About 800,000 Tajik migrants live and work in Russia, but little is known about their personal lives. For the past 12 years, sociologist, RIAC expert, head of the SHARK research center in Tajikistan, Saodat Olimova has been studying the sexual behavior of Tajiks working in Russia and its connection with the outbreak of the HIV / AIDS epidemic in the republic. She told how migrants buy cheap love in Russia, why visitors commit sexual crimes and what to do if you work at a logging site surrounded by only men for a year and a half.

Sexual infections transmitted in the absence of wives

Lenta.ru How diverse is the sexual life of Tajik migrants in Russia?

Olimova: About 90 percent of the migrants surveyed were married, but only 5 percent took their wife with them to Russia. Another 3 percent take their wife with them for a while.

Speaking about their sex life, 38 percent of respondents reported that they did not have sex at all while traveling; another 22 percent had sexual relations with casual partners; 11.5 percent - with regular partners (girlfriends); 10 percent with sex workers; 8 percent - with his wife; 6.5 percent - with kept women.

Of those who have not had sexual intercourse, about five percent reported that they solve the problem through masturbation. About one percent of the respondents admitted to having homosexual contacts. Perhaps not everyone answered this question frankly, but I think the level of homosexual relationships is still no higher than the standard four to five percent.

Photo: Vasily Shaposhnikov / Kommersant

What did those who confessed to having homosexual relationships say in interviews?

There may be several options for such connections. Firstly, it can be forced contacts - like in prison. For example, in logging teams, when long time there are no women. We were told about a case when 62 people worked at a logging site for a year and a half, and two of them became a couple. Another option - in large Russian cities, young guys get in touch with Russian homosexuals. There are times when they are offered good conditions life, Russian citizenship, money.

Such stories are kept in the strictest confidence, since Tajiks have a very negative attitude towards homosexuality, and migrants often come to work in teams of relatives and neighbors.

Why did you even decide to turn to the topic of the sexual life of migrants?

The fact is that earlier in Tajikistan the problem of HIV and STDs was not acute. HIV circulated in relatively small group drug users and was transmitted mainly by injection. But since 2002, along with the rise in labor migration to Russia, the number of reported cases of sexually transmitted infection among migrants returning from abroad has sharply increased. Practitioners began to sound the alarm, and turned to the IOM and the Global Fund to Fight HIV/AIDS, Tuberculosis and Malaria, and they decided to conduct a study to clarify the situation. In 2010 and 2014, we did the same work again to track the dynamics.

Does the current sexual behavior of Tajik men differ from what it was 15-20 years ago?

The number of people who carry their wives with them has slightly decreased - from seven to five percent. Secondly, in 12 years, the number of people entering into casual relationships has almost doubled. At the same time, it is surprising that the number of those who use sex services does not change over time: they are always about ten percent.

The number of marriages and long-term relationships with Russian women has decreased. In 2002, there were quite a lot of them, because people, to some extent, continued to feel like citizens of the USSR. Now Tajik migrants are at the bottom of the social ladder, so it is difficult for them to find a partner for a long-term relationship. Tajik is already almost a social status.

Rapes are considered casual relationships

What form of commercial sex do migrants prefer?

Various. Most often, they turn to the services of “call girls”, whom they invite to their place: in 2010, 52 percent of migrants who used sex services reported this. 16.4 percent of people in this group go home to a sex worker; 9 percent visits brothels; 7 percent - massage rooms; 5 percent paid for sex to female employees in the workplace. The rest named saunas, “special apartments”, cars.

I saw two examples of how sex services were organized. In one case, this happened in the center of Moscow at a construction site. There was a small trailer where three or four women worked - one of them was for the local leadership.

Usually pimps negotiate with foremen and bring several women to the facilities. Apparently, such a scheme is well organized and has been used for a long time. Girls change often - they have many clients, working conditions are very difficult.

For the second time, I watched a minibus parked at the construction site, in which the girls served the builders. Most likely, such services are inexpensive.

Migrants who work in the transport sector pick up "shoulders" on the highways - these are girls who provide sex services to truckers.

What then is meant by random connections?

They are very varied. It can be sex at the workplace, most often with the same guest workers - Moldovans, Ukrainians, Russians, that is, internal migrants, one-day girlfriends - sex at night. These may be workers hired for a day or two to perform certain work on the construction and decoration of the house. Random connections can also happen in workshops, for example, in the production of furniture. Migrants spend the night right at work - both women and men. Everything happens there.

For example, Tajiks repair country houses and dachas, and people come to them local girls. People may know each other for a day or two.

Random connections are more typical for workers in the transport sector. These are taxi drivers, truck drivers. Among them, the proportion of those entering into casual relationships is much larger than in other areas.

Why has this become common?

The flow of migrants has partly changed. After the crisis of 2008, the proportion of very young people increased markedly - up to 25 years. They do not always consider actions and sometimes act impulsively. Although now the share of young people is declining along with a decrease in the number of labor migrants in Russia.

Are sexual crimes among such casual relationships?

Most likely, of these 22 percent, a proportion may be rapes. But I don't think this is a common occurrence. Such crimes are committed - including by Tajiks - for several reasons. First, they are young men without wives. They do not have the opportunity to find a partner, as they are often isolated from society. It marginalizes them. In the army, for example, they used to give bromine. And then it all turns into aggression.

Second, there are cultural differences. What is normal for Russians is read by Tajiks as a signal of accessibility or even as a call. In Tajikistan, girls don't walk around in revealing clothes, don't enter into conversation with men, and - most importantly - don't drink with them. It takes a lot of time, especially for young people, to understand what and how is customary in Russia.

There are cases when Russian women had sex with migrants under the influence of alcohol, or it was spontaneous sex, and the next morning she accused him of sexual violence.

Mutually beneficial sexual relationship

You have also studied the phenomenon of migrant cohabitation. What does this relationship look like?

More than 11 percent of our respondents said that they live with a friend and have a common household with her. Such stories most often begin with business relationships: first they work together, and then somehow it turns out by itself that people rent an apartment and start living together.

Usually several couples live in one apartment - it can be three or four couples in two-room apartment.

That is, relations with Russian women rarely happen?

They also visit Russian girls, but most often the “friends” of Tajik migrants are migrant women working next to them from other countries - from Ukraine, Moldova or Kazakhstan, or Russian women who come from the regions. All of them are united by a joint migrant business - construction or trade.

Is their relationship like family?

Tajiks treat these women not as wives who need to be provided for, but as equal partners, companions. Therefore, they often share the budget and treat their partner with respect. At the same time, they are not responsible for this woman. Initially, cohabitation is temporary and does not provide for the birth of children.

Condom is embarrassing

How do migrants feel about contraceptives?

70 percent of all migrants who come into contact with irregular partners (casual relationships, sex workers) use contraceptives. Problems arise in relationships with regular partners, because when a migrant starts living with a girlfriend, he gradually begins to perceive her as a wife and stops using condoms. However, these unions are temporary for both him and her: the situation changes, someone leaves, a new partner or partner appears. In such short-term relationships, the likelihood of infection increases dramatically.
Also, I'm not sure that migrants who use condoms always do so.

So it's the women's fault?

