Singing a hit about the sun in her hands, the mother of two children, the soloist of the Demo group Sasha Zvereva sometimes wanted to cry from impotence. Even being at home, the singer could not feel protected. About the humiliation that she had to endure, and about how she found her new happiness, Sasha told Alla ZANIMONETS.
Decision made, no return
- Early in the morning I go to my husband. "Ilya, we have to pay for the dances Vasilisa. Give me two thousand rubles. In response, I hear: “Pay yourself. I'll give it back later. You know I didn't pay off my loans." This eternal "later" and blatant lies about some mythical loans infuriated me! From resentment for the children, on whom my own father spares money, I lost my self-control. I released my claws like a wild cat, clung to his back, scratched, shouting that he had already got me with his stinginess. The rage was so strong that I realized: yes, I'm ready to kill him! And suddenly, as if I woke up, I said to myself: “Sasha, what are you doing? So far from sin. And then you go to jail." My head immediately cleared up, I say quite calmly: “That's all for today! Go to work. Good luck!" I turn around, go to the children's room and freeze in place. And then suddenly I jump from the thought: "I'm starting a new life."
I wake up the children and tell them to get ready as soon as possible. I am writing a note to Ilya: “You have lost all the best that you had.” I put Vasilisa and Makar in the car, calling my friends along the way: “Does anyone have an empty apartment?” One of the acquaintances responds: "Sashka, stay with me on Chertanovskaya." The apartment was tiny. We piled things in a corner, and in the evening we went to sleep on a narrow bed with a valet. But I felt happy. The Rubicon has been crossed - the decision has finally been made and there is no going back. Joy was mixed with fear: will I still have a personal life with two children in my arms? In order not to be afraid and not to return to an established life, she ordered herself: “Sasha, be patient! You won't live like you used to."
Ilya cut off the phone, but I didn’t answer: I didn’t want to see him or hear him, I was afraid that he would ask for forgiveness again, convince me that I had to return. Four days later I found this apartment in which we now live. I understood that it was already not easy for children and it was necessary to preserve their usual way of life, not to change Vasilisa's kindergarten, so I rented a house in the same house where Ilya and I lived for almost ten years.
Get out of here, you stupid fool!
- Ilyusha and I met in 2001 and immediately fell in love with each other. I was already known at that time, the song "Sunshine" was played on many radio stations, the group Demo, whose soloist I was, actively toured. Ilya at that time studied at the Bauman ( MSTU them. Bauman. — Approx. "TN") University, then graduated from graduate school, got a job in a bank. Although he is a smart guy, he did not have a stunning career. I have always worked and earned more than him. I remember that even at the 39th week of pregnancy I rushed off on tour. Ilya took it for granted, and it seemed to me that everything was fine, the family needed to be provided for. And if Ilya does not do this, then it remains for me to take care of food myself. But resentment against him grew like a snowball. While I was carrying Vasilisa, I forbade myself to think about it. To cheer up, she undressed in front of the mirror and painted the sun on her stomach - eyes, a smile. I look and rejoice, I say to myself: “All is nonsense! But soon you will become a mother! I love children very much and when I found out that I was pregnant, I was in seventh heaven with happiness. Ilya too. But besides questions of a material nature, others were added.
In the third year of family life, Ilya became addicted to the bottle. It would be nice to have a glass or two at dinner, but no! Hide in the room and drink. I go in, I feel - it smells of wine, and he assures with a blue eye: “I swear! I didn't drink!" I say: "Swear on the health of children." - "I swear!" And the next day the child has a temperature under forty ...
I could not react calmly to this, I was scandalous. The fights between us didn't stop. When he drank, he became completely insane. Once, for no apparent reason, right in bed, he began to choke me. And Vasilisa slept with us, she was about two years old, so she woke up, got scared, peed ... Then I realized that that was all, it was a collapse. But then she dragged on for almost five years, and even gave birth to her second child. Why? Yes, because in my head in childhood there was a matrix of a happy family life - such as my parents. They have been together for forty years, raised two children and have always believed that divorce is a real disaster, a disaster. But Ilya's parents disliked me right away. I do not know why. They probably wanted their smart and educated son to have a wife, at least a candidate of sciences. And here I am - a girl from show business. But I love to learn, I constantly go to some seminars, I listen to lectures. It is interesting to communicate with me, and the presence of diplomas has nothing to do with it. I know people with two higher educations, but the most boring and narrow-minded! Although, maybe my relatives didn’t like me for something else - they never expressed specific claims to me. When my husband and I, having lived together for a year, came to visit them with the good news that they would become grandparents, the faces of our parents turned to stone. “Well, it means that our life has now collapsed…” we heard. For others, with the birth of grandchildren, life begins anew, while for these it “collapsed”. Then I suddenly thought: "Ilyusha and I will not see happiness." And so it turned out. When I was in my ninth month, my mother-in-law advised Ilya to do a genetic examination. She came to visit me right away and said: “We all think that the child is not Ilya.” I am dumbfounded by such assumptions. Not his child ... Yes, Vasilisa is like two drops of water similar to her dad and with the same birthmarks on her hand, like her grandmother!
