Olga Ushakova and Timur Solovyov in the Good Morning program
Olga Ushakova has been appearing in the Good Morning program on Channel One for more than three years. At the end of January, the TV presenter shared with fans the good news about the imminent replenishment in the family.
Yesterday, Olga posted a tender photo on Instagram with her husband and child, signing it: “04/14/18. 9 months after the wedding, our miracle was born. They say that children conceived on a honeymoon will be happy ... So be it.
It is known that the TV presenter gave birth to a girl. The baby was born in one of the most prestigious maternity hospitals in the capital - Lapino Clinical Hospital "Mother and Child". The first ever photograph of the third daughter of Olga Ushakova was taken by a professional photographer working at the hospital.
A post shared by Olga Ushakova(@ushakovao) on Apr 4, 2018 at 9:54am PDT
Olga Ushakova with her husband AdamOlga Ushakova is raising two daughters of the same age: 12-year-old Daria and 11-year-old Ksenia. The older girl was diagnosed with neurological disorders resembling high-functioning autism. Olga admitted: “Raising special children in our country is like surviving on a desert island.” The TV presenter almost did not talk about the father of the girls and did not name him, however, that the daughters bear his last name.
Olga lived in a civil marriage for several years with a much older man, having met him in Ukraine. After her lover moved to Moscow, the TV presenter followed him. According to her reviews, the man communicates well with her daughters and helps her raise them.
Olga began dating her current husband, restaurateur Adam, in October 2013. The TV presenter carefully guards her personal life and does not tell anything about her spouse. It is known that Adam most of the time does not live in Russia. The couple got married on July 17, 2017 in Cyprus. Adam, even before the wedding, found a common language with Olga's daughters. “They have fun together. The husband is generally deft with children, and all the children, familiar and unfamiliar, always circle around him, ”said the TV presenter.
“When my daughter turned one year old, our cheerful baby stopped talking, although before that I had already experienced the joy of the cherished word “mother,” Olga recalls. “It took another four years before the daughter spoke again.”
I gave birth to Dasha at the age of 24. Just three months after her birth, Ksyusha became pregnant. Two children in a row were not planned, but this is the happiest accident that could happen to me. I am grateful to God that it happened this way, because after the eldest daughter had neurological problems, I would not have dared to give birth to a second child, probably for a long time and would never know what happiness it is to be a mother of two little girls.
She planned to return to work in six months (Olga from 2005 to 2014 hosted the news on Channel One. - Approx. "Antennas"), but during the second pregnancy severe toxicosis began, I realized: it's pointless to go out now. I agreed with the management and from the first decree went to the second. While I was at home, I realized with my friend the idea of creating a charitable foundation for children with "unpopular" neurological diagnoses. Worried that such kids do not pay due attention. It is one thing when people collect money for an operation on a child and then see how he gets up and walks, and it is completely different to ask for help for those in need of long-term rehabilitation, their successes are often invisible to outsiders. I plunged into the problem with my head, studied diseases, modern methods of treatment, medical centers. Later it turned out that my child also has problems ...
When Dasha was one year old, our smart, cheerful baby stopped talking, that is, not a sound at all, although before that I had already experienced the joy of the cherished “mother”. There were also other words corresponding to age. They waited another year that speech would return and everything would be all right. But nothing has changed. We went through a thorough examination, and she was given a differential diagnosis, suggesting a range of diseases from not the most pleasant, but not terrible, to really serious and dangerous.
I managed, of course, to read a lot of information on the Internet, and terrible forecasts did not go out of my head. For several weeks she could not look at Dasha without tears and anxiety. It was the most terrible period in my life. The daughter underwent a re-examination abroad, the doctors reassured her, but the answer to the question "what's wrong?" not allowed. They said: "Wait, everything will work out." Thus, we practically missed the most important period in life up to three years, when competent classes could be of great help. I intuitively felt that nothing would get better by itself, I had to act, to run somewhere. Unfortunately, in our country, early diagnosis of autism spectrum diseases in children is at an extremely low level. How many families are wasting precious time! We were reassured for a long time that Dasha simply had a delay in speech development, they recommended classes with a speech therapist and a standard set of all kinds of chemistry.
The youngest, Ksyusha, fulfilled all the standards by the year - she went, started talking, and Dasha achieved everything that other children were given by nature through hard work. After the speech disappeared, almost four years passed before she again heard the word “mother” from her. Even the first uttered sound "a" was the result of a long work with speech therapists. Now, at nine years old, she is a completely independent girl with character, plans for life, interests and hobbies. In addition to love and other warm feelings, she also causes me great respect. Despite all the difficulties, Dasha dances, sings, plays the piano. Thanks to her efforts, like all children, I went to school on time!
