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What is my purpose in life. Examples of goals in a person's life

What is my purpose in life. Examples of goals in a person's life

26.09.2019

One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is to “look forward with confidence - in the direction of your dreams” and set the right goals in life.

Most of us live like the wind - moving back and forth, from one day to the next.

But I believe that our life is not just an accident, and that we should all participate in its "design". You could call it lifestyle design.

Ever since The Bucket List with Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman came out, more people have been writing their own goals list.

Goal setting is not just about writing a list. It is the starting point for designing the life we live. Maybe it's time for you to think about all the big and small things that you would like to accomplish in your life.

Every year, usually in December, people make a list of things they would like to achieve next year. However, these goals are short-term. 100 life goals set you more ambitious goals. Some of them will be short-term, while others may take your whole life to complete. Some tasks you can start and do right away, some will take more time.

100 life goals should be so exciting for you personally that you will have a hard time falling asleep at night! If you're not excited about your goals, then you won't be striving for them at a high enough level.

I will give an example of 100 life goals (both basic and "exotic"), but I strongly recommend making your own list. So, be patient...

100 human life goals

Create a family.
Maintain excellent health.
Visit a new country in the world every year. Visit all continents.
Invent and patent a new idea.
Get an honorary degree.
Make a significant positive contribution to peace.
Go on a boat trip.
See the earth from space + Experience weightlessness.
Make a parachute jump.
Participate in a marathon.
Create a passive source of income.
Change someone's life forever.
Participate in the Olympics (or the World Championship).
Make a pilgrimage to Israel.
Help 10 people achieve their life goals.
Give a birth to a baby. Raise a child.
Be a vegetarian for a month.
Read the entire Bible.
Dine with a famous successful person.
Speak at a conference (+give a speech in front of more than 100 people).
Write and publish a book.
Write a song.
Launch a website on the Internet.
Learn to ride a motorcycle.
Create your own business.
Climb to the top of the mountain.
Learn to play tennis.
Explore digital photography and learn how to take photos.
Donate blood.
Get rid of bad habits (alcohol, smoking).
Meet an interesting person of the opposite sex.
Own your own 5 hectares of land.
Feed the sharks.
Find a job you love that won't stress you out.
Go scuba diving (go diving or maybe even swim in a submarine).
Ride a camel or ride an elephant.
Fly in a helicopter or hot air balloon.
Swim with dolphins.
See the top 100 movies of all time.
Visit Oscar.
Lose weight.
Take your family to Disneyland.
Ride in a limousine.
Read the 100 best books of all time.
Canoeing on the Amazon.
Attend all games of the season of your favorite football/basketball/hockey/etc. commands.
Visit all major cities in the country.
Live for a while without TV.
Retire and live a month like a monk.
Memorize the poem "If only..." by Rudyard Kipling.
Have your own home.
Live for a while without a car.
Fly in a fighter jet.
Learn how to milk a cow (don't laugh, it can be a rewarding life experience!).
Become a foster parent.
Learn to speak English (With the help of a native speaker or on your own: a cool website and great listening exercises to help).
Take a trip to Australia.
Learn to belly dance.
Start a non-profit organization dedicated to helping people.
Learn how to make repairs in the house (and do it).
Organize a tour of Europe.
Learn rock climbing.
Learn to sew/knit.
Take care of the garden.
Go on a hike in the wild.
Master a martial art (perhaps to become the owner of a black belt).
Play at the local theatre.
Shoot in a movie.
Travel to the Galapagos Islands.
Learn archery.
Learn how to use a computer confidently (or help your girlfriend, mother)
Take singing lessons.
Taste dishes of French, Mexican, Japanese, Indian and other cuisines.
Write a poem about your life.
Learn to ride horses.
Take a gondola ride in Venice.
Learn to drive a boat or boat.
Learn to dance the waltz, tap dance, etc.
Post a video to YouTube that gets 1 million views.
Visit the headquarters of Google, Apple, Facebook, etc.
Live on an island + Live in a hut.
Get a full body massage.
Drink only water and juice during meals for a month.
Become the owner of a % share of a profitable company.
Have zero personal debt.
Build a tree house for your children.
Invest in gold and/or real estate.
Volunteer at the hospital.
Go on a trip around the world.
Get a dog.
Learn to drive a racing car.
Publish family tree.
Achieve financial freedom: have enough passive income to cover all expenses.
Witness the birth of your grandchildren.
Visit Fiji/Tahiti, Monaco, South Africa.
Participate in dog sled races in the Arctic.
Learn to surf.
Make twine.
Go skiing with the whole family in Aspen.
Get a professional photo shoot.
Live in another country for one month.
Visit Niagara Falls, the Eiffel Tower, the North Pole, the pyramids in Egypt, the Roman Colosseum, the Great Wall of China, Stonehenge, the Sistine Chapel in Italy.
Take a survival course in nature.
Own your own private jet.
Be happy in this life.
.... your goals...

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The question may arise: why set 100 goals in life - so many? Setting so many goals can really test your motivation and talents in many areas and walks of life. Life is so multifaceted, and goals should demonstrate your discipline and responsible attitude towards it.

You are the one who takes control of your life. And goals are like GPS in life. They give direction and help you choose where to go in this life. Your vision of an ideal future can become a reality.

When you set 100 life goals and then evaluate your accomplishments, you can see what you've done and what you're really capable of. The very process of achieving goals will give you confidence and faith in yourself. After you have achieved one goal, you will try to achieve other goals, possibly higher ones.

You will see the great progress you have made when you look back after a while. Goals are the starting point for success. Just start...

And a good start, as you know, is half the success!

Every successful person sets goals for himself. In this article, I will tell and show, using my personal example, why you need to set 100 goals in life, how to set them and how to divide them into categories. Find out all this right now.

Why do you need to set goals?

From a philosophical point of view, human life is meaningless and aimless. Realizing this, you can become depressed and forever remain sitting in the "cave with an ax and a mammoth skin." Fortunately, the primitive man was given a brain, thanks to which it became possible to live “today better than yesterday”, and thanks to the first unconscious goals “to go out into the world”. A modern person is simply obliged to have goals, because this will allow him to be successful, and not work for someone who is already successful.