The link between HIV/AIDS and migration is a common problem for the whole world. Mobility always entails the expansion of sexual relations and their short duration. At the same time, people do not understand that a condom is important and not at all ashamed, they do not have safe sex skills, no one taught them this. Therefore, both partners are to blame, as well as states that should inform their citizens.

The work of Natalia Zotova and Viktor Agadzhanyan says that among the representatives Central Asia Tajik women are protected more often than others and are less likely to get sexually transmitted infections. This is true?

Basically, I agree with their conclusions. The fact is that among Tajik women, women over 35 almost always go to work - either widows or divorced. These are grown women - they understand what they are doing.

Of course, they try to establish long-term relationships. 40-year-old women do not do spontaneous stupid things. But they are far from always able to force a partner to use a condom and agree to its terms.

It's better for the wife not to ask anything

Were there men who had children in Russia among your respondents?

Infrequently, but they do happen. In this case, a whole tangle of problems appears. The migrant needs to somehow legalize this child so that he bears his last name. For example, through marriage. As a result, difficulties begin with a wife in Tajikistan, divorces and at the same time attempts to keep both families in different kind marriages - official and Sharia.

Photo: Dmitry Lebedev / Kommersant

They come to their homeland and just put their wife before the fact?

They may not say. But more often parents are informed about grandchildren who have appeared in Russia, and there the information will reach the wife. Nevertheless, wives often put up with the appearance of another family.

The departure of her husband to work abroad for a Tajik woman is a real tragedy. He is always absent, it is impossible to have a lover, his mother-in-law, sister-in-law and other relatives are always somewhere nearby. Wives wait for their husbands for years. If only the husband returned, at least some - and that's good.

He will come with children and diseases, but will he still be welcome?

Of course. She works from morning to evening in the field, looks after the children, takes care of his parents. But she knows that her husband went to another country to work hard and hard to provide her and the children with everything they need.

Is there any male solidarity among migrants when they return home? For example, do rumors reach the wife about the sexual adventures of her husband?

As far as I know, they are all silent, like partisans. Men are in approximately the same position and do not talk too much about life in migration.

At the same time, migrant groups in Russia usually have an older, authoritative migrant who is responsible for everyone. If someone got into trouble, contracted HIV or an STI, then in Tajikistan they believe that the elder is to blame, who did not see it.

When a man returns to Tajikistan, does he still have any sexual habits fixed in Russia?

They bring home not only money, but also new experience. sexual relations, new ideas about what is permitted and forbidden, but most of them - 78 percent - are returning to the socio-cultural norms adopted in their homeland. What was in Russia remains in Russia. The rest, upon their return, implement the patterns of behavior that have developed in Russia.

And how do mothers feel about the fact that their son can cheat on his wife?

Mothers send their sons on a very dangerous and difficult journey, so everything is forgiven them. Extramarital affairs - this is what accompanies making money in another country. The general opinion is this: returned alive and with money - already good. And it's better not to ask about anything else.

It turns out that over the past 15 years, the only thing that migrants in Russia have borrowed in the intimate sphere is sexual infections?

Our research shows how sexual practices change over the years - the "rules of the game" and ethical standards legalizing the previously “inadmissible” (extramarital sexual relations, eating forbidden food, violations of marital behavior).

At the same time, new stable models of sexual and marital behavior of migrants are being formed as part of their adaptation to Russian reality. Gradually, an implicit social recognition of second marriages on the road, a neutral attitude towards cohabitation and temporary partnership are being formed. Thus, the boundaries of what is permitted expand, become mobile, but the orientation to the socio-cultural norms in force in the homeland is preserved.

Nevertheless, under the influence of large-scale labor migration, there is an implicit expansion of the range of sexual practices and relationships in Tajik society as a whole. This process is viewed by society as the destruction of traditions, the decline of morality, so there are discussions about polygamy, abandoned wives and children, divorces over the phone, guest marriage. From my point of view, this reflects the process of changing sexual and family-marriage ethics. It should be recognized that the sexual practices of Tajik migrants in Russia are part of the mechanism of adaptation to the conditions of migration and to the host society.

Lenta.ru expresses its gratitude to the Russian International Affairs Council for assistance in preparing the interview

I witnessed an ugly (in my opinion) scene, when at the bus stop under a canopy 4 young Tajiks were lounging on chairs (working at a construction site), and 2 elderly women were standing in the rain. None of those seated even made an attempt to give them a seat. On what traditions are modern Tajiks brought up? One gets the impression that, when crossing the border of Russia, visitors from Central Asia Are there only instincts left?

• Who can protect us women from such a boorish attitude of migrants?

Because they have arrived from another culture. It would be strange to approach them accordingly with our standards, with our traditions. Of course, women should give way. Of course, you can not sit when a woman is standing next to you. And a dozen different others "of course." But the thing is, it's only for us Europeans, these things and in general all this behavior is taken for granted. Granted. And the usual rules of courtesy - they us familiar because it European regulations. The countries of Central Asia have completely different traditions. To start at least with the fact that they were brought up, from childhood, on Islam, and not on Christianity. A woman in Islam is a second-class creature and often has no rights at all. Yes, it seems wild to us - well, it is us it seems so. And they grew up on this, and it seems strange to them just our attitude, our traditions, our moral standards. We consider it indecent to burp at the table and lick your fingers - and in the East not to burp after a meal and not lick your fingers will be a sign of disrespect for the owner: he fed the guests badly, tastelessly. And which tradition is "correct"? No, both have the right to exist. In one culture, one tradition is more familiar, in another, another. Returning to the mentioned Tajiks: the fact that they did not give way to a woman does not at all mean some kind of conscious neglect, conscious disrespect, or something like that. They just didn't think of it. This is not rude at all - this is ignorance. They have in Tajikistan, like many other places, this is how they live. It is impossible to instantly adjust to a foreign culture, despite the fact that the initial level of education of those who go to Russia to earn money in jobs that are not the most prestigious, we must agree, is also low. Moreover, no one is specifically engaged in such an "educational program" - neither from their side, nor from ours. Well, what do you want from yesterday's dekhans?

It seems to me completely wrong to judge the whole nation by 4 people. Is it possible to talk about the whole nation if you met only those of its representatives who did not find application for their mind, knowledge, skills in their homeland and left to work in another country? And even they are all different, not to mention all the people. If you think like this, then foreigners have the right to judge negatively about the entire Russian people, seeing tourists reveling in freebies in Turkey, or to judge, meeting criminal subjects, or to judge all the women of Russia by individual priestesses of love, who simply flooded some countries. You should never generalize. Well, now, in essence, these 4 people of eastern nationality, who could very well be Tajiks, most likely did not give way to women because they did not receive proper education in their family. By the way, I was here in Russia just now, so not a single man gave me a seat and did not help with a heavy suitcase.)

How Tajiks treat Russian girls

Vladlena is dating a Tajik. The guy is very well-mannered and delicate. But the Russian girl has doubts: what if the relationship of the Tajik is not so right?

From the first lines of this publication, I have to remind you that you have no right to incite ethnic hatred.

Let's already learn not to put insulting stamps on everyone who is not Russian.

Tajiks are overly industrious brothers who are distinguished by cheerful good nature.