Yes, I also considered correctional classes, but psychologists unanimously said: “She has complete order with intelligence, try a regular school.” Indeed, at the age of two, the daughter already knew the alphabet, numbers, shapes, colors and absorbed information like a sponge. So we are ready for the first class. Here, too, Ksyusha said that she also wanted to study, she would not sit at home alone. As a result, I chose a small private school not far from home for them.
At first I was not sure that Ksyusha would be taken, because she was then only six years and a month old, but they tested her daughter and said: “No problem, we take it!” So Sherochka and Masherochka went to the first class together. Both quickly adapted, did not perceive study as torture. This year the school had to change: there are only primary classes. The girls were transferred to another educational institution, where we were also well received.
Problems happen, of course. Not every teacher is ready to learn how to work with special children in order to help just one child in the class. I do not require teachers to jump around Dasha with a tambourine, on the contrary, I prefer that she be on an equal footing with everyone. But still it is much more difficult for her than the rest. I admit, sometimes I think about the fact that it would be better to move to a place where children with special needs successfully graduate not only from schools, but also from universities, and then find a job. After all, you always want to give your child the best, and in our case, the best is very far away. You have to turn your whole life upside down.
My daughters simply adore each other, I can’t separate them, even to leave with the eldest for a few days for some kind of examination. Both girls are friendly, non-confrontational. But if at home someone begins to sternly scold the mischievous Ksyusha, Dasha immediately intervenes: “Don’t talk to my sister like that.” Protects her. And he always cries for company.
Daughters have different hobbies. Dasha has a photographic memory, she always walks with dictionaries under her arm. When I forget some English word or just don’t know it because I haven’t seen it before, I ask and she immediately answers like an online translator. Assembles the most complex constructors without instructions. Ksyusha has an excellent taste from an early age. I had just learned to sit, and had already begun to put on my jewelry. Helps mom get ready, spins around and comments: “Here are these shoes and a ring here you can add.” If Dasha dreams of becoming a translator, as well as a cynologist and a parachutist, then Ksyusha has clearly decided at the moment - she wants to be a designer.
The girls' father, of course, participates in their upbringing, helps in everything, spends a lot of time with them. I'm not a careerist, but a person who is more family oriented. If life presents me with a choice, I will sacrifice my career without hesitation. This does not mean that I do not value my work, I adore it, I worked for a long time to achieve what I have, and I do not plan to stop there. I would like my example to help children understand how important it is to have a favorite job. Being a public person, I hope that they will hear me and I can at least slightly influence the attitude in our country towards special children and adults. Now Dasha has parents, she is in comfortable conditions, and it is difficult to predict what will happen next. We live in a rather closed society: a school, our favorite cafe where everyone knows our daughter, a store next door where Dasha has been visiting every week for many years. It's scary to think what will happen when she plunges into the big world. Whether the seller or a passer-by wants to listen to her, whether the employer will appreciate the mental abilities of a girl who cannot establish emotional contact, whether there are friends who will not be embarrassed by her ... Everyone has heard the story of Natasha Vodianova's younger sister Oksana - this is the big world, in which the child looked out, and his boom on the head, and he, like a turtle, hid back. After several such unsuccessful attempts, a person simply decides that it is easier and safer not to stick out, and finally closes.
For some reason, our society considers such children abnormal, wonderful. And I have a wonderful daughter, cheerful, kind, she never lies. We do not understand how such amazing children see and feel the world. We can only guess. Sometimes it seems that Dasha feels everything more strongly than most of us. We come, for example, to the sea, we come to the beach. We all first of all let's look for sun loungers, lay towels, fuss. And she will stand barefoot on the sand, close her eyes and smile, as if every ray, every breath of the breeze is absorbed by her skin. Dasha taught us to keep our word no matter what. It is impossible to calmly look at the bewilderment in those blue eyes: “But you promised!” She doesn't understand how you can say one thing and do another. It’s hard for her to perceive our world with double standards and hidden meanings, how can you say “sit down on the path” and sit on the sofa ?!
I do not complain about fate, I think that my child is a blessing. Dasha made me better, wiser, more tolerant and stronger. Everyone who knows her says: "She is the sun." Most parents of such children are positive people. And this despite all the difficulties they face. Almost everything has to be gnawed out with teeth, demanded, achieved or done by oneself, without being able to hire specialists.
What advice would you give to other parents? Do not hide children, do not close houses, unite and defend their rights together at various levels. In all countries where comfortable conditions have been created for the life of people with autism, the parental lobby has played and continues to play a huge role. For the most part, problems in children arise not from the anger of people, but from a lack of information.