Goal is tomorrow's motivation“Becoming the best version of yourself” is going out of your comfort zone in order to find your boundaries and limits, this is the “measurability” of the quality of your life, in the end, this is the very meaning of life.

If you still do not understand why you need goals for life - watch the movie "Before you played in the box." When a person finds himself in a state that is borderline for his life, he begins to think about every day he has lived. He rethinks his existence and tries to do as fast and as much as possible while still alive.

Shot from the film "Not yet played in the box" (source: 5sfer.com)

How do you see your old age? On a safari among wild animals or on a bench among pigeons? Time is relentless - use it even more efficiently with the help of set goals.

How to write 100 goals in life?

To begin with, you need to understand that goals are different: for a day, a week, a month, a year, 3-5-10 years, and for a lifetime. When I check the work of my students, I often see 2 mistakes.

The first mistake is that most items are obtained too "simple". For example, “visit the neighboring region”, “donate blood”, “make a website on the Internet”, “ride in a limousine”, etc. Such goals are written for 1 year, but certainly not for life. The points should be ambitious and almost unattainable, then the result will exceed all your expectations.

The second mistake is that beginners try to write all 100 targets at once. The reality is that after 30-50 points fantasy ends and "slag" appears. Personally, I never finished my list, because I strive not for quantity, but for quality. The time will come - new desires will come.

Take 3 sheets of A4, a pen and start thinking about your 100 goals for life. On 1 sheet, write down everything you ever wanted to do. Just get this list out of your head. No matter how much money and time it takes - write everything indiscriminately and numbering. I am sure that with due imagination, you can easily "type" 200 and even 300 goals of a different order.

For each item (on 1 sheet), ask yourself the question: “Can I close this right now, and do I currently have all the necessary resources for this?”. If the answer was “NO”, and the task seems too ambitious, write this goal on 2 sheets, but in the form of a numbered list. You will see that the “squeeze” of points has become many times smaller, because most of it related to goals with early deadlines (for a month, a year, etc.).

Sorting goals by the "Wheel of Life"

Once you have a list of a few dozen items, you will quickly realize that it is still difficult to work with. What should be closed first and second, etc.?

8 sectors

The easiest way to solve this issue is to use the headers " Wheels of life" (which is divided into 8 sectors): " Friends and environment», « Relationship», « Career and business», « Finance», « Spirituality and creativity», « Personal growth», « Brightness of life», « Health and sports". These will be the 8 headings for your life goals.

Classic "Wheel of Life" - 8 sectors

By the way, if you have never drawn your own " wheel of life”, then it’s time to “close” this case at the same time. How to do this, I will write in a separate article, but you must draw your own “circle” if you are thinking about self-development.

5 sectors

If so many sectors scare you, use 5 headings from the simplified "circle" (which I came up with). The titles will be: Health», « Environment», « Self-development», « Finance" And " Rest". Take the 3rd sheet of paper and already “finish” rewrite your goals according to the selected headings.

"Wheel of Life" Denis Telelinsky - 5 sectors

My list of 100 life goals

Health

Pull up 30 times "clean" in 1 approach (in progress);
Push-ups 70 times "clean" in 1 approach (in progress);
See the cubes on your stomach;
Sit on the transverse twine;
Increase biceps up to 40 cm without "chemistry";
Conquer 10 mountains with a height of 4 km;
Become a candidate for master of sports;
Master at least 1 extreme sport;
Run 50 marathons.

Environment

Find at least 1 real friend;
Make wife and parents financially independent (in progress);
Become the father of at least 1 child;
Improve and permanently change the lives of 1,000 people (in progress);
Participate in 100 volunteer trips;
Help 100 disabled or homeless people with food, clothes, money;
Buy dad the car he wants;
Distribute 100 tr. in 1 day 50-ruble bills to all passers-by;
Open a charitable foundation and donate there a total of at least 1 million rubles.

Self-development

Learn to cook 100 healthy meals (in progress);
Get 4 higher educations (1 available, 3 more to go);
Become a candidate of technical sciences;
Get an MBA degree;
Learn English and pass an international exam;
Reach the level of 5000 unique visitors per day on the site teleden.ru;
Write and publish at least 1 book;
Perform in front of an audience of 2,000 people;
Become a mentor for personal growth and online professions (in progress);
Read 5,000 books (in progress);
Post a video on Youtube that gets at least 1 million views;
Make your family tree and family coat of arms;
Patent your invention;
Know the names and be able to distinguish 1,000 of the most expensive paintings in the world;
Know the names and be able to distinguish 1,000 of the most famous classical melodies;
Open a carpentry workshop;
Learn to play guitar;
Learn to play the piano;
Defeat acrophobia (fear of heights).

Finance

Earn 1 million rubles "clean" per month;
Earn 500 tr. "clean" per month with the help of passive sources of income;
Become an investor, get a share in the business;
Buy real estate in Moscow;
Buy property abroad by the sea;
Buy a plot from 1 ha in size;
Buy a car more expensive than 3 million rubles.

Rest

Visit all continents;
Visit all countries (in progress);
Go on a trip around the world;
Visit 1,000 of the most beautiful places on the planet;
Visit all the cities of the world with a population of more than 1 million people (in progress);
Visit all cities of the Russian Federation with a population of more than 100 thousand people (in progress);
Visit all the national parks of the world;
Travel throughout the whole year;
Learn to identify the stars in the celestial constellations;
Plant 1,000 trees;
Catch and release fish weighing more than 100 kg;
Make fire in 20 ways (in progress);
Participate in excavations and dig up dinosaur bones;
Pet 1,000 exotic animals.

Dear readers, how does your list of 100 human life goals? Please write in the comments - maybe I missed some important points?

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How to set the right goal?

1. Write down what you want to achieve as written. The main thing is to do it honestly and express all the words that come to mind (heart, soul).

2. Take a short break, 10-15 minutes, during which you must be taken, change the activity.

3. Read what you wrote down again - do you really want to do this?

So much so that you are willing to work hard to achieve your desire?

How many percent out of 100 do you really want to realize your desire?

4. Now let's go directly to the formulation of the goal of your future activity.

Express your desire in positive words (WITHOUT any other refusal).

Live NO change, DO NOT change - wrong language,

This is true, this is one of the correct formulations.