FROM the greatest work I managed to include in the discussion a girl who, like Vladlena, is dating a Tajik.

She agreed to answer the question.

I am Margot. 24 - according to the passport. 25 - in psychology.

People are so tired of the dullness of everyday life that they are given sensations, gossip and stupid conversation.

This is exactly what we are doing now.

Tajiks treat Russian girls to the extent of their upbringing, and not a biased perception of personality.

Many people call them "stalkers".

And how do you call yourself?

My Tajik boyfriend builds our relationship without embarrassment that I am a Russian young lady.

I do not feel any difference between a bouquet of flowers and an invitation to a cafe - if only a well-bred Russian youth were in his place.

And again the question “stunk”: what are you missing, Russians?

Or does Margot like "darker"?

No, ghouls, our acquaintance took place absolutely by chance, when my Tajik was just returning from the stall.

A white-toothed smile, no hints of fleeting intimacy, drunkenness and rudeness.

Yes, I had to get used to his accent a bit. He must have gotten used to it too.

The relations of Tajiks, who are not obsessed with the nation, are built on the conviction that he is confronted by a Russian woman who is no different from humble Tajik women.

Of course, among any diaspora there are nasty people.

And now I don't want to blame anyone for anything.

That is why we live in such a hostile way that we do not see the prospects for serious and pure relations with those who speak broken Russian.

Please love good people, no matter what nationality.

And let's end this conversation.

Margo from Moscow.

The material was prepared by me - Edwin Vostryakovsky.

How do Tajiks, Chechens treat Russian girls?

Russian girls are not very suitable for marriage, because they are not culturally educated enough, I repeat the words of one of my acquaintances, from one of the fraternal southern republics. I used to work at construction sites with fraternal peoples, fellow countrymen Rakhmonov, Karimov and Petrosyan. Sometimes they get married in a civil marriage, and then it turns out that he already has a family at home. Therefore, advice to girls, if love has appeared, check the documents. I haven’t met anyone from Chechnya at construction sites, they are now on physical work like they don't exist. Under the USSR, I remember there were many Chechen builders, they built cowsheds on our farm. There was no time for locals, they did not keep up, under the USSR everyone worked, so they were hired. They did a good job and were treated well. I remember we even played volleyball with them on the school playground. However, at that time the upbringing was different, the communists promoted friendship and brotherhood. Now I can’t say anything about the Chechens, about the attitude towards women. Everything has changed, and a new generation has grown up. Kindness, together with the USSR, was left far behind, we are increasingly immersed in the laws of the jungle and capitalism - "eat, otherwise they will eat you."

Every reasonable parent should explain to their daughters that it is not worth dealing with representatives of these nationalities. The example given by gudroni is quite real, I've heard of worse cases. But even if a Muslim marries a Russian, over time he will leave her anyway, and there will be a war because of the children. One woman I know had a Caucasian husband who waited until his son was 7 years old and fled with him to his homeland. In fact, he stole a child. And ends. Couldn't find. And only when the guy was 16 years old, he himself fled from his father to his mother in Russia. His father came for him with his brothers, his mother had to call the riot police. But even if they live with Russian wives to old age, then they still kick these wives in the ass and marry their own. The Koran does not allow them to die with a non-believer. And besides all this, there are many different nuances. They take advantage of Russian women and themselves laugh at their stupidity. For any Caucasian to spoil Russian blood is valor. Let at least one Russian try to spoil their blood by contacting their woman, they will slaughter them right away.

Travel to Tajikistan: attitude towards Russians

The attitude towards Russians in Tajikistan is very ambiguous. While you are in the status of a guest, you can count on a friendly and respectful attitude, especially if you look respectable.

But the attitude towards the Russian people living there permanently is different. No guest status - no security guarantees. Russian old people, women and children are often humiliated and even beaten by local youth.

When traveling around Tajikistan, one should be mentally and financially prepared for increased attention from government officials of all stripes. Money extorted openly and brazenly.

The Russian language is well understood by residents of Dushanbe of older and middle age, but the youth is much less. In the market, our group often encountered a language problem, and we had to negotiate a purchase literally on our fingers.

In villages, the situation is much worse, where it is even more difficult to find a Russian-speaking interlocutor. But I will tell about the villages in a separate post, this is a completely different story.

Sadly. And there are some oddities in the photo - Wedding Dress next to a hot dog! It's like - who bought the dress - a hot dog as a gift)))

Is it really a bad attitude towards the non-titular nations of Tajikistan? At the expense of the language - I will say this .. the reason for the nationalization. The CIS countries seceded from the USSR almost 20 years ago and are heading towards nationalization. It `s naturally.

I don't know if Russian has the status of a state language in Tajikistan? In Uzbekistan, for example, he never had. The reason is a mono-ethnic state. That is, it has the status of a language of "interethnic" communication. but not the state. I know that in Kyrgyzstan and Kazakhstan it has the status of a state.

And as for the oppression of Russians, it's true. Even Tajik women do not miss the opportunity to inject harder Russian women. Again, I repeat that we are talking about permanent residents there. This is rare in Dushanbe, but common in villages and small towns. This information was obtained by me first hand.

You can just understand them too. They are probably offended by the TV show "Our Russia". After all, they openly mock Tajiks there. I heard that they have. this program is prohibited. Although the common people, the non-titular people, are not guilty of this. This is the time, unfortunately.

I was also very surprised and amused by such an unexpected neighborhood :)

And the gallery "Didor"? Such a big name! Well done host - with an eye to the future called!

In Tajikistan official language is Tajik. I understand that this is a multi-ethnic state and I do not at all pretend that all Tajiks learn Russian. I emphasized this because it was important for us as tourists.

They can be understood - the attitude towards Tajiks in Russia can hardly be called respectful, and it's not just about the scandalous TV show. Maybe their women and children are offended in Russia, so I don't judge them. I just write as is.

of course, the family has its black sheep. well, what can you do

if a Caucasian is normal, then the attitude depends on how the girl puts herself

if a Caucasian is a jerk, then he is a jerk

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Well, of course it all depends on the girl herself.

Only among the dugs, there are a lot of such freaks!

But still, there are normal people too, right? who treat girls with respect among these nations?

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Several Sochi families of officers Russian army returning home, they were completely attacked by a crowd of Caucasians. The leader of the Caucasian gangsters took out a baseball bat from the car, with which he began to strike. At the police station, on-duty investigator Grigoryan V. reported that the attacker was Bogosyan, an investigator of the Central Department of Internal Affairs of Sochi, senior lieutenant of justice. Grigoryan refused to accept the application from the victims. The City Attorney's Office has also done nothing. And this is not the first case of such lawlessness, arranged in Sochi by Caucasians. In August last year, bandits of Caucasian nationality beat peaceful vacationers with baseball bats. Among the affected Sochi residents and their guests were women and children. And so far the perpetrators have not been punished.

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Moscow:: Caucasians continue to massacre the natives. It's already a routine

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Moscow:: Moscow was swept by a wave of immigrants from Asia and the Caucasus

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On Sunday, at about ten o'clock, a janitor passing by the bushes heard a faint cry: "Don't!" and rushed into the wild. A woman noticed a Tajik man leaning on a naked 10-year-old orphanage pupil

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Moscow:: Caucasians threaten to massacre Russians in Moscow itself

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The girl said that an unknown person attacked her in Catherine's Park. According to the victim, the man raped her and fled. Police officers began an investigation and after some time, on suspicion of committing a crime, they detained a Moroccan born in 1971, Interfax reports.