To be honest, I had certain hopes for the appearance of Vasilisa. She reasoned like this: “Ilya is the only son, which means that his parents will love his granddaughter, and at the same time they will treat me more favorably.” I couldn't figure out why you couldn't love me. I was a good wife to their son, caring, earned money, gave birth to beautiful children and was engaged in raising them myself. The attacks of my relatives wounded me to the very heart. Of course, I asked my husband to intercede for me. But he remained neutral even in egregious situations. Once we came to the father-in-law and mother-in-law at the dacha. Vasilisa was very tiny then. A bunch of relatives gathered, everyone drank, they sit at the table, making noise. Suddenly, the father-in-law rises, looks around at everyone with a heavy look and says: “It is a pity that there is one weak link among us.” And points to me: “You! It's time for you to leave us." I was taken aback and, restraining myself so as not to say impudence to the elderly man, I got up, packed my things, put my sleepy daughter in the car and rushed back to Moscow. On the way, Ilya made a terrible scandal, sobbed: “Keep your relatives!” And he, a uniformed seal, replies: “You understand me too, Sash! So what do I tell them? They rotted me all my life, reproached me with every ruble - it was always difficult with them.
Actually, I am a gentle person, I tried to appease my pride, to endure for the sake of my family. Therefore, even after such humiliation, she did not stop communicating. Somehow they call: “Come, our cucumbers are ripe.” I collect the child, we arrive ... And the mother-in-law picks up cucumbers, holds out the unwashed Vasilisa. I say: "Oh, dirty little cucumber, you need to wash it." And in response it rushes: “Ah, you disdain my cucumbers, point to uncleanliness ?! Get out of here, you stupid fool!" My mother cried when she heard about everything. And dad called "relatives", tried to explain that I was a good wife and mother. But no use!
At the news of my second pregnancy, my mother-in-law squealed: “Your child will die, drug addict!” And she told me this, a person who has been leading a healthy lifestyle since school. Yes, I breast-fed Vasilisa until she was three years old! And they decided: if from show business, then, then, a drug addict.
While I was wearing Makar, our relationship with Ilya improved dramatically. Both had the hope that now everything will be fine. But after the birth of a son, quarrels broke out with renewed vigor. We generally stopped behaving like spouses - hugging, kissing ... We slept in different rooms. But Ilya kept saying that he loved children and could not live without me.
And his relatives at this time stepped up their onslaught. One day I come home with the children (and we lived in an apartment that they “gave” to their son, but registered it for themselves without even registering the kids there!), And there Sveta, Ilya’s second cousin, is in charge with her husband-ambala. “In a good way, you don’t understand, so it’s time to explain in a bad way! Immediately pack your things and get out of this apartment with your children, ”Sveta tells me, putting her hands on her hips. I answer: “Actually, it’s already late now, eleven in the evening, it’s time for Makar to sleep. And it's minus twenty outside. Where will I go? She suddenly rushes at me, clings to my throat and chokes me! I hear Vasilisa's heart-rending cry: "Mommy, mommy!" Forces came from somewhere, pushed the boorish away. And then a phone call. Her hubby picked up the phone in a businesslike way: “Yes? She will leave this house soon,” and hands me the phone. On the other end of the wire, the father-in-law: “We don’t intend to tolerate you anymore!” Sveta's husband is chewing on a sausage and suddenly spitting in my face! Now it is difficult to tell all this, because in the head of a healthy person it does not fit at all how one can behave like this ... My mind has become clouded, the only thought in my head is to run! But the body could not stand it, I lost consciousness. When I came to my senses, I heard: “Yes, let it lie, don’t pick it up, be a man, let’s go and have a drink.” It turned out that Ilya was at home and, drunk, saw and heard all this ... The children were yelling in two voices, a company of crazy people was sour in the kitchen, and I was lying in the corridor ... I got up, wandered along the wall to the nursery, where the children were crying, dressed them , I throw things into bags and go to Kupavna, to my parents. A few days later, Ilya rushed over, fell to his knees: "Sasha, I'm sorry!" And here is the mysterious soul of a Russian woman! I'm sorry and I'm back!!!
When I nevertheless left Ilya, aggression appeared. For many months in a row I had the same terrible dream: I scalp my former relatives, I cut open their stomachs ... So my subconscious released the accumulated resentment. To feel more confident, I became interested in Thai boxing. She beat a pear, imagining that these were my offenders.
I was categorically against marriage
- At first, I couldn’t even think about forgiving Ilya and starting to somehow communicate with him again. Our relationship was established ... my girlfriend. She persuaded me: “Sashka, no one asks you to return, but the children are suffering! Vasilisa cries all the time, has become twitchy. Children need a father." I growled back, "No!" Then she, without telling me anything, went to our old apartment. The front door is open, in the semi-darkness of the living room he sees Ilya, lying face down on the sofa in headphones. Nearby is an empty bottle. She pushed him aside: “Ilya, Sasha lives with the children in the next entrance.” And he came to us, swollen with tears, with trembling hands...
