We have often shelved this topic, because we understand that a similar topic can cause a strong imbalance in the masses of our readers. But it’s still worth talking about, since the beautiful half of our humanity goes around in circles year after year and steps on the same rake.

Not only a Russian woman who comes to Egypt for vacation or work, for example, decided to collect some money and work, can step on this “unit” for agricultural purposes, but also any other woman on planet Earth. Many people go to Egypt, because holidays here are not expensive, it is warm all year round and within walking distance is a great miracle - the colorful Red Sea and its immense enchanting underwater world. But not only this attracts beautiful women to Egypt...

Egypt, just like Turkey and any other tourist country, welcomes guests with a friendly smile, surrounds them with care, attention and love, because it has already been paid for! A pleasant vacation that you remember with a sweet smile on your face forever sinks into the soul, penetrates into the very heart and ... Anyone gets hooked, because the fishing rod has already been abandoned and we have been caught!

Some particularly impressionable fish swallows the hook so deeply that we can hear these cherished words: “I want to marry an Egyptian!”

"What is this? Like this?" - Her parents, friends, girlfriends are surprised. And she's all about him, yes about him.

So what is true Arab love?

Understanding the essence of this issue, it is worth making a few adjustments, because our goal is simple - to open the eyes of women to a number of features of sex tourism in Egypt, which for some reason makes many women believe that after a holiday romance, there must be a continuation ...

Why do they think so?

So, the first thing we draw the attention of readers to is the phrase "true Arab love." It can be real in two senses:

1. you are loved; you are idolized; you are adored; you are eagerly awaited back; they don't want to lose you; they don't want to let you go; you are needed like air; you are ready to give the last thing in the bins; they are ready to bombard you with diamonds, money; you are ready to give a star; you are ready to give the whole world just to be together and other romantic chatter, which is fixed by nightly conversations, a lot of love sms, from which the blood freezes in the veins and the brain for some reason immediately turns off, giving way to feelings and such a nasty gang of savages as hope and faith in a bright feeling - love.

2. all of the above, but with one small nuance - only if you have money

In Egypt, this version of “true Arab love” is most common, when a fish comes on the hook, which believes in the first option, but her “lover” wants only two things from her:

- intimate relationships

In other words, he adheres to the second option, but at the same time he tries in every possible way to make the woman, bruised by a rake, believe in the first option. And he succeeds without any extra effort, because he knows perfectly well that a woman loves with her ears and they often let her down, because the eyes do not see, the brain does not work, because the rake played its role. And all - a woman unarmed. Everything else is no longer important, because he does not need more.

Once the fish is on the hook, one thing is important - do not let the fish off the hook. Loving Khabib uses another weapon - lies. What does an Arab do best? Lie and love. But not everyone thinks so, because everyone lies, even me! Funny isn't it? But that's the way it is. True, the Arabs know how to do it so skillfully that women's excessive emotionality finally turns off any attempts of the brain to self-heal.

Alphonse Arabs lie so subtly that a woman inspired by love believes every word! Just think, how can you not believe the person who:

“More recently, I lost my family and friends, I was left completely alone. But he did not fall into despair and in some 2-3 months he was able to get back on his feet, save some money, get connections and voila - he already has a chain of stores that bring in a solid income.

But after that, women and friends began to appear who needed only his money from him, which is why he stopped believing in love and became disappointed in people. Notes! Yes, you, it is you and only you - the only one who returned to him the forgotten feeling of love! He reinforces his words with the smallest details and dilutes the story with third-party water so that what was said earlier is forgotten a little, while at the same time he does not forget to say how beautiful, beautiful you are, you can’t take your eyes off.

It was you, the one and only, who brought him back to life and is ready to dedicate his successes to you, sign only one document called orfi-contract, invest part of the money in his business and that's it ... We will always be together. It is better, of course, if we have a child and we will be a real family!

Tell me, would you, dear readers, right now, with a fresh mind, believe in this story? Oh yeah! Everyone will boldly say that: “No! What nonsense. What fool would believe that! Seriously? Then I bow before you.

But! The vast majority of women believe in this, who, in addition to words, see a handsome Arab in front of them, who showers them with compliments and something else. What I will not say, guess for yourself. But all this is nothing more than words, in the aggregate - a complete lie.

Why do women fall for this? Let's turn to a friend of psychology: "Comrade, female psychology, why do women believe such men?"

"Ridiculous question! A woman is an emotional being with a pronounced sense of motherhood, even if she has not yet known the very essence of this very motherhood. It is easy to touch her, to pity her, and she instantly wants to help the poor unfortunate person, to protect him from troubles and hardships. Surround him with care and love, create family comfort and idyll.

Give him everything that he asks, for he has already sunk into her soul. He is her own! Well, or will become native in the near future. It will not even bother you that this is all only in words with redirection to tomorrow, because tomorrow is always better than today. Tomorrow is a utopia, it is a balm, it is a panacea that burns the remnants of an already lame logic.

In addition, a woman, like a sponge, is ready to endlessly absorb words of love, tender kisses and dissolve in a passionate Egyptian night ... even if the last two points were promised by the Egyptian, but not implemented.

Women's psychology is multifaceted, because a single woman is ready for anything in order to be loved, the only one, desired. Many women do not even know about this, but understand this only when they meet a sweet-voiced Egyptian who does not pronounce Russian words well. You can’t even imagine what women are ready for in such a state!

They give everything they have: they sell apartments, cars, send all their money, sell jewelry. These "drug addicts" intoxicated with love go to Egypt with their last money to their only one just to be near him! One can talk endlessly about women's actions at such moments. So many that it won't fit into the world's longest novel in three volumes.

But our article will be incomplete if we do not answer the question: “What makes the Egyptian habibiks do this?”