Moscow:: Murderer and rapist from Azerbaijan was given out by the victim's mobile phone

The tormented body of the unfortunate woman was found in the bushes on Trofimov Street. Anna was raped and strangled with a belt from her own purse. A 26-year-old native of Azerbaijan, Zaur Sadygov, did not touch the money in Ani's purse, but coveted the phone.

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Moscow: Tajik janitor arrested for raping 7-year-old girl in Moscow

“Tolerant journalists” are silent about the next detention of a Tajik rapist. Criminal scum continues to carry drugs, rape our children, women throughout the country. Ask yourself - "DO I DO ANYTHING TO PROTECT MY FATHERLAND, MY PEOPLE, MY LOVED ONE?". Ask and think about it.

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The head of the Federal Migration Service told the press that "the scale of Russia's economic losses from illegal migrants, according to experts, annually reaches about 8 billion dollars."

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Sverdlovsk Region:: 11 Tajiks captured. Seized 200 kg (!) of heroin

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On the evening of May 28, a man living near Ochichenko Street contacted the police and stated that at about 21:00 near the Yantar store, an unknown Caucasian attacked and raped his 16-year-old daughter.

Moscow:: Citizen of Moldova jailed for life for killing four women in Moscow

The Moscow City Court, on the basis of a jury verdict, sentenced to life imprisonment a guest worker from Moldova who committed the murder of four women in the Russian capital.

Tula region:: Immigrants kept Russian slaves

R. Akhmedov and A. Akhmedov used the slave labor of several residents of the Arsenievsky region for a number of years. A criminal case was initiated against them under Art. 127.2 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation "use of slave labor".

Moscow:: Two Caucasians are wanted

In Moscow, a raped pregnant woman, bleeding, spent 40 minutes on the pavement at the gates of the departmental Medical Unit No. 1 of AMO ZIL and died without waiting for help.

Khabarovsk Territory:: A Chinese man killed an eighth-grader for a mobile phone

In an apartment on Parkovaya Street in the village of Michurinskoye, Khabarovsk Territory, a corpse of an 8th grade student of a local school was found with multiple stab wounds to various parts of the body.

Volgograd region:: Frolovsky district. At the gathering, the villagers demand to evict the uninvited guests

Gypsy lawlessness brought the inhabitants of the area to the brink. Police bought, officials do not care. The villagers are ready to take axes and deal with "gypsies - drug dealers, robbers and robbers" on their own.

Russia: According to the Ministry of Internal Affairs, there are about 4 million teenage drug addicts and 700,000 orphans in Russia. The number of teenagers who die from drugs has increased 42 times over the past 20 years.

Kurgan region:: The bus of migrant workers was stuffed with heroin

More than 10 kg of heroin was found in Kurgan during an inspection of an Ikarus bus that arrived from Tajikistan on Saturday, the Interfax-Ural news agency was told at the press service of the drug control department for the Kurgan region.

Sverdlovsk region:: Tajik raped a young Russian girl

The prosecutor's office of Nizhny Tagil has charged a citizen of Tajikistan with raping a 10-year-old girl, Yevgeny Martenov, deputy prosecutor of the Dzerzhinsky district of the city, told the Interfax-Ural news agency.

Tajiks attitude towards Russian women

Why you should visit Tajikistan

95% of the country is mountains. And this is the number one reason why tourists go to Tajikistan. Tajikistan is a Mecca for climbers. Therefore, at the time Soviet Union people came here from all over the country for it. Now, however, the situation has changed somewhat. The number of tourists from the CIS countries has decreased due to the unstable situation in recent years. Now the few tourists are dominated by citizens of Europe. At least, while staying at the main mountain camp Artuch, I did not meet a single Russian. Caught only a group of well-equipped French and Czechs.

This is one of the good reasons why you should also visit Tajikistan. Everything is conspicuous, everything is not the way

In a word, exotic. This was the second reason why I chose to travel to Tajikistan. And my expectations were fully justified and even more than that.

In the first days of my stay in the country, I walked with wide eyes.

people and relationships

Before the trip, I read articles by travelers who had already visited Tajikistan. Everyone noted very good relationship to the Russians. This was the third reason for my choice. Expectations were also fully justified. Moreover, I did not expect such attention and care for me. Maybe it's because there are practically no Russians left, and I was a curiosity, or maybe because ties with Russia are close.

A surprise for me was the established relationship between Tajiks to each other. In a word, they are based on some kind of closeness, kinship to each other, unlike Russians, who can and will help you in Hard time, but will first be suspicious of any stranger.

Why you should not visit Tajikistan

If comfort is important to you, if you appreciate the amenities in everything, then you should not go to Tajikistan. The country is about to depart from the former military-political internal conflicts. And people still do not feel the desire to throw all their strength into the rise of the country. There is a sense of apathy. At the same time, most of the able-bodied population works for the good of Russia, and not for their homeland.

The country is located as if on the outskirts of civilization, economic life seemed to freeze. It seems that time has stopped, and you have fallen into the times of decaying socialism - dilapidation is everywhere. Business is very timidly penetrating the country. Most well-known companies are practically not represented here. Beeline may be an exception. shopping malls practically none, only small shops and markets. Most of the roads are in a disgusting state, with the exception of the center of Dushanbe, or they are non-existent. There are, of course, signs of new life: the Chinese have begun to equip the most important artery of the country - the mountain road to the north of the country, new hotels have been built, but this is a drop in the ocean.

On the other hand, fans of extreme sports, to which I include myself, all this will be very much to their liking.

My travel itinerary

It is better to go to Tajikistan, definitely, by plane, as a train ride can overshadow the trip

The itinerary of my journey meant visiting, if not the whole country, then at least its main part. However, in reality it turned out less than half, but this was quite enough for me. I managed to visit Dushanbe, Jilikul - the center and south of the country, the Fann Mountains, a chain of seven most beautiful lakes, also Penjikent, Khujand - the north of the country. Planned, but did not visit Nurek (the largest hydroelectric power station is located there), Khorog. So there is another reason to return.

It so happened that I was able to see Tajikistan from the point of view of life ordinary people which created the most complete impression of the country. My advice is, wherever you travel, it's always best to hang out and hang out with ordinary people rather than being locked in their hotels and looking at people's lives through the windows of a tourist bus.

There was also a desire to complete the trip with a trip to Samarkand (Uzbekistan), as it is not far from Penjikent, but I did not have a passport. According to rumors, Russian citizens are not allowed into Uzbekistan without it, unlike Tajikistan.

Since my journey ended somewhat prematurely, and I wanted more impressions, I decided to drastically change the route to a more gentle one. - Black Sea, Sochi.

What an amazing country

So, now I would like to dwell in more detail on the features of this amazing country. I'll start with, in my opinion, the main thing - features national character.