Now he comes in, plays with Vasilisa and Makar, sometimes takes them on weekends. But even if we spend fifteen minutes together, we will certainly quarrel - and again because of money. Fortunately, our marriage was not registered, so there was no trial. Why didn't we formalize the relationship by having two children? Yes, I just always did not consider it necessary to put a seal under my feelings for a man. But the parents pressed: it is necessary that everything be like people have. And when I was pregnant with Vasilisa, we still went to the registry office. We go up the stairs - and suddenly I turn inside out, although before that there was no toxicosis! Ilyusha looked and said thoughtfully: “I see that you don’t physically want to get married.” Well, we turned around: we considered it a sign from above.
I thawed out gradually
- On October 26, I left Ilya, and on November 16, Dima appeared. Not long "sitting in the girls." Now I’m teasing Ilya: “You see, a good person is always in great demand!”
I asked a friend for the phone number of DJ Dmitry Almazov in search of new musical material. Dima creates and plays trance music in his Bobina project. I heard one of his compositions in the hit parade, and I really liked it.
For some reason, my friend began to get dark: they say, I have a phone, but I need to ask his permission, and in general he is a disgusting type. As Dima later told me, he also asked us to introduce this girl - he saw our photo with her on a social network. And in response he heard: “Yes, why do you need it? She is married, has two children, and is also a rare bitch.” It turned out that our mutual friend really liked Dima. And she was afraid that his acquaintance with me might prevent her from receiving his attention and gifts. Be that as it may, I beat Dima's phone number out of her. I remember writing a playful text message: “Hello to the star from the star! Let's talk". Meanwhile, Dima was in China and offered to go to Skype. We chatted for two hours about everything.
A few days later, some guy drove into the rear bumper of my car. I had to take it in for repairs. I took it and wrote to Dima - a man whom I had never seen: "Can't you borrow your car for a couple of days?" The answer came instantly: “Take it!” He just didn’t need her: he flew somewhere again. We met in a hurry: Dima was already late for the airport, so we just exchanged a couple of phrases: "I'm Sasha." - "My name is Dima. Here is the car, here are the keys,” and left. Then we talked every day on Skype already with video. It was like this: the children were sleeping, and I, afraid to wake them up, put on my headphones, listened to what Dima was talking about, and simply nodded in response.
When Dima returned to Moscow and we met, I had to stop by the studio. He suggested: "Come to me, I have a studio at home." Frankly, I thought Dima would take the opportunity and at least kiss him, but he kept aloof. Which pissed me off even more. It turned out that he, accustomed to quick victories, this time decided to act differently and not rush things.
When we became close, everyone around, including my beloved mother, kept saying: yes, he is frivolous, he will fight and leave.
But Dimino's environment turned out to be kinder. Even his mother - it would seem! - said: "Well, nothing, Dima, Ivan Urgant also married a woman with two children."
Although I didn’t believe for a long time that Dima took our romance seriously, I still gradually thawed. But one day I almost decided that Dima was my mistake. It was in Yekaterinburg, where we flew to celebrate Vasilisa's 7th birthday. Dima had a performance scheduled there. In the morning I decorated my daughter's room in the hotel room with balloons, wrote posters with congratulations. The girl was supposed to wake up, see all the gifts and go with us down to the restaurant to the festive table. I wake up Dima: “Get up! It's time to go congratulate Vasya! And he: "You go, I'm now ..." And fell asleep. We are waiting for him downstairs, we are waiting ... Vasya put her bear on his chair. I sent Dima an SMS: "Misha is now sitting in your place." And at the very heart of the cat scratching: do I need a man who did not take my child's birthday seriously. But when I saw Dima running from the elevator, combing his hair on the go, I realized that he was simply not used to getting up so early and slept not at all from indifference ...
Laughing, Dima tells me: “Sasha, God heard my prayers! I asked to give me both a wife and children as soon as possible, because suddenly in 2012 the end of the world will come! As for the wedding ... Ironically, I, an ardent opponent of officialdom, now suddenly wanted a white dress and a celebration for the whole world. And I’m even trying on Dima’s last name for my name. And I love the sound!
Alexandra Valerievna Zvereva after marriage - Almazova, known as Sasha Zvereva(born March 1, Potsdam, Germany) - Russian singer, former soloist of the Demo group.
Biography
In the first month after leaving the group, Sasha released the solo single “Stay” (lyrics by Sasha Zvereva and A. Osokin, music by Sasha Zvereva). Don't go away (author of words and music - Roma Kenga). In December 2011, a video was filmed for this track. In August, Sasha Zvereva married, according to the customs of the Kazantip festival, DJ Bobina (Dmitry Almazov) at the festival Kazantip Z19 .
Personal life
Sasha Zvereva has three children: daughter Vasilisa (born December 7) and son Makar (born July 8) from his first marriage to banker Ilya, and son Leo (born July 17) from his second marriage to DJ Dmitry Almazov.
