It's easy enough to say that you want to change your life for the better, but life won't just change. There are no freebies. First you need to free yourself from the shackles that are holding you back.
You need to start changing what you do every day, you need to overcome the daily routine. Remember that dreams and hopes alone cannot change your life. Life begins to change when you begin to change. You should do only what brings results, only what makes you happier. Stop investing in the cloud, it's time to invest in yourself!
1. Remove the mask. It doesn't matter what people expect from you, they should accept you for who you are. Instead of bribing people with your behavior, show them the real value of yourself. You don't have to be a trader to say that the price will go up.
2. Don't take everything to heart. No matter what you do in life, someone will definitely criticize you. The sooner you realize that criticism is inevitable, the sooner you can breathe a sigh of relief.
3. There won't be tomorrow. You cannot solve today's problems if you put them off until tomorrow. Once you encounter a problem, solve it until the end. If you cannot find the optimal solution, then find at least some solution and forget about it.
4. Communicate. Even for people who enjoy solitude, communication is still necessary. Therefore, you should not limit yourself in communicating with people. You can talk to friends on the Internet or go for a walk with them, it doesn’t matter, the main thing is not to close yourself off from it.
5. Live for yourself. You can't please everyone, and it's not your job to please them. Follow your own path, arrange your life the way you want. Only you yourself can satisfy all your tastes and needs.
6. Find support. One person cannot change the world. You are always looking for people who will support your endeavors. And when you yourself begin to doubt, they will not let you go astray. These people could be anyone: family, friends, colleagues, or just a wanderer.
7. Sorry everyone. As long as you hold a grudge against someone, you will always be stopped by anger. If you want to move on, then become a superman who does not accept resentment and rage.
8. Clear your head of bad thoughts. If you return to some thought or problem again and again, then you can go crazy. Of course, it’s worth analyzing the situation, but only before making a decision, not after!
9. Exercise. Physical activity increases both the overall tone of the body and contributes to more productive work of the head. Pull yourself together and go exercise during the time that you usually spend on social networks and TV.
10. Look after yourself. When you look good, you feel good. And when others see a person who is shining and looks amazing, they become interested in him. Even if you exercise at home using exercise equipment, you will feel better.
11. Don't expect everyone to please you. As mentioned above, each person lives for himself. And they are not at all interested in your affairs. So relax and thank those around you.
12. Evaluate yourself. For someone to be happy, they need a guitar, a girl nearby and the light of the stars. And some will not find peace until they build a big company. Do exactly what you want yourself. Everyone has their own priorities in life.
13. Listen to yourself. Every person has an inner voice that tells them what to do and what not to do. Don't limit your intuition. This is a gift from above.
You will never change your life until you change something you do every day.
Mike Murdoch
Start with a simple question: what do you want your life to be?
Do you want to become a writer, musician, designer, programmer, polyglot, carpenter, Manga artist, entrepreneur or expert in any field?
How do you plan to achieve this? Do you want to write your wishes on a piece of paper, put it in a bottle and throw it into the sea in the hope that they will come true? Unfortunately, the universe will not do the work for you. You will have to take on your life with your own hands.
Have you set yourself a big and meaningful goal to achieve by the end of the year or within the next three months? The work doesn't end there. You've probably already learned from your life experience that setting long-term goals doesn't always work. How often has a strategy like this led you to achieve your goal?
Based on my 7 years of experience, during which I conducted various experiments, I was able to derive the law: “ nothing will change until you start making daily changes.».
I've tried to come up with a system of weekly changes, things to do every other day, big monthly goals, and many other variations on the theme. None of this worked other than daily changes.
If you don't want to change your daily life, then you generally don't want to change it in the intended way. You just love the idea of learning how to draw/speak Japanese/play the guitar/code and so on. But you don't really want to do anything.
Pull yourself together and start changing your life every day. Let's find out how it's done!