Features of the national character

Immediately, what distinguishes Tajiks from other peoples, if they are nearby, is their hot southern temperament. It is expressed in constant fuss (especially noticeable on the plane and in the market), they cannot sit in one place. Also, temperament is expressed in more active gestures than Europeans and in the fact that it is customary to speak loudly. Involuntarily, after a while, you also begin to speak loudly.

In a word, impulsive people.

At the same time, like other peoples Muslim East, no one is in a hurry (the only exception is the bazaar: here life just beats with a frantic key - just some kind of hellish anthill). Time does not have such great value as in European culture. Churchill once said that the Russians lose an hour - nothing to lose. And the farther to the east, the more this expression intensifies. With regard to the Tajiks, we can say: a Tajik to lose three hours is not to lose anything. Therefore, it becomes not surprising that time-killing establishments such as teahouses, various eateries with sunbeds instead of a table with chairs are popular in Tajikistan.

The presence of two mutually exclusive imprints of the national character also affects how effectively the Tajiks work. On the one hand, the increased impulse multiplied by the enormous patience developed as a result of living in difficult natural and climatic conditions (heat and mountains) makes Tajiks energetic workers. And on the other hand, some kind of apathy makes the Tajiks complete gouging. Gouging. present everywhere:

They do not care much about how comfortable their housing is. Home improvement is simple. Everywhere (observed in Dushanbe) on the streets of srach (garbage lies, it seemed to me, for years and gradually merged with the street itself, there are practically no urns). Automobile movement resembles the chaotic movement of atomic particles. At the same time, I have not seen a single accident, which, oddly enough, speaks of the skillfulness of driving Tajiks. If such a chaotic movement in Moscow, in an hour Moscow would have turned into piles of twisted metal with a stream of victims.

The distance between people among Tajiks is reduced to a manim. Therefore, they easily enter into a relationship with each other, even if they did not know each other at all. At the same time, one gets the impression from the outside that they are familiar with almost the entire

1. It has become a habit for me, whenever I meet people I don't know, to automatically extend my hand to them for a handshake, especially when I traveled with Tajiks I already knew. In Russia, a handshake is also accepted, but still it is applicable to people already familiar, mostly.

2. A sign of special hospitality was, for example, that a taxi driver, whom my Tajik friend hired to go south on business, after the trip offered to temporarily settle in his private house on the outskirts of Dushanbe. In addition, he showed great patience when the waiting time had already expired, although he personally expressed dissatisfaction with me about this, but only to me.

3. At a party, wherever I was, everywhere I was treated, if possible, for free. So the first week I spent almost nothing.

And if I found myself in the mountains, I was immediately called to their place for tea with a tortilla. There was even a case when an old woman called me for tea, but at the same time she did not speak Russian at all, and I did not immediately understand what she wanted to tell me. This made me feel very comfortable and unusual.

4. When my Tajik and I drove at night from Dushanbe to Penjikent on its Volga, we stopped more than once to help motorists who got stuck for one reason or another. One was even specially helped to refuel, after which he drove to a gas station, as he ran out of gas.

And I could list more such examples. It was amazing for me to see all this. But I was especially struck by the fact that drivers (for example, Abdusalam), in the event of a dangerous situation on the road created by another driver by accident, do not swear at each other, as we do in Moscow.

The negative side of close relations in Tajikistan, as, perhaps, everywhere in the East, is nepotism, blasphemy and bribery. It plays a special role if you have acquaintances in the most important positions, who, in case of anything, will always come to your aid, mostly bypassing the law. But Tajiks consider this not an evil, but a blessing, since life becomes much easier, and any issue can always be settled with little bloodshed. Such Eastern mentality. Here are some examples:

1. When we were driving somewhere, and we were stopped by the local traffic cops, the Tajik driver, getting out of the car, took, first of all, not a driver's license, but money, but this amount was usually insignificant. One got the impression that giving money to traffic cops, even if you did not commit any offense, is a kind of tribute to the recognition of the power of traffic cops like: guys, thank you for existing, you do not touch us, drivers, and we will behave well, and for this we thank you. As a result, none of the drivers is indignant, and even on the contrary thanks the traffic cop. Something like gratitude for the "roof".

2. When, due to an oversight, I did not have time to register with the local police, my Tajik quickly settled this business. By law, I had to pay a rather large amount in the form of a fine, but it was much less.

In Russia, there is also blat and bribes, but now the situation is changing. Blat no longer plays such a big role in getting, for example, a job. Bribes (that is, corruption) are going to be fought at the highest level.

In a word, the situation looks something like this: the further east from the west you get, the less legitimacy and more importance is attached to relationships.

Attitudes towards women

But most of all, the “special” attitudes towards women are striking. One gets the impression that the struggle for rights

And besides, Tajiks, as Muslims, still allow polygamy. The number of wives depends on your financial capabilities. This is also a positive point that should be adopted by us Russians, so that there are no divorces on the basis of betrayal.

Attitude towards money

The attitude to money in our understanding is somehow irrational. Money in relationships, of course, has a price for Tajiks. However, their size, again, is determined by mutual relations.

This means that you can always agree on a price that is comfortable for you. The size of the discount will depend on how influential you are in society, and your ability to "push" the seller to your declared price. As for me, this state of affairs seemed unusual to me, and expressing my readiness to pay the declared amount, I showed my worth.

When money comes between closer people, it already plays a mediating role. That is, if, for example, I already owe something to my Tajik friend, I will not return it now and, most likely, not with money, but with something else.

As a result, some kind of mutual responsibility is obtained: everyone strives to help each other so that sooner or later they will help you. Healthy - isn't it?

Relations between nations

First of all, I am interested in the attitude towards the Russians and towards their closest neighbors - the Uzbeks.

The attitude towards Russians is extremely positive. All Tajiks are absolutely pro-Russian. Consequently

The pro-Russian attitude was also expressed in the fact that all Tajiks in the majority watch Russian television, although there is one, which is extremely primitive.

The attitude towards the Uzbeks is directly opposite to the attitude towards the Russians. Tajiks hate Uzbeks. Between them there is a mutual enmity, the roots of which are far in the joint history. Tajiks consider themselves an older ethnic group than the Uzbeks. Therefore, part of the territory belonging to Uzbekistan, the Tajiks consider their own, and the city of Samarkand is a purely Tajik city. Hostility is expressed both in a low degree of economic integration, and in some oppression of Tajiks by Uzbeks, and in the installation of artificial barriers to movement between the two countries. The Tajiks themselves compare their relations with the Uzbeks with the relations of Russians with Western Ukrainians: a common historical fate, but the memory of grievances that someone was once under someone. In my opinion, this is complete nonsense that prevents both peoples from co-prospering. Uzbekistan needs Tajik water, and Tajikistan needs Uzbek gas. It is worth forgetting everything, as the Japanese "forgot" about Hiroshima, and successfully began to deepen relations with America.

I will cite only the features known to me, since I have not visited other regions (for example, the east of the country), as mentioned above.

The most ancient regions are those in the north of the country. Alexander the Great with his army even visited here at one time. In the 8th century AD, a developed trading civilization existed in Penjikent. At present, the north of the country is considered more civilized by Tajiks. Here, the traditional orders are not so rigid, and people are more civilized. All the intelligentsia also lives in the north of the country. The largest city in the north - this is Khujand (during the Soviet Union - Leninabad). I liked the city - everything is clean and well maintained. There is a resort spirit. Especially in the suburb where I lived, in Chkalovsk.