In fairness, it should be noted that the attitude is gradually changing. And at the state level, questions are being raised. But children cannot wait, they are growing up and they need help here and now. We, fortunately, can afford tutors, a speech therapist and a psychologist. But after all, not everyone has the opportunity to pay for it on their own. Well, in the meantime, global processes are going slowly and with a creak, the principle of “help yourself” has not been canceled.
Better than a mother, no one will understand a child. I know parents who have mastered English so that some new methods that have not yet reached Russia become available to them. In general, advice is more appropriate here (after all, parents who are faced with such a problem can already defend dissertations themselves, besides, there are no two similar autists, each needs an individual approach), but wishes. I want to wish strength and patience to all parents of special children, good kind people on their way and health to the kids!
“Being in this flow is my habit from the time when I myself worked in the news,” admits TV presenter Olga Ushakova, the main face of the Good Morning program. - Now in the morning program this is not required of us, but this is my own bar, which I do not want to lower - I must always be ready to speak on any important topic. But you need to understand: taking a break from information does not mean completely blocking this flow. It's more efficient for me to just switch to reading books or doing homework. That is, you can stay on topic all the time without going crazy if you treat your brain with respect, give your mind quality food, and don’t litter it with unnecessary information from social networks. Sometimes, after all, you stumble upon some kind of nonsense, you read, you follow the link to another nonsense, then you catch yourself and think: “Why am I reading this at all ?!” Not bad, by the way, unloads the brain from the information load of learning a foreign language.
Elena Plotnikova, PRO.Zdorovye: Olga, by the way, with the advent of social networks, everyone is trying to record videos. It turns out that any video blogger can become a host?
: I would still not call bloggers leading. For the most part, blogging is where people pursue their hobby. Sometimes very talented, sometimes it even grows into something quite professional. But still, the profession of a TV presenter is, first of all, a profession that needs to be mastered. I'm talking now about major federal channels. It's not enough to be cute and relaxed. Leaders must be full-fledged journalists. Accordingly, to become a leader, you need to be erudite, have a lively mind and quick reaction, have high stress resistance, strong nerves and physical endurance.
- It is interesting to look behind the scenes of live broadcasts. What absolutely cannot be done? What mistakes can get fired?
- Of course, I'm not the boss, but I assume that the reasons for dismissal are not very different from the standard ones. Firstly, this is a gross violation of discipline and professional ethics. Can they get fired for mistakes? Probably, if they happen systematically and intentionally, then yes. However, the television authorities, of course, know all this cuisine, someone himself was in the chair of the presenter. Therefore, they know what is behind this or that oversight: it can be fatigue at the fifth hour of the broadcast, and a technical collapse, or the mistake of other people behind the scenes. Personally, I realize my mistakes, even minor ones, instantly, and even before someone talks about them, I will already eat myself alive. But I reassure myself that the one who does nothing is not mistaken.
- And then what is allowed? Maybe reservations, tautology and so on?
“It’s not that it’s allowed, but let’s just say it’s not fatal. We are real people, we work live, so no one is immune from reservations and other incidents. Professionalism is manifested in how you get out of difficult situations.
Children are the mirror of their parents
- Olga, you are a great example for many, the mother of two daughters, the eldest had developmental features. Could you give advice to parents whose children have been diagnosed with a difficult diagnosis, how to mentally survive the fact that your child is different from others?
- Unfortunately, no matter how much you read about it, no matter how much you hear, when this suddenly happens in your family, it is always a shock. And from the moment the diagnosis is made to the complete acceptance of the situation and their child, each parent will still go through all the stages: misunderstanding, denial, anger, throwing ... The most important thing that I can advise in this situation is not to close, not to hide. There are thousands of people around who have already gone through this, they can help both in word and deed. First of all, you need to realize that the concept of "normality" is very relative. We often say: "Here, we will not be able to live a normal life ..." This is not so! Everything that happens in our family is absolutely normal for me. This is our norm, whether someone likes it or not. We adapted to all the features and learned to be happy.
Olga Ushakova with her daughters. Photo: press service of Channel One
It's interesting to see how people approach raising children. Some believe that they do not need to be educated at all, the main thing is to love, others that you need to control every step, others that the child needs to become a friend. What type of mom are you?
- I agree that the child must first of all be loved and respected as a person from birth. But, of course, raising children is the primary task of parents. Another thing is what is meant by the word "education". Someone associates it almost with army laws, a belt and a complex scheme of punishments and rewards. I believe that you need to educate by example. It is in our power to instill the right habits, culture, love of reading or music, if that is what is naturally cultivated in your home. All this without any effort the child absorbs from early childhood. If you want your child to become better, start with yourself.