How to channel your good aspirations into daily changes
For clarity, we list several goals:
- lose weight
- to write a book
- conquer your own procrastination
- fall in love
- be happy
- Travel around the world
- drink more water
- learn spanish
- learn to save money
- take more photos
- read more books
How can these ultimate goals be transformed into a system of daily change? Think about what daily actions would help you move forward and be closer to your goal? Sometimes detailing is not easy. Therefore, I offer a few examples for clarity:
Lose weight. Start walking every day. First 10 minutes. After a week - 15. Then 20... One day, when you walk 30-40 minutes a day, make a new change - start drinking water instead of soda and soda.
To write a book. Write for 10 minutes a day.
Defeat procrastination. Every morning, find the most important task for that day and work on it for 10 minutes before you go to your browser or grab your mobile phone.
Fall in love. Go somewhere every day and meet new people. Or work every day to become an exciting person.
Be happy. Do things every day that help make the world a better place, help people.
Travel around the world. Start saving money (see next point). Or start selling your items until all your possessions fit into your backpack. Then hitchhike.
To save money. Start reducing your costs little by little. Start by getting into the habit of eating and cooking at home. Sell your car and start walking, biking or taking the train. Find a smaller house (an option adapted for Russia - rent a smaller apartment). Instead of buying things and services, go for those that won't cost you a pretty penny.
Drink more water. Drink water when you wake up and then every hour when you take a break (about once an hour).
Learn Spanish. Learn sentences in Spanish using Anki and listen to educational audio recordings in Spanish for 10 minutes a day (for example, there are free lessons).
Take more photos. Take pictures during your lunch break (but not of what you eat) and post them on your blog.
So, you get the idea. Not all of the examples listed above are perfect, but you can always come up with something that works better for you. The point is to do this daily.
How to implement daily changes?
This method is very easy to implement and if you follow it exactly, it will lead you to the result:
1. One change at a time. You can break this rule, but don't be surprised if you end up failing. Work on one thing a month before adding another change. Add a new change only if you have successfully completed the first one.
2. Start with small changes. I have already talked about this a thousand times and yet no one remembers about it. Start with 10 minutes a day or even less. If change is difficult for you, it's even better to start with 5 minutes. If you can’t even do 5 minutes, reduce the interval to two.
3. Take steps to instill a new habit at the same time. Of course, not literally at that very minute at exactly 6 am, but after the same trigger in your daily life: after you drink your first cup of coffee in the morning, right after arriving at work, after returning home, after brushing your teeth, taking a shower, having breakfast, waking up, having lunch or turning on the computer.
4. Share your intentions with someone. Better with several people. Make sure they are people whose opinions you respect. For example, I made a commitment to my friend Tynan to learn PHP every 10 minutes a day. I made this commitment also to my wife, my blog readers, my children and many others.
5. Be responsible. Every day I fill out Google spreadsheets with what I did each day and for how many minutes (talking about new things you try to bring into your life). For example, how much programming did you do? And my friend, whom I wrote about above, has access to this document. He controls me. The tool you use to maintain internal discipline does not matter - it could be posts on Twitter, Facebook or a personal report to the person who helps you. You need to trust that your partner is monitoring you every day, not every month. If he doesn't do this, then find another person who will agree to help you.
6. Set punishment or reward depending on the result. The most important motivation for exercising is that if you fail to instill a good habit in yourself, then people will respect you less, and if you succeed, they will respect you more. If your reporting system is not set up this way, you will have to find a new way to make it work. You may need to change the partner who helps you. You can also add a little fun to your daily tasks. I promised that I would eat whale sushi if I didn’t make the daily changes I had planned for myself (I would make them, since eating a whale for me is the same as eating a cow or a child, that is, impossible). In another case, I promised that I would sing a song in Japanese in front of strangers if I screwed up. Make the consequences unbearable for yourself if you miss two days and impossible if you miss three days. You can set yourself a reward if you suddenly haven’t missed a single day during the week.
7. Enjoy the changes. If doing these new daily activities makes you feel tired, or if doing these activities feels like a chore, then you are doing something wrong. Find a way to enjoy these activities, otherwise over time you will abandon this idea. Or find other things that matter more to you when they come into your life.
