Naf built a house of stones. But he let his idle brothers into the house. If a child takes these idlers as a model, then such a fairy tale will also teach nothing.
It seems to me that the child should be taken out of the fairy tale as soon as possible. Better yet, don't include it at all. The following rule would apply here. What a child, in accordance with his age, should be able to do himself, he should do it himself.
That is, in a year he must walk himself,
at two - he himself is,
at three - to dress himself,
at ten - fully serve yourself and stop bringing losses to your family.
Yes, at the age of 10 a child should get used to work! By the way, many philosophers have written about this. They pointed out that by the age of 10, with proper upbringing, a child should already bring income to the family. Is this how it is now, especially among the intelligentsia?
Here we should learn from our smaller brothers. After all, they make sure that their children become hunters faster. The fox, when her children grow up, begins to bring them half-strangled mice so that they can hunt them. As the cubs grow up, the mobility of mice brought by the fox becomes more and more. I like to watch how some parents take their children to work and they help them as much as possible. The sooner children are introduced to productive work, the better for them and for their parents.
Unfortunately, all our upbringing and education goes in an edifying manner, that is, from top to bottom, which does not contribute to the development of thinking, that is, humanization, but leads to the education of either rebels or slaves. The child at this age already speaks. Communicating with him "eye to eye" is already quite easy. We have edification, lectures and coercion at this age, which can lead to the development of hypocrisy.
How should you talk to a child at this age? Just like with adults! Ask them questions. Give them the opportunity to answer incorrectly several times and only then give the correct answer. Help him figure out to guess, and not say right away, especially if he doesn’t ask. I also want to note that parents should also listen to the so-called incorrect answers of children. Perhaps there is more truth in them than in our maxims.
And the general task should be to educate the child in such a way that he treats himself well, loves his loved ones, is ready for new contacts and studies and works with pleasure, he has such inclinations. It is only necessary not to interfere with this and to help a little in difficult times. Proper upbringing, that is, feeding a child, takes little time, develops the parent himself and gives great pleasure.
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From the author's bookTales Russian folk tales are a real treasure trove of information for those who are concerned about the early development of their child. Not only the classic "Ryaba Hen" and "Turnip", but also dozens, hundreds of other fairy tales can teach your child to think, compare, worry about others.
From the author's book From the author's bookTales for food “I don’t want”, “I won’t”, “That's it, I already ate” ... The baby screams and runs away from the table. “I didn’t like it”, “I want a bun” ... The boy declares, busily moving to the floor to roll cars. How familiar is this picture ... Then cartoons, toys and theatrical
From the author's bookFairy tales Do children need fairy tales? This issue is still being discussed by educators and educators. Some condemn any fantastic stories on the grounds that children are not yet able to distinguish reality from fiction and magical manifestations in these stories can lead them to
The evening fell outside the window,
Blurred the colors of the day
Wrapped the city in gentle sleep,
The Kingdom of Fairy Tale has come again...
He will grow wiser in the Tale
And the spirit is firmer and kinder.
After all, one who loves a fairy tale since childhood,
He will no longer be evil in life!
We all love fairy tales from childhood. After all, a fairy tale is a treasury of folk wisdom, a set of unwritten rules, norms and laws developed by people and
introduced into fairy tales. For many adults, one of the most vivid childhood memories is that they were once read fairy tales. And each of us had our own favorites, which we could listen to an endless number of times. Immersion in a magical world, where it is said that labor ennobles a person, where happiness can be created by oneself, one only needs to make efforts for this, where goodness is rightfully rewarded.Since our life is multifaceted, the plots of folk tales are diverse.
.Tales about animals, relationships between people and animals
Children under the age of five identify themselves with animals, try to be like them. Therefore, these fairy tales will best convey life experience to children.
Household fairy tales
These tales tell about the vicissitudes of family life, show ways to resolve conflict situations, tell about little family tricks. These stories are suitable for teenagers.
Scary stories, scary stories
.Living through an anxious situation in a fairy tale, children are freed from tension and acquire new ways of responding.
.Fairy tales
They carry information about the spiritual development of a person. They are interesting for those who are over 6-7 years old
The role of fairy tales in the life of a child is very great. A fairy tale for a child is not just a fantasy, but a special reality. It helps to understand the world of human feelings, to learn the most important moral concepts. Following the vicissitudes of the plot, the little man empathizes with the characters and tries to streamline his complex feelings. At the same time, he comprehends the meaning of such concepts as good and evil.
In most fairy tales, the eternal search for happiness is expressed. All the exploits of heroes, the miraculous transformations of heroes and the activity of magical assistants are only necessary conditions for achieving it.
Only those who do not stop at any difficulties find happiness.
The very construction of the fairy tale - an expressive opposition of good and evil, images that are understandable in their essence, the dynamics of events accessible to the understanding of the child, the results of various characteristic actions, repeated repetitions - this makes the fairy tale interesting and incredibly exciting for kids.
The imagination of a five-year-old kid allows him to perceive fantastic fairy-tale images as real. He loves Santa Claus and expects a New Year's gift from him, is afraid of Baba Yaga and pities the Little Mermaid. Why does he have this ability so clearly?
Children lack life experience, and they can solve constantly arising problems only with the involvement of imagination. They replace the lack of knowledge for children, help them feel confident in our complex, changing world.
Childhood, according to psychologists, is a defining period for the formation of the imagination. And the more successfully it develops, the easier the child masters school wisdom.
The story activates the imagination. Thanks to it, the child's consciousness is not only enriched with new knowledge and ideas, the main thing arises - a new attitude towards people, events and phenomena.