5. Record it at the current time

I have a healthy lifestyle.

I successfully complete XXX with my interview.

I live in Altai. I am going to Sweden.

During each step of transforming your desire into a goal that you achieve, check your emotions: do you still want the desire to come true?

Do you want to start with this?

6. Move your target. Imagine how its implementation will explain in detail what events you want to see (what you want to participate in, feel and hear) in the process of achieving the goal.

I hear an alarm sound and I just wake up. I turn off the alarm, stretch and stand up.

I go to the window, look at it and enjoy the early morning, space and silence.

I said: “He who gets up early, God blesses him with wealth” and goes to the soul ...

… I came to work in front of my employees. I enter the office, take off and take off my coat, sit down at the table and apply the plan that I did in the evening. I have the toughest task, and I will focus on work.

When my colleagues come, I am happy to switch to communication with them, I will reward you for your excellent work with a short break ...

Again, special features, special features, and more features.

Imagine what the surrounding space looks like, what it smells like, what you hear, what you feel, and maybe what the process of fulfilling your dreams tastes like.

Perhaps even at this stage you will come across the fact that you have a great idea, of course. I want XXX, you said sincerely, but how he looks and feels, really lives, you have vague impressions or almost none, or you have studied films, programs and books.

It's time to take a little break and study the specific details of your desire, dream.

A simple goal, less time and effort you spend on achieving it.

I don't want to wash the dishes and clean them! - the sound in the first stage, up to the sixth has already been converted to - I buy and install a dishwasher ...

And this led to questions: what size, brand, price, where to find, how to organize the connection, etc.

If you don't have enough information, you are less likely to make the best decision.

Of course, if you're setting a real life goal that largely determines the direction in which years and years of your life will go, you will have to think more seriously and study the issue.

Surprisingly, many people are more responsible for choosing appliances or cars than for choosing a job, home and life partner.

The main argument he makes is "you can't just consider!".

Right. But why from this observation is the most extreme conclusion: "Then, of course, I will behave unreasonable, stupid, perhaps happy" - the secret of all times and peoples.

So, set your goal, accurately imagine the plot of its achievement and implementation.

See, feel, listen, breathe and enjoy the taste...

If you find that realistic ideas about what you want are not needed or not enough, focus on seeking out and getting information and explaining the details of your goal.

Examples of goals in life: from spiritual to material

Use the "Anti-IT-ONLY!" rule.

Your goals should be formed as achievable, thanks to your actions, your efforts.

I invite her to a meeting

I choose and execute this project

I work, I do, I communicate with other people and I get help, I cooperate in exchange for an interesting interest.

Invalid options:

Call me!

I want a lot of money in the lottery!

8. Determine the scope, the boundaries of your goal.

Where, when, with whom - you want to achieve your goal.

Where, when, with whom - you do not want to achieve your goal.

I am buying a spacious bright 2-room apartment in the city center.

Error - in the absence of an explanation - which place. 🙂

9. What will you lose from what you have now when you reach your goal? Is your dignity worth it?

For example, the birth of even the most desirable and desirable child means: much less free time for mom and dad over the years, more regular expenses in the family budget, changes in marital status (she had some adults, each of whom could take care of himself, then they became three (or a little more if they were born closer), and one of them needs little attention and family resources), changes in relations with relatives, problems with the professional performance of the mother ...

What will you get if you fulfill your desire and what will you do with the results of your actions?

Perhaps when you have reached a relationship with Lena K., it turns out that you wanted to increase your self-esteem, and you do not need Lena K. And now you have a question on the agenda: how to share love with you, thanks to your diligence, woman?

Having a certain position, a complex project, you may be surprised to find that the advantages of your position - you will not even be delighted, weaknesses and problems requiring much more time and effort than you can afford, but only in terms of environmental friendliness with positions you can't.

The failure of the consequences of satisfying your desire, which turned out to be unnecessary, undesirable, unbearable, also requires significant costs, not only external, but also internal.

Now turn off the 3D image of your target dream into a short spatial phrase that describes your goal and your actions (achievement process) and tests your relationship with the target team you created.

3 hours every day I communicate with different girls, women, and I find my favorite

Some notes:

* Actual Needs -)

wish -)

conscious planning -)

successful action -)

Goal (= fulfillment of desires = satisfaction of real needs) - joy (satisfaction, self-confidence, pride, joy, happiness) + years of successful self-realization, success, joyful, unique (own) life

Thus, it seems like a general scheme to achieve any of your dreams.

** Wrong approach: I want "everything, at once and more".

Focus on a few targets, two or three at the most. Get to them, then move on to the next one.

*** A good test of the "truth of desire", except for the intuitive answer to the question: is this really what I want?

You also like the process of achieving the goal and intermediate results and the overall result. And also - the consequences of the result.

**** In the process of creating an achievable goal, clear the mental garbage of "bad will" or use the rule "which obviously considers it successful and happy to live."

If at any moment there were doubts, "but I need to..."?

Pay attention to what is causing your doubts? What is the problem with your energy?

When you find it, find that unsolvable problem or problem, find a way to solve it or surround it.

Refer to a separate problem and solve.

Then continue to understand your purpose.

Or find out what you didn't want, what you wanted! And something that is just a part of what you want is your dream. Then specify, specify what you want and achieve your goals.

Realize your dreams!

Good luck!

How to set goals correctly? Criteria for the correct formulation of the goal

Target- this is what you really want and know how to get it.

It is not for nothing that those who passionately desire to achieve something achieve more than those who constantly say: "I will not succeed, this is not real." Many people think they set goals, but in reality, their goals are still dreams. For that, to make a dream become a goal, and then the task, need a clear plan for implementation, you should know 80% of the steps to achieve it.

Setting goals motivates you to work effectively. When there is a goal and written on paper, a clear setting appears in the head of what needs to be done. A well-formulated goal is not an easy task! The result depends on how we formulate goals. How the dream, goals and objectives relate in more detail in the article tree of goals.

The main criteria for a correctly formulated goal (SMART - technology)

The goal must be specific, that is, formulated in such a way that it will be clear not only to you.

Indicate places, events, objects and their descriptions. The more specific the goal, the more it turns into a task.