Discography
Albums as part of the Demo group
- Sunshine (1999)
- DJ Remix 2000 (2000)
- Above the Sky (2001)
- Goodbye Summer (2002)
- Rainbow (2004)
- It's Showbiz Baby (2005)
- Forbidden Songs (2007)
Singles as part of the Demo group
- Sunshine (1999)
- 2000 years (1999)
- I don't know... (1999)
- I take a breath (2000)
- Everything is simple! ... (2000)
- Above the Sky (2000)
- Let's sing! (2000)
- Strange Dreams (2001)
- Smile Your Faces (with Brothers Smile) (2001)
- Last Song (2002)
- Desire (2002)
- Bye, summer! (2002)
- Until Morning (2002)
- Hit (2003)
- New Year is coming… (2003)
- Rainbow (2004)
- Mystery (2004)
- Supermom (2004)
- Not with you (2004)
- Don't Think, Don't Guess (2005)
- It's OK (2005)
- Tenderness (2006)
- Neighbors (2006)
- This is Heaven (2007)
- Point (2009)
- First kiss (2009)
- Create a Movement (2010)
- Unwinds braids spring (2010)
Solo Album
- Thanks (2015)
Solo singles
- Stay (2010)
- As Before (with El Ray) (2011)
- Going crazy (2011)
- Superboy (with Sasha Dith & Steve Modana) (2012)
- Woman (2012)
- Poison (2013)
- Why (2014)
Video clips
As part of the "Demo" group
- 1999 - The Sun (directed by Alexander Igudin)
- 1999 - I don't know ... (director Vlad Opelyants)
- 2000 - I take a breath
- 2000 - Above the sky
- 2000 - Everything is simple!
- 2000 - Let's sing (director Alexander Igudin)
- 2001 - Strange dreams
- 2001 - Smile your faces (together with "Brothers Smile")
- 2002 - Rain (directed by Alexander Igudin)
- 2003 - New Year is coming
- 2009 - Don't be silent
Solo
- 2011 - I'm going crazy
- 2014 - Why
- 2015 - Maybe
Awards
- - "Golden Gramophone" from Russian Radio
- multiple awards "Song of the Year"
- "Stop Hit" from HitFM
- "Bomb of the Year" by DFM and others.
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Notes
Literature
- Alekseev A., Burlaka A. Encyclopedia of Russian pop and rock music. - M .: Eksmo-Press, 2001. - 432 p. - ISBN 5040066767.
- Dreich K., Fazer M., Simon T. Jr. World Music Legends, v11 (176), 2010. - NY: New York CSA Press, 2010. - 1124 p. - ISBN 8 344195378.
- Carrie Havranek. Women Icons of Popular Music: The Rebels, Rockers, and Renegades. - UK: Greenwood Press, 2008. - 504 p. - ISBN 978-0313340833.
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"For God's sake, can't you relieve me?" - said the courier, - I have a bag full of letters to my parents.Among these letters was a letter from Nikolai Rostov to his father. Pierre took this letter. In addition, Count Rostopchin gave Pierre the sovereign's appeal to Moscow, just printed, the last orders for the army and his last poster. After reviewing the orders for the army, Pierre found in one of them, between the news of the wounded, killed and awarded, the name of Nikolai Rostov, awarded George 4th degree for his bravery in the Ostrovnensky case, and in the same order the appointment of Prince Andrei Bolkonsky commander of the Jaeger regiment. Although he did not want to remind the Rostovs of Bolkonsky, Pierre could not refrain from wishing to please them with the news of his son's award and, leaving the appeal, the poster and other orders with him, in order to bring them to dinner himself, sent a printed order and a letter to Rostov.
A conversation with Count Rostopchin, his tone of concern and haste, a meeting with a courier who carelessly talked about how bad things were going in the army, rumors about spies found in Moscow, about a paper circulating around Moscow, which says that Napoleon promises to to be in both Russian capitals, the conversation about the expected arrival of the sovereign tomorrow - all this with renewed vigor aroused in Pierre that feeling of excitement and expectation that had not left him since the appearance of the comet, and especially since the beginning of the war.
Pierre had long had the idea to enter the military service, and he would have fulfilled it if it had not interfered with him, firstly, his belonging to the Masonic society with which he was bound by oath and which preached eternal peace and the abolition of war, and, in secondly, the fact that, looking at a large number of Muscovites who put on uniforms and preached patriotism, for some reason it was ashamed to take such a step. The main reason why he did not fulfill his intention to enter the military service was the vague idea that he was l "Russe Besuhof, having the meaning of the animal number 666, that his participation in the great cause of the position of the limit of power to the beast, speaking great and blasphemy, it is predetermined from eternity and that therefore he should not undertake anything and wait for what should be done.
At the Rostovs', as always on Sundays, some close acquaintances dined.
Pierre arrived earlier to find them alone.
Pierre has grown so fat this year that he would have been ugly if he had not been so large in stature, large in limbs and had not been so strong that, obviously, he easily wore his thickness.
