Today I continue to reflect with you on our feelings. You know, I myself did not think that this topic is so complex and deep. I thought I'd tell you a couple of topics and move on to the next one. But after the previous issue, I began to think about feelings, remember everything I know about it, look through my notes from seminars. And I was amazed at how deep and interesting everything is. Unfortunately, I won't be able to convey to you everything I know - it's hard for me to convey such a huge volume and depth in this newsletter. But I will try, as far as I can, at least a little to dedicate you to this topic. In the last issue, we talked about how it happens that a person does not know how to live his feelings, why he begins to suppress them inside himself. Today I propose to continue this topic and talk about how most of us, as adults, learn to suppress our feelings and what happens to them and their feelings.
The first option for responding to feelings is a ban on experiencing unpleasant feelings. We try to convince ourselves that we will not experience these "unpleasant" feelings. We usually refer to such "unpleasant" feelings as anger, pain, resentment, hatred, depression, etc. The church may say that these are "sinful" feelings that a believing person simply cannot and should not experience. In fact, it is not very pleasant to feel anger or anger, resentment. They seem to pull out of us the most negative and difficult traits of our character that we would not like to see in ourselves or show to others. It's so ugly, unpleasant, impolite to be angry or offended. It's much nicer to be polite, cheerful, outgoing and fun, isn't it? I read in a book the story of a mother who was a believer and forbade herself to be angry with her children. She told herself that she shouldn't feel this way, it's bad. Gradually, she almost learned to forbid herself to feel her anger, but, to her surprise, she developed depression and a desire to get rid of her children - throw them out of the car, forget them in the store. She could not understand in any way - why this happened to her - is she a real Christian?
What happens to a person who forbids himself to experience feelings? Remember, in the last issue, we talked about why we were given our feelings at all? They are like indicators on the dashboard of a car, they help to drive the car correctly and avoid accidents. And if a person stops noticing his feelings, forbids himself to experience them, then serious problems and difficulties begin in his life. After all, in fact, our feelings do not go anywhere, they live their lives inside us. And if we do not learn how to express them correctly, to release them out in a safe way (and how to do this, we will talk in future issues), then they will fight for the right to come to the surface. And suppressing our feelings can take a lot of energy that could be spent on more peaceful purposes. This is constant stress, a constant struggle with ourselves, which exhausts us and prevents us from living a happy life.
And one of the consequences of suppressing feelings is the gradual loss of the ability to feel anything at all. That is, forbidding ourselves to experience negative feelings, we stop feeling at all. For example, how would you like this: "If I do not allow myself to feel any resentment, I will have to do this not allow myself to love someone or something. Because when you love, there is a high probability that the person you love is something it hurts." Or another example: "In order to avoid disappointment, I will have to avoid any situations that can make me happy, because if my hopes for this do not come true, I will be disappointed." This reminds me of the movie Equilibrium. Remember, there they just wanted to prevent a war and forbade experiencing negative feelings - hatred, anger, anger. But in the end, they stopped experiencing positive feelings too - love, affection, tenderness, sadness. If you start killing one kind of feelings in yourself, then you kill all feelings in general.
The next type of suppression of one's feelings is their ignoring, the denial of feelings. This type of suppression differs from the first one in that a person simply does not understand already what exactly he feels in a given situation, what is happening now inside him. I remember such an interesting example from my life, which illustrates this problem well. A few years ago I went to visit friends who are believers of a different denomination. I went to their youth meetings. And often they were engaged in the fact that they ridiculed me personally and those principles of faith that were important and sacred to me. In short, I was constantly ridiculed and slightly bullied by them. And when one day a girl asked me - “Are you not offended that we are making fun of you like this?”, I sincerely told her that - no, not at all offended. I even took part in these jokes myself and made fun of myself. Only I could not understand why, having laughed enough at them, I left with a strange pain and depression in my chest. I could not understand the reason for this pain. And only then I realized how hard and painful it really was for me and how I denied this pain. Moreover, I myself believed that I experienced only positive feelings at that time.
