A man might say, “I have a terrible blockage at work; I recently went through a breakup Serious relationships, which was a big blow for me; the divorce of my parents left an indelible mark on my soul and brought a lot of new troubles; now I need to focus on my career; I can't get into a relationship until things get better in my life; as soon as my situation improves, I will leave my wife, girlfriend, lousy job; I'm terribly busy."
It's easier for us to jump out of a window than to say, "You're not good for me." We are one hundred percent sure that in this case you will kill us or yourself, or both of us, or, even worse, start crying and screaming. Even if we do not talk about it, we clearly show you our attitude. Stop making excuses for us, our actions speak for themselves: you just don't like us.
1. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't ask you out on a date.
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will definitely make an appointment with you.
1. Variant of excuse: He may not want to destroy our friendship
I hate to tell you about it, but this excuse does not stand up to scrutiny. Unfortunately, throughout the history of mankind, this excuse has never been used by those who really meant it. If we really care about a woman, we can't bring ourselves to stop - we want more. And please don't tell me he's just 'afraid'. The only thing he is afraid of - and I say this, feeling sincere sympathy for you - is to admit that you do not attract him at all.
2. Variant of excuse: He probably does not dare to take the first step
You can hint to a man that you have sympathy for him, but you should not help him ask you out on a date. I repeat again, dear ladies: the fact that you smile and playfully wink at him will be quite enough.
3. Variation of excuse: Maybe he doesn't want to rush things.
If a man really likes you, but there are deeply personal reasons why he does not want to rush things, he will immediately tell you about it. He will not leave you in the dark, as he needs confidence that you will not be disappointed and will not disappear from his life.
4. Excuse like "But he gave me his phone number"
Don't let him use cheap tricks to get you to ask him out on a date. If you are interested in a man, he will take care of everything. It sounds a bit old-fashioned, but when a man likes a woman, he asks her out.
5. Excuse like “Maybe he forgot about me”
Be sure you impress him. Now leave everything as it is. If he likes you, he will remember you even after the tsunami, the flood or the defeat of the Russian team in the next match. If he forgot about you, do not waste time on him. Do you know why? Because you are great.
- Any excuse essentially means that you are of little interest to him. Men are not afraid to “destroy friendships.”
- Don't fall for his tricks and don't ask him out on a date. If he likes you, he will invite you.
- If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
- "Hey, let's meet at such-and-such a party / at some bar / at a friend's house" is not a date invitation. Even if you live in New York.
- A man remembers well whether he liked you when he met, so hang up.
- You are good enough to be asked out on a date.
2. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't call you.
Men know how to use the phone
6. Excuse like "But he's on the road so often"
Take note: the man who is interested in you wants to spend time with you. And he will only be satisfied with five phone calls if he does not have time for a plane to rush to you.
7. Excuse like “But he has other things on his mind.”
Most important question here it sounds like this: “Is it normal if a man forgot to call me?” I answer: "No." Unless he needs to rush someone to the hospital, or if someone stole his Ferrari. He should never forget that he promised to call you. If I really like you, I will never forget about you. Don't you expect the kind of guy who would rather forget about everything that happened in his life than forget about you?
8. Excuse like "He doesn't say what he really thinks"
Here's the problem: At the end of a date or phone call, many men tell you what they think you'd like to hear. They think it's better than nothing. So if the guy you're dating doesn't call you despite all his promises, is it worth getting hung up on? After all, you need a man who can at least keep his word.
9. Excuse like "But he's very busy."
And now I'm going to make an outrageous, harsh and peremptory statement regarding the relationship between a man and a woman: the word "busy" is complete nonsense, donkeys usually use it. The word "busy" in one gulp can destroy any relationship. Extremely “busy” may seem like a compelling excuse, but in reality, behind this concept there is always a man who was not interested in calling you. Remember: men always have time to get what they want.
10. One hundred percent of the respondents of the stronger sex said: they will always find a minute to call the woman they really like.
- If he doesn't call you, then he doesn't care about you.