Why do they easily destroy the fate of the unfortunate women who completely trusted them? Why do they equate a woman with easy prey and suck everything out of her to the last drop, and then look for a new victim and repeat a similar scenario with an already changed "biography"? Why do they need it? Why do they do this to women?

The basics of sex tourism in Egypt or how to make money on a tourist

Now it's time to look at the other side of the coin, while removing all the sweet words and fiction.

Egyptian upbringing, so to speak, does not allow men to just directly offer sex to a woman without any preamble. This is considered indecent. Therefore, many men in Egypt so masterfully learned to master their first language, and only then all other parts of the body. Therefore, they are often confused with the most romantic men.

Moreover, religion strictly forbids having a fleeting romance with a local woman. In order for a man to become a man, he must have some kind of fortune, must be financially secure, have housing. And after all this, he will have a wife who will immediately satisfy him like a man.

Apparently, this is precisely why a man has the right to find himself one or more wives if he can support them, because he puts so much effort into ensuring that he has all this and endured and strained for so long! And now he has every right to "relax." A woman is the reward of a man who was able to achieve something in life.

But what about young people or those who cannot make a fortune and start a family?

Right. First of all, do not be upset, because no one forbids turning your attention to those who do not adhere to a similar religion. True, there are a couple of moments, but they easily evaporate and the problem is easily solved. Moreover, there are some indulgences in the Koran that do not prohibit or condemn masturbation, and also allow seeking salvation from women of the oldest profession on earth. But you have to pay for this too. Where can you get money if you don't have any?

Have you ever paid attention to the fact that in the tourism industry in Egypt in all areas, for the most part, only men work? This is due to upbringing, because the Egyptian Muslim woman bears on her shoulders the responsibility to raise children and protect the hearth. Of course, she can work, but a real man will never allow his wife to waste his time on work. For what? After all, he provides her with everything necessary.

So, you won’t earn much on a simple Egyptian job. This is a poor country. Therefore, a little more can be extracted from tourists who are happy to take a look at the sights and lay out for a considerable amount of money. But it is much more pleasant to combine business with pleasure ... They are looking for gullible women to help them save money for a wedding with an Arab. To do this, repeat the previously described scenario, fill up with promises and other chatter.

If a woman does not fall for empty words, but demands to legitimize the relationship and marry an Egyptian, then the third weapon comes into force - the orfi contract.

Marrying an Egyptian begins with the conclusion of an orfi contract. What it is?

Orfi contract

This is a kind of document that is concluded between two people. It is issued in two copies and given to both parties (one remains with the woman, the other with the man). Signed in court with two witnesses, usually men.

Women can also act as witnesses, but then two women can replace one man (witnesses: for example, 1 man and 2 women). In some cases, the presence of a lawyer is also necessary in court, but when drawing up an Orfi contract, it is not necessary.

But what gives this paper, which bears the proud name of "contract"?

And what did the loving Egyptian promise you? Apparently all the same golden mountains, endless love and boundless devotion?

This document does not impose absolutely no obligations on the "spouses", it is not even registered anywhere. All that is there is a piece of paper that can be easily torn up, thereby announcing that the "civil marriage" is terminated.

But why then is all this disgrace necessary? For a woman, this is absolutely useless. For her, this is a piece of paper that completely “unties the hands” of a man who now has the full and most important legal right to possess this woman. This is the key to a legitimate love relationship with a woman.

Moreover, a man can have more than a dozen such contracts. How many? You can learn about this only from the man himself, from another woman or his friends, since the orfi contract, as we have already said, is not registered anywhere.

Without this document, a man does not have the right to even just touch a woman. For this, he can be immediately arrested by the police. And with this contract, the woman signs her own sentence.

Therefore, if a woman wants to have at least some rights and vehemently wants to become a legal wife, then it is worth insisting on the legalization of the orfi contract. How to marry an Egyptian? After an ardent desire to enter into a legal marriage appears, it is necessary, as always, to declare your desire. Those. come to court with a lawyer, where you have to sign a lot of papers and certify this whole pile with seals.

Three or four months after this procedure, the newlyweds are given a paper on the basis of which they are legal husband and wife. What does a woman get in this case?

1. A visa for six months, then for a year and for 5 years. Later, she can become a happy owner of an Egyptian passport.
2. According to this document, the legal spouse has the right to buy tickets at the Egyptian fare, which is available only to local residents.
3. If a marriage contract was concluded, then you can count on at least some kind of compensation after a divorce. Of course, if the marriage contract was drawn up at all and the moment was stipulated in it.

Further, perhaps the legal spouse will "delicately" hint that it would be nice to change religion, and then you will have to learn to live according to their laws, where the woman for the most part obeys and pleases her husband in every possible way. Those. you will have to pacify your character and demonstrate chastity and purity.

Are you ready to go for it? Do you really need all this?

If you began to doubt the sincerity of Khabib, then here is a mini guide for you.

How to find out if Khabib loves you or just uses you?

Everything is extremely simple. If love conversations come down to one thing - money, expensive purchases and gifts, then most likely Khabib is just pulling money.

If the beloved does not make the mistake described above, but covers up all this extortion with the words: “We are doing this together, for the sake of our family, life. All other nonsense in the same vein, but you just sent me money, I'll buy everything myself, then come back in another year. I'll have everything ready by now."

Then not in a year, not in two, it will not be possible to find a scoundrel. It will also be problematic to prove that the money was sent, transferred to such and such an account, because no one forced you to give the money to some stranger. It's your own fault...

The worst thing is when a woman finds herself alone with all this horror, and even with a child in her arms. Then "love" begins to blackmail, declaring that according to their law the child remains with the father. In order not to part with a child, a woman is ready for anything, even to give everything to the last penny.