He, puffing and muttering something to himself, entered the stairs. The coachman no longer asked him whether to wait. He knew that when the count was at the Rostovs, it would be before twelve o'clock. The Rostovs' lackeys joyfully rushed to take off his cloak and take his stick and hat. Pierre, out of club habit, left both his stick and his hat in the hall.
The first face he saw of the Rostovs was Natasha. Even before he saw her, he, taking off his cloak in the hall, heard her. She sang solfeji in the hall. He realized that she had not sung since her illness, and therefore the sound of her voice surprised and delighted him. He quietly opened the door and saw Natasha in her purple dress, in which she had been at mass, walking around the room and singing. She was walking backwards towards him when he opened the door, but when she turned sharply and saw his fat, astonished face, she blushed and quickly went up to him.
“I want to try singing again,” she said. “It’s still a job,” she added, as if apologizing.
- And fine.
- I'm glad you've come! I am so happy today! she said with that former animation, which Pierre had not seen in her for a long time. - You know, Nicolas received the George Cross. I'm so proud of him.
- Well, I sent the order. Well, I don’t want to disturb you,” he added, and wanted to go into the drawing room.
Natasha stopped him.
- Count, what is it, bad, that I sing? she said, blushing, but without taking her eyes off her, looking inquiringly at Pierre.
- No ... why? On the contrary... But why do you ask me?
“I don’t know myself,” Natasha answered quickly, “but I wouldn’t want to do anything that you don’t like. I believe in everything. You don’t know how important you are to grinding and how much you have done for me! .. - She spoke quickly and without noticing how Pierre blushed at these words. - I saw in the same order he, Bolkonsky (quickly, she uttered this word in a whisper), he is in Russia and is serving again. What do you think,” she said quickly, apparently in a hurry to speak, because she was afraid for her strength, “will he ever forgive me?” Will he not have an evil feeling against me? How do you think? How do you think?
“I think…” said Pierre. - He has nothing to forgive ... If I were in his place ... - According to the connection of memories, Pierre was instantly transported by imagination to the time when, consoling her, he told her that if he were not him, but the best person in the world and free , then he would ask for her hand on his knees, and the same feeling of pity, tenderness, love seized him, and the same words were on his lips. But she didn't give him time to say them.
Today's telephone conversation with the former soloist of the Demo group and designer Sasha Zvereva for the editor of the Stars and Children column Tatyana Silina was not the first. They had seen each other for several years. Then her daughter Vasilisa was 7, her son Makar was only 2 years old. They gladly met Tatyana in their Moscow apartment and enthusiastically talked about their favorite toys.
That conversation with the mother of two children was remembered for a long time. And especially the phrase: "I do not strive for peace and to be supported by a man." 6 years have passed - and it became clear that Sasha Zvereva was not cunning at all.
Sasha Zvereva, singer, designer
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Sasha, you are now in Los Angeles. With three children. In the status of an unmarried girl. That is, it turns out that the desire to constantly do something and be financially independent has not disappeared?
Nothing has changed since our last interview! I am not supported by a man and I am not in such a state that I can relax and, like most women, do housework and take children to circles. There was not, is not and will not be. I live in America, pursue a career, develop my business, dedicate myself to children. And when a person appears in my life, I will make sure that he is not another man whom I will need to help financially and pull this share on myself. And inner peace… I finally found it!
About 5 years ago, I didn’t have the confidence inside me that I have now. I didn’t feel like if something happened, I could handle everything on my own. I had some dependence on a man. When our relationship went wrong, I tried to save them. And at the same time, not because I love and can’t live, but because it was scary. This is what happens to most women in Russia. They do not know where to go, what to eat, what to do in case of separation. I have gone through this fear.
I know that I will do everything myself, I know that I will endure everything and that everything will be better than it could be.
Children of Sasha Zvereva: Vasilisa, Makar and Leo
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And so it happened. You alone with three children moved to live in the United States. What prompted you to do this?
Just a few days ago I wrote a post about why I moved. You see, when you tell Russian people that it happened because of the weather, they don't believe it! (laughs) For them, this is not a serious reason to leave their comfort zone and move to a distant country, because "it's expensive, difficult, scary."
But you know, there is such an expression: “Nothing is impossible if you are crazy to the right degree.”
This is what happened to me! I was so crazy about Moscow, from the dirt around ... I am a person for whom all the little things are important. This can even be understood from my Instagram. I always describe the weather in detail, I look at the soil, grass, leaves, clouds. For me this is really very important. In Moscow, you left the supermarket with bags, put them in the trunk, and on your jeans there was a giant stain of dirt from the car. Dirt is everywhere - on tights, on the windshield, when you drive along the Moscow Ring Road ... And here, clean jeans all year round, a clean car, it smells delicious of the ocean. For me, these details are everything! It is very comfortable to live here. Comfortable inside and out - from shopping for underwear to the smell of water in the sink.
Sasha Zvereva is engaged in her own clothing brand SZstyle
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Comfort is, of course, great. But in a foreign country you need to do something, and this is probably more difficult than at home ...