- If he makes promises and then fails you over small things, rest assured that the same thing will happen when it comes to more serious things. Keep this in mind and keep in mind that this guy will not have a hard time disappointing you.
- You should not build a relationship with someone who is not able to keep his word.
- If he is unwilling to make the slightest effort to calm you down and smooth out the brewing conflicts in your relationship, then he simply does not respect your feelings and needs.
- "Busy" is the same as "donkey". And "ass" is the same as the guy you're dating.
- You deserve a fucking call.
3. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't acknowledge the fact that you're dating.
Spending time together doesn't mean dating
11. Excuse like "He just went through a painful breakup."
He may be one of your closest friends, but as a man, he is not that infatuated with you. Beware of the word "friend". It is often used by men or women who are in love with these men to justify their most piggy behaviour. When choosing friends, I prefer people who don't upset me.
12. Excuse like "But we're really dating"
Men, just like women, seek to find a sense of security and security when they see a relationship become serious. One common way to achieve this is to lay claim to a loved one. A man who is truly infatuated with you will want you to belong to him completely. What's wrong with that, girls?
13. "It's better than nothing" excuse
Let me remind you: you need a man who wants you, calls you regularly, and makes you feel like the sexiest and most desirable woman in the world. He longs to see you more and more often, because each time his feeling grows stronger, growing from sympathy into true love. A relationship in which you meet a man once every two weeks or once a month, without feeling any love or sympathy from him, can last a day, or a week, or a month. But can they last a lifetime?
14. One hundred percent of the men surveyed said that the fear of a serious relationship has never kept them from starting new novel. One young man even remarked: “Fear of a serious relationship is one of the myths big city". And another guy said, "That's what we say to girls we don't really like."
- Men talk about their feelings, even if you refuse to listen or do not believe their confessions. "I'm not ready for a serious relationship" means "I'm not ready for a serious relationship with you or "I'm not sure you're the right woman for me." (I am sorry.)
- "Better than nothing" should not suit you.
- If you don't understand what's going on in your relationship, then it's okay to slow down and ask him a few questions.
- Smells like uncertainty? Don't expect good.
- There is one guy in the world who wants to tell everyone and everyone that he is your boyfriend. Stop fooling around, go find him.
4. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't want to have sex with you.
If a man likes a woman, he always wants to touch her.
Dear ladies, you have already met and will meet a great many men. I hate to tell you this, but some of these men will just decide you're not their type. And none of those men who don't like you will ever tell you about it. And he will say that ... he is afraid, worried, languishing from fatigue, in pain from a broken leg, suffering from a cold, afraid (again). But the truth, simple, cruel and bitter, is clear as daylight: you do not attract him, and he does not want to hurt you.
15. Excuse like "He's afraid he'll get hurt again."
Is he afraid? Yes, he is afraid to offend you. That is why he did not clarify the situation with your relationship. Perhaps he is even trying to make himself feel at least something for you, talking about his love and that he does not want to lose you, but he could just as well sign your diary. He loves you as a friend. If he loved you as a woman, he would not be able to control himself and would have a whirlwind romance with you, despite all the fears and unpleasant memories.
16. Excuse like "I'm driving him so crazy he doesn't show any interest"
Of course, many people have had to suffer in the past, and now they are afraid of a serious relationship. But you know what? If a man really likes you, nothing will stop him from achieving you, even the fear of a serious relationship. If he's really in big trouble about it, he might go for pointless treatment, but he'll never keep you in the dark.
17. Excuse like "But it's so cool"
It used to be that a woman refuses to have sex when she wants to gain power over a man. It seems that the representatives of the stronger sex also learned to use it. If a guy, lying on the couch with you, joyfully eats cookies and watches a movie (and is not gay at the same time), then you simply do not attract him.
18. Excuse like "He finds a bunch of explanations for everything"
You can believe his excuses if you want, but first ask yourself a couple of questions. Are you satisfied with such relationships? The most important thing here is do you want to feel this way, perhaps for the rest of your life? Sex is also one of the greatest pleasures a person can experience. Therefore, it is at least strange when the person you are dating interferes with your enjoyment.