That's all. Follow these 7 simple steps and your life will change. We will complete each of these steps. You can start making changes in your life today.
What did you do today to change your life?
A year from now, you will regret not taking action today.
Karen Lamb
No matter how old you are, it's never too late to change your life for the better. Read this article to learn how to make changes both external and internal to feel more fulfilled, happy, and peaceful.
Steps
Change of circumstances
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Change your routine. Remember that your reality is the result of what you do on a daily basis, from what you eat for breakfast to where you go to work or school. If you are going to change the circumstances of your life, you will have to change what you do every day.
- Even the smallest changes to your daily routine can help make life less boring. For example, take a different route to work, eat something new for breakfast, exercise before school instead of after it, or sit at a different cafe. Small changes like these may seem insignificant, but they will make your life more interesting in the long run by adding variety.
- Ask yourself this question every day: Is what I'm doing (or not doing) helping me achieve what I want? This includes what you eat, whether you exercise or not, and how you spend most of your day. If the answer is no, then make the necessary changes.
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Consider the path of your life. Whether you're at school, at work, looking for a job, volunteering, or traveling, take a look at your life and determine if it aligns with your values.
- What are your hobbies, interests or goals? While it may take years to answer these questions, you can start by asking yourself what kind of legacy you want to leave behind. This question applies not only to your career, but also to your relationships. How would you like to be described and remembered by other people?
- Determine whether your lifestyle aligns with your personal values. Chances are, to some extent, your life and your values don't align. What could you do differently that would help you achieve your goals? You may want to consider changing your career, major, where you live, and how you manage your time and money.
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- Work on the relationships you already have. Be sure to spend time with your loved ones and treat them with understanding and compassion. If you have neglected or quarreled with your loved one, then devote time to mending your relationship. You must be willing to make compromises and even admit that you were wrong.
- Build new, constructive relationships with other people. If you feel lonely, then you will have to stop waiting for someone else to approach you. Take matters into your own hands and become active. Go out in public, strike up a conversation and remember to always smile. This is the best way to attract other people to you.
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Get out of your comfort zone. Some people are more likely than others to get stuck in the comfort of routine and old habits. Regardless of your inhibitions or fears of change, people need variety to be happy. You must practice this daily on a small scale and also on a larger scale.
- Try doing something that you don't do every day. Go to a show you've never been to, talk to a new person, eat something new, etc. You never know when you will discover something or someone who will end up having a life-changing impact on you.
- Choose a new hobby or go to a new place. If you play an instrument or play any sport, push yourself to go beyond what you usually do. Run another mile, take a different route on a hike, explore new art styles.
Changing Attitude
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Live in the present moment. The best way to feel happier in your life is to stop dwelling on the past and stop worrying about the future. If you suffer from anxiety or depression, it's probably because you're constantly doing one or both of these things and neglecting the present moment. If you find yourself constantly dwelling on negative memories, try the following exercise:
- First, identify the memory and how it makes you feel. If this is a recent incident and you need to cry or vent, then do it. You can write about the event in a diary or talk about it with a loved one. After you have grieved enough about the memory, accept that it is over and nothing can be done to prevent it. Instead of being sad that it happened, be grateful that it is over and remember that it could have been worse. The next time that thought comes back into your head, acknowledge it, be grateful it's over, and let it go.
- Although it is impossible to completely forget the past, many people tend to focus on negative or traumatic memories rather than positive ones. Remember all the good things that happened to you in the past. If it helps, make a list.
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Be positive. No matter what you have, where you are or who you are with, your perception your circumstances are much more important than these circumstances themselves. To put this into perspective, consider this fact: at any given moment there are other people in the world who have less money, fewer resources, fewer loved ones than you, and yet they are happier. Likewise, there are people who are richer than you, in better shape, with more resources, but feel less fulfilled than you.
- Make it a habit to notice the positive aspects of any situation you find yourself in. If you start complaining about what's going on around you, counter every complaint you make with one or two positive observations.