Of course, you need to practice. I have a business. The SZstyle project is a Russian production of “universal clothes” that can be worn by pregnant women, nursing women, and ordinary girls (there are special rubber bands and hidden zippers for feeding in the clothes). And also SZLA - store in Los Angeles. I bring excellent vitamins and dietary supplements from America, super-effective cosmetics based on plants and superfoods. All of these are sold in my store. I also give concerts in Russia and America.
I am also engaged in my informational activities - I tell women how to prepare for childbirth.
In general, in America there is a very large percentage of births by caesarean section. But in Los Angeles right now the trend is all natural and natural, women's minds are changing. And I can come in handy here, because I have a wonderful example of three natural births, I have moved to another country behind me. I think that all this inspires confidence in me as a person who can be listened to and who can be trusted.
Sasha calls her parents very wise people
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Sasha, how did your parents react to your decision to move?
My parents are very wise people. Maybe I would not be equal to them in some everyday or business matters, but in their attitude towards children - definitely! They never impose their opinion and vision. They accept any choice of their children. They can warn, talk about their concerns, but there has never been pressure or rejection on their part. I try to transfer this wisdom to my children - whatever you are, even if the whole world is against you, know that there are people at home who will always be for you, who will be on your side.
I understand that you are a very independent and independent girl. But still three children - not one baby. They require enormous attention, expenses ...
There is an opinion that after the birth of three children it becomes easy even with the fourth, even with the fifth. No! Each child is an even greater burden. Both moral and financial. And the most important thing is responsibility. I feel a huge, incredible responsibility. In principle, I arranged everything in my life so that now I can breathe and wake up in the morning happily and easily. But responsibility... It will last until, probably, the youngest child is at least 21-22 years old. Here, for example, a girl, in any case, needs to be provided with initial capital in a bank, a car, housing.
I understand that I must be able to do everything and be in time for everything. How - I do not know yet, but, as they say, the road will be mastered by the walking one.
Makar and Vasilisa spoke English 3 months after moving
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How are children in a new country? After all, moving is a new language, new friends, a new school ... This is not always painless ...
At first it was very difficult. But absolutely everyone who moves with children over 10 years old faces this. Until the age of 10, they tolerate such changes normally, at this age it is simply important for them that their mother is nearby. But after that it is more difficult, because children form a certain circle of friends that they do not want to change. And so Vasilisa was given a difficult move. Everyone told me: "Sasha, give her a year to adapt." But I remember that a year has already passed, but still things did not move much from the dead center. I even began to worry ... We worked with a psychologist - Vasilisa told him on Skype about all her problems. Everything fell into place when the daughter had a large team of friends. She became more self-confident, fell in love with this country.
Tell us how Vasilisa and Makar reacted to the fact that at one moment the family was left without a dad?
Vasilisa saw that something was wrong. Makar didn't care - he was still too small. To explain how we all reacted to parting with Ilya (father of Vasilisa and Makar - ed.), I will give an example: just imagine - a man was walking along the road and his car was hit. He was gone in an instant. And it happens that a person is sick for a long time and the whole family understands that he will soon be gone. Yes, it is hard, but there is an internal readiness for this.
So it was with Ilya - we all understood that this story was ending.
Sasha Zvereva with her ex-husband, father Leo, DJ and musician Dmitry Almazov
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Is there anything you can't forgive your loved one?
It’s difficult… With age, the boundaries expand and you are more ready to accept a person as he is, you move away from material ideas, for example, “I can’t forgive him if he doesn’t earn a lot of money”, “I won’t be able to forgive him if he will cheat on me with another woman.” It is more important for me if a person cannot accept me, my side, fails to defend my interests, and I cannot feel protected next to him. This is going to ruin my relationship.
You lived with a man without a stamp in your passport, you were a legal wife. During this time, have you changed your view of what a family should be like?
I lived with a man for 10 years with the hope that if you don’t sign, then it’s forever. However, the relationship ended. Then she lived in marriage for 4 years and thought that now it was definitely forever. Also no. You know, I think that the most important thing is love between people. If there is love, then it doesn't matter if there is a seal or not. Probably the most important thing is the wedding. I didn't have a wedding. This is where you need to approach.
You are a very outspoken person. Especially in the reality show "Pregnant" on "Home". Are you afraid to open up to the world like that?
Believe me, in the reality show “Pregnant” and on Instagram, you saw 1/8 of everything that happens in my life. I do not show the true state of things, I do not tell how my affairs really are.
Sometimes I even play such complicated games to lure people away from what I really want to hide.
So don't worry about me. What I need, I safely hid (smiles).
Naturalness is Sasha's original motto
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You have half a million subscribers. That is, you are the person who is interesting. Whom you want to look up to. After all, this is a big responsibility! Not scary?
I can’t answer for people whether they adequately perceive the information on Instagram or not. I judge myself. Sane people will always give their assessment. I read a lot of people on Instagram - these are psychologists, and valeologists, and adherents of a healthy lifestyle, and coaches. Of course, I do not agree with all of their postulates. I take note of something, I apply something in life, but I immediately forget something. I believe that this should be the case for every sane person. I try to write neatly, I feel this responsibility. For example, I never said that you need to give birth only at home, that hospitals are bad, scary and wrong. I can calmly talk about this with people who, I am sure, will understand everything correctly and will not blindly imitate. But I will not discuss this with a large audience.