19. Remember:
- People talk about who they really are all the time. If a man tells you that monogamy is not for him, then there is no reason not to believe him.
- Communication is great. But if communication is combined with sex - it's even better. Call a spade a spade, or rather, call a friend a friend. And find yourself a friend who can't resist touching you.
- If you have low self-esteem, then you will have to spend more time improving it than looking for a new boyfriend. So prioritize according to your needs.
- If you are tempted by the thought of a thousand and one nights spent in the arms (and only) of some man, then get yourself a puppy.
- Hot little thing, there is a man walking around who really wants to make love to you.
5. He doesn't like you that much if he sleeps with another woman.
There is no truly compelling excuse for cheating.
Whatever problems darken your relationship, they do not give him the right to make love with another woman. Don't ask what's wrong with you. You don't have to take the blame. And if he tells you that it happened by accident, then remember: betrayal is not accidental. This is not an accident like "I stumbled, and I was sucked in by a swamp called Treason." He planned and executed it, fully aware that it could end your relationship. Remember: if he sleeps with another woman without your permission and approval, then he is acting not just like a man who is not so passionate about you, but like a man who is not interested in you at all.
20. Excuse like "He has no excuse and he knows it"
Change is bad. And the inability to explain why you cheated on a person is even worse. If one red flag isn't enough for you, how about two? Don't date men who don't know why they did something.
21. Excuse like “But I got fat”
I am completely sure that you need to lose 90 kg in the form of your worthless boyfriend, and not at all the twenty kilos that he talks about. He cheated on you and called you fat. How much humiliation can a person endure? If something in your relationship does not suit him, then he should talk about it with you, instead of seeking solace in the vagina of a strange woman. Also, think about how he will react if you get pregnant, get old, or have a few wrinkles? Or if you dye your hair a color he doesn't like? Get rid of this loser immediately, or I myself will come to your house and throw him out of there.
22. Excuse like "He needs more sex than me"
There is no excuse for him cheating on you. Dot. There are many ways to solve this rather common problem that arises from the difference in sexual appetites. As a rule, people start by talking frankly about this topic, and everyone agrees to do everything in his power to make the partner happy. And you don't have to jump into bed with someone else!
23. Excuse like "But at least he knew her"
I explain in other words: it doesn’t matter if he loves you or not. He has made it clear to you how he feels about your novel. He went along with his feelings and arranged everything so that he was alone with another woman, kissing her, taking off her clothes and doing everything else that usually happens when two adults have sex. Can you continue to love him after this?
24. One hundred percent of the men surveyed reported that they had never made love to a woman by pure chance. (But many of them wanted to know how such an accident occurs and what needs to be done to take advantage of it.)
- There is no excuse for change. Let me repeat: there is no excuse for cheating. Now say it yourself: there is no excuse for cheating.
- The only thing you are responsible for in the moral fall of another person is your own feelings.
- Change is change. It does not matter with whom he cheated on you and how many times this happened.
- Every time it becomes easier to change. It is difficult only the first time, when you feel remorse and guilt because you did not justify the trust of another person.
- Deceivers are never happy. (Because they are all bastards.)
- An unfaithful man first of all cheats on himself, since he cannot build a normal relationship with you.
6. He doesn't like you that much if he only wants to see you when he's drunk.
If he likes you, he will seek to see you when his brain is not clouded by alcohol fumes. If your clown puts on a red nose every time it comes to intimacy, then this indicates that there are serious problems in your relationship.
25. Excuse like "But I like it when he's drunk."
If, sitting in a bar, he drunk says something like: “Baby, you are so beautiful!” and at the same time hugs you a little tighter than it should be, then it’s time to learn something: you can’t believe everything that a man says when he is drunk. And listen to the former bad guy: "bad guys" are called bad guys because they have a lot of trouble, no self-esteem, and they absolutely do not believe in sincere love relationship, but very often they dress cool and drive cool cars. Do you really need this one?