In order for you to stop experiencing your feelings, to hide from them, the body has to make a lot of effort. It can also lead to emotional fatigue, constant incontinence, and physical ailments such as headaches and stomach ulcers. And in the end, this can lead to such severe breakdowns as depression, an emotional breakdown, even to the emergence of alcohol and other addictions. It is interesting to note that repressed feelings do not go anywhere and do not go away, they continue to be stored in us. And when, for example, an alcoholic stops drinking, he suddenly begins to re-experience the same feelings that he experienced and suppressed many years ago. Moreover, he experiences them with the same intensity, and sometimes even brighter than he experienced before.
I read in one book that a woman (Marilyn Murray) was raped in the mouth by American soldiers when she was 8 years old. And she suppressed these feelings in herself and completely forgot about what happened to her. She was already over 40 years old, and she always thought that she had grown up in a wonderful family, that she had nothing terrible in her life. And only when she got into therapy, thanks to psychologists and counselors, she began to remember what happened to her in childhood. Moreover, she experienced the fact of rape so vividly that she felt both physical and emotional pain in full force, as if she was only now being raped, although about 40 years had passed since then! When I myself began to recover, stopped engaging in my sex addiction, terrible bouts of pain began to roll over me. It was sometimes unbearable - the slightest accident plunged me into such severe pain that I could hardly stand it. We will talk with you later about why this happens, why, when a person stops dealing with his addiction, so much pain rolls over him and what to do about it.
And another option for unhealthy responses to unpleasant feelings is choosing unhealthy responses in order to deal with your feelings. When bad feelings come over you, what do you do? After all, it’s actually unpleasant to be in such a mood, with emotional pain inside. For example, when you have a toothache, what do you do? Go to the dentist, take pills, treat your tooth (well, if so!).
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And when the soul hurts? When the constant feeling of loneliness, pain, guilt, shame, fear, what to do? What pill to take? Yes, there are antidepressants, but they won't help with most emotional problems. And you don't want to be on pills all the time. It turns out that in order to cure the soul, there are two ways - fast and long. The long one is that you need to work through the problems of childhood, learn to live your feelings, establish strong and sincere relationships with other people, learn trust and intimacy. This is a long work, I will tell you a lot more about it.
And there are other ways - fast and quite effective (in any case, at first). Most of us go this way - when it's hard and bad, we start to "jam" our negative feelings with sweets, drink alcohol, smoke, have sex, watch TV shows, use drugs, etc. It's much simpler and more effective - I drank a glass, and my mood immediately improved, all problems and negative feelings receded into the background. But this relief is only temporary, when the effects of drugs pass (any, even chocolates or meetings with a guy to hide from feelings of loneliness and pain), then feelings return, and there are even more problems - excess weight appears, money spent on the wrong things, scandals in the family, etc. And then you need to suppress negative feelings again quickly, and our addiction again offers us its services. So a person develops addiction, precisely as a way to hide from negative feelings and from problems. Hide instead of tackling them in a healthy way! This also includes attempts to commit suicide, as a recognition of one's inability to cope with the feelings that overcome a person. There is no strength and desire to seek help, to go a long and difficult path to recovery. It is much easier and easier to just walk away from life. It is easier, but not better for the person himself or for his relatives.
All these behaviors put us on a wheel of pain, and with each new round of this pain, each new unhealthy behavior causes new problems, which in turn lead to new difficult feelings, which will lead to even more unhealthy behavior, with the consequences of which you will have to deal with. case. As a result, instead of controlling our feelings, we obey our feelings, and they destroy us! I think that now you, too, are beginning to understand how important it is to consider and work through the problem of our feelings in order to understand how to deal with them and how to learn to be a healthy and happy person. So we will continue to gradually learn more and more about feelings and the ability to live and work with them.
The natural human need is to experience and express their emotions, which can be very different: from incredible joy to fiery hatred. And no matter what character this emotion carries, it literally requires expression not only in thoughts, but also in facial expressions, gestures, and actions. If you do not demonstrate it, then you suppress it, and this is bad. And that's why.
Negative emotions negatively affect a person, spoil not only mood, but also health. Of course, short-term outbursts of anger, anger or irritation will not cause significant damage. But regular experiences of such feelings as despondency, fear and sadness can lead to a disorder of both mental and physical condition. The suppression of emotions leads to the same, which can imperceptibly become a habit. Before this process turns into a pathology, it usually goes through several stages.
