In this article, we will not talk about how to properly communicate with a girl. Why? Yes, because I already wrote about it. Who cares - read.
Today's topic is what you can and what you don't need to talk about with a girl. What words to say to a girl, and what not? In the process of dating, on a date, in the process of seduction. I do not take the situation when you already live together, have given birth to three children and have a cat.
So, the task is formulated, the goal is set, now you can reveal the topic (boobs). If you want to meet and seduce a girl, then you need to communicate with her in such a way that:
- she was interested in talking;
- you could speak easily enough, filling awkward pauses;
- it would also be cool if in the process of communication she became interested in you, that is, if the conversation put you in a favorable light.
Therefore, topics on which you can enter into a sacred argument are not very good (to put it mildly) for communication in the context of seduction. These are topics such as politics, religion, racism, nationalism. A topic where you can find yourself in a state of holy war with diametrically opposed opinions. I understand that we all love to argue and prove to the enemy the correctness of our point of view. All this, of course, is great, but it has nothing to do with seduction.
With a high probability, the girl will not be interested in discussing the latest exploits of your favorite football team (there are, however, exceptions, but they always exist, we try to highlight the rules), your exploits in computer games. Of course, you can be an amazing storyteller and get the girl excited about any topic, but if you choose the wrong topic, it will be a little more difficult to get the girl involved.
What can you talk about with a girl? Oh, there are really many such topics. Let's list them.
About leisure. About how you spend your free time, about how she spends her free time. What has been interesting lately, where would you like to go, what to see. It can be trips to the theater, cinema, exhibitions, travel, trips out of town. If, while reading this, you suddenly realized that your whole life comes down to the proposal of home-work-home-on_Friday_get drunk_with_friends, then you should think about planning your leisure time. Relevant resources to help you.
About art. About music, classical and modern films, photography, painting, architecture. If you are well versed in classical music, can tell a lot of interesting things about the Impressionists and the late Renaissance, regularly visit theaters and can talk about the current repertoire - feel free to start the topic of art. Girls are really interested in it.
About sport. If you are engaged in and fond of some kind of sport, lead a sports lifestyle - talk to the girl about it. If it's an unusual, or even better, extreme sport, it will add points to you. Alpine skiing, snowboarding, wakeboarding, kitesurfing, classic surfing, parachuting, paragliders. Sea sports. Choose any to your taste. By the way, it is also useful to practice sports, and not just talk about it.
About friends and relationships. Girls are terrible gossips. Tell them a couple of interesting cases from your life, the lives of your friends. Watch how she listens to it, how she comments. Most likely, she will tell you something in response about her friends. Friends give us positive emotions, talking about them, we remember them. It's uplifting.
About deep, emotional themes. About childhood, about your dreams. But there is an important point here: before moving on to such topics, the girl must trust you quite strongly. These are quite personal topics, not everyone will discuss them. To begin with, you can talk on general topics, and then move on to personal ones. And one more thing: before you ask a girl about her dream, tell her about yours. If you do everything right, with a high probability you won’t even have to ask her, she herself will tell you about her dreams in response.
Getting to know new people is one of the usual parts of our lives. Even if you get along well with people, sometimes there may be moments when you do not know what to say and wonder why your interlocutors have moved on to another topic. If you have a rough list of topics for conversation in your head, you will not panic. You will be ready to always keep the conversation going. All you need to do is get one of the topics out of your head and continue the conversation.
Steps
Part 1
Starting a conversation- Ask for a person's opinion. You can relate it to what is happening around you right now, to current events, or just talk about whatever you want to discuss.
- Take an interest in a person's life. Ask where he comes from, what kind of childhood he had, and the like.
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Start conversations with friends and strangers in different ways. The previous tips were for a situation where you don't know your interlocutor well enough yet. There are other options to start a conversation:
- With those you know well: Ask how they're doing, what's new in the last week, how their project or school is going, how their kids are doing, or if they've seen an interesting new TV show or movie.
- With those you know but haven't seen for a long time: ask what has happened in their lives since you last saw each other, if they still live in the same house, if they still work at their previous jobs, ask about their children and if there are new ones (if that matters), or whether they have seen your mutual friends recently.