Further, if for the time being love continues, love SMS reach the addressee with inveterate frequency, attention to the woman does not dry out and the world remains beautiful, and everything seems to be fine, everything is in openwork, then try not to give gifts anymore, do not send a single ruble to your beloved and completely cut off his cash flow. What will be the reaction? As a rule, SMS with threats, insults, rudeness instantly arrive at the address of the unfortunate woman, and the biography of the woman is filled with more and more delicate details.

There is nothing more to add here, because for the most part, an Egyptian needs a Russian woman for only two purposes:

- Intimate relationships to put out your want for a while. In continuation of the theme of sex tourism in Egypt, because some women come here for this too.

- For the sake of money, which will then go to the improvement of housing, so that later his legal wife, a Muslim Egyptian, would enter his house. It doesn't matter how he made his fortune...

It is rare when a rich, wealthy Egyptian who marries a Russian woman for love becomes the hero of a true love story. And they lived happily ever after...

Dear women, respect yourself, do not fall for empty promises and always think about the consequences of a short holiday romance. Remember that the one who really loves is not the one who talks a lot, but the one who reinforces his words with actions. It’s better not to talk too much, but to prove your love by deed!

Dedicated to all deceived women whose destinies were broken as a result of their own naivety and blind faith in Arab love.

Photo-1L Finally arrived, I thought as I landed on Egyptian soil. I do not like to fly, but for the sake of a trip to the land of dreams, I will step over this phobia. Going out into the street, I immediately felt the pleasant rays of the sun, a light south breeze, and the sound of the sea was already heard nearby. And a wave of impudent and stubborn male attention immediately “came over” me: all women who set foot on the eastern land feel it ...

Often, at such a resort, the hot sun starts to bake in the head, a light dope hits, and there are only feelings and emotions in the soul. And even more so with such colossal male attention ... In southern countries, any girl (woman) feels like a queen, catching the admiring glances of men. To spice up a delightful vacation, you need to have a holiday romance with one of the local machos. The choice of candidates for the role of a resort lover is a lot, there are a dime a dozen of them, and everyone rewards you with pleasant compliments and unlimited attention ... It's very hard to resist. They tell a story to women that they are ready to smash all the pyramids into small grains of sand for their sake. And many single girls who are disappointed in the men of the “domestic manufacturer”, and women who walk alone for a long time, holding hands tightly, take risks and fall into the maelstrom of beautiful phrases and promises of oriental men.

This is how a fairy tale called “Oriental Love” begins ... Looking at Arab men, one gets the impression that in their head, instead of thoughts, incendiary music constantly sounds, and crazy wine flows in their veins. They intoxicate, intoxicate with their beautiful phrases, compliments that we have never heard in our lives, they give us the fairy tale that we dreamed of, they know how to beautifully present the story about the meaning of life and the fabulous love that they saw in our eyes. We are fascinated looking at them and sincerely believe that this is true. They give something that a European man could hardly give.

Of course, many of us do not consider Arabs at all as re-applicants for a holiday romance, but this will not stop them and they will still bombard us with compliments and look at us as a lady who is in search of love. Photo-2R

At the resort, everything develops at an enviable speed. There are too many extraordinary and spectacular acts. An ordinary holiday romance quickly turns into love and becomes a drug for many girls: they will no longer be able to live long without these oriental vibes. It is these Arabs, who know how to love, that make you feel truly desired and loved.

We enjoy every minute of this false love, which burst into our hearts so sharply and drove us crazy. All this sounds so fabulous and fantastic, but, as you know: “in a barrel of honey, not without a fly in the ointment.” Maybe you should look at the other side of the coin?

When we arrive at the resort, we cannot soberly assess the situation. There are too many fabulous things around: the sea, the sun, palm trees, and too much male attention. The most interesting thing is that the attitude of local men towards our tourists is not serious. They often, behind their backs, call Slavic girls "sharmuts", i.e. prostitutes. They believe that our girls come to the resort not only for new experiences, but also for new love. We argue and blame the Egyptians for their immoral behavior, but, most likely, we ourselves create all these unworthy situations. Many of our actions cease to obey logic, the mind turns off, and we become hostages of our feelings and emotions.

Unfortunately, girls forget that Eastern men are boyfriends, by their vocation. And yet, they forget that the period of beautiful courtship and stormy nights ends as quickly as it all began. Often, Eastern love ends in tears, broken hearts, and sometimes even destinies. Fairytale mirage crumbling like a house of cards. He brings a very strong bitterness, and after a while, already in her homeland, the girl understands the banal truth that after a stormy holiday romance, it hurts her, and not the one who stayed in a distant eastern country.

Photo-3L Why, as soon as we gain what we have been searching for so long, we immediately lose it? Well, if upon arrival home, the brains turn on, and the girl stops raving about her unforgettable vacation and resort macho. But, sometimes, at home, some of our compatriots still live that distant fairy-tale love and their Muslim man. To which they sometimes dangle for years, collect for a whole year for a ticket, carry all sorts of “representations”.

Arabs like to joke that one tourist leaves and 10 arrives. And so the whole season.

Marriage.

They rarely manage to marry a Slavic girl. Basically, they have fun with them and throw out their restless sexual energy, and then marry “their own”, who, due to traditions (which have great power there!) Can’t sleep with their husband until weddings.

I wonder if love has a nationality? Arabs love blonde hair and white skin. If you married a European, then consider that you pulled out a lucky ticket, although this happens quite rarely, but it still happens. For them, we are as exotic as they are for us.

But what awaits a girl who agreed to connect her life with a Muslim? Can a strong resort oriental love survive in a foreign country where traditions are too strong and the influence of public opinion is great? It is very difficult to decide to accept the faith, obey all these traditions, prayers (and prayers in the mosque take place 5 times a day during fasting), readiness to wear a hijab (and no deep necklines, short shorts and dresses!), stay at home.