How do we control emotions
How do we control emotions
It happens that we control our emotions when it is inappropriate to express them or it will entail unpleasant consequences. You can really get upset if a friend magically loses weight in a month, at a time when you have been mercilessly fighting against hated cellulite for six months and cannot defeat it in any way. This does not mean that you envy her or that you suddenly began to love her less - you are just sad, offended. And that's okay. Either at a working meeting, your leader undeservedly scolded you or allowed himself harsh statements: to object to him is to make an enemy, but at work, you see, we don’t need it at all. Therefore, the control of emotions cannot be unambiguously called something bad. On the contrary, a restrained outburst of anger or rage in time can save you from unnecessary problems in life.
But if, after the incident when the outburst of emotions had to be controlled, a person does not know how to express feelings, does not understand how to relieve the accumulated tension, then his attention willy-nilly focuses on this negative experience. Remembering this situation, a person again experiences stress.
Why do we muffle feelings
Why do we muffle feelings
We politely smile at the person whom we hate with all our heart, as if nothing had happened, we talk with him about the weather, health and children. We silently endure the unfair remarks of the management, the news of the deprivation of bonuses and overtime work, as we are afraid of negative consequences. But while we pretend that everything is in order, a real storm is brewing inside. Then we try to dampen the emotions.
The stage of muting feelings occurs when a person does not find a way to let go of the accumulated negative experience. An intolerable feeling of resentment, bitter pity, disgusting guilt - all this brings us back to the past again and again. Again and again a person experiences pain and suffering. But, of course, no one wants to be in this state all the time. Out of a sense of self-preservation, we sort of try to feel “less.” This gives some relief, however, not forever and, alas, not for long. After all, natural processes cannot be deceived: repressed emotions will always require expression. And not finding a way out, they will destroy the psyche and the body. Often, such people feel tired and empty all the time, even if they sleep and eat normally. Therefore, sooner or later, all these feelings will break through like a dam, and emotions will manifest themselves in quarrels, scandals, or even nervous breakdowns.
Why do we suppress emotions
Why do we suppress emotions
At this stage, a person has been suppressing his feelings and emotions for quite a long time, and each time more and more. He drowns out any manifestation of feelings as much as possible, tries not to think about it and, as it were, locks all his reactions in the basement of the subconscious. Fortunately, modern society has provided a lot of tools for this: alcohol, drugs, smoking, overeating, shopaholism. Thus, the process of personality destruction is activated, until a person stops the process of suppressing emotions, he will not be able to get rid of acquired bad habits. In appearance, they seem almost harmless, but imperceptibly a glass of wine at dinner will turn into a bottle, and your wallet will begin to rapidly lose weight instead of you. This will lead to new stresses: in this state, a person is like a teapot with a closed lid. The water has already boiled, and the steam simply has nowhere to go. Only the person himself does not feel this anymore, he simply breaks down on every little thing, the world around him seems hostile, and people are angry.
That's when serious mental health disorders occur, life seems to lose its colors.
Therefore, be angry with all your heart, scream with all your might, be afraid with all your heart, cry sobbing. Remember that without darkness you cannot see light, without evil you cannot know good, and without tears you cannot know joy. Rainbows can only be seen after rain. Remember this the next time you want to hold back your tears. And smile more often, even partially blind people can distinguish a smile on someone else's face. Other interesting facts about human emotions can be seen in this video.
The ability to experience emotions is an important human ability. Emotions are inherently a special kind of mental processes or states of the individual, they arise when experiencing some significant situations throughout life. They should be considered as one of the main regulators of our mental activity, but people often do not want to accept their emotions and do not allow them to rule over them. However, many doctors are confident that this practice can cause serious harm to the body. Let's talk about what the suppression of emotions is fraught with, what consequences for the organs can be from this.
By the term "suppression of emotions" psychologists mean the influence on especially strong emotions (those that flow violently and are hyped) in order to stop their natural flow and subsequent destruction. As you know, the activity of our body is closely related to the work of the psyche. Accordingly, what is happening in our soul affects the state of the body: experiences are reflected in the face, and in gestures, and even in the activity of internal organs. So, for example, with excitement and fear, there is an acceleration of the heartbeat.
Experts say that it makes no sense to divide emotions into positive and negative, each feeling has the right to exist and does not arise randomly. Feelings appear against the will of a person, no one can force himself not to be afraid, jealous or angry.