- I read that you have a philosophical attitude to life, live according to the principle "it is better to do and regret." Life experience has shown that you should not give in to the situation?
It's probably in the blood. She was born like this: curious, gambling, stubborn, used to getting her way. And over time, I also began to appreciate this very time more, so I really don’t spend it on long hesitation - I get into a fight, as they say, and then I’ll orient myself according to the situation. Of course, within reason. I am a mother and I am aware of my responsibility.
“Going to work like a soldier!”
- Olga, for almost three years you wake up earlier than other Russians in order to wake them up. Every time you turn on Good Morning, you want to ask the hosts: how do you manage to wake up so early to come to work? What time do you have to get up and go to bed?
- Before Good Morning, my schedule was exactly the opposite, with late broadcasts. So the process of reincarnation from "owl" to "lark" was quite painful. But you get used to everything - and here I am already a full-fledged early bird. Even on weekends, for me to get up around 8 is considered to be lying out late. But I still don't get much sleep on weekdays. Going to bed before 11 does not work in any way, and sometimes you have to get up at 3 in the morning. So these changes just need to be experienced. We hold on as best we can. I drink vitamins, fresh juices, invigorate yoga, sometimes I have to arrange a break for sleep during the day, if it’s completely unbearable.
Everything is simple here: I really love what I do. So, in whatever state I come to work - sleepy, sick, upset - as soon as the broadcast starts, everything fades into the background. There is a drive, a good adrenaline is produced. By the end of the program, however, the battery runs out, so about an hour before the end of the program, my partner and I take a break for breakfast during the news broadcast.
- Maybe you have secrets on how to learn to wake up quickly?
I set my alarm clock exactly at the time when I need to get up. I don’t like to drag out the rubber when you leave yourself time to “lie down”, then you fall asleep again, then the alarm goes off again. No, I'd rather have a full sleep for these 15 minutes, and then I'll get up like a soldier. After all, I am the daughter of a military man. When you sleep for 4-5 hours, then every minute matters. Therefore, I prepare everything in advance in the evening. Clothes are laid out in the order in which they will need to be put on, toothpaste on the brush, tea leaves in a thermo mug, water in the kettle. So I spend a minimum of time on fees in the morning.
Posted by Olga Ushakova (@ushakovao) Mar 8, 2017 at 8:24 PST
"I can't live without eye patches"
Thanks for the compliment, but social media isn't always the real picture. I, like many girls, do not like to flaunt bruises under my eyes, bad mood and other troubles. In addition, there is such a psychological technique that works successfully: if you are sad, you have to force yourself to smile, just stretch your lips in a smile with a physical effort and hold for a while. The brain will receive a certain signal, and the mood will improve. Therefore, I try not to sour for any reason, it becomes a habit, and in general you become a cheerful person. That is, I believe that if you want to be happy, you can force yourself to be happy. After all, happiness is an internal state, it depends only on us, and not on the external environment. But, of course, everyone has bad days, this should also be accepted as part of life. As for how I manage to do everything ... I don’t have time! I just prioritize, so I always do really important things, and if I didn’t manage to do something minor, then I don’t get upset. I take care of myself mostly at home, it saves a lot of time.
- I visit a beautician once every 2 weeks for an ultrasonic facial cleansing. Once every six months I go through a course of mesotherapy. At home, I regularly make moisturizing masks. But the main beauty secret is proper sleep, sports and fresh air. And yet nothing adorns a woman like light from within, and it is possible only when we are in harmony with ourselves and love lives inside us - for family, ourselves, work, the world as a whole.
Olga Ushakova. Photo: press service of Channel One
— Back to your early rise. Usually in the mornings, girls have bruises under their eyes and other morning “charms”. You have nothing at 6 in the morning. What helps?
“I don't do anything special. Well, I had bruises under my eyes from early childhood - very thin skin and close vessels. So I take it easy on them. For the broadcast, of course, they make me up, but even here I prefer a thin foundation and a minimal amount of corrector. Otherwise, I just physically feel the heaviness on the skin. Fortunately, there are still such wonderful people on television as lighting specialists. Here they are responsible for our shining faces. The right light works wonders. For the under eye area, I really like to use patches. They are with me always and everywhere - on the plane, in the car, on vacation.
It's spring now, everything is changing. Does the change of seasons affect you in any way? And how do you plan to spend the summer - at work or are you already looking after something for the holidays?