In her personal life, the former member of the Demo group had to go through humiliation and broken love before she met her new happiness. First Sasha Zvereva's husband Ilya, to whom she gave birth to two children - daughter Vasilisa and son Makar, in fact, lived at her expense. After graduating from MSTU. Bauman and graduate school, he got a job in a bank, but he did not succeed in making a good career, and Sasha had to become the main earner in the family.
In the photo - Sasha with her first husband and children
She went on tour in the eighth month of pregnancy, but this did not bother Ilya much, and he took everything for granted. In addition, in the third year of family life, Sasha Zvereva's husband increasingly began to apply to the bottle. The parents of the first spouse treated her, to put it mildly, coolly, and even the birth of children was perceived not with joy, but as an extra burden for themselves.
Quarrels in the family became constant, and one fine day Alexandra realized that she did not want to live like this anymore and could not. She gathered the children, things and left the house. Ilya tried to improve relations, but Sasha did not give up.
In the photo - Sasha Zvereva and Dmitry Almazov
Since she rented an apartment in the same house, so as not to change the kindergarten for her daughter, the ex-husband sometimes began to take the children to him, but, despite persuasion, Sasha did not want to reunite with him. Less than a month later, a new man appeared in her life - musician Dmitry Almazov (DJ Bobina). They met by chance through a mutual friend, whom Zvereva turned to in search of new material.
Soon they began to live together. And, if they were not going to legitimize their relationship with Ilya, then they entered into an official marriage with Dmitry. Sasha Zvereva's new husband recognized her children, and she was about to give birth to their common child, when suddenly Almazov decided to leave her, saying that he was not comfortable living with her and her children.
In a fit of feelings, Zvereva wrote on her blog that her husband had abandoned her and shared how hard it was for her to survive the departure of a loved one. A month later, when Sasha decided to arrange a big celebration on the occasion of the birthday of her son Makar and invited her close friends to it, Dmitry Almazov also came. According to many, this could be considered as a way to make peace with his wife, but Sasha did not give any comments on this, perhaps for fear of frightening off luck. Soon, a new entry appeared in Sasha's microblog, in which she shared with readers the good news that Dmitry had returned, and she was happy again.
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Sasha Zvereva. Full name - Alexandra Valerievna Zvereva. She was born on March 1, 1981 in Potsdam (GDR). Russian singer, former soloist of the Demo group (1999-2011).
Father - Valery Zverev, a military man, served in the Western Group of Forces in the GDR, where Alexander was born.
Mother is a teacher.
I went to the first grade of the school in the GDR. There, in Germany, she began to study music. From an early age she had an excellent ear for music and a good voice.
Since 1996, the family has lived in the village of Staraya Kupavna, Moscow Region.
Sasha told about her childhood that it was usual for a Soviet child - she spent a lot of time in the yard with friends. Every summer I went to the country with my parents. As a teenager, she loved to go out at night with her friends.
After graduation, she entered the Moscow Linguistic University. At the same time, she did not leave music lessons. Once I heard an announcement on the radio about the recruitment of soloists in a new youth musical group. And she decided to go to the casting.
After passing the casting, Sasha Zvereva became the vocalist of the musical group, which was given the name "Demo". The group was founded by producers Vadim Polyakov and Dmitry Postovalov, known for working with.
In February 1999, the recording of the first songs began, such as "The Sun" and "2000 Years". In addition to Zvereva, dancers Maria Zheleznyakova and Danila Polyakov take part in the project. In the fall, director A. Igudin shot a video for the song "Sunshine" and was shown on television. "The Sun" and "2000 Years" have long occupied leading positions in the charts of Russia and the CIS countries.
Demo - Sunshine
The song "The Sun" turned Sasha Zvereva into a superstar of the national stage. But this popularity had another side to the coin.
The singer recalled: “The song“ Sun ”appeared at the end of 1999. And in 2000 I became mega-popular. I was 19 years old. Can you imagine what a test it was for my fragile youthful psyche? At the same time, the program "12 Evil Spectators" was released on the MTV channel, where people in the studio criticized the clips. In fact, these were the same "antiques", haters - only it all came from the TV channel. As a rule, the editors then mounted these discussions, and aired only what concerned the work and the video, and not the personality of the artist himself. But once I was “lucky” to get on the set of this program. I was sitting in the editorial room and heard everything. Some frostbitten teenagers began to say that I have crooked and yellow teeth ... I was so worried about it! I sobbed all night. And the next day I went and put myself braces. "
After the first tour of the group in Russia, the Baltic States, Israel, Australia, Great Britain, the group released the album "Sun" in the same 1999. Then there were successful tours in Germany, England, USA.
Later, the albums "Above the Sky" and "Goodbye, Summer" were released.
Since 2003, the group's popularity began to decline. At the end of 2006, the album "Forbidden Songs" was recorded, which was released in 2007. Despite this, the group's activities become more passive and receive less press coverage.