The center of the country with the capital Dushanbe, it seemed to me, is more archaic than the north. And Dushanbe itself is generally a young city, which was formed at the beginning of the 20th century by the merger of three villages, one of which was called Dushanbe. Therefore, there is still a spirit of some redneck there. People seem to still not understand that they live in the capital, and not in the outskirts. For example, a common situation is when a woman makes a fire near a five-story residential building and puts a brazier for cooking pilaf for the whole family (see photo).

Features of the political situation

Tajikistan is officially a democratic state. However, there is no trace of democracy there. Yes, there is a multiparty system. But in fact, only the current party rules, or it would be more correct to say the clan.

The lack of democracy is expressed in the absence of public criticism of the president and the absence of opposition as such.

The President of the country is Rakhmonov. Among people, he does not enjoy special love, since there are few positive changes in the country. His only merit lies in the fact that he once became the unifier of the nation, when the country was torn apart by civil war.

In the country, as in other countries of the East, a mild personality cult flourishes. Posters of the President are everywhere.

It is believed that in the north of the country lives mainly intellectual elite, and only semi-educated people live in the south. For a long time, northerners were in power. But this came to an end with the coming to power of Rakhmonov, a southerner, who had previously been the chairman of the collective farm. Thus, dissatisfaction with the existing government remains among a part of the intelligentsia.

In addition, it is believed that after the civil war, only representatives of the winning side were in all key posts. And representatives of other political movements were infringed in their position.

So external calmness is very, very conditional. If it were not for the labor migration of the main part of the male population to Russia, the internal crisis would not have been long in coming.

It's hot in Tajikistan, VERY HOT. But the heat here is something special. At first, you don't notice it. Well, it bakes, so what - tolerable, since the climate is dry. But after a while, the heat makes itself felt to an unprepared European. On the third day of my stay in Tajikistan, I had a sunstroke. It was in Dushanbe: I went to see the city on my own, got off the minibus and realized that I could not move further. I really wanted to go back. Which I did with great difficulty. When I got out in the suburbs where the house of my residence was located, I forgot where it was located. And it cost me a lot of pain to wait out the heat until my friend Tajik found me. I almost died out there in the heat. The worst thing is that there is no mercy from the heat anywhere, even in the shade. And when he returned to the house, he fell ill, and the next day he lay in bed. Soon the situation changed - we went north, and in the north it doesn’t bake as much as in the south. In the mountains, the climate is completely sparing - just like in Moscow: sometimes the sun is shining, sometimes a cloud will come and it will rain. Therefore, definitely, when going on a trip to Tajikistan, you should definitely take sunscreen with you. I took a cream with increased protection, and as a result, no tan remained on me at all.

Features of Tajik cuisine are as follows:

- Mostly everything is natural and is bought on the market, although you can also buy the same sausage, but it is not in everyday food.

— The menu is not very diverse, although the sites say about an unthinkable number of national dishes (perhaps they are simply not used all). So, for example, it is customary for Tajiks to serve shurpa (a very fatty lamb soup with vegetables) for the first thing - and this is EVERYTHING from soups (Russians have dozens of types of soups).

- All food is very rich and fatty.

- Tajiks eat often and for a long time despite the economic difficulties in the country.

- Dishes are simple, but very tasty.

At first, the absorption of other national food is even a pleasure, but after a long use of such food, it becomes simply unbearable. So I want something more varied and less greasy. It is worth being careful and knowing when to stop.

At the same time, there are ordinary cafes and canteens, where you will be served dishes that are familiar to us, but eateries with traditional food still prevail.

- Cakes. They are bought, if not in tons, then in dozens for sure. In Tajikistan, just a cult of cakes (see photo). Each

— Fatty meat with herbs in various versions.

- Salad of cucumbers and tomatoes (moreover, raw - without sunflower oil).

— Pilaf, which is quite tasty.

— Shurpa — fatty soup with meat and potatoes.

- Dairy dishes (chakki - sour and thick cottage cheese, kefir + cottage cheese - a liquid drink that is often served).

- They drink only green tea (brewed in teapots, not in glasses, as in our country, and they drink from bowls) without sugar. At first it's pleasant, and then it gets so boring that you just want wildly black tea from bags.

Potatoes are not very popular, like Russians, which gave me particular pleasure when fried potatoes turned out to be unclaimed by the Tajiks when I bought it on the market.

In the house, it is customary to eat sitting on the floor covered with carpets. In an eatery with traditional food, they eat on trestle beds, although there are also tables with chairs. In a cafe with European food, only tables and chairs.

Everywhere they listen mainly to national oriental music, which is extremely melodic and with an incendiary tempo. These are both Tajik performers and performers from other countries of the Middle East (Turks, Arabs). Although they also listen to our pop musicians, as well as Western ones, mainly in the north, where the orders are more European.

I especially liked their music, because I have always loved any national music, if it is very temperamental and incendiary (for example, Latin American music).

Features of the automotive industry

Driving on the roads

As mentioned above, the roads are mostly broken in Tajikistan. In Russia, compared to

There are no road markings. Traffic is chaotic, especially in Dushanbe. Therefore, in order not to knock anyone down inadvertently, all drivers honk for any reason, approaching some kind of obstacle (another car or a child, from whom you can expect anything in last moment). And when everyone starts to give a signal at once, it turns into some kind of general madhouse. One gets the impression that Tajiks are very dashing drivers, but at the same time they are very skillful in driving, trying to prevent accidents. It can be assumed that circumstances make them skillful - you have to most time to drive on steep mountain roads. Although I once read in one post that supposedly they are not so skillful - sometimes they fall into the abyss. To be honest, when we were driving on mountain roads, in some places I gave drift, since the distance to the cliff was reduced to almost zero.

Rules traffic conditional, you can not fasten a seat belt, although there are traffic cops, they are rare, and those that exist serve as a tribute collection for no reason, but the amount of tribute is small.

Here, perhaps, all the features of this interesting country. I hope my story will interest someone, and someone else will dare to go to this country for thrilling impressions.

The other side of migration

In Germany there are a lot of Russians in prisons, in psychiatric departments, in rehabilitation centers. Many are being treated for drug addiction. There are quite a lot of prostitutes, which is why the attitude towards compatriots here can be very peculiar in places. I didn’t see it myself, but they say that there are a lot of Russian youth, Russian guys in the methadone dispensing centers. Germany is not a panacea for all ills, it has its own difficulties. For starters, it is very difficult to adapt if you do not know the language. It is better to start learning the language back in Russia, so there will be more time to switch to full possession of it. Denial of citizenship to persons with a criminal record is virtually guaranteed.

Employment of Russians in Germany

In general, the process is not particularly fast. As for job searches, you need to look for a job very hard. The more benefits you have, the better. It's simple: according to the law, if a German citizen and someone who does not yet have citizenship apply for the same place, even if they already have a residence permit, then the first should be given preference. Therefore, you should have your own advantages, for example, European work experience, if in Germany itself, then it’s very good, several higher educations, knowledge of several languages. Moreover, the Germans do not value crusts for the sake of crusts or polyglots in a field where it is not useful. You must clearly know why your future employer needs your second higher education, how your knowledge of Turkish will be useful to him, and so on. If the company does not work with Turkey, it does not care that you know this language. She does not need your knowledge for the sake of knowledge. This is good for you, because you understand more, you have a wider outlook. But this does little for the company itself.