26. Excuse like “At least he doesn’t drink the strongest drinks.”
Don't be fooled. A guy who doesn't fall off his feet and piss in his pants from drinking shouldn't get away with silently turning off his brains to others, more the easy way every time you are together. It's still intoxication, it's still a desire to avoid responsibility, and it's still not good for you.
27. Remember:
- His words mean nothing if he said them while drunk. "I love you" or the like, spoken under the influence of any drink stronger than grape juice, has no power in court and in real life.
- The use of alcohol and drugs is not the way to the innermost feelings of a person. Otherwise, people would not break empty beer bottles on their heads and try to touch the flames of fire to find out if they feel something or not.
- If he wants to see you, communicate with you, have sex with you only when he is tipsy, this is not love, this is sport.
- The bad guys aren't called bad guys for nothing.
- You deserve a man who doesn't need to be pumped up to spend time with you.
7. He doesn't like you that much if he doesn't want to marry you.
Love cures the manic disease of commitment
Each of your former men who told you that he does not want to marry, or does not believe in marriage, or he has doubts about marriage, someday he will certainly bind himself with sacred bonds. Just not with you. Because he's not saying that he doesn't want to get married at all. He says that he does not want to marry you.
28. Excuse like "It's getting really complicated now"
If you focus on the state of your finances when choosing the time for the wedding, this auspicious period will never come. If a boyfriend is using a lack of money as an excuse not to marry you, then it is your relationship that is at risk, not his bank account.
29. Excuse like "But he's all like himself."
If you have to sit and think about how to start a conversation about marriage with a person with whom you have been in a close relationship for quite some time, then this is a wake-up call. Call him immediately straight Talk and find out the relationship. Then, as soon as you are ready, go in search of a person whose only thoughts will be occupied with how you feel.
30. Dilemma like "Is this really an excuse not to get married?"
Marriage is a tradition that we inherited from previous generations That's why marriage has so many opponents. So be it: if a man is categorically against marriage, and you are in favor with both hands, then please make sure that behind his unwillingness to marry lies only dislike for the very institution of marriage, and not any other feelings or their absence.
31. Excuse like "I'm just not ready yet"
I hate to tell you about this, but he does not want to rush for just one reason: he is still not sure that you are the one.
32. Excuse like "He's seen enough of other failed marriages"
For worthy man meeting a woman with whom he wants to share his life always becomes a real event. And, probably, if he realizes that this is exactly the woman, he will not immediately tell her that the mere thought of registering their relationship disgusts him.
33. One hundred percent of the men surveyed admitted that they would no doubt offer their hand and heart to a woman if they were completely sure that she was the love of their life. One representative of the stronger sex said: “What kind of idiot do you have to be in order not to marry the woman you love?”
- "Does not want to marry" and "Does not want to marry me" are two different things. Make sure that you correctly determine which category your chosen one belongs to.
- If you have opposing views on marriage, then there are sure to be other issues that will lead to disagreement. It's time to make a problem list.
- If nothing changes in your relationship, then what are you waiting for?
- Somewhere on earth there is a man who wants to marry you.
8. He doesn't like you that much if he dumped you.
"I don't want to be with you" still means exactly that.
34. "He needs me" excuse
Do not be satisfied that he is bored without you. He must be bored. You are so unique. And yet he, as he was, and remained the man who left you. Remember, there is only one reason he can miss remembering you: he thinks that he does not want to spend this day with you.
35. Excuse like “After such a decision is much easier.”
If he dates you, asks you on dates, leaves you and continues to sleep with you, which, in essence, removes any responsibility from him for your feelings for him. There is one thing that a young man will never do if he cannot imagine his life without you: he will never leave you. The only way for you to know if you love yourself is to get rid of him, and as quickly as possible.