In Egypt, men love submissive wives, and you should be prepared for the fact that your place will be in the kitchen. Not everyone is able to stay at home, give birth to children, cook Arabic dishes, and obey not only the husband, who lives according to Shiria law, but also his mother. The wife of an Arab does not have the right to ask her husband where and with whom he was, why he was late, she has no rights at all. She silently waits for her husband for dinner while he smokes hashish with other men. Arab wives wear the hijab all the time.

Everything that seemed exotic and fabulous after marriage causes wild irritation and disgust. Yes, love can push us to the most incredible things, but is this love worth our freedom?

Interesting fact. In Georgia, quite often they say a toast to a woman who has never been to Turkey. What is it: Georgian troubles, healthy cynicism, or fear that Eastern men awaken in a woman the desire to be a WOMAN?

"Generators of unusual ideas", "masters of the family nest" and "desperate friends" - it's all about them, the Arabs. They are also spoiled, boastful and unpredictable. Personal experience of a girl, but not a wife.

Oksana L. has been dating a Jordanian who has come to Kyiv to study and work for four years and tells how she and her friend manage to combine such different views of East and West.

About friendship and personal boundaries
We have guests at home all the time. At any moment, a friend or just an acquaintance can call and come to our house in the middle of the night. Naturally, as a woman, I need to set the table and make sure that everyone is full and satisfied. Sometimes the house resembles some kind of Arab camp, and not a family nest.

If a friend needs help, you need to rush to him in the middle of the night. Arabs are always ready to help out a friend, come where you need to, pick up, lend money.

Friends are not jealous. My friend is very jealous, but this applies only to our Slavic guys and men, although I do not give a reason. He trusts his own. In any case, his friends, understanding who we are for each other, never allowed themselves even harmless flirting.

About work
They prefer conversations to deeds - long conversations over hookahs. These are real philosophers who are ready to reason and plan for hours. Although this time could be spent on constructive actions than on chatter, most of which will be forgotten the very next day. Oriental men have such a problem: their conversations often diverge from their actions. They promise a lot, and they themselves sincerely believe in what they say. Plans can change dramatically, or mood, or something else, and promises will remain just words.

Arab men should be encouraged - this is how they get inspired and are ready to move mountains for the sake of the family. This applies in particular to work. It is important for them to feel that a woman believes in their strengths and capabilities.

Generators of unusual ideas. For four years, as I know my man, what kind of business he did not start. Cafes, transportation from Ukraine of dogs and birds that are in demand in his homeland in Jordan, processing of semi-precious stones, etc. But he did not bring any ideas to the end. He did not initially calculate the risks, he acted on the basis of momentary desires, excitement and emotions.

Many do not value parental money. Young people live, revel at the expense of their parents and do not know the value of money earned not by their own labor.

Attitude towards women
Most Arabs are spoiled by their mother's attention, love to be taken care of, and are often selfish. They like to surround themselves with everything beautiful, avid fashionistas. They love to dress up: beautiful clothes, shoes, an abundance of rings and bracelets. Favorite clients of barbershops: a stylish beard, gel-styled hair, expensive perfumes.

They love to educate, and if they fail, they can use force. They push morally. Very irascible. Any little thing can piss them off. At the same time, their woman should admire them.

They love to brag about their woman in front of friends - they tell what kind of hostess she is, caring and skillful in all trades. It is important for them that others admire their woman, and therefore they automatically.

It is difficult for our men to offer to live together - they are afraid for their freedom. Arab men, on the contrary, want the girl they like to be constantly in their mind. At home, side by side. They are ready to protect and take care of her, although they demand a lot in return.

Very generous. If possible, they give gifts to a woman, they like wide gestures, absolutely not stingy.

They value independence in our women, the fact that a woman herself can take care of herself, earn money and not depend on a man as much as possible. In his homeland, women mostly stay at home and do housework.

There is a minus. Monogamy is not for Eastern men. How many times had to watch how the family of Arab men go after our girls. When the wife calls, they drop the call or do not pick up the phone. And when they call back, they sing like a nightingale, as they like, and elegantly lie, why they could not answer. Treason for them as such is not considered. This is the norm of the life of an oriental man.

About life
My friend will definitely not eat borscht for three days in a row, although he loves my borscht very much. Arab men are very demanding and capricious in everyday life, like children, and often dependent. If we talk about my man, he himself can clean and cook even better than me. But it is important for him to see that they care about him, do something for him.

I'm used to Russian cuisine, but my love for hummus and flatbread remains unchanged.

He loves cleanliness, but not to the point of fanaticism. He understands that we both work hard and come home very late, so cleaning and cooking at night is not always physically strong enough.

About children and family
My man is ready to lisp with every child, but I'm not sure that he will get up in the middle of the night for his own. This is the duty of the wife. And a man pampers his child and pays attention to him during short games. All other charms of education fall on the shoulders of a woman.

In a marriage with a Christian, there is no choice which religion their joint child will choose - he is a priori born a Muslim. Especially when it comes to a boy.

My man's parents are wealthy and ready to support him, but he, having matured, when the young fuse had passed and partying with friends was no longer a priority, he wanted to prove to his family that he himself could get on his feet.

About religion
I refused to convert to Islam, realizing that I would not be able to wear closed clothes, honor Muslim traditions and be in the “golden cage” at home. He did not swear, he accepted my choice. But it is very important for him that his woman shares religion with him, and his legal wife in any case must convert to Islam or be a Muslim initially.

The Arabs know the Quran from an early age. They are recited like mantras. But my man openly admits that, living among Russians and Ukrainians, he leads an anti-Muslim lifestyle.