In 2011, the singer left the Demo group and took up a solo career. Although back in 2010 she released her first solo single - “Stay” (lyrics by Sasha Zvereva and A. Osokin, music by Sasha Zvereva).
Initially, she tried to perform the hits "Demo" at her concerts, in particular, the song "Sun". However, in 2012, by a court decision, Zvereva was forbidden to perform the songs of the Demo group.
As a singer, she presented the songs “As Before” (together with El Ray), “Going Crazy”, “Superboy” (together with Sasha Dith & Steve Modana), “Woman”, “Poisonous”, “Why”. However, her solo singing career did not bring much success.
In 2014, she moved to the USA and settled in Los Angeles. She explained that she decided to take such a step for the sake of her children: “First of all, I did it for the sake of the children’s health and my own happiness. It is here that I feel like this, despite the life difficulties that have arisen and arise. the sun, proximity to my beloved ocean - all this makes the experience of all problems more calm than it happened in Moscow. It is much easier to catch despair there. And the children have stopped getting sick. Those endless coughs and snot that torment all Moscow mothers so much are simply not here ".
In America, she continued her music studies. "It seems to me that if a person sings, he will always do it. I sing every day," she said.
In 2015, her first solo album, Thank You, was released.
In the same 2015, she became a participant in the reality show "Pregnant". She starred in a reality show, being pregnant for the third time. Sasha said: “I was expecting a child in America, in Los Angeles. It was a wonderful time, one of the brightest memories of my life. You know, when the birth is over, everything is erased in my mother’s head. thanks to participation in the TV show, now there is an opportunity to review some moments. I was lucky that even the birth was filmed. I can analyze how everything went, take into account some mistakes. "
From time to time Sasha Zvereva flies to Russia to give a lecture for expectant mothers.
Sasha Zvereva's height: 166 centimeters.
Personal life of Sasha Zvereva:
The first husband is Ilya Gusev (civil marriage), a bank employee.
The couple had two children - Vasilisa (born 2003) and Makar (born 2008).
According to rumors, the marriage broke up due to her husband's addiction to alcohol.
The next chosen one of the singer was the famous DJ Bobina (real name and surname - Dmitry Almazov). The wedding of Sasha and Bobina took place in August 2011 "according to the customs of the Kazantip festival." And officially they signed in one of the registry offices of Moscow on April 19, 2012.
In May 2013, Sasha Zvereva announced on social networks that her husband had left her. She wrote: “5 minutes ago my husband left me forever. Telling me and my children that it is uncomfortable for him to live and build his career next to other people's children and with a woman who wants to give birth to a common child and build a joint house.
However, at that moment she managed to save her family. But later the marriage still broke up. The main reason was Alexandra's move to the United States for permanent residence - Dmitry did not want to leave.
In the USA, Sasha Zvereva in 2015 gave birth to a son from Dmitry Almazov, whom she named Leo.
In the summer of 2018, Sasha Zvereva reported that. On her Instagram, she posted a photo with her boyfriend, noting: “And yes, you have to imagine: this is Dan. He is American. Lives in LA. We met this spring. Already from the second date I knew that it was He ... ".
Sasha is fond of motorcycling, loves riding a motorcycle along mountain serpentines.
Discography of Sasha Zvereva:
in the "Demo" group:
1999 - Sunshine
2000 - DJ Remix 2000
2001 - Above the sky
2002 - Goodbye Summer
2004 - Rainbow
2005 - This is show business, baby
2007 - Forbidden songs
solo:
2015 - Thank you
Singles by Sasha Zvereva:
in the "Demo" group:
1999 - Sunshine
1999 - 2000 years
1999 - I don't know...
2000 - I take a breath
2000 - Everything is simple! ..
2000 - Above the sky
2000 - Let's sing!
2001 - Strange dreams
2001 - Smile your faces (together with Brothers Smile)
2002 - Last song
2002 - Desire
2002 - Goodbye, summer!
2002 - Until the morning
2003 - Hit
2003 - New Year is coming...
2004 - Rainbow
2004 - Mystery
2004 - Supermom
2004 - Not with you
2005 - Don't think, don't guess
2005 - Everything is fine
2006 - Tenderness
2006 - Neighbors
2007 - This is the sky
2009 - Point
2009 - First kiss
2010 - Create a movement
2010 - Unwinds braids spring
solo:
2010 - Stay
2011 - As before (with El Ray)
2011 - I'm going crazy
2012 - Superboy (with Sasha Dith & Steve Modana)
2012 - Woman
2013 - Yadovita
2014 - Why
Video clips of Sasha Zvereva:
in the "Demo" group:
1999 - Sunshine
1999 - I don't know...
2000 - I take a breath
2000 - Above the sky
2000 - Everything is simple!
2000 - Let's sing
2001 - Strange dreams
2001 - Smile your faces (together with "Brothers Smile")
2002 - Rain
2003 - New Year is coming
2009 - Don't be silent
solo:
2011 - I'm going crazy
2014 - Why
2015 - Maybe