- Stop criticizing yourself and others. Again, everyone has both positive and negative qualities. This is a well-known fact. If you are constantly focused on the negative qualities of, for example, your spouse, then you will only notice them, and you will constantly be disappointed and irritated. Conversely, if you constantly remind yourself of the positive qualities of your spouse, then you will notice them and will feel grateful and happy.
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Don't compare your own life to other people's lives. Part of what makes people feel dissatisfied with their lives is comparing their lives to the lives of others. People tend to compare the weak points in their lives with the positive points in other people's lives.
- Get rid of envy. No one's life is perfect, no matter how it may seem on the outside. If you find yourself envying others for their money, their talents, or their relationships, remember that all of these people were struggling with difficulties and insecurities that may be even worse than your own.
Change your appearance
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Get in shape. Regular exercise not only keeps you in top shape, but it also improves cardiovascular health, reduces the likelihood of certain diseases, gives you more energy, and even improves your sex life.
- A healthy adult needs 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity or 75 minutes of vigorous aerobic activity per week. Moderate activity includes walking or leisurely swimming, and vigorous activity includes running, kickboxing or spinning.
- You need to do strength training at least two days a week. Try powerlifting or floor exercises (crunches, push-ups, etc.) that use your own body as resistance.
- Consider joining a local gym or a local sports team. Exercising with other people can help you stay motivated and make exercise more fun.
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Eat well. Remember that you are what you eat. Whether you want to lose weight or simply improve your overall health, what you eat matters.
- Your diet should consist of fruits, vegetables, lean protein and whole grains. Read labels and stay away from products containing artificial colors, aspartame and other chemicals. Eat sugar and empty carbohydrates in moderation.
- If you suffer from anxiety or depression, reduce your intake of alcohol and caffeine, as these substances can worsen these problems.
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Change your appearance. Changing your appearance will not only make you look better. Just changing your haircut or buying new clothes can make you feel like a new person. If you are not happy with your appearance or are simply bored with it, try changing everything.
- Change your wardrobe. Get rid of clothes that make you feel old-fashioned, sloppy, or otherwise unhappy with yourself. Make an effort to look your best every day. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to dress smart or formal. You need to find clothes that suit your body shape, are stylish (in your opinion), affordable and appropriate for your age.
- Change your hairstyle. Get a haircut or dye your hair a different color. Women with long hair may want to consider layered hairstyles, bangs, or a short bob.
- Men can dramatically change their appearance with facial hair. Try growing a beard, mustache or sideburns. If you've always had a beard or mustache, try shaving it off for a change.
- Try to balance your life between work and fun. If you are only busy with work, then you are missing out on the joys of life. If all you do is have fun, you'll eventually get bored and won't appreciate the fun times any more.
- If you are married or in a long-term relationship where the magic is fading, then talk to your partner and decide together what changes you can make to spice up your love life.
- Consider finding a positive role model to look up to. This person could be a teacher, a family member, or your favorite writer, actor, or musician. Positive influences in your life can help you find the motivation to overcome obstacles and achieve your dreams.
- Go to bed early and get up early. Do something creative in the early hours. Make origami for your friend's child, write a short story, or go for a run.
- If you want to change your appearance and don't know how, go to a stylist. Ask your hairdresser for advice on what hairstyle might suit you best.
- This article is written with the assumption that a person generally has enough food for breakfast or a job to go to.
How to radically change your life? This article contains, on the one hand, our personal qualities and shortcomings, and on the other hand, reminders of how much we already have. We are all born with priceless gifts, but unfortunately we can forget about it.
Life is not about staying comfortable and safe. Life is about moving and taking justifiable risks.
It is about finding the way to your soul, in developing your personality, while maintaining integrity and humanity.
We live on this planet to develop and develop the world for the better.
How to change your life? What you need to pay attention to and let go:
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Temperament and hot temper. Temporary frustration is not a reason to do something stupid. Remember how many people we offended simply because we were not in the mood.