The goal must be measurable. If there is no measurement, how will you know that you have reached it? Select the main criteria, for example, a certain amount of money.

The goal must be real, that is, you must know more than 50% of the actions to achieve it.

Also, it should lead you to positive emotions, and not to stress and depression. Don't dream up something you can never achieve. Also, you should not overestimate the bar too much, but you should not understate it either. You appreciate the situation.

The target has boundaries in time.

Goals are different in time: short-term (1-6 months), medium-term (1-3 years) and long-term (5-10 years). Decide on deadlines. Choose a deadline a little earlier, as you need to take into account that you can delay the implementation.

Have at least 1 day left, that is, if you need to submit a report by April 3, then set a goal to do it by the 2nd, and preferably by 1. Create a psychological environment for yourself that you need to pass not 3, but 2, so you will definitely handle it. A very small part of people do everything in advance, usually everything happens at the last moment.

And the last criterion is attractiveness of the target. Do you want to do something that does not apply to you at all?

Of course not! Therefore, write goals that are relevant to you, and not to someone else. If you have to set goals for another person, then the performer should be interested in the result.

Goal Formulation Rules

1. Compliance SMART criteria. The more specific your goal, the closer you are to it.

Life goals - the more the better!

Target affirmative and positive. Do not use the particle not in the wording. In place of "do not", write "do".

For example, “don’t sleep until dinner” is replaced by “get up at 9 am and do exercises.” Use words that mean you already have it. For example, it is not correct: “I want to learn how to plan,” we replace: “I am learning to plan from today and set goals and objectives correctly.”

Belong. The result of your goal should be entirely up to you. When you rely on someone, the result is immediately distorted, because now it does not depend on you. Only delegation of duties is allowed, that is, those tasks that others can solve. In this case, you need control and your goals and the performer must match, otherwise the result will not be effective.

Positive attitude. Only faith in the result will lead to success. But you have to be prepared to fail because there are many obstacles to consider and overcome.

If you have lost your way with the intended goal, it is worth changing or revising something and moving on. Learn from their own mistakes, not from others.

5. Formulate on paper. It has long been proven that the formulation of goals and objectives on paper is more effective than those that are kept in the head. You don't need to keep everything in your head, and it's not possible, anyway, something is forgotten. Therefore, in order to achieve goals, it is necessary to formulate them on paper, observing all the rules and criteria.

Vision. Present the result. The more detailed the picture, the better. This is where visualization and attraction come into play. The more you want it, the faster it will attract.

7. Small gifts at the end of the achievement.

Give yourself a reward for reaching your goal. So the path to a new goal will be even more interesting, because you know that you will get a “sweet candy” for the result.

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100 human lives - my list

Of course, human life cannot be without mistakes, but one thing is to make mistakes on the way to the right goal, and the other thing is to make them and turn to the wrong goal; in this case, the process itself is an error. The most basic mistake of every person, including great geniuses, whose authority I personally do not care about, is their rejection of what is and condemnation of what it is. People are afraid of what cannot be explained, and often many do not try, the explanation can be found in the belief that - you will not be mistaken in your conclusions and that the reality that they observe is, meanwhile, an unnatural source of origin.

Let's say you were taught from childhood to live in peace and harmony with other people, and when you were in contact with these people, you were often convinced that they were not beings that you could live with in this way; that they don't need the world to have everyone disagree with you and be in harmony with you, even if all the facts are at first glance.

And to persecute people for being incompatible with the demands you make to them is absolutely pointless, because you cannot be the kind of person who sits in other people's minds as an example of the right person. Well, how do you plan your life plans, how do you move towards goals based on interacting with other people anyway? This can be done, perhaps under adverse conditions.

People set false goals not only in childhood.

Of course, the brain can also wash out an adult, especially one who is confused and lost in himself, who sees no reason for his weakness and needs more comfort than a cold bucket of water that would be sober. One day a friend of mine decided to initiate an argument with me which showed me that a person should know one thing, but it is good to know; that he must be a good expert for something special.

The argument, of course, failed, because it makes no sense to prove something to a person whose lifestyle leaves a lot, for example, personal life and financial situation.

Although I asked him about one question, I asked him to answer quickly, I asked him about who this person should be an expert in a certain field, so that the person has a narrow view of this world and what is needed?

I did not wait for an answer from him, but he did not need me to understand the dishonesty of those goals that sit at the head of a man who may not even bother him, although his unsuccessful life.

The success of the company you want to achieve will depend not only on how well you do everything, but on how your business activity succeeds, is really important to you, and in general you need it. As an example of absurd success, I can give a situation in my life in which I had to work a little and wanted to succeed in my work.

I was able to do this because most of the activities are somehow related to contact with other people, and with my knowledge in the field of psychology, I did very well with very high results in my work.

Luckily, my first boss was very close and frankly stupid, and instead of encouraging the young man to try to work for the man's result, this boss constantly struggled and was always frustrated by something.

At that moment, I began to understand that my goals were not fundamentally correct, that the result of my efforts goes into the pockets of others, and even thanked me for not telling me, trying, on the contrary, to squeeze even more vital juice out of me. And, of course, I heard a completely different voice, almost a defense, to stay when I was about to be fired, but I already knew very well that his talent, his strength should be directed to other purposes for purposes that are useful First of all , I.

I've worked for both poor and good employers, in the usual sense of the two, because it's really different, and I found that within a short time when I worked for hire.

A good employer is not those of my friends who would be ideal working conditions, who pay you a good salary, which increases you and your praise for work - and one who cries to you, which reduces your salary, which you forgive.

After all, the good ones (in quotes) are actually limited to employers. Yes, they recognize your diligence, appreciate it, but you spend this attention on them, and for success in life it is important that you try yourself first; it is important to realize your dreams, not foreigners.

It sounds selfish, but objectivity, this is sober thinking - after all, some jobs in this life we follow our interests in one way or another. So why are you pursuing them by mediating alien targets, why can't you find a natural path to what you need? This will save you from unnecessary illusions; in any case, from the many paths of life that you can see in life.

In the past, society strove for equality and actually drowned the people who believed in it; there were also people who believe in change, resulting in a more intelligent society that does not wage war, who do not want those who violate the interests of other people.