His mother, having come to visit us, brought a hijab as a gift with a hint that I should accept their religion, since I live with her son.

A negative attitude towards alcohol persists, despite the love for discos (already in the past) and smoking hookah (this is part of the tradition). Does not respect when a woman drinks even in companies.

About future
After living with an Arab man, it is strange to see how our women treat Russian husbands. It is wild to see sometimes a disrespectful attitude and a desire to be at the head. I have changed my views on what a woman should be in a relationship with any man.

Where this relationship will lead, I don’t know - Russian girls are more freedom-loving, ambitious and active. I don't want to be completely dependent on my husband.

But Arab men are like sweet nectar. You can’t get drunk, but even when you drink, it becomes too cloying that you want plain water. But after the nectar, it seems tasteless. I’m like a tightrope walker halfway: I can’t go back, and ahead is the unknown ...

In Finland, a father was sentenced to 3 years in prison for attempting to kill his one and a half year old son to annoy his wife.
The wife informed Mr. Ali Abdulkadir Omer of her intention to divorce. Ali Omar (41 years old) took the child and dropped it on the floor with the back of his head!
The child lost consciousness. The mother rushed to the child, the husband rushed to bite her back (he went berserk, zhyyvotnae), beat and kicked. The woman dodged and ran out onto the landing, escaping from the offended husband armed with a knife.
The son was hospitalized for 10 days, but he and his mother were lucky, they survived.

Our compatriot in Egypt was not lucky - she lost her property, and then her life
The woman died under mysterious circumstances on February 19, and the investigation is still dragging on with analyzes, examinations, “loses” interrogation protocols, is not going to detain the suspected Arab “husband” and generally persuades to bury the body as soon as possible
The friends of the Russian woman who died in Egypt claim: “The Arab gigolo “divorced” Lena for 4,000,000 rubles and killed her!”
Forty-seven-year-old Elena Lobanova left for Hurghada for a late, long-awaited love. She was going to buy an apartment. Enter a profitable "leather" business, give birth to a child and by all means become happy. She died on February 19 in the early morning to the religious "sobbing" of the muezzins, in the first rays of the resort sun so adored by her, which barely melted the glassy sea horizon ... How exactly - still remains a mystery.

An international call from Lenin's Egyptian number broke into her son's apartment near Moscow only at eight in the evening:

Brother, your mother's heart - stop! - with a terrible accent croaked the handset. I took her to the hospital! Already cold. Sorry brother! My home is your home! I loved Lena so much, brother...

It was Karim, the 24-year-old Arab lover of his mother. Of course, he could only call 22-year-old Artem "brother" ...

Artyom simply did not understand the further gibberish, since Karim spoke the “national Hurghada” - a “curly-haired” mixture of Arabic, Russian and English. In addition, his mother would snatch out the phone every now and then, lamenting in Arabic ...

But Tom wasn't listening. He tried in vain to realize that his mother was no more. Mom, who was about to return home, with whom they had spoken on the phone yesterday, to whom he was finally able to send money for a ticket as soon as the banks opened.

She really wanted to leave. In the last SMS messages received by the girlfriends, there is despair: “Everything is bad ... Artem cannot send money - Western Union does not work ... I can’t buy a ticket.” But while Russian tourists fled en masse from the revolution that broke out in Egypt, Lena was much more afraid of something else ... What exactly - she almost did not tell. Not a son - how can you worry even an adult, but a child. Not to her friends, apparently ashamed to show herself, always strong and lucky, from the weak and stupid side ... She hid behind the neutral-steel "I'm fine." And only occasionally, obviously by accident, uncontrollably, as if screaming in pain, she would drop: “I’m in captivity, I don’t go out for two weeks - he locks me up”, or “he forbids me to call, took away my passport”, or “Everything is very bad, but I can't write. I will explain later when I arrive ... ".

One can only guess what her last days really were. According to the corpse, emaciated to a skeletal state, identified in the morgue, according to a swollen face with bruises and drips from the mouth and nose. By the fact that in her bank accounts, where back in November 2010 there were almost four million for the sale of an apartment and land, only 400 rubles remained.

“You are together ... You don’t understand me”

Muscovite Elena could not be attributed to the category of unfortunate and unclaimed "magpies" living in series about "Cinderellas". No women's curls on the head, shapeless colorful hoodies and "anti-stress" cakes, lying with extra folds at the waist! Educated, always fit, secured. The chief accountant of a large store, and then the famous cardiovascular center "Bakulevka", she was always in good shape, inherent in a woman leader. She earned good money, dressed with taste, was proud of her two-meter student son. That's just with personal life did not grow together.

She and Valerka divorced in 2002 - says Galya, Lena's best friend. He's a good man, but he drank. It was encoded, kept for two or three years, and then traditionally went into a binge for three months. It pissed her off. Then, in 2002, she and I returned from vacation, and Valerik just went into another “corkscrew”. Well, Lena could not stand it - she drove him. She said: “How much can you? I’m 38 years old, I’m still young, I’ll live at least a little calmly for myself. ” Divorce was very hard for everyone. They had been together for 13 years before. The husband was terribly worried. The son got out. But Lena always had a character - flint. Couldn't forgive.

Alas, perhaps the same “flint” in the soul did not allow the then young “divorced woman” to establish relations with a new man. Elena was looked after, but she was very picky in relationships and clean to the point of disgust. Of course, she was tormented by loneliness, but for example, it was taboo for her to bring a strange man to the house where her son was growing up. For example, friends recall how she was introduced to a man at some birthday party, whom she really liked. As usual, she discussed it with her friends, rejoiced at the new prospects together ... And then she told how he called her:

I have a gorgeous bouquet of roses and a bottle of champagne for you, I'll come right now - wait!