2. Petty grievances. Life is too short to waste it on this.
3. The idea that you are worse than others is not for you. Stop comparing yourself to others. We are all born into different circumstances, and there is nothing wrong with being different from others. The main thing is that you move towards your goal every day and improve yourself.
4. What we believe does not have to be true.. Everything evolves; what was once true is no longer true. Don’t be dead attached to your beliefs, be open to new things. Change can be very difficult and painful, but it is much better than being stuck in one place.
5. Yesterday has passed - what is happening today is more important. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You develop and become better. Dare to take a step forward, do not constantly look back, as you may forget how beautiful the present is.
6. The idea that problems are bad. We need them for our development, either we ourselves find problems and solve them, or problems will begin to find us.
7. Excessive restraint and inaccessibility. It's not illegal to be human. We all need to be more open to each other. Stop hiding behind your mobile phone or tablet. Smile at people, be interested in them. Get to know the people close to you better.
8. If you think that you are far superior to everyone else, you are deeply mistaken. Don't be arrogant, be grateful for what you have. Everything comes back eventually. Be humble and be kind.
9. Unnecessary things. Think about whether you really need it, don’t pay attention to the trend or price. Think about the value of this item specifically to you.
10. Searching for happiness outside. Listen and find your own inner light. You don't find happiness on the outside, it starts within you. Pay attention to what improves you. Be good. Be conscious. Be someone who makes the world a better place.
11. Hypocrisy and lies. Be honest, otherwise how are you going to earn people's trust. Remember your promises. Be the kind of person you would want to spend time with.
12. Fears that intuition is wrong. It's better to learn from mistakes than to regret what you didn't do. Fear has consumed our hopes and dreams for a long time, don't let it do that anymore. Everything is inherent in a person in order to create and improve the world, only our fear limits our capabilities.
13. Waiting for ideal conditions. They will never come, the conditions will never be ideal. You just need to try and evaluate the result, diligently and persistently, doing the best that is possible at the moment.
14. Constant self-criticism. Your suffering will not help anyone. Allow yourself constructive criticism, which may inspire you, but nothing more. Forgive yourself and accept yourself for who you are.
15. People you're not good enough for. Make room for other people to accept you. You won't be alone if you take care of yourself and other people.
16. The desire to do something just to impress people. It's not worth it, do it to make yourself a better person and make the world a more joyful place. Do it because you think it's right.
17. The desire to please everyone. It's impossible to please everyone. If someone doesn't like you, they might just not be the right person for you to spend time with. What others say and think about you is only the result of their personal vision of the world.
18. The thought that it's too late. It's never too late. You set the limits yourself.
19. Procrastination. Stop procrastinating and putting things off until tomorrow. Start working on the things that matter to you.
Little things, we forget them, but these are priceless gifts, the true value of which we can only learn by losing them:
20. If you are reading this, it means you are still alive.. Life is a priceless gift!
21. Do you have access to the Internet?. You can learn new things and keep abreast of events.
22. You can read and study. This is the greatest opportunity to improve thinking and imagination.
23. You are not hungry or thirsty. You have the opportunity to keep your body in good condition. Unfortunately, not many people on Earth have this opportunity.
24. You have a roof over your head. You have somewhere to come at night and spend the night.
25. You have people who love and appreciate you.. You have someone to turn to for help.
26. You don't have to survive and fight for your life. If your streets are quiet and no gunshots are heard, you have something to be grateful for.
Something that will help you accept yourself, remembering what love is...
27. Find things you like about yourself. Cultivate Self-Love. Look at yourself in the mirror with kindness and love. If we can find and love something about ourselves, then it will be very easy for us to find kindness and love in the world. Reality is often a reflection of ourselves.
28. Be alone with who you are. Come back to yourself and know yourself.
29. Your time on this planet is precious.. Don't waste it. You shouldn't do something because others are doing it. You don't need permission to do things your way.
30. Keep your distance from those who drag you down. Know your worth! Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Quality is always more important than quantity.