You know friends, none of this bothers me, but psychology is different from all types of doctrines and beliefs, that it deals with facts and, like science, cannot rely on what is possible.

Everything is possible, but as long as we have the ability to manage; learn to approach natural goals, it is true, I say that your life will be better in this world, and this is not what it can be. You see how rich and successful people live, very rich; those people who have power not because they have a lot of money, but because they control their ideas, their goals; and money is also an idea that works for those who invented it.

What does it take to have everything to have power, money that can buy a lot, to have power, after all, thanks to money and power?

And most importantly, what is needed in order to control the thoughts of other people, to ask them about such ideas that they will happily fulfill, and for you you will be almost a god. This, my friends, is to be studied; don't ask me where or who, in the first place, you understand that you need it if you need it: if you want to be the best castle in the world or, say, a really cool musician, then such things are not worth hitting on the head - they are intended for more dedicated people,

Only on this website do I post really unique information for those who want to become a person of status and have power, not only because I know psychology well, but also because I know people who have this status and authority.

Of course, it's up to you, because it's a success compared to your idea of what you have in your head.

No matter how wrong your goal is, what you do not want to achieve, if it is achieved, it is undoubtedly a success, but how happy you are with this success is another matter. The lie of your purpose in life is exactly determined by your satisfaction with your achievement and what it gives you. I'm talking about false goals based on my life experience and more about my experience as a psychologist, thanks to which many people have passed.

At the same time, based on the individuality of everyone who reads this text, it is quite logical to assume that for many of you, dear friends, the reality of the goals will be somewhat different from the parameters that I indicate.

Perhaps some of you will not even get into your life, but not because someone will not be happy, but because many people do not want to achieve anything.

Well, it is also success, the success of the choices that everyone makes and the goals that we have set. And if you are happy with your life and what you have, you can say that you had and had the wrong goals, I can't: you can do it, friends.

Think about what you really want and compare it to what you do and don't forget to think about how you have been taught and teach other people close to what you really want.

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We decided to set goals with you.

When setting goals, you must follow a number of rules.

Let's take a look at them below:

first

WITH We ate fir tree on paper. If you can put it on paper, we can formulate it, then you know exactly what you want. And if you know what you want, you can achieve it.

Do you know anyone who is positive about the availability of goals? The goals they have… in my head, and those goals are constantly changing.

Write down your goals, this is important!

2. Goal is currently written: goals should be written by now. Remember: tomorrow you cannot change your life. You can change your life today!

In The Virtuoso of Trade, Joe Gerrardi is such an amazing example.

“I went to the bar and wrote in the bar above the billboard: “We will give you unlimited credit tomorrow. "

I go to the bartender and say: “Imagine: tomorrow everyone who is sitting in the hall will come to you for a loan!

100 main goals in a person's life: how to make a list

What are you going to answer? The bartender replies, “Yeah, you know, no one has come yet. “Well, even if tomorrow no one comes in and asks for, as you wrote, unlimited credit to answer me?” - "Well, what do we need to go today, tomorrow will come, and we'll talk." He comes to the waiter tomorrow: "How about a loan?" - "What loan?" - “You wrote ...”, “And what is written there? - "Tomorrow we will give you unlimited lending."

“So, what are we going to beat today, come tomorrow and talk!”

So tomorrow there is a tendency not to advance, and not only in America. Remember yourself or your friends who promised to start working on Monday morning, stop smoking, start losing weight, etc.

and they are still starting.

3. The target is written with the anchor key. This means that when creating a goal, you should write about what you I want to come, Not really they want to exclude from your life.

Write down that you want to be present in your life, not the other way around. For example, if you do not want to live with your parents or rent a house, then set goals that you should write that you want to live in your own home. Not set goals, "not loneliness", not "in poverty", "does not age". We need to turn all these “deliberate avoidances” into positive ones - “Save the youth and get involved in your health and appearance” to “find someone with whom you can build a serious relationship”, “get some money”,

Why can't we write down our goals by saying "no"?

The fact that the “no” particle cannot completely change the meaning and strength of neighboring words, which may weaken a little, but the meaning of the word remains.

Remember these situations. Go to a person on the street and say, "Can you tell me what time it is?" He looks at his watch and tells what time it is.

And you say, "Thank you!" Although they just asked him not to run. That's why you didn't even notice "NO".

4. We write goals that apply to you personally.

Do you want to do something that doesn't even apply to you? Of course not! So write down goals that are important to you and not to anyone else.

Goal “My daughter is buying a two-room apartment in the city center.

Paris "does not belong to you.

5. Written goals must follow the KIPRO formula.

6. We write goals with all the details and small details.

Formulate goals with all the information you need. The fact is that there are no screens in setting goals. Everything that you have not specified for your purposes can be performed at your request.

Our thoughts are very strong.

They determine what happens in our lives and what happens. Ability to focus your thoughts - write them down.

Writing is an effective activity. By writing something, you commit and at the same time consolidate your words in your subconscious. If your commitments are positive and collected in the present, the subconscious mind will put you into seizures.

In this way, your subconscious mind will cover all aspects of your life, as if your ideas have already become a reality.

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Setting life goals

Confidently set realistic goals for yourself. As soon as you reach one goal, set yourself another, higher one.

K. Turner

What is a PURPOSE?

A goal is what you want right now, in the near future. A goal is what you dream about and what you want to get a certain result from. If the result is achieved and it matches the goal, you can set a new goal and achieve better results, if the result is negative (that is, suppose you did the job, but did not receive the promised money for it), then he pushes the goal (the goal in in this case, it may be the acquisition of something) or makes it completely unattainable.

You will say abstrusely, but understanding yourself and your goals, as well as setting new goals, also requires work. Have you asked yourself the question, “What do I really want out of life?” or “What are my life goals?” Have you tried planning your life for the near future, say, three years ahead?

My desires are what I want examples. The main life goals of a person

Perhaps this book made you think for the first time that you do not have time because you do not have much idea, What, Actually, you want to be on time.

In order to properly set goals, several conditions must be met.

- Know exactly what result you want to achieve in the end, i.e.

e. to be able to answer the question: WHAT I WANT?

- Express the goal in positive terms. Then, and only then, will you succeed.