And an attempt to suppress emotions, according to psychotherapists, can lead to the development of many psychosomatic diseases in the long term.
What diseases can be caused by unreacted emotions?
Suppressed emotions can cause not only, but also manifest as (develop over time into a disease), or arterial hypertension and peptic ulcer of the stomach or duodenum. They can also lead to the development of bronchial asthma, glaucoma and psoriasis. Psychologists say that suppressed emotions can come out with diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, hyperthyroidism, cancer, and a variety of infectious diseases.
Attempts to force a child to suppress emotions: not to express their anger or rejoice more quietly (or later) can lead to the development of acute respiratory infections and acute respiratory viral infections, headaches and a runny nose. Such children often complain of pain in the abdomen and stomach, they develop tonsillitis, diseases of the throat and respiratory tract.
How exactly does restraint of emotions affect the body?
There is a fairly popular hypothesis that psychosomatic illnesses develop due to the influence of repeated and prolonged negative emotions. As you know, in our body there are both sympathetic and parasympathetic divisions of the nervous system, and each of them is associated with positive or negative emotions. Accordingly, a strong excitation, for example, of sympathetic nerves when exposed to emotions, causes them to affect certain organs and tissues. As a result, this leads to a deterioration in the supply of cells with nutrients, toxic substances gradually accumulate in the body and cause various ailments of the gastrointestinal tract, heart and blood vessels, lungs, skin, brain, etc.
There is another theory of the connection of unexpressed emotions with illnesses: somatic symptoms arise in response to the suppression of the external expression of the emotions that have arisen. For example, when a person is angry, blood sugar and blood pressure increase normally. And with restraint of emotions, the autonomic nervous system is not able to normalize: sugar and pressure remain elevated. So the suppression of aggression can result in the development of hypertension.
Psychosomatic illnesses can arise as a result of the suppression of completely natural emotions that are not approved by society, as well as due to the dissatisfaction of the most important needs of the body. After all, emotion can signal the appearance of some kind of need in our body. Thus, for example, hunger often causes anger, which is necessary for the undertaking of active actions to satisfy this need.
Suppressed emotions, especially aggression, begin to accumulate, and the body can direct them towards itself. As a result, a person develops chronic muscle tension, and corresponding pain occurs. Emotional discord leads to irritation, then to confusion, then to apathy, then to inaction. And a person loses opportunities for personal growth, and just a happy life.
chronic fatigue syndrome
Scientists at King's College London came to the conclusion that under conditions of stress, people suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome are able to actively resist the influence of external irritating factors. At the same time, their fatigue increases by an order of magnitude. Further research has shown that it is most often diagnosed in people who tend to suppress their emotions and worries. During the study, their body reported activation of the sympathetic nervous system in response to stress (skin conductivity, sweat volume, etc.), but almost none of the subjects reported their experiences. And it was they who in the vast majority had chronic pain of various types.
A qualified psychotherapist will help to cope with suppressed emotions and their negative impact on the body. It is impossible to do without the help of this doctor and, if necessary, treat psychosomatic diseases.
Folk recipe for nervousness
To somewhat mitigate the impact of negative emotions on the body, you can resort to natural remedies.
So if you need to relax, eliminate excessive nervousness and other unpleasant symptoms of stress, prepare one hundred grams of young birch leaves. Grind them well and pour half a liter of warm pre-boiled water. Infuse the medicine under the lid for five to six hours, then strain, and squeeze the plant material. Take the finished medicine for half a glass twice or thrice a day about half an hour before a meal.
Many people seek the truth in smart books, in prayers or trainings, but the truth can be fully known only by looking inside yourself, knowing yourself, and accepting all your feelings: fears, pride, anger, envy ...
By accepting rather than suppressing your feelings, you can discover the source of Love and Light within yourself. By learning to love ourselves, wrapping every aspect of ourselves in a warm embrace, we can thereby melt all our inner fears and doubts, resentment, guilt, insecurity, self-pity, self-conceit, the desire to constantly be in the past, and all that. that was left unsaid and unfinished. These feelings destroy our peace of mind, or put blocks in the way of fulfilling our Dreams.
If we are in harmony with ourselves, we will be in the same state in relation to other people and the whole world.