31. Start making the changes you need to make. If you want to see changes in your life, you must do things that you have never done before. And step away from things that drain you.
32. Thank yourself for what you have and who you are.. We don't always get what we want. But there are many people who will never have what you have now.
33. Do something every day that makes you happy. . Every day we make a choice, so why not make this choice in favor of your happiness?
34. Take advantage of new opportunities and ideas. Perhaps this case is exactly what will lead you to your goal. You never know what will open up next
35. Belief in your own abilities. Everything is possible! The main thing is to understand what exactly you want and persistently move towards the goal.
36. Writing your own story is always more interesting than watching other people’s. If you find yourself comparing yourself, then remember that people tend to reveal to the public only the best aspects of their lives, and keep silent about the worst moments.
37. Relax and take things less seriously. What kind of life is this if you fear and think about every step you take?
What you need to start doing for yourself and your happiness.
38. Start filtering out the clutter in your life.. Don't listen to the loudest voice, listen to the truthful one.
39. Start making better choices.. Most of life is a result. Change begins now—from today's choices.
40. Being busy does not mean being productive. Do not confuse movement and progress, employment and real action.
41. Most of the things we worried about never happened. Replace worries with actions.
42. The best way to move away from something negative is to start moving towards something positive.. Replace some actions with others, and another will definitely take the place of one habit.
43. Start doing what is right, not what is easier.. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it should be done.
44. Start comparing yourself to yourself.. The best way to celebrate personal progress is to compare yourself yesterday with today.
45. Start being genuinely happy for others..
46. Be more tolerant of those who think differently. Any point of view can be understood if you try to look at things through the eyes of another person.
47. Start giving without expecting gratitude in return.. People won't always be grateful, but this is about the long term.
48. Start creating the change you want to see in the world. We all have the ability to change our reality. Never forget this.
49. Re-evaluate the concept of wealth. Some people spend time to earn money. Other people to buy time for themselves. Think about it.
50. Show your loved ones how much they mean to you.. Our close relationships are vital to our happiness, don't forget that. (written about problems with loved ones)
51. Replace the “I have to” focused thought with the “I get” thought.. This way you can start doing a lot of things that you really didn’t want to do before.
52. Don't let one bad moment ruin many good ones.. Don't allow frustrations to develop within you.
53. Start measuring your progress every day, no matter how small or big.. The main thing is that you are moving towards your goal.
How to change your life? Reminders that will change the way you think.
54. Your attitude towards people and situations will change, and that's normal.. Just because you liked something at one time does not mean you will always like it.
55. You can always find tough life lessons along the way.. Change is not always pleasant. This will ultimately make you a better person.
56. Those who complain the most achieve the least.. It's not so bad if you tried and didn't succeed, it's worse if you do nothing and complain.
57. The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.. You are what you think. You can't change anything if you can't change your thinking.
58. The best thing you can do for others is to improve yourself.. When we are happy, we become better friends, better lovers, better members of society to those around us.
59. You can learn something from everyone you meet.. Our meetings are not accidental. Every meeting brings something. It may not be at all what you expected, but you will need it anyway.
60. If you're feeling weird or alone... Relax, you're not the only one feeling this way.. You are unique, and you are in this world only because you are needed in it.
Important questions you can ask yourself right now:
The questions we ask ourselves now determine what kind of people we will become in the future.
61. What is behind suffering and limitations? If you want to gain advantages in life, you have to make sacrifices. If you want to lose weight, you have to sweat first, if you want to build big muscles - hard months in the gym. For any positive changes in life you have to pay. Are you ready to pay this price?
61. If I continue to do what I am doing today, who will I be in 5 years?
62. What do I spend too much time on and what do I spend too little time on? Maybe it's time to think not about the urgent, but about the important?
63. How am I deceiving myself? Maybe you refuse to believe the truth? Opportunities open up when there is no room for self-deception.