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Know what to avoid. Follow the basic rule: never talk about religion, politics, money, relationships, family problems, health problems, or sex with people you don't know well. You may accidentally offend them, so stay away from such topics.
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Find out what their hobbies and interests are. At this point, communication becomes more personal. It is up to you whether this conversation goes well. Ask relevant questions.
- Do you play or are fond of any sports?
- Do you enjoy spending time online?
- What do you like to read?
- What do you do in your free time?
- What kind of music do you like?
- What films do you like?
- What are your favorite TV shows?
- What is your favorite board game?
- Do you like animals? What is your favorite animal?
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Connect questions about the family. A safe option is to talk about siblings or find out basic information (such as where the person grew up). Parents can be a touchy subject if the person has had any problems with them, if they were raised by strangers, or if the parents have recently died. Talking about children can be an uncomfortable topic for couples who are having trouble or disagreeing about childbearing. You should also not talk about children with a person who really wants to have them, but cannot find a suitable partner.
- Do you have brothers and sisters? How many?
- If there are no brothers and sisters, then what is it like to grow up as an only child?
- What are their names?
- How old are they?
- What are they doing? (depending on how old they are). Do they go to school or university? Do they have a job?
- Are you like them?
- Do you have much in common?
- Where did you grow up?
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Ask about their travels. Ask the person where he has been. If he has never left his hometown, ask where he would like to go.
- If you had the opportunity to move to another country, which country would it be and why?
- Of all the cities you have visited in the world, which one do you like the most?
- Where did you spend your last vacation? Did you like it?
- What is the best/worst trip of your life?
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Ask about food and drinks. Talking about food is a little easier, as there is a chance that you will start a conversation about liquor with a person who does not drink alcohol or has a certain problem with alcohol. Be careful that your conversation does not turn to what kind of diet the interlocutor is following or how he is trying to lose weight. This can take the conversation in a negative direction. Instead ask:
- If you could choose one dish for a lifetime, what would it be?
- What places do you like to have lunch or dinner at?
- Do you enjoy cooking?
- What are your favorite sweets?
- What is the most negative restaurant experience you remember?
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Ask about work. This topic is a little touchy, as there is a chance that the interlocutor will have the feeling that he is in an interview. But if you can have a pleasant and casual conversation on this topic, then the conversation can turn out to be quite interesting. Don't forget that a person may still be studying, quitting, or looking for a job. Here's a sample conversation starter:
- What do you do? Where do you work or study?
- What was your first job?
- Who was your favorite boss?
- What did you want to be when you were a child?
- What do you like most about your job?
- If money wasn't important and you had the opportunity to work whoever you want, what would you be?
- If you find out that a person is currently unemployed, but you have something to offer him, do not be shy. Usually people are interested.
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Give a sincere compliment. Compliment what the person did, not how they look. This will allow the conversation to continue about his skills. If you say that a person has beautiful eyes, then they will thank you, and the conversation will end there. Unless you ask how your interlocutor increases them. Here are some good examples:
- I really enjoyed your performance on the piano. How long have you been playing?
- You looked very confident during the speech. How did you manage to create such a great presentation?
- Your run was amazing. How many times a week do you train?
Part 2
Developing a conversation-
Keep up a light conversation. You should not expect that from the first moments a miracle will happen in your relationship with a stranger. You can hope for an initial rapport, so you better stick to a topic that is interesting and entertaining for the other person.
- Avoid talking about your problems and negative situations. If you notice that people look weird during these conversations, it's because they don't expect to hear such serious topics during a normal informal conversation.
- Most people are looking for polite, interesting and simple topics to talk about, and negative points can ruin a conversation and create a pause in a casual conversation.
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Allow silence. Silence doesn't have to be awkward - it allows you to gather your thoughts and think of topics for conversation that the other person will enjoy. This will give you both a breather and a little pause.
- Such silence can become awkward if you become nervous or worried because you are silent.
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Share your interests. If you find out that both of you love to run, talk about your common interest. But remember that you will have to talk about other things as well. A 45-minute conversation about running will seem strange to most people.