36. Excuse like "But everyone does it"
Stop holding on to his cock, get dressed and quickly go home to your best friend. And don't look for an excuse to stay with him. And do not think that all this crazy passion will inevitably lead to the fact that you will be together again. Oh yes, sex after a breakup is not bad at all, because it's great to sleep with someone you know. It's also great to sleep with a person you feel for strong feelings. This combination makes sex after parting so bright. But now you know that because of this, a real confusion arises in the head and you begin to feel terrible. Face the truth: you are a woman, and women do not know how to separate love and sex. And don't make those mistakes again. Got it? He doesn't like you that much. He is much more into a very bad idea that masquerades as a very good idea, namely - sex after parting. Like this.
37. Excuse like "But then he wants to go back"
Unfortunately, after you break up, your boyfriend starts looking for something better. And when he fails, he is seized by loneliness and returns "home". It doesn't sound like he likes you very much. He just really doesn't like being alone.
38. Excuse like "I refuse to accept the fact that he left me"
I'm sorry he left you. By trying again and again to get him back, you make your ex-boyfriend think: “What the hell did I find in this crazy bitch?” Remember one simple piece of advice, ladies: always be on top. Never go crazy. Well, in fact, this is not even one, but two whole pieces of advice. But trust me, you will never regret listening to them. At the very least, it will save you from the unpleasant memories of how you cut into pieces his clothes or threw away all the photos with him.
39. Remember:
- You can't prevent a breakup by talking. Debating won't help here. Termination of relations is a final decision, and it is not subject to appeal.
- Sex after a breakup doesn't mean you're back together.
- Stop talking to him. Let him miss you.
- You don't need to remind him how great you are.
- He can take care of his cat himself.
- "Posh woman" will never torment his answering machine.
- Somewhere, a young man is waiting for you, who will be just happy that you did not get back together with your terribly nasty ex-boyfriend.
9. He doesn't like you that much if he just up and disappeared.
Sometimes you have to put an end
Well, everything is very clear here. He made it clear to you that you are so not his type that he didn't even bother to leave you any news about himself. The only thing you have to take away from this love story, is the fact that he decided to leave you. And he did not have the courage to tell you about it, looking into your eyes. Case is closed.
40. Justification like “Maybe he died”
There is nothing worse than not getting a response from a loved one. But the trouble is that the lack of an answer is the answer for you. Perhaps he did not write farewell letter, but his silence speaks more clearly: "I don't like you." The only reason why you should write to him again is the desire to receive an explicit refusal, now in verbal form. Have you forgotten? You are too busy with your fans and you don't have time for such nonsense.
41. Excuse like "So, it turns out I can't even fight him one last time?"
At first, it may seem that you will feel better if you call him and make a scandal. You may feel like you let him get away with it. But trust me, nothing you want to tell him will come as a revelation to him. And you already have something to spend your time on.
42. "But I just want an answer" excuse
Do you deserve to know what really happened? Undoubtedly. I can tell you what happened: you dated terrible person. The easiest way to correct this mistake is to draw certain conclusions for yourself, live on and continue to be more selective in choosing a partner. Do it all quickly without wasting a minute of your precious time.
43. One hundred percent of the males interviewed who "disappeared" from the woman's field of vision stated that they were fully aware that they had done something terrible, and no phone calls and belated conversations would not change their minds.
- Perhaps he really is in the hospital, suffering from amnesia, but most likely he is just not that interested in you.
- The absence of an answer is his answer to you.
- Don't give him the opportunity to reject you again.
- Let his mother arrange scandals for him. And you are too busy for that.
- There is no mystery here: he just left your life, and he was not worthy of you.
10. He doesn't like you that much if he's married (this includes all the other, most incredible reasons why he can't be with you)
If you cannot love each other freely and openly, then that is not true love. No matter how strong and sincere your feelings for another person may be, if he cannot answer them honestly and fully, that is mutual love These feelings don't mean a thing.
44. Excuse like "But his wife is such a bitch!"
As unhappy as his marriage was, and as awful as his wife treated him, it certainly wasn't all that bad, otherwise he would have left her a long time ago. Sincere love relationships do not deserve to be hidden. Find yourself a man who will not hide his feelings.
45. Excuse like "But he's such a nice person"
Please don't try to ignore this fact. He is married to another woman. I know you are not like everyone else, and in your case everything is different, but the fact remains: he is married. If in your entire life you are ready to stop at a red light only once, then this is exactly the case. It's just that for everyone who plays this game, the stakes are too high.