Attitude towards Russians in Germany

I would say that initially the attitude towards every new Russian (not in terms of oligarchs, but simply towards a new person from Russia) is very wary. And this can be understood, since a lot of Germans came across our former citizens who came here with the position: foreign countries will help us, in this case, they will solve all problems. Social assistance to the unemployed and those who simply do not want to work is taxes from the same working Germans. And the more people live on social programs, the higher the taxes, the worse the penalties for those who evade their payments, the stricter the checks. This cannot set people up positively about those who go to Germany.

Tajkistan / Society / Seven habits of Tajik wives that any man will like

To be real oriental woman it is not enough to be born in this side of the world and possess characteristic appearance; to meet this definition, a woman is supposed to follow strict rules of conduct.

Asia Plus partner Open Asia Online has collected some of the habits of Tajik women who traditionally have Eastern wives in our region.

Refers to her husband as "you"

Almost all Tajik women, with rare exceptions, address their spouses as “you”, and call their husbands not by their first names, but “master”, “father of my children”, etc. However, in the north of Tajikistan, both men and women turn to “you” to everyone without exception, even to their small children.

Any Tajik can cook well

A Tajik woman who does not know how to cook, and not just cook, but create real culinary masterpieces, is nonsense. Any Tajik woman does an excellent job with the dough and can cook delicious pilaf. Mothers from childhood instill in their daughters a love of cooking, because if a young girl comes to her husband's house without these skills, then shame will fall on her entire family.

By the way, Tajik women also masterfully cope with other household chores, whether it is ironing clothes or cleaning the house.

The bride's family buys clothes for the groom

Buying an outfit for the groom wedding ceremony This is the responsibility of the bride's family. Moreover, everything necessary for family life home belongings, including furniture, are also purchased at the expense of the bride's parents; from the groom only housing is required. Therefore, often before the wedding, the girl's relatives, inviting guests to the ceremony, order gifts for them. For example: the Iskandarov family - a carpet, the Ismoilov family - a food processor, etc.

Never be alone with another man

Even if this man is a relative. A Tajik wife will let a man into the house only on the condition that she is not alone. Otherwise, even the husband's brother was barred from entering the apartment: "wait for the owner." And until now, at any event, women and men in Tajikistan traditionally sit at different dastarkhans, in different rooms. And men are engaged in serving the male dastarkhan (serving dishes on the table, cleaning dirty dishes).

Lives with mother for 40 days after birth

From the maternity hospital, the Tajik wife goes home to her mother, especially if the first child is born. Here she will live exactly 40 days, during which the mother will teach her daughter all the intricacies of dealing with the baby; in addition, the woman's family will purchase everything necessary for the firstborn at their own expense. After such a master class, the husband will never see the helplessness of his wife in dealing with the baby, because taking care of the child is the direct responsibility of the woman.

Does nothing without the consent of her husband

Izvestia: Tajiks change their wives for Russians

Thin, small, in ragged pants and dirty feet - not a man, a dream. Moreover, women from different countries - at least two. At 34, he already has a gray head, a bunch of hungry relatives and there is always no money. Another would drink in his place, and the Tajik Nigmatullo asks to call him Sanya and exudes such unshakable confidence in his own irresistibility that one involuntarily ceases to be surprised at his male demand both in Tajikistan and in Russia.

“I don’t love my wife, I love Fatima! Peter - best city on the ground!" - he shouts to the whole yard on the outskirts of Dushanbe. “Yes, yes, she doesn’t like it, everyone knows that,” the neighbor nods, “only every year she gives her a child and goes back to Russia to Fatima.”

There are about a million labor migrants from Tajikistan in Russia. They lay asphalt and tiles, clean streets and entrances, work in supermarkets, build dachas and dig vegetable gardens. Their remittances to their home countries account for 60% country's GDP- According to the World Bank, in terms of remittances to GDP, Tajikistan ranks first in the world. Tajikistan also broke into 1st place in another ranking - in terms of the number of abandoned women. Previously, the “country of abandoned wives” was called Mexico, also famous for its cheap labor force, now it is Tajikistan.

Before the collapse of the Union, the Tajik diaspora in Russia was 32 thousand people, now it is seven times larger and growing by leaps and bounds. Last year, according to official figures, Tajiks played 12,000 weddings with Russians. “Every third Tajik who leaves for work in Russia will never return home,” the IOM (International Organization for Migration) researchers came to this conclusion. 90% of Tajiks settle in Moscow and the region, 5% in St. Petersburg, the rest go to the Volga region and the Far East.

Fatima, beloved woman of the Tajik Sani, is actually called Sveta. She is 29, works as a nurse in a children's hospital, lives in St. Petersburg with her mother. “She helps me in Russian, and I live with her for this,” explains Sanya, “I want a residence permit for Peter, and her mother, Lyuda, is evil, doesn’t want me.” He has been in St. Petersburg for eight years already, living a little less with Fatima-Sveta. Over the years, she converted to Islam and moved to his rented apartment. After work, he cleans up and cooks not only for Sanya, but also for his uncle and brothers - there are eight of them in the "three rubles".

Once a year, Sanya visits Dushanbe, to his legal wife and children - he has four of them, the last one is only a year old. There are no children with Fatima. “Ah-ah, she wants to,” the Tajik rolls his eyes languidly and kisses the photo of his dark-haired lover on the phone. Sooner or later they will get married and have children, Sanya has no doubts, and "evil Luda" will register him in her apartment.

Sanya is a decent man: every month he sends home transfers for 5-7 thousand rubles, calls regularly and, albeit rarely, comes. And he is well, and his wife is happy. Most Tajik women, knowing perfectly well about the second "Russian families", in again seeing off their husbands to work, they are waiting with horror for an SMS-divorce. “Talaq, talak, talak!” - and everything is free. SMS-divorces swept the country, and politicians were divided into two camps: some demand to recognize such a divorce as legitimate, others - to ban it as disrespect for a woman and Sharia laws: according to the canons, "talaq" must be spoken personally.

Love with a spark

Abandoned women - thousands. Someone from hopelessness and self-doubt becomes suicidal. Someone goes to Russia for her husband or tries to get at least alimony. 28-year-old Latofat from Dushanbe filed a lawsuit against her runaway husband and is now waiting for an absentee decision on alimony. “He left to work 1.5 years ago,” she says. “At first he called, then he was imprisoned in Russia for six months for theft, but a few months ago he disappeared altogether.”

Latofat lived with her mother-in-law - according to the old tradition, a husband always brings his wife to his parents. By new tradition while the husband is at work, a disgruntled mother-in-law can easily drive her daughter-in-law with children out into the street - just call her son and say that she does not like her.

Before the wedding, Latofat did not know her husband - their parents betrothed them. “He turned out to be a drug addict, he beat me constantly, and when he left, his mother-in-law began to beat me,” the woman recalls, lowering her eyes. As a result, she returned to her family with two children. She cannot get a job - she graduated from only four classes of school. “Then the war started, they were shooting day and night, and my parents stopped letting me go outside,” says Latofat. “They reasoned that it would be better for me to be alive than educated but raped or dead.”