64. What holds me back and throws me back? Too often we let the past dictate what we do today.
65. What do I not want others to know about me? This is a blow to insecurity. Problems and shortcomings are part of every person’s life. And ultimately, confidence comes from understanding that all people have flaws.
66. Does my environment help or harm me? It's better to be alone than in bad company.
67. What is worth smiling about right now? I'm sure there is always a reason to be in a good mood.
68. Hard times don't last forever. Everything changes and everything passes. (see article about that)
69. You are not the center of the universe. Not everything should happen just because you want it to.
70. Today is a priceless gift. You still have many days on Earth, but they are limited. Do the best you can.
And also check for every day.
In conclusion, I would like to say the following.
Don't be afraid to let go of your limitations and inhibitions. Don't be afraid to be disappointed. Don't be afraid to get hurt or get hurt. Understand that just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Just because it's easy doesn't mean it should be done. Do what is right in life, not what is easier to do.
Ask yourself about the cost and consequences. Then think about the new opportunities that could arise if you dare to take action. Based on this, make your choice.
Appreciate your freedom and enjoy it. Focus more on being interested rather than engaging. If you think the sun is shining brighter on the other side, it's time to change your perspective, stop comparing, stop complaining and start working hard.
More than the battle is our mind. This is the place where the biggest conflicts happen, the place where half the things that were supposed to happen never happened. Watch your thoughts and don't let bad ideas stay in your mind because they will take away your joy and happiness. It is very important to learn to tell yourself in time that thoughts are not us, they are just guests in our mind.
You can't control everything, but it's foolish to neglect what you can control. You can decide how you spend your time and with whom you associate, with whom you share your life, money and energy. You can choose what you will eat, read and study every day. You can choose your words and actions. You can choose how you are going to respond to unfortunate situations when they arise. You can choose your attitude towards yourself and towards the world.
10 useful tips for those who are thinking about how to change their lives for the better.
I don't know if there are people who are completely satisfied with their lives.
At least, I haven’t met anyone like that, although I would like to meet an absolutely happy person.
In my opinion, even the richest, the most successful, the most beloved, even the darlings of fate, who manage to achieve everything they need without any problems, are dissatisfied with something.
This is why so many people are interested in how to change your life for the better.
If you feel unhappy, if you are not ready to put up with the current state of affairs, if you are not happy with your life, then you need to change something little by little, if you do not have the strength to start over with a clean slate.
Yes, it’s not easy, yes, nothing can be changed overnight, yes, there is a risk that it will get even worse, but all unhappy people need to change themselves and their lives.
How to change your life for the better: the beginning
I love people whose words match their deeds, and I can’t stand verbiage and whiners who are incapable of doing a single act.
It’s not enough to sit on your butt and dream that with the wave of a magic wand everything will change for the better.
No, you will have to do everything yourself and, although the chosen path will not be easy, the result will definitely please you.
Before you decide to take radical action to change your life for the better, you need:
- work;
- partner;
- environment;
- hobbies;
- attitude towards oneself;
- Lifestyle;
- all at once.
Change your daily routine:
- get up every day no later than 7 am;
- start playing sports;
- don't stay up late;
- stop eating junk and start eating healthier;
Create the picture you want to see as a result of all the changes.
This can be done in different ways:
- make a wish map;
- write an essay “Me and my ideal life”;
- present everything on paper in the form of a diagram or list, etc.
Understand what exactly you are unhappy with and what needs to be changed:
How to proceed further to change your life for the better?
The preparatory period of the three points that you see above should not last for many years.
At such a snail's pace, in the time allotted to you by higher powers, you will not have time to do anything at all.
Give yourself the optimal time to implement these points, for example, 1 month.
If during this period you managed to complete everything, you need to move on to the next stages to change your life.
Get rid of what's stopping you:
- from people who constantly whine, complain, drag you down with them, make you unhappy;
- from unnecessary things that only clutter the house and collect dust, but which you have not used for a long time;
- from old clothes and shoes that are too small for you, have gone out of fashion, have lost their decent appearance;
- from the responsibilities that burden you;
- from character flaws that prevent you from changing your life: pessimism, weakness, cowardice, disorganization, love of gossip, laziness, etc.