- I am like a flower: I feel that in the spring I come to life and bloom. I need the sun for energy and inspiration. That is why in winter I often fly away from Moscow for at least a couple of days. Well, I prefer to spend the summer just in our area. We live outside the city, since May we begin to feel like at a resort, when everything begins to bloom, birds sing. My daughters have birthdays in June and July, so these are traditionally the most important events of the summer. At this time, many guests come to us, sometimes we also get out somewhere. But at the same time, summer is also a hard time at work. It is during this period that we have the busiest schedule, so we have to conserve our strength. I try to find positive aspects in any season. But I will not prevaricate: the weather from mid-autumn to mid-spring in our region, to put it mildly, is not for everyone and does not favor long walks. And I love being in nature. Therefore, I look forward to warming, when nature begins to come to life, and with it I come to life.
The family often moved from place to place, from Russia to Ukraine.
I went to school from the age of six, I was an excellent student. She graduated from high school with a gold medal.
Life in a military family left its mark on Olga's character. In particular, according to her, she is accustomed to subordination and discipline. In addition, "frequent migration taught me sociability, the ability to easily find a common language with people." “Because every time you’re new in the class, you had to build relationships. Despite short stops at one school or another, I still had friends everywhere. I even managed to gain some authority,” she recalled.
True, sometimes authority among peers had to be won with fists. “When we traveled around Russian cities, they teased me with a khokhlushka, and when we stayed in Ukrainian ones, with a katsapka. So parents were sometimes called to school because of my bad behavior: again, your daughter got into a fight at recess! Indeed, I could knock the offender side. Most my fights at school were precisely because of this national issue," Olga said.
As a child, she dreamed of becoming a TV presenter. She tried to imitate the announcers, read newspaper articles aloud, trying to memorize the text as much as possible. Later she began to imagine that she was interviewing, pestering her acquaintances, tormenting them with questions. “I was always interested in listening to other people, bringing them to some kind of revelation. But becoming a TV presenter was then such an unrealistic dream from the category“ I want to become a princess ”, as if even dreaming is stupid,” she admitted.
Therefore, after school, she entered the Kharkov National University named after V. N. Karazin (former Gorky Kharkiv State University).
In Ukraine, she worked in business, by the age of twenty-three she became the head of one of the branches of a large trading company - they promoted fashionable foreign brands to the market.
Then her common-law husband moved her to the Russian capital. He insisted that she become a TV presenter. She went to audition at Ostankino, she was appreciated. The only problem she had was a Ukrainian accent.
She was taken on an internship, but she had to study the technique of speech. In addition, she studied television cuisine from the inside, learned to write texts and take part in the creation of a program, tried herself in various departments - from editorial to international.
Interestingly, the first TV star that Olga met at Ostankino was.
“On one of my first visits to Ostankino, when I came to apply for a temporary pass, I met Leonid Yakubovich in the corridor. I remember he was walking towards me, I looked at him, and then suddenly said: “Hello!” He seemed so familiar to me and acquaintances, I watched his program for so many years. He, not in the least surprised, greeted me back. And here I fell into some kind of semi-conscious state. "Wow! Yakubovich just greeted me!" she recalled her impressions of this meeting.
In the end, without a special journalistic education, she became a TV presenter.
She hosted a news program for nine years. Then she became one of the faces of the Good Morning program.
The TV presenter says about herself: “I am a very mobile person. Friends often joke that, probably, I was taken away from the gypsies in childhood. In fact, my whole family led a nomadic lifestyle. Dad is a military man, and we moved every six months: different cities, schools , at home. For some, this is stress, but for me, an adventure. After all, every yard is a new playground that has yet to be mastered. And this desire to change places has remained. "
The growth of Olga Ushakova: 172 centimeters.
Personal life of Olga Ushakova:
She lived in a civil marriage with a man who is much older than her. They met in Ukraine. Then he moved to do business in Moscow and Olga followed him.
The couple had two daughters - Ksenia and Daria.
Olga did not show her ex-civil husband, nor did she give his last name. At the same time, she always spoke of him with great respect. She said: “I think it was Oscar Wilde who said: if I love someone, I don’t say his name because I don’t want to share this person with others. I’m not sure I reproduced verbatim, but the meaning is clear. In any case, when in a couple one person is public, and the second is not, this is always a problem.One thing I can say is that I learned the most important thing from my long-term relationship: two wonderful children and a tremendous experience.And these same children received the best father in the world, whom only I am glad that during these years my life partner was a man who gave me a lot in terms of spiritual and intellectual development. He is older than me and in many ways became my mentor. God forbid that the children take as much from him as possible. "
In the summer of 2017, Olga married a businessman named Adam, he is in the restaurant business. The wedding celebration took place on the shores of the Mediterranean Sea, in Cyprus.