“There are thousands of such girls without education in the villages,” says Zibo Sharifova from the League of Women Lawyers of Tajikistan. - They are all disenfranchised slaves of mothers-in-law, they endure as much as they can, and then - into the noose. Recently, the sister of one such suicide turned to us for help. In the morning I got up, milked the cows, cleaned the house, cooked breakfast. And then she went into the barn and hanged herself. Husband in Russia, two children left.

In the north of Tajikistan, a canister of gasoline is used - there are more and more people who want to set themselves on fire to spite their abandoned husband or hated mother-in-law. About 100 such suicides pass through the burn center in Dushanbe a year, half of them are the wives of migrant workers. 21-year-old Gulsifat Sabirova was brought from the village three months ago in a terrible condition - 34% of her body was burned. after six plastic surgery it's still scary to look at.

“He tortured me, beat me, and then he said: either you will kill yourself, or I will strangle you,” she barely whispers with burned lips. After another quarrel she went with her husband to the barn and poured a can of gasoline over her head, and then threw a match.

Husband Gulsifat also worked several times in Russia and by all standards was a prominent groom. Gulya is the youngest of eight children, the most beautiful and modest. He had just returned from another job, when he saw her in the village reading the Koran, he fell in love and sent matchmakers. “Though she will not starve,” said her parents, giving her in marriage. Five days after the wedding, the husband again left for Russia, and Gulya stayed with her mother-in-law. Then he returned, but together they did not live even two months. Already in the hospital it turned out that Gulya was pregnant.

“He really loves her, and when he comes, she becomes so joyful, active,” says Zafira, the head nurse of the department. - For 14 years that I have been working here, for the first time I see that my husband takes care of the patient like that. He is waiting for her from the hospital, making repairs in the room, and her parents - in none. They think he should be jailed."

Nurses, despite her terrible appearance, even envy Gulya: marriage for love, even if it resulted in such a monstrous tragedy, is still a rarity in Tajikistan. Most unions fit into a simple circuit: married - children were born - went to Russia - left.

Husbands for hire

The farther from Dushanbe, the more often donkey-mobiles drive towards you instead of cars. The wagons are women and children. The road is in perfect condition - it was built by the Chinese, on credit. Now, to get from Dushanbe to Khujand (former Leninabad), you have to pay - there is simply no free alternative. In the fields with freshly blooming cotton, there are only women.

“Thank you Russia for giving our husbands a job!” - the oldest of all shouts to us. One did not see her husband for five years, the other three, most - at least two. For a month of work under the scorching sun (45 degrees on the thermometer), they will receive a bag of potatoes, onions and carrots. The salary will be enough for exactly two kilograms of meat. But there is still no other work, so everything is in the field.

In the villages, which modern manner called jamaats, men have long been countless. Alovedin Shamsidinov from Jamaat Navgilem 72, sons have long been in Rostov-on-Don, after the death of his wife, daughter-in-law Makhin with children returned back to look after him. In Russia, she lived with her husband for eight years, worked as an operating room nurse in a hospital, then decorated cakes.

“In every way, we tried to get citizenship - no matter what they lie on TV, they don’t give it,” Makhina says, taking a flatbread full of heat from the tandoor. - The only one the right way- marry a Russian, so there are a lot of fictitious marriages. On the other hand, all Tajiks living in Russia have local girlfriends. And many other marriages - Muslim, "nikoh" is called.

Mahina wants to go back to her husband. “I want to leave, I really want to - but my grandfather won’t be!”, and you can’t leave him alone - relatives will peck. And the husband has nothing to do in the village. Navgilem is located 2 km from the city of Isfara, before there were factories - chemical, hydrometallurgical, distillery, and factories - sewing and spinning. And now there are 100 jobs in the entire region. And without a husband it’s bad - and you don’t want your own to be cursed if you leave your father-in-law.

“We still have wild customs here, no one knows their rights,” Suyasar Vakhoboeva, deputy chairman of the jamaat for women and family affairs, sighs heavily. She is like a justice of the peace - in case of family conflicts, she calls the parties for negotiations and explains that the daughter-in-law is also a person. - No matter how hard the authorities try, girls in the villages are still not allowed to go to school and are married off at the age of 14-15. And then - a vicious circle: he will come for a short time, make her a child - and back to Russia. “Maybe they would let the girls go to school, but often there is not even money to buy a uniform and assemble a satchel,” says Mavlyuda Ibragimova from the association for the protection of the rights of women migrant workers.

"Straw Wives"

“A woman without male affection languishes and becomes like a dried apricot that grows in our garden,” 46-year-old Vasila waves her hand to the side tall tree. Vasila has a round, smooth face, dense sides - not like her friend Malohat, from whom her husband left for Russia many years ago, also started a family and has never been in the village since then. “Our neighbor returned from the Hajj, I went to him without asking, for five minutes - and because of this, he divorced me, and was left alone with four children,” Malohat sighs heavily. There are half a village like Malohat, and Vasila is the only one in the whole district.

Vasila from the Chorkuh Jamaat was fed up with the fact that her husband was always at work, and sent crumbs of money, and when he came to visit her, she simply locked him in the house. “He worked in Syzran, in Ivanovo, I tortured him all the time: do you have anyone there? He is not! And then, when I threw a tantrum on him and said that I wouldn’t let him go anyway, his “wife” started calling me and demanding him back, here’s the dog! - Vasila - hands on hips, golden teeth shine in the sun - a fighting woman, with a higher education, a foreman in the field, she bought and drives a "six". She has not let her husband go for three years. “My daughters won’t get enough of dad, I took him to my brigade - well, let him earn almost no money and moan that he wants to go to Russia, but I’m with a peasant.”

Chorkuh rests against the mountains, a muddy ditch runs along the low dusty houses, in which the entire population of Chorkuh, women and children, washes dishes and feet. Elders sit near the ancient mosque - they make sure that the girls, going with buckets to the pump, do not look too much around. One of their words - and if a groom appears in the village, he will never look into her yard.

In the village of Shakhristan, in the north of Tajikistan, morals are not so harsh, and there are even fewer peasants. Here the work is even worse, and the only way to survive is to go to Russia. Mavluda Shkurova wears a dark dressing gown and a white headscarf, she is in mourning - six months ago her husband Rakhmat was hit to death by a minibus. He was 44 and left four children. Three more men returned to Shahristan last year in coffins.

“Rakhmat was standing at a bus stop in Shchekino near Moscow, next to the cold storage facility where he worked and lived,” says his brother Nemat. “Alexander Sukhov knocked him down, he didn’t even give money for a coffin - anyway, he said, they’ll put him in jail.” In the nine years that Rakhmat was in Russia, the old house fell apart completely, and he never made money on the new one. Now his eldest son has gone to work shift - he is not yet 17, he just finished the 9th grade. “The only hope is for him,” Movlyuda almost cries. The second son walks nearby - he is a disabled child. - I called the other day - they worked with the guys at the Armenians in the country, but they were not paid. He was crying out of resentment, I was crying too.”