I don't mind, but only if it's the other way around, not you to me, but I to you, - Lena snapped.

The cavalier was offended and hung up. They didn't communicate anymore.

Lena was proud. And pride, as you know, is the favorite "delicacy" of loneliness. It is on impregnability and rigid principles that this cruel "beast" is fed. And the worst thing is that sooner or later the supply of principles ends, and then the starving loneliness painfully bites into the heart. Usually this happens just when a woman would already be glad, spitting on pride, to rush to any male call, but they don’t call. This happened to Lena as well.

She didn’t go anywhere much, Galya sighs. - I didn’t even like the company, because I didn’t like drinking. And where to meet? The circle closed: home, work, kitchen, where we were chasing tea like a neighbor ... She began to cry often: “You don’t understand me! Everything is fine with you - you have a husband. And I told her: “Yes, where does my husband? We also left the stage of the novel a long time ago - we have been together for twenty years. Everything is the same: home, work…” And she: “Yes, of course… But you are together!”

Business on feelings

Twenty-year-old Karim, a swarthy, hairy-eyed bag merchant in Hurghada, became for Lena the long-awaited “male call”, to which any single woman of Balzac age is psychologically ready to respond.
They met in 2008. It was the last day of vacation, when Lena, tanned and fluttering in her short skirt, was walking around the city in search of souvenirs. She knew that for her age she looked great - few people can boast that they easily carry jeans, from which seventeen-year-old daughters of girlfriends grew up. Therefore, the increased attention of the young and muscular owner of the shop was taken for granted.

It is not the first time that funny local "Mowglis" flirt with her. Another thing is that until now she did not take these boys seriously - as potential men for herself. And then, suddenly, she herself felt that, like a fly in a jam, she was dying and choking sweetly in a thick stream of mutual passion.

And, despite the fact that the next morning the plane of the newly-made Juliet rushed off to cold Moscow, the romance began with a strong sea knot. Moreover, as usual, around the neck of a Russian woman in love, who doesn’t know a damn thing about the culture and mentality of an Arab country, but firmly believes that “her habibi is not like all these professional gigolos that are regularly talked about in the newspaper and on TV.”

From that moment on, the whole history of the novel by Lena and Karim can be safely entered into the anthology of Russian-Arab loves. Classic! Endless sms: “Ay kiss yu”, “ay miss u” ... Moreover, for the most part - from his side. Him something that - new passion pay. But she doesn't know. He looks at the screen of the phone and considers how much this machine-gun burst of “ey-laves” cost him. Then he imagines how a poor Arab youth in love nibbles on a crust of black bread for dinner in order to save his Egyptian pennies for exactly the same “line” tomorrow. And he runs to transfer him a hundred dollars to pay for the phone. She rereads the clumsy, but that makes it even more precious, like handmade soap, texts, and does not even realize that all of them, however, like the phones of some Russian girls, were stuffed into a shabby Siemens even before he bought the device was owned by the elder, who had already taken the first steps on the "career ladder" of a friend's gigolo. And now a new journey towards love. And in the suitcase, an expensive smartphone is a gift to him. He will immediately sell his "Siemens" to the next growing "colleague" who needs a complete base of SMS in all languages. And 2 heavy artillery will go into battle.

Week of love, departure again. Then - a touching request to help pay for the treatment of my mother. Then - SMS about the dream to come to visit his beloved. Sent to him for a ticket, a visa and a warm jacket 5,000 dollars. Excuses that he cannot come yet because he needs to feed all his sisters, since his uncle was forced to leave to work in Italy. Scandal due to the fact that "I had to send 5,000 dollars to my uncle, because he had terrible problems, but" I will definitely give it back, don't be angry! Her attempts to erase him from life. His cunning tactic is to wait until he calms down and gets bored, and then suddenly reappears with a plea for love: "I have many girls, but they are not worth you."

She somehow even changed her number so that he could not find her - Galya smiles sadly. - I went to rest not in Egypt, but in Turkey. He was gone for six months. And then I look, Lenka is scribbling text messages again. Found it!

In April 2010, "Carthage" was destroyed - Karim introduced Lena to his family and, returning to Moscow, she called her friend Alena with a question about how to privatize the apartment, so that she could later sell it and leave for permanent residence in Egypt.

“I will be loved ... But no, I will commit suicide!”

Everyone answered. Even at work, Lena quarreled with friends who opposed her Egyptian happiness with a friendly “demonstration”. Girlfriend Galya buzzed her ears with lectures. The only conclusion that Lena made was to be less frank with those who press too hard. That is why, apparently, no one except Alena's friend knew Karim's terrible secret, which Lena herself found out by accident ...

It was in August 2010, when Lena had already put the apartment up for sale and went to Hurghada for a couple of weeks not even to a hotel, but to visit Karim, - says Alena. - It was like a "shooting", a test of life together. And then one day she discovered that money was missing from her wallet. A small amount - a couple of hundred dollars, but the fact itself ...

Moreover, the apartment was locked, the key was hidden, and the "habibi" himself was lying in the bathroom with an empty syringe in a deep "high". Lenka then told how, sobbing, she instantly packed her suitcase and went down the sheets from the window. She ran to a friend who was just relaxing in one of the hotels. But two days later, Karim found her, fell to his knees, begged for forgiveness, said that he would die without her. He told a “terrible story” about how lonely he was when she left him, and his uncle put him on a needle to “unwind.” Moreover, he brought with him his mother, who sobbed in the background and nodded, confirming that the son’s heartfelt longing for her and an unscrupulous relative were to blame for everything. Lenka forgave. She didn’t tell anyone but me about this, apparently because of the fear that they would condemn her even more. I could not blame her, I sympathized very much, but I also repeated that going to live with a drug addict is crazy! But she was adamant: “I am to blame for his misfortune! I finished it and now I have to help to cope.”