In October 2018, Olga Ushakova announced on social networks that she had become a victim of the misbehavior of famous Russian football players and. Ushakova said that her driver Vitaly Solovchuk was hospitalized, and she wrote a statement to the police about the damage to the car. The incident took place near the Beijing Hotel. The driver was waiting for Ushakova in the parking lot. Five men behaved like hooligans on the road and he reprimanded them. The brawlers did not like it, they pulled the man out of the car and beat him. As a result, the driver's nose was broken and he received a concussion. After that, the company of hooligans went to a coffee shop on Bolshaya Nikitskaya. There, official Denis Pak became their victim. The driver of Olga Ushakova identified Kokorin and Mamaev from the photographs.
Morning is good if it starts with good thoughts and charming Olga Ushakova. This charming TV presenter of the Good Morning program on Channel One has been charging viewers with positive for more than a year. Looking at Olga, it's hard to believe that this young woman has two daughters, Dasha and Ksyusha, who have already gone to the third grade. The TV presenter told us about her methods of raising daughters and how to become a happy mother.
- Olga, you manage to successfully combine family and career, while you look so great that you serve as an excellent example for many mothers. How do you do it?
“My priority has always been and is children. I was in no hurry to get out of the decree, although I understood that on television “a holy place is never empty” and in a couple of years you can lose your positions. Of course, I love my job and cherish it, but I know that work can be changed, you can even start from scratch, you can try yourself in new areas, and grown-up children can no longer be made babies and you won’t return all the precious moments lost, and educate there will be no chance again. Therefore, if you have to choose, then I have no doubts.
Fortunately, life does not often put me in front of such a choice, so I manage to combine everything successfully. I come home after work in the morning, that is, I already pick up the children from school myself. Due to the floating schedule, it is possible to plan weekends for children's holidays and go somewhere with them. We often go to events together. There is also enough personal time now, daughters are growing up, spending half a day at school, they have more and more interests of their own, sometimes friends come to play for the whole day, and then a mother with a clear conscience can go to the gym or hairdresser.
- Most mothers do not immediately decide on a second baby, remembering the difficulties that arise in the first months and years. Did you plan on having your second child so soon?
- The key point here is “remembering the difficulties”, but I didn’t even have time to get scared - I got pregnant with the second when my first child was only 3 months old. I won’t say what we planned, but we assumed such a possibility, that is, we left, so to speak, this issue to the will of fate. Fate turned out to be favorable to us, and we had another wonderful daughter. I call it "the happiest accident" in my life.
- The first pregnancy flew by unnoticed, I worked until the seventh month, then went on vacation, and then - immediately on maternity leave. Toxicosis tormented me a little, it was rather unpleasant when the symptoms rolled in early in the morning when you were broadcasting news on the air. I carried a sliced lemon with me. When everything is gone, it remains only to enjoy your condition. I was active, did not gain much excess weight, buttoned up essential jackets almost until the very vacation. But in recent months it was not easy - she was in the hospital, then at home - with droppers. But even this did not bother me, there was time to relax, prepare for the birth of a child both mentally and from the point of view of everyday life.
Shortly before the appearance of my daughter, when the threat of premature birth was removed, I rearranged the entire apartment, equipped the nursery, plunging everyone at home into shock, ran around the shops, walked up the stairs, in general, the “nesting syndrome” did not bypass me.
But the second pregnancy was more difficult. At first there was a very strong toxicosis, which I didn’t recognize right away, because I was busy with the baby, and I thought that I was just very emaciated, lost weight to the bones, while still managing to keep breastfeeding, then somehow quickly I became quite overweight and clumsy, just when the older one had to jump, walk by the handles, etc. But on the other hand, the second birth was very easy, and this compensated for all the difficulties of the previous nine months.
- What difficulties did you face after the birth of your daughters? After all, growing the weather is very difficult ...
“My mother helped me a lot. For the first six months, she lived with us, and we “changed” children depending on the situation. But in general, my strategy was initially such that the children should not be separated, but rather, plan the day so that, if possible, we spent as much time together as possible. The youngest was born in mid-July, besides, she slept for a long time and calmly in a stroller on the street. We used this time for the older one to “come out”. Instead of a baby walker, she had a stroller with her younger sister. The more we synchronized the girls' daily routine, the easier it became. Over time, the difficulties with the weather give way to advantages.
– Many women who have known the joy of motherhood say that having children has radically changed their lives. But not the regime and the pace of life, which, of course, is already becoming different, but it changed them as a person. Tell us, what feelings did you have after the birth of the first and second daughters?