Part 3
Pushing the boundaries- Think before you speak. You can't take back your words. People remember the conversations you had with them. So try to be friendly, unless you want to be remembered otherwise.
- The best way to have a conversation is to ask each other questions. It shouldn't feel like a competition, you should be able to carry on a conversation without being dominated.
- If this is your first time talking to a person, try to avoid sarcasm. However, if a person shows sarcasm, do not lose face, be witty. But know the measure.
- Don't ask all the questions above in a row. This will put the person in an uncomfortable position, it will seem to him that he is being interrogated.
- If you're seeing a person for the first time, it's best to start a conversation about the place where you both ended up, rather than starting with a random topic.
- Be friendly and don't offend anyone.
- Listen carefully. After the person answers your question, think of something that relates to the topic of conversation and talk about it. Alternatively, you can answer the question yourself, even if you were not asked to.
- Check out the news. Read a newspaper or search the Internet for interesting current stories.
- Avoid monosyllabic answers like "yes", "no" or "okay". Such conversations have only one way - to nowhere.
- If you text a girl, make sure you don't offend her. She may disconnect and end your conversation.
- The first thing you should remember when talking to a person is their name! It seems that it is very simple, but sometimes memory can fail.
If you are just taking your first steps in a pickup truck, and you don’t have much experience with girls, the question naturally arises, what to talk about with a new girlfriend. After all, when for the first time, a lot of all sorts of nuances arise: since she is you, you start to worry, and because of this, communication does not stick well.
Therefore, before the meeting, it is better to have a plan in your head: what, what you can catch on in communication, where to lead it and how to avoid awkward pauses.
The first question that you should ask yourself is: “for what purpose am I going for a walk now, and what exactly do I want from a girl?”. After all, this is very important! Why do so many dates end in nothing? The guy likes the girl and he meets completely aimlessly in fact, he does not know what to do and where to direct his communication. Girls feel such insecurity very well, and they quickly become bored and uninterested.
For example, you say to yourself: I like this girl. At the meeting, I want her to be interested in me. I want to get close to her and kiss her. Ultimately, I want to have sex with her.
And when the goals are set, you can carry on the conversation in a certain way. What kind of communication can lead to sex? Obviously not a discussion of their hobbies, and who is studying for whom.
Therefore, flirting should be present in your communication. And the initiative of this flirting should come from you.
Interesting topics for a conversation with a girl
- Her appearance. After you greeted her, hugged and kissed her, you can pay attention to her appearance. For example, say that she has a cool topic with an interesting print, and start discussing it, what does this mean. In this case, you drive her into an evaluation framework, and she already begins to think how you like it, and that there may be something wrong with her.)
- extreme sports. Tell her how you do roadjumping, how cool it is and how you feel about it. Let her try it too. Your girlfriend will imagine all this and begin to experience emotions. What's the most important thing on a date? Emotions!
- Tell me about some cool or interesting case from your life in which you ended up with your girlfriend. That is, you talk about the situation and, as if in passing, mention that there is at least one other woman in your life. This immediately creates competition for you in the girl's head. For example: a friend drove me on a date, and we saw such a terrible accident .. and then blah blah blah ... the emphasis is on the incident, but the girl will immediately notice that you have a friend who also does something for you.
- Ask, How would she behave in a given situation?. An example of a situation should also be with a provocation. For example, you are sitting in some institution, and you ask: how would you behave if that girl over there came up to me now and invited me to dance? It doesn't matter what she says. The main thing is that the necessary mental image has already been created in her head, which also works for competition for you.
- Tell me about travel. Where have you been and what have you seen. About the most memorable moments. Ask her the same. By the way, this is a good test of a girl. Usually, people who have never been anywhere, and they don’t even have such a desire, turn out to be quite closed and boring. Why do you want a girl who doesn't care about much?
Topics for talking with a girl in VK
I do not recommend tightening. Try to take the girl's phone number as soon as possible and arrange to meet in real life. In VK it is quite difficult to maintain a conversation at the right degree, and it is pointless. If a girl does not give a number and breaks down, forget about her and go to another one.