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Approval is as valuable to a young child as food or protection. After all, if our parents, or other Adults, don't approve of us, we begin to feel ignored, if not abandoned. If a child is treated badly, he usually believes that this is only his fault, and that if he learns to be a good boy, then everything will be fine, so we learn to obey, to squeeze some parts of ourselves in order to become "good", in hope that then Adults will love us.
The trouble is that when we turn 20, 30, 40 and even 50 years old, many of us continue to act as if we are still afraid of incurring the displeasure of Adults. We're still trying to be "pretty," continuing to seek the love and approval we remember from childhood, believing that the earth would stop if we suddenly dared to be honest and speak the truth from the bottom of our hearts.
First things first, most of us learn to suppress, deny, and distort our emotions. Our emotions are our Core Self's way of creating inner balance and harmony in response to everyday life. Sadness, for example, is a natural response to hurt, loss, and grief. Anger is a healthy response to injustice or lack of respect. Fear is a response to threat and danger.
Emotions only turn into diseases when they are suppressed.
Sadly, some people have been able to use New Age philosophy to suppress so-called "negative" emotions. They do not recognize sadness, resentment, rage, fear, loneliness, vulnerability, disappointment, but hide from them under the guise of seeming gaiety, in fact, putting on “rose-colored glasses”. But since we have chosen the path of a person, we accept it completely: with all the depth and intensity of its emotions, in other words, completely and completely.
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Emotion is like an emotion, that is, energy-movement. It is supposed to move through us, propelling us to do what we need to do: cry, scream, run, laugh or jump for joy. Our emotions help us stay in balance. Watch the little girl. Her eyes quickly fill with tears, she cries, and then, in just a few seconds, she is already smiling and runs to play on.
The emotion went through her, caused a movement, the girl expressed the feeling, and everything went away. This is supposed to be the way it should be. This is how emotion is supposed to work.
Unfortunately, since childhood, many of us learn that emotions must be hidden. It is “not good” at all, for example, to be angry. Crying is stupid. Being afraid is cowardly. And if you have fun, and joy is overflowing - it's even uncomfortable. "Be good!" - we constantly hear from childhood. So, we gradually begin to learn to "be good" and not ourselves, because we want love.
What threatens the constant suppression of emotions?
By the time we get older, many of us can already be called experts at suppressing our own emotions. We tense up, we try not to breathe fully.
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All sorts of pills, exhausting labor and other means to which we quickly get used to also “help” here. Instead of flowing smoothly through the body and regaining balance, emotions turn into blocked energy, which creates a whole range of all sorts of problems. When we compress our emotions, distort, substitute or hide them, the energy turns into depression, self-pity, physical illness or addiction to alcohol, tobacco and other drugs.
For example, let's take anger. I used to be proud that there is absolutely no anger in me, and I don’t know what it is, but one day, my friend, talking with my guardian angels, told me that one of them teaches me to show anger, to defend myself.
We sometimes misinterpret our life situations and events, thinking: we are offended so that we learn humility or patience; as I once thought. I was offended so that I could learn to respect myself. Anger is a messenger of self-respect, self-affirmation. It is a constructive force dedicated to personal and global change. It is a wonderful, powerful energy, and if allowed to flow freely, it spurs us into action. But if we resist our own anger, telling ourselves that being angry is “not good,” “unspiritual,” or that we have no right to be angry, then the emotion slowly begins to smolder. And this happens over hours, weeks, or even years.
Suppressed anger (as well as any other emotion) must, sooner or later, come to the surface. The most prominent signs of repressed anger are: depression and/or anxiety, self-pity, blame and resentment, guilt, apathy, inertia, sarcasm, irritability, struggle and martyrdom, dependence on drugs, alcohol, work, sex, food, etc. .d.
In addition, these are accidents (as an expression of anger directed at oneself); cancer, arthritis and other diseases; violence and aggression. Violence is not an expression of pure anger. It is a symptom of rage and fear bottled up and eventually explodes. And since the world is a mirror, by noticing all of the above symptoms in other people, you can thus observe your own repressed anger!
Here is one example of how you can release your anger:
- Write a very angry letter on paper to the person you are angry with. Do not hold back, write what you think, from the bottom of your heart, and then burn it, or flush it down the toilet. (Resist the temptation to send it to the addressee!).