46. "I just have to wait" excuse
If, at a certain stage in the development of relations, it comes to “waiting for him,” this is an alarming signal. It's not a stock you're going to invest in. He is a man whose heart must be open enough to be ready to meet you and fall madly in love with you. If someone really likes you, he will quickly solve all his problems and make a lot of efforts so as not to lose you.
47. Remember:
- He is married.
- If he doesn't belong to you wholly and completely, then he belongs to her.
- There are a lot of cool and gentle single men in the world. Try to meet one of them.
- If a man yells and curses at ex-wife or mourning a previous girlfriend, go to the movies with someone else.
- He is married.
- No need to join the ranks of those same women.
- You are not easy to forget. Let him find you when he is ready for a new relationship.
11. He doesn’t like you that much if he acts like a selfish egoist, braggart or just like a big jerk
If he really loves you, he will do his best to make you happy.
48. Excuse like “But he really wants to get better.”
Loving people try to treat each other well and even enjoy showing tenderness and care for their loved ones. If your partner is very bad at this, then in the end you reap the same benefits as in the situation called "He doesn't like you that much."
49. Excuse like “But he was just raised that way”
It doesn't have to be that he's crazy about your CD collection. It doesn't have to be that he likes all your shoes. But any full-fledged and prudent man simply has to make an effort on himself and fall in love with your friends and your family, especially if they are all such wonderful people.
50. Excuse like “But he will change”
Short temper is not a temporary problem. People who yell at others simply don't know how to control themselves and need psychiatric help. People who yell at others feel they have a right to do so. Hey, beauty, do you really want to create such a family?
51. Excuse like “After all, what matters is what happens between us alone.”
Why be with someone who needs to humiliate you in order to feel their own superiority? Especially in front of friends! And why should you pay attention to the fact that he treats you better when you are alone? After all, he is only waiting for how to bring you to the people in order to humiliate you. Drop it! Go to college and write a diploma on the topic: "How to find a man who is not ashamed to show his friends."
52. "But he's just trying to help" excuse
Offensive is not only such behavior when a man beats a woman. It can and should also be considered offensive behavior when a man yells at a woman, publicly humiliates her, or reminds her that she is too fat, thereby making her feel unattractive. It's very hard to believe what you deserve true love when someone is trying their best to convince you that you don’t deserve anything in this life at all. But, as I see it, all the exhortations to part with him still do not work on you. So for starters, just realize that you are too good for such a relationship. You are too good for this kind of relationship.
53. Excuse like "He just hasn't found himself yet"
54. Excuse like "Maybe it's one of his little oddities!"
You will surely meet men who do not like hugging, kissing or having sex. You will spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to deal with this and whether you are the cause of this behavior. Or you simply come to the conclusion that these people do not like doing what you think is an integral part of a fulfilling life, and you go in search of such a person who shares your views.
The joke goes like this: "Hey, Björk called, she wants to take her dress back." And the insult is like this: “God, well, you are corroded!” But the most important thing is to understand what you need. You all definitely deserve better treatment!
55. One hundred percent of the men surveyed said they had never tried to humiliate or upset a woman they really liked. And this is the most important thing.
- Don't over complicate it hard life by sharing it with a person who gives you a lot of trouble.
- You are worthy of such a man who in any situation will behave with you as it should. (Don't forget that you should treat him well too.)
- There is no reason to yell at another person unless they are in mortal danger.
- Assholes belong in the circus, not in your apartment.
- You already have one ass, why do you need a second one?
- By getting rid of useless people, you will have a lot of free time that you can spend on what gives you pleasure.
- Believe in yourself. How could it be otherwise?
13. So what do you do?
56. Then you ask: “What if next novel won't happen at all?" And we will answer: “Send these terrible thoughts on a long voyage on a ship that will surely sink, because it is destined to crash on the reefs of the Isle of Sorrow. And we don't want you on this ship."