How to communicate with a girl
An equally important point. After all, if you use all of the above points, but you are insecure and boring, then no, even super interesting and intriguing topics for conversation will help you. So remember, it's not even important WHAT speak, and HOW speak.
Talk to a girl confidently. Don't fawn over her. Don't try to please her.
Imagine that during your communication, on a mental level, you give her a gift. In the form of positive energy, good mood, interesting information. See how her reaction has changed.
As you gain experience, you will have less and less questions about how to find topics for a conversation with a girl in real life, on the Internet, on VK, on the phone Yes, in all situations. It's like boxing. When you first come to a workout, your hands do not obey, everything turns out barely. But after a few months of regular training, you already have a blow, you defend well, and you don’t think about your every action. So here, you stop worrying about how to start a conversation and what you can talk about with a girl.
Ran out of topics for communication with a girl?
Keep a few more options:
- Ask about a dream.
- About being able to cook. Here you can have a good joke)
- "What do you want to be when you grow up?")
- Talk about women's and men's fashion.
That's all. Good luck!
Today we will talk about interesting topic and let's see what you can talk about with a girl?
Hobbies
For example, you enjoy playing a musical instrument, rollerblading or playing video games. In this case, if the girl is also at least a little fond of this, then she can be invited to ride. Even if she does not know how to ride, in this case, you can offer to teach her. In addition, there is the opportunity to play video games together or play a musical instrument for her.
About leisure
One of the many topics of conversation is how you spend your free time. You can talk about what has been interesting in your life lately, where you went or what you plan to see in the future. These can be trips to the cinema, theater, exhibitions, field trips or various trips.
Cinema or other trips
You are always allowed to ask, “Did you go to the cinema to see a movie…?”. So you can find out what the girl likes to watch and invite to the movie.
Sport
If you enjoy playing a sport, then you should talk about it. If it will be some unusual or extreme sport, it will add some points to you. Many girls are interested in these topics and will be interested in listening to you.
Memorable places
Almost any city has interesting museums, theaters, exhibitions. You need to find out detailed information about them and invite a girl there.
Emotional themes
You can always talk about your childhood or your dreams. But know that when you talk about such topics, the girl must completely trust you. These are too personal topics and not worth discussing with everyone. First you need to talk about general topics, and then move on to personal ones.
Food
From simple family dinners to favorite dishes, good cafes, exotic seafood. Invitations to your favorite cafe or picnic.
Cars
Ask if the girl likes cars. Can she drive or does she want to learn? Share your thoughts on what kind of car you would like to buy.
Music
Talk to the girl about your and her favorite music, songs, bands. All girls like this theme and you can always share music with it if you have the same tastes.
Study and work
You can talk about funny situations that happened at school or work. Ask about relationships in the team: about bosses, teachers, etc.
Relationship
Ask what kind of guy she wants to meet. What worries her: tediousness, betrayal, greed, etc. Give your opinion in response. Ask about your friends and tell about yours. Remember that in this conversation you do not need to remember former girlfriends.
Children
Younger brothers and sisters, kids, nephews and just acquaintances. In such a topic, there will definitely be something to talk about: pranks, whims, funny statements.
Holidays
Ask what her favorite holiday is, what she likes to receive or give. Also tell us about your favorite holiday and gifts.
Pets
Unbeatable theme! If a girl has various pets, then you can talk forever. Do not forget to tell about your pet and ask if she wants to have another pet in the future.
Sex
You can shock the girl and in the course of conversations tell about your sexual preferences. But for this you need to wait until your relationship is really close. In the meantime, you can always talk about famous star couples.
Movie is a universal theme. We start with the question: “Have you been to the cinema *?” We find out that he likes to watch, whether he goes to night sessions, we talk about new products and invite him to the film - it's in the bag!
Hobbies. For example, you roller skate or collect stamps. In the first case, after a short conversation, you can invite to ride. If you can't, promise to teach. In the second - to tell a romantic story related to your favorite brand and invite you to see the collection. In a conversation, do not forget to ask what the girl is interested in, and give time to talk about it.
Literature. Does the girl like to read? If yes, go ahead. What have you been reading lately? What is your favorite writer? Tell me what you are reading. Maybe you know which book will be filmed soon? Have you read the new book from the series she likes? Promise to read.