Of course, motherhood changes a woman. Everything that seemed important before fades against the backdrop of responsibility for children and their future. It seems to me that with the birth of children, I became more filled or something, real. And even in appearance it is reflected. Looking at my old photos, I see some kind of rigidity in myself that I did not realize. And then true unconditional love came into my life. I began to take care not only of the children, but also of myself. After all, now I am a mother and should be responsible. Everything that I do, I do with an eye on my daughters, I think what example I set for them, I understand that their happiness to some extent depends on how I live my life. They taught me to love not only themselves, but the whole world in its most diverse manifestations.
– Modern mothers, especially with the advent of Instagram, constantly compare themselves with others and these comparisons are usually not in their favor. How to stop comparing yourself with someone more successful and form an inferiority complex in yourself?
- I have never compared myself with anyone, and the feeling of envy is alien to me. Lucky with the character in this sense, I guess. I can be sincerely happy for someone, someone can motivate me. Probably, this is how you need to set yourself up when you look at someone else's life through the prism of social networks. At the same time, we must not forget that the life that is put on display rarely reflects reality. Few people are ready to talk about their failures publicly and put their shortcomings on public display. Therefore, all this gloss should not be perceived as true happiness.
Think about what is good in your life. If this is not a slender figure immediately after childbirth, then perhaps the best and most caring father of your children. If not magazine-style breakfasts, then maybe you've been lying in bed all morning with your kids, fooling around or just cuddling up in each other's arms. We do not have to be perfect, we have the right to be disheveled in the morning if the child has been playing tricks all night. We don't owe anything to anyone, especially the Internet community. Well, if you would like to get closer to some kind of Instagram ideal, then close the Internet, do not waste precious time, but go for a run. Just 20 minutes of exercise a day instead of contemplating someone else's life - and maybe in a month you will also have something to brag about.
- What is the most difficult thing for you in raising children?
- I understand what responsibility lies on the mother of girls for their further female happiness, because we are now laying certain patterns that they will then reproduce in their own lives. The price of your mistakes is the future of children. But things don't always go smoothly in life. And for me this is the biggest difficulty - to explain adult problems to little girls without destroying their faith in love, to educate them as women who will not repeat my mistakes.
It is still quite difficult to balance between the desire to shelter them from all adversity and the desire to grow a strong independent personality. This is also hard work on yourself - to learn to let go of those for whom you are ready to give your life.
- Do the daughters get along well with each other or do they have any conflicts?
- There are conflicts, and quarrels, and resentment - without this, nowhere. But I know for sure and I see how they love each other, feel responsible for their sister (our roles of older / younger are constantly changing), stand up for each other. For a while they were one. In the last two years, I have seen how they separate, become completely different, different interests stand out from each other. But sisterly love does not become less from this. And for me, as a mother, this is the greatest happiness - to watch how they move to the same bed in the morning and giggle about something about their own.
– Your girls have been going to school for several years, probably, each of them already has favorite subjects and a predisposition to certain sciences? They are already thinking about choosing a future profession. What do they dream of becoming?
– Professions change with a frequency of about once a month. But I see that, in general, a predisposition to certain professions has already been outlined. For example, the eldest - Dasha - loves foreign languages, shows interest not only in those that are taught at school (English and French), but sometimes takes an Italian, Spanish or German dictionary from the shelf, sits down, flips through silently, and then, as if by the way produces a phrase. At the same time, she reads a lot, and she has a good memory, so literacy in her native language is also in full order.
But Ksyusha, although she is an excellent student and does well in absolutely all subjects, is clearly a creative person: she draws beautifully, models clothes, hairstyles, and now she can quite well apply makeup, create a full-fledged image, thought out to the smallest detail. Everything, of course, can still change, but certain inclinations in girls are already visible.
- Do you think parents should influence the choice of the child in terms of choosing a profession, school, friends?
- My task as a parent is to raise healthy children, physically and psychologically, give them a versatile education, show them the world and opportunities, and then they themselves will decide where to direct their steps. I will support them anyway. After all, by my example I know how important it is to have a job you love, and not to suffer from 9 to 6 five days a week.
As for friends, I do not promise. I have educated, kind daughters and friends they now choose the same. But I myself was a teenager and I remember that when the period of rebellion comes, then good girls can suddenly find a tear-off friend and go all out. Now I can only take preventive measures: not to “beat” children, not to put grades at the forefront, give them a sense of freedom and the right to choose, and also help strengthen my own inner core so that the child is a leader, not a follower. But there is also a set of qualities with which a child is born, and it is impossible to re-educate them. I already see the risks and keep my finger on the pulse. I will try not to miss the moment and, if necessary, then, yes, I will intervene. But again, in a cunning way, so that the child thinks that he himself decided that way. The task is not easy, but there is no choice.