In November, she sold her Moscow apartment. I bought Artem a one-room apartment in the region. I collected all my things, put the money on the card and gave my girlfriends a "dump".

She flew away on wings - recalls Galya. - She made plans ... He promised her a joint business. Before leaving, Lenka gave him 18 thousand euros so that he would invest “her share” in the store. She dreamed: "I will buy an apartment, I will go with him to the store in the morning to work, and in the evenings - to the sea." And how joyfully she waved the extract from Bakulevka, which showed that she was healthy and could still give birth! She said: “Before meeting with Karim, I had not seen men at all for five years. I don’t want to do this anymore ... That’s how much is released, I’ll live as much, but humanly, loving and being loved. If it doesn’t work, I’ll lay hands on myself.”

What was it? Prediction? Or maybe the idea that she inadvertently gave to the young quick-witted gigolo? After all, the first thing he did after Lena's death was to bring to the police a piece of paper covered in English letters. Allegedly, Lena's suicide note, in which she asked to forgive her. It's just that the handwriting doesn't look the same. And she didn't know how to write in English...

“Understood that it was used, but did not want to believe”

Who would have known that that cheerful, hopeful evening, like the legendary (separating the afterlife and real worlds) river Styx, would become for Lena a frontier, beyond which a long, painful death would begin.

She disappeared gradually - recalls Galya. - At first, we endlessly corresponded with sms and talked on Skype. She was even happy. She wrote that, at the request of Karim, her mother taught her how to cook Egyptian dishes. Not so cheerful anymore, but still chuckled at the fact that Karim had rejected almost all of her summer clothes, as too open and she had to go around in nightmarish local clothes. And it’s already quite sad that, despite her investments, only his mother trades in the store, and Lena sits locked at home. Then Lena began to disappear. She explained this by the fact that Karim does not like it when she spends money on chatting on the phone.

Most of all, her friends were surprised that she was clearly moving away from talking about buying an apartment. It was impossible to pull out anything other than “we draw up documents”. Already by the New Year, after a long silence, Galya unexpectedly called:

We urgently need three thousand euros to buy a very nice apartment! The one that I was counting on before is not suitable ... In general, please go out on loan.

Well done such! - half-jokingly indignant girlfriend. - For weeks you are silent, like a fish, but as soon as the money was needed, she immediately called. How are you?

Fine…

What else, besides this, could the unfortunate woman say, who, apparently, already understood that she was taken advantage of, but did not want to believe it?

These are also a couple of classic Alphonse scenarios ... Speaking about the general business, he “forgets” to say that you cannot open anything without him. At least in the role of Pound from the "Golden Calf", but the local should be among the founders of any business in Egypt.

In the same way, it is not easy to buy an apartment here without the help of a man and generally turn any deal. But the worst thing is that if your money falls into the hands of a man, he has every right to kick you at any time, and not a single court will force him to return anything to you. The probability that Lena fell into such a trap is 99.9%. Having taken all the money, including the “apartment”, he began to slowly press her. He reacted angrily to her mentions of the apartment: “Our business is falling apart, and you stuck with your apartment!”

And in order to squeeze it to the maximum, at some point he began to lie that he still looked after the apartment, but it is a little more expensive. So, you need to urgently call your friends with a request to send more money. And when they send it, of course, give it to him.

First, Galya sent money, then Artem, and again, and again ... But, as it turns out, Lena did not even buy an apartment. For the New Year and for birthdays, she threw mean congratulatory sms to her friends.

It doesn’t look like her at all,” Galya sighs. - Previously, Lena was such a "lighter"! All congratulations - in verse, she composed herself. I think, maybe he put her on some kind of pills or drugs, so that she would gradually become a “vegetable” and already lay claim to nothing?

A big baby with a dead mother in her arms...

Last week, Artyom arrived at a sunny resort with the hardest mission - "to identify the corpse of my mother." Thanks to Lenin's friend Alena, who volunteered to support Artyom and went with him.

Recently they were at Karim's. They found out that not a single thing of Lenin's was preserved in the house. That is, he took the documents to the police. And things - "attached".

Where is the computer?

Broken.

What about the camera?

Lena gave it to someone ...

What about gold jewelry? She had a whole box...

I sold them.

What right did you have?

And she bequeathed them to my sister in her suicide note.

And where is the money for the apartment that Lena wanted to buy?

I have no idea.

And where is the last 500 euros that Artem sent to Lena for the ticket?

Spent on a police bribe to let me go...

Simplicity is worse than theft! Artyom Karim returned only a gold pendant in which Lena wore a tiny filial photograph.
And if before leaving, Theme was wondering if Karim was to blame for the death of his mother, but now he is sure of it.
But the worst thing is that now the boy cannot forgive himself for not stopping his mother:

I watched how she suffers, goes out, suffers ... She started a terrier and talks to him ... I decided that since she was drawn to this guy, then she would be happier with him. It seemed to me that I sacrificed my interests for the sake of my mother. And it turned out that I donated it. But all I wanted was for her to be happy. Before leaving, my mother dreamed about me. Calm. I asked, "So what happened?" And she: “It happened so ...” She didn’t even tell in a dream. Also, do you know why it hurts? It's like I'm leaving her here. The transportation of the body is very expensive, and there is no crematorium here. I will never have a mother again. There won't even be a grave.

…Help him not go crazy!

Until now, neither a graphological examination of the handwriting in the "suicide" note, nor a biochemical analysis of the blood of the deceased has been carried out.