Museums, places of interest. There are plenty of them in every city. You need to pick up a guidebook and remember the information at least about those where you visit most often. Then at any moment you can strike with intelligence approximately in the following spirit: “Do you know that Pushkin (James Bond, Carlson) lived in this house?” We are interested in the lady's favorite places, tell a romantic story about her favorite park and invite her to take a walk.
Bad habits. It is better to talk about the “cute” shortcomings: the habit of constantly being late, losing pens, or vice versa - imperceptibly collecting them from all your friends. The main thing is to have fun.
Money. Talking about how much daily travel and meals, CDs, books cost is a good opportunity to start a conversation. True, you should not delay it, he will still think that you are a miser. After a couple of opinions, move on to another topic. For example, to food.
Food. From family dinners with grandma's pies to favorite dishes, exotic seafood, good cafes, barbecue trips, etc. An invitation to your favorite cafe or out of town on the weekend would be completely logical in this case.
Travel, walks. You can talk about your recent travel. Ask where the girl likes to go, ride, about her favorite weather for walking, where she would like to visit. What do you like more - forest, mountains or diving into the unexplored depths of the sea for treasures.
Cars, transport. Ask if the girl drives a car. If not, is there a desire? What cars do you like? What other transport would you like to drive - a spaceship or an armored personnel carrier? Share your thoughts on your dream car.
Work and study. Tell us a couple of funny situations from your work or study practice. Ask about relationships in the team: are there common holidays, ask about bosses and teachers. Surely in these stories there is something in common, there will be something to laugh at.
Rest. What do you do on weekends? With any answer to the question, we do not criticize anything, even if the girl does not get up from the couch all day, eating cakes in kilograms. Maybe she has a terribly stressful job, and this is a compensation for stress. Your job is to keep the conversation going.
Sport. Start gently with your favorite sports. If you hear that a girl is doing ballet or dancing, do not rush to laugh “at the top of her lungs“. Try it at home in front of a mirror, standing on tiptoe, raising your legs, sitting down, jumping and at the same time waving your arms beautifully for a couple of hours in a row. Your suffering will have nothing to do with ballet, but you will feel the degree of stress. Famous athletes, gyms, types of swimming, sports tourism - there are many topics.
From sports to health. Here is the time to say that it is better to ride bicycles in the fresh air than to sniff glue in basements. We can philosophize a little on this topic together. Unless, of course, the girl yawns during your moralizing lecture.
Religion. Do you believe in God, in fate, are you interested in Buddhism, the history of religions, do you not even believe in chance, etc.? Do not be shy, ask if she believes in predestination from above or believes that a person creates his own destiny. Do you feel that your meetings are not accidental? Point it out. It might be an interesting conversation.
Relationship. Here you can ask what kind of guy she would like to meet. What will not tolerate: betrayal, tediousness, greed, etc. Express your opinions in response. Ask about your friends, tell about yours. Just don't start scrupulously sorting out ex-girlfriends.
Children. Toddlers, younger siblings, nieces and just acquaintances. There will definitely be something to discuss: funny statements, pranks, whims. If the lady you have chosen is already a mother, the conversation can be endless. You can find out how serious the person in front of you is.
Gifts, holidays. What holiday is the best? What gifts do you like? Giving or receiving? About myself, definitely. For example: you love winter, New Year, Santa Claus and swimming in the hole under the tangerine rain in the same fins.
Cloth. Be sure to compliment her on her beautiful appearance. Play a joke on your favorite jeans. Ask: how does she feel about the guys working on the podium? Hint that a woman in any clothes is beautiful - any real man knows this.
Pets. The topic is a win-win, unless you just ran into an outright psychopath. Does she have a cat, a dog, a rat, a fish, a parrot? Praise! Be sure to talk about your pets. Imagine what your favorite iguana and her guinea pigs would do together.
Sex. You can shock a girl by immediately reporting your sexual preferences. True, the result will be extremely doubtful. Therefore, wait until your relationship becomes really close. In the meantime, you can talk about famous couples: are they really suitable for each other.
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