With the question: "What do I want?" everything is more or less clear. One way or another, we always want something. It is much more difficult to express your goals in positive terms. For example, instead of saying, "I have to wash the dishes," it's better to say, "I want the sink to be clean." Agree, the second phrase evokes completely different internal sensations.

It should be noted that any business that goes into the category of "I have to" or "I need to" ruined a lot of wonderful and quite achievable goals.

The goal becomes real when you imagine the desired result and feel cozy and comfortable. Therefore, it is so important to choose a goal for which you will study correctly and as efficiently as possible to save time and use time.

One of my friends, who has achieved considerable success in life, always said that you can combine (without prejudice to achieving your goal and your own health) no more than three things. Less - uninteresting, more - nothing really will work.

You yourself have probably found yourself in situations where you had to combine something with something, and you can confirm that this is a very true observation. You can easily have time to study, work and play sports, but if you include the fourth element in the list, for example, the daily “pull” in nightclubs, then one of the three previous elements will certainly “fly into the pipe”, if not all three.

Hence the conclusion: in order to learn how to properly manage time, you need to set yourself simultaneously no more than THREE goals, otherwise you really will not be in time.

In order for the goals to be achieved, and not to disappoint you in your own capabilities, you need to be aware that not a single goal can be achieved with lightning speed, i.

e. It will take some amount of time to get any positive result. To learn how to correctly estimate the time to achieve goals, you need to ask yourself questions: When I this Want?", " How many Will it take me time to reach my goal? From whom depends on achieving my goal?”, “Who else is involved in achieving my goal?”, “ When, where and with whom I this Want?".

By answering these questions, you build a chain of your own actions and calculate the time that you need to spend to achieve your own goal. With this information, it will be much easier for you to plan a real time to achieve a goal or get a positive result.

There is a very good exercise (we will come back to it and look at it in more detail a little later), with the help of which it is easy to test yourself for the ability to determine your goals and priorities in life.

Take a blank sheet of paper, imagine: it became known to you (for example, from the attending physician) that in six months you will no longer be, in other words, you will die. How would you live the rest of your life if you received such a forecast? It is hard, of course, to imagine such an untimely death and loss of oneself, because it seems that the whole life is still ahead, but the question posed at the beginning of the chapter remains: “What are your life goals for the next six months?”.

You can, of course, dedicate these six months of deep depression on the occasion of the upcoming death, you can have some fun in the end, go on a long vacation, which has been postponed for the past fifteen years due to your indispensability in production. Many people live like this, and not only for the last six months, but for the rest of their lives.

If you are not one of those, take a pencil and write down all the thoughts that come to your mind. Remember that goals that are not reflected on paper remain vague, incomprehensible and unattainable ...

So, your thoughts lay down on paper, now there is something to work on. I am sure you will find that you have goals that are very important to you at the moment, but in the hustle and bustle and "park" you did not pay attention to them, put them off until later.

Surely you have read the previous two paragraphs and are ready to move on, but I still strongly recommend that you put everything aside (even this book), take a sheet of paper right now and for fifteen minutes think hard and write down everything that you would like to do, what are you striving for.

The first question you have to answer is: What are my life goals? If necessary, you will have to call on the help of the sister of talent, that is, brevity, and confine yourself to general words, without specifying anything. Don't forget to mention goals related to your personal, family, social, business, material and spiritual life. Try to make your list as detailed as possible.

Big requests and desires do not yet mean that you are completely obliged to subordinate your life to their fulfillment, so do not be shy and try to write down everything that comes to your mind (even all sorts of nonsense about losing ten to twenty kilograms or a new hairstyle) . Feel free to list goals that are farthest from your usual life, for example, a holiday in the Seychelles, a trip to India, a year-long vacation, or buying a computer that you are still afraid to approach.

Freedom of fantasy!

Now let's ask ourselves another question: How do I want to spend the next three to five years?". We write answers to this question.

The third question may be considered too gloomy by some, but it is it that stimulates a person to determine life goals for a short period of time and subsequently makes it easier to determine priorities. Question: " How would I live my last six months, knowing that life will not give me another chance? The purpose of this question is to find out very important, but, in your opinion, not urgent issues that you are not currently dealing with, but they deserve due attention on your part.

Write down all the answers as quickly as possible without thinking. Then re-read everything that happened, and try to analyze what was written. It is almost certain that there will be many intersections in the lists before you; as you work on what you have written, you will see that many points are part of or a continuation of other points.

For example, women often find that the desire to lose weight or somehow change their appearance is actually part of the desire to be loved, to find a worthy husband.

For many people, life goals change dramatically when the realization comes that the time of a human life is limited, and it is impossible to do everything.

Someone decides to work hard for money or fame, while the other will simply enjoy life. There is no single right answer, there are no standard goals, unless you are stereotyped, your choice, and ultimately your life, is up to you!

In achieving the goal, for the sake of which, in fact, games are started over time, it is necessary to take into account the huge role motivation .

Motivation is the driving force that helps and makes us perform actions and any actions. Motivations are of several types, for example, one can distinguish the motivations "To" and "OT".

– Motivation TO”: A person with “K” motivation gets a “new job”, and not “leaves the old one”, he “goes to live with a friend”, and not “leaves his wife”, etc. Such people know how to focus attention, for a long time and work hard towards your goal.

However, people with K motivation often have trouble identifying situations that should be avoided.

– Motivation FROM". Such people run away from negativity, this is the exact opposite of people with “K” motivation. They "leave the old job" rather than "get a new one", etc. Such people talk about problems, not about ways to solve these problems. People with “OT” motivation are good at seeing mistakes and “pitfalls”, this helps them avoid problems in achieving their own goal, but they often forget what they are striving for and lose their goals along the way, or even completely abandon them.

Another classification allows people to be divided according to their attitude towards motivation.

– Motivation ACTIVE ».

People with this motivation are excellent at motivating themselves, they do not need outside help to get started.

They always know what they want and know how to get it. As a rule, people with "active" motivation solve problems before these problems can arise. This is a quality inherent in careerists, leaders, etc. workaholics.

– Motivation PASSIVE". In order to achieve something and reach the intended goal, people with “passive” motivation vitally need a “kick in the ass” from the outside.