A distinctive feature of many fairy tales is the element of transformation. It can act as the embodiment of the hero in another person, animal or object. It is important that in the process of such transformations, the hero, remaining himself, acquires additional qualities: he can dive to the bottom of the sea, soar into the sky like a falcon, scour the dense forest like a gray wolf, etc. It is in fairy tales that the baby masters the ability to “get used to the world of another person.” This will be very useful in later life.
- Thanks to empathy and sympathy for another person, the ground is created for tolerance, acceptance, pity and love for him. This overcomes the fear of insecurity and loneliness.
The motif of the unity of man and nature plays a special role in fairy tales. Coming to us from the depths of centuries, the fairy tale reflects the sense of communion with nature inherent in the person of those ancient times. Therefore, nature in a fairy tale often sympathizes with the heroes, protecting and comforting them (the evil witch drowned Alyonushka in the pond, no one noticed this, only the flowers began to wither in the garden, the trees withered, the grass faded). From this merging with nature, love is born - pity for all living things: plants, animals, people.
Through a fairy tale, one can learn about such experiences and thoughts of a child that they themselves are not yet clearly aware of or that children are embarrassed to discuss with adults. For example, you can learn about the child's attitude to
divorce of parents. Tell the child how a nest fell to the ground from a strong wind, in which three birds were sleeping - dad, mom and chick. Adult birds scattered into different branches. Ask what the chick will do. Most often, children say that the chick will fly to mom or dad, or will call for help, and parents will fly to him. If a child says that the chick will die from hunger, cold, rain, remain on the ground, and someone steps on it, then this is a sign of the child’s hidden anxiety and requires special attention and proper conversation with him. You need to find a way out through a fairy tale, having figured out together with the child how to help the chick by saying everything child's anxiety perhaps include both parents in the conversation.If you notice that your child has some kind of emotional problem (for example, he is irritable, rude, capricious or aggressive), then a fairy tale with its heroes, their adventures and exploits can help your child solve this problem. First, we must describe a hero similar to a child in age and character, and then tell a fairy tale so that the kid can see himself in the main character. Next, you should describe a problem situation similar to the real situation of the child, ascribe to the hero all the experiences of the baby. After that, the fairy-tale hero (and the child with him) begins to look for a way out of this situation and, of course, finds it.
Fairy tales are very important in education, as they help to unobtrusively correct the behavior of children. For example: a child who loves to lie about trifles should read the fairy tale “The Bouncer Hare”. Frivolous and playful - "The Adventures of Dunno"; it will be useful for a selfish and greedy kid to listen to the fairy tale “About the fisherman and the fish”; timid and timid - a fairy tale about the "Cowardly Hare", etc. Just do not explicitly point out the similarity of the hero with the child - the kid will draw conclusions himself. Just discuss the story together.
When reading fairy tales, you should adhere to the following rules:
- read fairy tales expressively, taking into account punctuation marks, use intonation (exclamations, surprise, admiration);
- explain the meaning of words that are incomprehensible and unknown to the child;
- discuss together the content of the tale, it will be good if the child tries to retell it;
- answer the questions that the child has after reading the fairy tale.
fairy tale therapy - this is the process of forming a connection between fairy-tale events and real life. This is the process of transferring fabulous meanings into reality. When discussing a fairy tale, the main task is to lead the child to the fact that the phenomena of our life are ambiguous. To do this, you can turn the fairy-tale situation like a crystal and consider its facets. As a rule, the shorter the story, the more concentrated meaning it has.
Can't say enough about the benefits
psycho-corrective fairy tales. Foreign psychologists call them psychotherapeutic stories. As a rule, fairy tale therapy is a process of ecological education and upbringing of a child. No need to "press", no need to strain when reading morality to a child. You can just tell a fairy tale, for example: "Once upon a time there was a girl who looked like you ...". When creating psycho-corrective fairy tales, it is important to know the hidden reason for "bad behavior". These fairy tales can simply be read to the child without discussing. This will give him the opportunity to be alone with himself and think. A fairy tale in any case sinks into the soul, even if there is no external reaction. If a child does not want to listen to a fairy tale, guessing that it is about him, then we can say that you are simply reading the fairy tale aloud, for yourself. If you wish, you can play a fairy tale with the help of puppets.If you decide to invent psycho-corrective fairy tales (psychotherapeutic stories) yourself, you can use the following scheme.
- think about a problem that worries your child. Try to understand how this situation is perceived from a child's point of view;
- State the main idea of the story. What message do you want to convey to your child? What solutions do you want to offer him?
- start the tale with the introduction of a hero or heroine who has similar problems, fears, anxieties, conflicts;
- mention the strengths and positive features that the hero of the fairy tale resembles your child;
- first describe the problem, the conflict, and then proceed to its positive resolution;
- when telling a story, be open to your child. Pay attention when he is engrossed in the story and when he is bored. You can tell how you react to what you read by looking at your facial expression.
- answer the child's questions, do not leave them unattended. If you find it difficult to answer, you can ask the child what he himself thinks about this;
- strive for simplicity. Adapt the language you use, your vocabulary to the level of your child, and the length of the story to the degree of stability of his attention;
- do not be embarrassed by your speech clumsiness, and if you find your mistakes, feel free to correct them by saying, for example: "Oh, I almost forgot ...". The child will correct you with a sympathetic look: "Poor mommy, she can't even remember the story well." But this will not diminish their pleasure from the story or fairy tale, and the benefit from its application.
A fairy tale is one of the most accessible means of the full development of each child. So it was, is, and will be for many, many more years. The role of a fairy tale in the life of children should not be underestimated - a well-chosen fairy tale has a positive effect on the emotional state of the child, corrects and improves his behavior, and also educates the child in himself and in his abilities