Clear out the backlog of unfulfilled tasks.
Things and tasks that you should have completed, but for some reason kept putting off and putting them off until later - ballast that in no way will allow you to change anything.
You need to make a list of unfulfilled tasks and make notes with different markers:
- red – those that need to be completed in the near future;
- blue – those that need to be completed immediately after the “red” ones;
- green - those that need to be entrusted to someone else or completely forgotten about.
Make a specific list of what you want to do to change your life:
- find another job with a higher salary;
- to get higher education;
- move to another city;
- improve family relationships;
- divorce an unloved husband/wife;
- find your soulmate, etc.
Write down step by step how you will implement each of the points and, without hesitation, start changing something.
We often complicate very simple things.
I’ve noticed more than once that people really like to whine: “ How to change your life for the better? Well, how to do this?”, although they know perfectly well what they need to change, they simply mask their own cowardice and weakness with imaginary misunderstanding.
10 useful tips for those who want to change their lives for the better:
- Stop being a perfectionist, because you can endlessly change your life and not even notice that it has been good for a long time.
- Read as much as possible - books can often find solutions to your problems.
- Don't get overtired - take time for a healthy 8-hour sleep and restorative rest.
- Take care of your health and prevent the appearance of chronic diseases.
- Relax profitably - not in a bar or nightclub, but in a museum, theater or philharmonic society.
- Don't waste your time, because it is priceless.
- Get out of your comfort zone and face your fears.
- Make to-do lists daily and complete them.
- Master time management.
- Thank the Universe for what you have, but don't stop there.
The main mistakes of those who want to change their lives for the better
Sometimes you can see with the naked eye that a person is ready for positive changes, that he even takes some actions to achieve what he wants, but it is not possible to completely change his life.
Stop turning halfway, stop making the same mistakes!
So nothing can be changed!
5 common mistakes of those people who want to change their lives for the better:
No need to listen to critics.
People who do nothing worthwhile, who do not feel happy themselves, very often like to give advice and criticize others.
Don't let people like this interfere and try to change you!
There is no need to give in to troubles.
Our life cannot consist of only victories and happy moments.
Sometimes you have to experience the bitterness of defeats, troubles, troubles, and cope with problems.
You need to learn to treat them correctly and learn from everything.
There is no need to desire the unattainable.
Do you want to become a Hollywood star and marry Prince Harry, but you don’t have acting talent, good looks and have never traveled outside of your Zalupinsk (and you don’t intend to)?
Or maybe you need to set more realistic goals for yourself: get an education, find an interesting well-paid job and marry a caring, handsome guy?
There is no need to put everything off until later.
If you really want to change something, start now, and not “let it get warmer someday, maybe next week...”.
You can't help but believe in yourself.
Without faith in yourself, without the belief that everything will work out for you, without a positive attitude, you will not be able to change anything.
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“Do you really want to change your life for the better?!”
Some people don’t need to change their lives, but simply put things in order in their heads.
Once I was at a meeting dedicated to the topic: “How to change your life for the better?”
There are only 5 participants, each with their own fears, doubts and problems.
But one young lady from our company stood out.
Beloved wife of a wealthy man, happy mother of a lovely five-year-old baby, beautiful, healthy, with living, healthy parents.
In short, what she is not happy with and what she wants to change, we still don’t understand.
Some far-fetched problems that even she herself doesn’t consider to be problems.
After endless answers, questions, tests, exercises, the coach diagnosed the lady: “All problems are due to boredom and a lot of free time” and advised her to find something she likes: business, career, charity, hobby, etc.
The lady dismissed everything, saying that I didn’t want to do anything.
Can a person with such an attitude change anything?
Why did I tell this story now?
Do you think how to change your life for the better but don't want to do anything?
Or maybe all your troubles are due to laziness and boredom?
Or maybe if you discipline all the cockroaches in your head, then your dissatisfaction with your own life will disappear?
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