They always doubt the correctness of their actions and often talk about what they would like, and not what they want. For example: “I would like to talk to you”, and not “I want to talk to you”, etc. The phrase itself already contains a passive attitude to action, they say, I would do this or that, but somehow not much I want, and I'm afraid. Such people have an analytical mindset, they are good at calculating actions several steps ahead, however, people with the “passive” motivation make the most “terry” officials-bureaucrats, they will never take responsibility for making any decisions without instructions from above. .

It doesn’t matter at all which motivation suits you best, the main thing is that motivation is always present when moving towards any goal.

Knowing how to set real realistic goals and learning how to motivate yourself, you will always know exactly WHAT you want to do. Now that we have decided on life priorities and goals, it's time to move on to HOW to find the time to achieve these very goals.

One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is to "look forward with confidence - in the direction of your dreams" and set the right goals in life.

Most of us live like the wind - moving back and forth, from one day to the next.

But I believe that our life is not just an accident, and that we should all participate in "designing" it. You could call it lifestyle design.

Ever since The Bucket List featuring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman came out, more people have been writing their own goals list.

Every year, usually in December, people make a list of things they would like to achieve next year. However, these are short term. 100 life goals set you more ambitious goals. Some of them will be short-term, while others may take your whole life to complete. Some tasks you can start and do right away, some will take more time.

I will give an example of 100 life goals (both basic and "exotic"), but I highly recommend making your own list. So, be patient...

100 human life goals

Create a family.
Maintain excellent health.
Learn to speak English (with the help of a native speaker or on your own).
Visit a new country in the world every year. Visit all continents.
Invent and patent a new idea.
Get an honorary degree.
Make a significant positive contribution to peace.
Go on a boat trip.
See the earth from space + Experience weightlessness.
Make a parachute jump.
Participate in a marathon.
Create a passive source of income.
Change someone's life forever.
Participate in the Olympics (or the World Championship).
Make a pilgrimage to Israel.
Help 10 people achieve their life goals.
Give a birth to a baby. Raise a child.
Be a vegetarian for a month.
Read the entire Bible.
Dine with famous people.
Speak at a conference (+give a speech in front of more than 100 people).
Write and publish a book.
Write a song.
Launch a website on the Internet.
Learn to ride a motorcycle.
Create your own business.
Climb to the top of the mountain.
Learn to play tennis.
Explore digital photography and learn how to take photos.
Donate blood.
Get rid of bad habits (alcohol, smoking).
Meet an interesting person of the opposite sex.
Own your own 5 hectares of land.
Feed the sharks.
Find a job you love that won't stress you out.
Go scuba diving (go diving or maybe even swim in a submarine).
Ride a camel or ride an elephant.
Fly in a helicopter or hot air balloon.
Swim with dolphins.
See the top 100 movies of all time.
Visit Oscar.
Lose weight.
Take your family to Disneyland.
Ride in a limousine.
Read the 100 best books of all time.
Canoeing on the Amazon.
Attend all games of the season of your favorite football/basketball/hockey/etc. commands.
Visit all major cities in the country.
Live for a while without TV.
Retire and live a month like a monk.
Memorize the poem "If only..." by Rudyard Kipling.
Have your own home.
Live for a while without a car.
Fly in a fighter jet.
Learn how to milk a cow (don't laugh, it can be a rewarding life experience!).
Become a foster parent.
Take a trip to Australia.
Learn to belly dance.
Start a non-profit organization dedicated to helping people.
Learn how to make repairs in the house (and do it).
Organize a tour of Europe.
Learn rock climbing.
Learn to sew/knit.
Take care of the garden.
Go on a hike in the wild.
Master a martial art (perhaps to become the owner of a black belt).
Play at the local theatre.
Shoot in a movie.
Travel to the Galapagos Islands.
Learn archery.
Learn how to use a computer confidently (or help your girlfriend, mother)
Take singing lessons.
Taste dishes of French, Mexican, Japanese, Indian and other cuisines.
Write a poem about your life.
Learn to ride horses.
Take a gondola ride in Venice.
Learn to drive a boat or boat.
Learn to dance the waltz, tap dance, etc.
Post a video to YouTube that gets 1 million views.
Visit the headquarters of Google, Apple, Facebook, etc.
Live on an island + Live in a hut.
Get a full body massage.
Drink only water and juice during meals for a month.
Become the owner of a % share of a profitable company.
Have zero personal debt.
Build a tree house for your children.
Invest in gold and/or real estate.
Volunteer at the hospital.
Go on a trip around the world.
Get a dog.
Learn to drive a racing car.
Publish family tree.
Achieve financial freedom: have enough passive income to cover all expenses.
Witness the birth of your grandchildren.
Visit Fiji/Tahiti, Monaco, South Africa.
Participate in dog sled races in the Arctic.
Learn to surf.
Make twine.
Go skiing with the whole family in Aspen.
Get a professional photo shoot.
Live in another country for one month.
Visit Niagara Falls, the Eiffel Tower, the North Pole, the pyramids in Egypt, the Roman Colosseum, the Great Wall of China, Stonehenge, the Sistine Chapel in Italy.
Take a survival course in nature.
Own your own private jet.
Be happy in this life.
…. your goals...

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The question may arise: why 100 goals in life - so many? Setting so many goals can really test your motivation and talents in many areas and walks of life. Life is so multifaceted, and goals should demonstrate your discipline and responsible attitude towards it.

You are the one who takes control of your life. And goals are like GPS in life. They give direction and help you choose where to go in this life. Your vision of an ideal future can become a reality.

You will see the great progress you have made when you look back after a while. Goals are the starting point for success. Just start...

And a good start, as you know, is half the success!

Each of us wants to achieve something in life and, of course, to do a lot. You can make your life easier by setting goals for yourself. They may have different priorities and different difficulty in achieving, but what is written on paper is always easier to understand. So grab a pen and write...

List of 50 goals in a person's life

1. Tie with.
You don't have them? Perhaps there are no ideal people, and you probably have a habit that you would like to get rid of, but either laziness interferes, then the company, then work. Get rid of this habit - and your life will be better.

2. Learn to cook.
Do you already know how? Only the best chefs, and even then not everyone can say this about themselves with complete confidence. Discover new recipes, improve old ones, make life tastier!