The doctors told me from the start it was murder! says Ahmed, an interpreter who helps Elena's son communicate with Egyptian officials. - But at the consulate, information was already taken from somewhere that “an autopsy was carried out, no violent injuries were found on the body, the internal organs are in order.”

"You can bury!" - solemnly announced Yusup Abakarov, an employee of the consular department of the Russian embassy in Cairo.

But there are still too many questions in this case! A 47-year-old woman, whose health, according to doctors, even allowed her to give birth, cannot die just like that. And if you also take into account that for some reason she was bleeding from her nose and ears, and some potent drugs were found next to her, which Elena herself never took and, given the “house arrest” arranged for her, she could not buy anywhere …

We performed the autopsy without the permission of a relative because there is every reason to believe that this is a murder, we were told in the Hurghada prosecutor's office.

So far, the doctors have only learned that Lena died due to a sharp drop in blood pressure. But what caused it, you can find out only with the help of biochemical analysis.

Perhaps it is clonidine poisoning, says Valentina Pulkacheva, a Russian human rights activist living in Egypt, who helps Artyom navigate the situation. - Recently, local criminals often use it. Last fall, there were four such cases.

There is still no biochemical analysis, no handwriting examination regarding the "suicide note", although a week and a half has passed since the day of death. Moreover, the suspect is still at large. He bombards Lena's son with text messages, trying to control the situation under the guise of sympathy and find out what the police and the prosecutor's office already know.

And, by the way, worrying in vain. Apparently, for a bribe, which Karim himself admits, the police “lost” both the medicines that were found on Elena’s body and the protocol of his interrogation ... Is it possible to accidentally lose the most important document - the interrogation of a criminal suspected of murder, who has already changed at least twice your testimony! Either he said that he had found Elena already dead in bed, then that he was taking her to the hospital while still alive ...

Ah, the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, the Russian consulate in Cairo, which I have been trying in vain to get through to for several days! Please help Artem Lobanov figure out who is to blame for the death of his mother! The guy is very hard. He is kind, strong and a little clumsy child. There is no Russian consulate in Hurghada. He is alone in a foreign country, with the corpse of his mother in his arms and absolutely without help. Imagine how scary it is and help!

And we will definitely return to this topic later, and we really hope that by then everything will change for the better.

Oksana Yesenina

Why do Arabs choose Russian wives?

Now this question worries a lot of people. But so far no one has been able to give an exhaustive answer to it. What do the Arabs find in our Russian girls? Why are they ready to turn a blind eye to her “free” past, go against family traditions, and simply love her in spite of the whole world?

What makes the heart of hot Arab men pound more and more at the sight of their Russian "Natasha"? Beauty? Unbridled passion combined with sedate calmness and modesty? Mystery, contrary to incorruptible simplicity and deep sincerity? Or is it a simple tribute to the fashion to have a foreign wife?

In order to somehow clarify and understand the reasons for the significant increase in Russian-Arab marriages, let's try to compare the requirements of an oriental man with the qualities of his potential companion.

What do Arab men expect from marriage?

Like any other man, an Arab expects to get from marriage: a reliable union, warm and trusting relationships, and of course, the high status of a respected married person.

But in addition to all these human desires, the eastern representative of the strong half of humanity, coupled with peace of mind and moral stability, also dreams of finding love, mutual understanding, and just friendly support. Is it not her own, an Arab bride is not able to satisfy at least some of the above requirements?

Arab wives. What are they?

Of course, they are economic, obligatory, submissive and sweet. It would seem, what else is needed for a prosperous family happiness? But after two or three years of living together, all the movements of oriental beauties become so well-developed that even looking at them becomes boring and uninteresting.

It's no secret that Arab women for the most part approach family life with a certain calculation. And the point here is not entirely in premarital ransom or dowry. Her family life is, first of all, a huge physical labor, a kind of payment to her faithful for his kind attitude towards her and material support. In the mornings, she makes breakfast, escorts her husband to work with a sweet smile, does laundry, cleans up, and then, having spoken with her faithful habitual set of standard phrases, ends her working day.

On the face of it, such a relationship seems to be ideal. But every year they begin to grow into a routine more and more, that same romance, the flame of passion, which must be maintained throughout life, disappears. Probably, it's just that many Arab ladies understand the expression a little one-sidedly: "A woman is the keeper of the hearth." In fact, this phrase has a deeper meaning.

The “hearth” is, first of all, that source of heat, which should not only warm the hearts of lovers, but also, with its playful flame, throughout life, help inflame the feelings of the spouses, either pumping up or suppressing this unbridled element of the fire of passion. Therefore, the main task of any woman, regardless of her temperament and nationality, is to learn how to manage this very element at her own discretion.

Who knows? Maybe just a Russian woman is her real tamer.

And what are we - Russian wives?

The Russian woman at all times has been the standard of humility and devotion. But this devotion was manifested not only in relation to her husband, but also to her household, relatives and the entire Russian people.

She will help out of trouble, and give wise advice, but she will take all the hardships and hardships of family life onto her fragile shoulders. Only there would be a worthy male shoulder nearby, on which one could lean in case of illness, or some other adversity.

But, unfortunately, in modern men all the strength of the Russian spirit has been translated. Either they are drawn to clubs, then to alcohol, or even change their orientation in general. So a poor Russian woman goes to seek her happiness in a foreign land, where she will be accepted with pleasure and treated kindly, and then they will call her in marriage.

And so the Russian beauty remains to live on foreign land with her newly-made Arab husband, who, for all her incorruptible devotion and fidelity, will take care and protect her from all evil. And she will become an exemplary mistress for him, she will give birth to children, and she will open her soul of infinite kindness.

And all this without any kalyms and premarital gifts. We don't need material goods for Russian women. Let only the soul rejoice and rejoice from love and a happy life! Well, we will not remain in debt!

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