- Do you have family traditions and rituals, for example, joint walks on weekends, kisses before going to bed, regular trips somewhere?
The usefulness of family traditions cannot be overestimated. Of course, we also have them. In the evenings, we lie in bed and talk about how the day went, we always try to sit down at the table together, we go to our favorite cafe on Saturdays. We have a tradition called English Friday, when we speak only English all day long. We like to cook together.
There are certain traditions for the holidays, we love Easter most of all, we bake Easter cakes together, paint eggs, in the morning I get up before everyone else and set the table, take out our Easter decorations, then I hide a basket of chocolate eggs in the garden and after breakfast the girls start hunting. When someone is sad, we practice “magic hugs”, and, you know, I convinced the children so often that this is a great medicine, that they really began to help.
What do you like to do with your daughters together?
"Anything, as long as we're together!" Any homework turns into a real party if the three of us take on it. Recently they cleaned the leaves in the garden, raked everything into a huge pile, and then jumped into it and threw leaves. As a result, almost everything had to be reassembled, but how much fun we had. I love traveling with children, I want to instill in them my passion for discoveries and new experiences. Unfortunately, the new generation scares me with their resistance to adventure, sometimes it seems that among the three of us, the child is me, and those two are my parents. But I manage to stir them up, then they also sincerely begin to enjoy what they might not have noticed.
- Olga, you often communicate with fans on social networks, willingly respond to comments on Instagram. Do you allow your daughters to use gadgets and the Internet?
Yes, they have both phones and tablets. But in social networks, of course, they are not yet registered. Sometimes I show them my pages, ask permission if I want to post a photo with them, then read them comments if, for example, they are congratulated on their birthday. They themselves can watch funny videos about kittens on YouTube or cartoon series, prepare reports for the school. I still keep an eye on it with one eye, because sometimes the Internet can involuntarily slip you some kind of filth. As for games, they can download them themselves, but I make sure that most of them are useful, for example, logic games or mathematical applications, well, and the rest, so to speak, for the soul and fun.
- What do you think is missing today's children? For example, many representatives of the older generations are sure that children now live in abundance - information, opportunities, even some simple things, the same toys, and this affects them badly ...
– I partly agree with this. Our children do not have hunger in the good sense of the word. What is easily obtained is little appreciated. I remember how we passed books from hand to hand, what I read still lives in my memory, I tried to remember every word, because the book had to be given away. I remember how happy I was even with new tights. Children today have fewer reasons to be happy. It's not their fault that they were born into the age of consumption. So I try my best to teach them to enjoy what money can't buy: a beautiful sunset, an unusual bug in the forest. When there's a thunderstorm outside, we stick to our windows and watch nature rage like it's the biggest theatrical production in the world.
When we take off in an airplane, I rant about how amazing it is that we humans can fly, we look at the clouds, we enjoy the sensations. I must say that it is not easy to stir up today's ten-year-olds, but I believe that teaching children to enjoy life, to be surprised, to look for answers to questions is almost more important than teaching them good manners.
- Olga, tell us how, in your opinion, children should be raised so that they grow up as worthy people and at the same time be happy?
“You have to be a worthy person yourself – that’s the first thing. When it comes to happiness, it's more difficult - you can't force someone to be happy. But you need to try to put into the child the idea that happiness lives inside him, it should not depend on external circumstances, on the weather, on school friends. I say “try” because most likely a person comes to this understanding on his own, but at least a seed can be sown in a child’s head.
- Tell me, what does it take to be a happy mother?
– I always say that happiness is in harmony. Including maternal. For some, it means coming home from work to children and hugging them. For some, happiness is being at home all the time. It is important to hear yourself, understand what you really want and follow it. Without guilt and self-reproach. With the birth of children, a woman does not die, she should not dissolve in them, otherwise who will they take an example from? From the ghost of your own mother? And the point here is not to run away from home and take care of yourself. Even being with children, a woman must provide herself with her own space, her time, respect for her needs from those close to her. Trust me, you will do it for their good too. After all, you are now the center of their universe. This center should be strong and self-confident. Trite, but true: if a woman does not love herself, then it is difficult for others to love her.
A happy mother is just a happy woman, and only she knows what constitutes her personal happiness. Yes, at some moments we sacrifice ourselves for the sake of our loved ones, sometimes we need to completely surrender to household chores, but in all this the main thing is not to lose ourselves, not to shut up our inner voice. A family will only be happy when it takes into account the interests of everyone. Easy in words, sometimes harder in practice, but this must be strived for. Awareness is already half the path to success.