12. Learn to drive a car.
Even if you do not really want to drive, this skill will come in handy in life.

13. Find your favorite thing.
If you do not like your job, and it brings you only negativity, it is never too late to change your occupation, learn a new profession, find your dream job. For example, in modern IT companies, no one cares how old you are. The main thing is skill and purposefulness.

14. Learn to speak to the public.
Many do not know how, many are simply afraid. Dealing with this is easier than it looks. And a good speaker will always be listened to and his opinion taken into account.

15. Climb the mountain.
It is not at all necessary to conquer Everest and risk your health, you can choose a simpler peak. What could be better than pure mountain air?

16. Play the lottery.
Here it is - the safest way to "try your luck." Try to risk at least once and buy a lottery ticket.

17. Go to a distant country.
A long flight scares many, but it's worth it. Travel to a distant and exotic country, get acquainted with its culture and traditions. This will broaden your horizons and give you an indescribable impression.

18. Try exotic dishes.
Those that you would refuse because of their unusualness.

19. Become a teacher.
Teach someone what you know yourself. It's inspiring.

20. Learn to plan your time.
For a day, for a week, for a month, for a year - you will have much more time if you learn to plan time.

21. Learn to forgive.
Others and yourself. Hidden grievances often gnaw from the inside. Forgive your offenders, then both you and them will feel better.

27. Learn to play chess.
This seemingly terribly boring game perfectly develops thinking.

On your site or as part of some urban landscaping campaign.

30. Contribute to conservation.
Donate light bulbs, batteries, plastic - all non-degradable and hazardous to nature. Let this be your contribution to the future of the planet.

31. Get a higher education.
And not necessarily one! It's never too late to be a student again.

32. Give up television.
Better - for good.

33. Learn to dance.
Dance is body language. Learn it, no matter what kind of dance you choose.

34. Learn.
Horses are amazing animals. Take some riding lessons and hang out with them.

35. Get rid of all debt.
And no more hoarding new ones.

36. Draw a family tree.
And save it for posterity.

37. Visit the most beautiful places in your country.
- these are not always foreign beaches. In our country there are many beauties that are worth seeing with your own eyes.

38. Make an expensive gift to yourself.
Buy yourself what you have long dreamed of, whether it be a thing, a ticket or a pet (see point 3).

39. Learn to enjoy being alone.
It is very important to be able to be in harmony with yourself. Go somewhere alone, detached from other people.

40. Watch the stars under the open sky.
In the field, in the steppe, in the clearing - where you can see the maximum number of stars and the lights of the big city do not interfere with their splendor.

41. Learn to take beautiful pictures.
It is not necessary to be a professional and buy expensive equipment. Learn to take beautiful pictures that will bring you joy.

42. Visit islands cut off from civilization.
Isn't this the most unusual adventure for a modern person?

43. Learn a new, rarer language.
And with him - to learn the history of another country.

44. Save money for old age.
Unfortunately, you will not be fed up with spiritual riches alone. Take care of your future yourself.

45. Fulfill someone's dream.
Sometimes it's much easier than it seems.

46. Make a great gift to a loved one.
One that will be remembered by both you and him for years to come.

47. Buy or build your own home.
Perhaps this is the main material goal in the life of almost every person.

48. Make repairs.
And arrange your home so that it is as comfortable as possible to live in it.

50. Start a family.
Family is one of the greatest values in life. But it is easier to acquire it than to keep a good relationship in it for life. Perhaps this is one of the main goals in human life.

Make your list

Of course, the above 50 points are just an example, if you wish, you can make 100 and 1000 goals in life. Try to make your own version. Perhaps you will draw something from this list for yourself or supplement it with other goals that are more important to you. But the main thing - know: by setting clear goals for yourself (not even for life, but for a year, month, week), you will not only succeed in your endeavors, but also will not waste time.

I've heard before that you need to set goals every year. And moreover, that it is necessary to set big goals and a lot. But for the first time in January of this year, I set myself 50 goals. Rather, the task was to set 50 goals. I honestly tried, but still a little bit was not enough for me.

I post my goals here. I would be glad if it inspires you and makes your life more meaningful. At the end of the year, I will definitely share with you my results in achieving my goals.

Here I post the whole list without censorship))

My 50 Goals I'm Achieving in 2016 d

Improve your quality of yourself and your life daily
Do rituals (daily activities) that lead to the life you want.
Lose weight by 5 kg.
Change your daily routine: wake up and get up no later than 8.00 o'clock in the dark season and no later than 6.00 in the daytime of the season
Form a habit - drink a glass of water in the morning
Form a habit - monitor your diet
Form a habit - do exercises every day - 15 minutes
Form a new circle of acquaintances: develop friendships with 50 new people.
Learn to drive
Buy a car
Conduct 48 free webinars
Launch an annual coaching program.
Conduct 5 monthly coaching programs.
Make 2 photo sessions: summer (outdoors) and indoors
Write 3 books for networkers
Buy a smartphone
Sign up for Instagram
Register in Periscoi and host 15-minute broadcasts there
Conduct sales presentations 2 times a month to promote products for your network company
Create a newsletter to attract customers to the network company's product.
Conduct a seminar for networkers in the summer
Fly to St. Petersburg, to my daughter and on business.
Fly to Moscow for an infobusiness conference
Fly to Moscow for a seminar on Internet marketing
Buy a small house or land for building a house
Travel by car Crimea in the summer or in September.
Watch 1 funny movie to get joy and positive emotions and energy.
Read 50 new books
Buy a new laptop and a large memory card
For the New Year 2016-2017, fly with your family to about. Bali.
Create a line of training courses for networkers
Create a product line for start-up infobusinessmen
Give out debts
Sign 10,000 people from the target audience to the database
Expand your circle of friends on social networks, Facebook, VKontakte, Twitter, Instagram + something else
Start learning English seriously
Sew 3 dresses to order in the atelier
Plant and grow tomatoes, radishes and lettuce
Fly to Lake Baikal to fish
Fly to Kamchatka to see friends
Train 150 networkers in online recruiting. Help them reach an income of 30,000 rubles or more via the Internet
Sign up for an annual coaching session with a person who teaches online sales
Close 3 new statuses in the network company
Launch 4 sources of income
Open a deposit account in a bank
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