- Beat a pillow or a punching bag. As you do this, breathe fully and just "pretend" to be angry until the emotion starts moving and comes alive on its own.
- Jog while internally screaming (if there are other people around): "I hate you!" or "How dare you!" or whatever your Inner Child wants to shout out.
Don't try to forgive someone who has wronged you, or understand why you have created life's trauma for yourself, until you deal with your anger, resentment, and other emotions. Until we have healed our inner child, it is unlikely that you will be able to move on, rather, you will begin to attract further unpleasant events, and they will bring your emotions to the surface.
It is important, at any stage of your development and growth, to honestly admit to yourself all your feelings and once suppressed emotions.
The manifestation of emotions is an integral part of the psychological portrait of every person. There are no unemotional people, only those who, for some reason, hide or hold back their true feelings. In the eyes of others, such individuals look extremely closed and detached, causing mistrust and even fear. And all because emotional reactions are very difficult to control the mind, it is even possible to realize them only after the experiences subside. So for the deliberate concealment of mood, its disguise behind a demonstration of composure, there must be really good reasons.
For example, the suppression of negative emotions such as anger or resentment may well be explained by the desire to maintain a reputation or protect loved ones from unnecessary unrest. The internal struggle with sensual attachment or emotional dependence can also seem like a laudable act of self-denial. But is it always worth trying to take control of the psychological mechanisms created by nature? And won't this later turn into even more trouble than a strong but short-lived outburst of passions?
Do you need to kill your emotions?
Emotions are conceived by nature as natural indicators and at the same time regulators of the state of the human nervous system. Even if you learn to control them at will, you can control no more than 10% of these reactions. Everything else will remain in the realm of subconscious processes and will continue to manifest itself somatically. Inept suppression of emotions can threaten various physiological abnormalities, up to chronic diseases.
At the same time, blindly following your emotions is a sign of moral immaturity and irresponsibility towards others. An overly nervous, exalted person, who does not give himself the trouble to control his momentary reactions, makes an unpleasant impression and prompts you to reduce communication with him to a minimum. So where is the golden mean, which determines which emotions can be freely expressed and which should be strictly restrained? At first glance, it may seem that negative emotions need to be controlled, and positive emotions need to be demonstrated. However, their classification is actually much more complicated.
Psychologists divide emotions not into “good” and “bad”, but into constructive and destructive. And this characteristic to a large extent depends on the situation and the person who shows his feelings. Roughly speaking, in different circumstances, the same emotion can be both desirable and vice versa. In order to identify it as the first or second, you first need to at least realize what is happening, and most emotional reactions are accompanied by a state akin to affect, when common sense does not take part in what is happening. Therefore, many overly emotional people who recognize this feature for themselves turn to specialists for help.
Fortunately, most people are able to independently manage their feelings, or at least most of them. This is the main sign of constructiveness in emotional manifestations. As long as your emotions do not harm you or others and are comprehensible, they can be considered constructive and let out. You need to work and restrain those passions that are stronger than you, and instead of subordinating to your will, they themselves subjugate your behavior. If in a calm state you would not want to do what to do in a fit of emotions, then you depend on these feelings, and instead of discharge and satisfaction, they harm, and not only you.
How to Suppress and/or Control Emotions
So, when it became approximately clear what kind of emotions it is worth fighting with, let's move on to the second, no less important question. What is the suppression of emotions and what is control over them? What action is preferable in most life situations? Oddly enough, the answer can be given quickly and concisely: reasonable control is always preferable to any pressure. Especially in such a subtle area as psychological reactions.
Killing emotions means denying your body the natural reactions to what is happening, even if these reactions are necessary for it to protect itself. Therefore, where better to be not a "killer", but the master of the situation and try to manage it. To do this, you will have to pull yourself together and take a number of difficult, but necessary actions. Over time, they will begin to be given to you more and more easily and, perhaps, even move into the category of automatic skills. 
Choose one or more of the above emotional state management techniques to use your new skill at the earliest opportunity. Its benefits are undeniable and will save you not only from exhausting experiences, but also from other negative consequences associated with communication. Most emotional outbursts are subject to you when you do it. This does not require either alcohol or psychotropic drugs, the use of which is generally highly undesirable and is allowed only on prescription and under the supervision of a doctor. Be calm, balanced and keep peace in your soul and thoughts.