Your new requirements:
- I will not date a person who does not invite me on dates.
- I will not date a man who makes me wait hours for his call.
- I won't date someone who isn't sure they want to date me.
- I will not date a person who makes me feel sexually unattractive.
- I will not date a person who abuses alcohol or drugs, so this makes me uncomfortable.
- I will not date a person who is afraid to make future plans with me.
- Under no circumstances will I waste time on a person who has already rejected me once.
- I will not date a married man.
- I will not date a man if he is not really a kind, sincere and gentle person.
And now it's your turn. Only you know what other requirements you want to make to your future chosen one. Write them all down. And don't forget about them.
57. DICTIONARY
Friend
This should mean the following: I would never intentionally do anything that could hurt you.
Busy
This should mean the following: today was my inauguration as President of the United States.
In some cases, this means: I just don't like you that much.
Bad guy
It should mean: The guy to stay away from.
In some cases, this means: The guy you need to stay away from.
I am not ready
It should mean: I can't find my pants.
In some cases, this means: I just don't like you that much.
Call me
It should mean this: I accidentally dropped my cell phone off a cliff into the ocean.
In some cases, this means: I just don't like you that much.
I don't like your family
It should mean: I don't want to meet your mother.
In some cases, this means: I just don't like you that much.
I'm afraid of intimacy
This should mean the following: I am really very afraid of intimacy.
In some cases, this means: I just don't like you that much.
And you will be happy!
The post is based on the book by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuchillo He Just Doesn't Like You. The whole truth about men. We recommend reading the entire book.
Interaction with other people occurs at several levels. The first level is verbal, that is, communication through speech. The second level is non-verbal, which includes body language and gestures. And if verbal way we have learned to masterfully control communication, then our subconscious mind controls the sign language. The richness of body language is in no way inferior to the richness of our speech. When we are excited, agitated, upset, annoyed or carried away, our body gives certain signals to the interlocutor.
Interestingly, both women and men have a non-verbal way of communication. Only in order to convey our emotions, we use different signals. It is very difficult to master the language of gestures and facial expressions thoroughly. At least, psychologists have been studying this art for many years, but then they manage literally from the first seconds, looking at the face or body reaction of the interlocutor, to determine his true feelings. Since the human subconscious never lies, we simply have to learn the basics of a man's body language in order to understand how he treats us. Moreover, if a man is interested in you, it will be immediately noticeable in his facial expressions, gestures and body movement.
10 body language signals of a man in love
1. He raises his eyebrows
If a man slightly raises his eyebrows at the sight of you and immediately lowers them, this indicates his interest. This fleeting movement simultaneously displays joy and surprise. But if during a conversation a man raises his eyebrows and is in no hurry to lower them, most likely he is skeptical.
2. He reaches out to you with his body.
When we like someone, subconsciously we tend to get closer to that person. For example, if a man sits opposite you and tilts his body slightly towards you, this means that you are attractive to him. You can also be sure of his sympathy if, while in society, he seeks to turn his body and shoulders more towards you.
3. He doesn't know where to put his hands
Hand movements very eloquently convey the feelings of a person. When talking to a man, watch his hands. If he randomly sorts through something, shows his palms, touches a belt or pockets, this indicates that in this moment he wants to move the conversation to another topic and draw attention to himself. These gestures also convey embarrassment, which, as you know, occurs only in relation to people who care.
4. He touches his hair
For women, hair is a matter of pride. Therefore, when we unconsciously try to attract attention to ourselves, we begin to correct them, twist them, string them on our fingers, etc. Although men usually cannot boast of bright hair, they use the same signal to attract the attention of a person they like. If you see that the man in front of you has begun to ruffle or smooth his hair, know that he is preening so that you pay attention to him. A similar meaning is symbolized by touching the mustache or beard.
5. He goes to the beat with you.
The step of a man is much wider than the step of a woman. But if you are walking next to a man who is in love with you, you will not have to catch up with him with all your might, because. he will go along with you. By adjusting to your step, a man subconsciously demonstrates his interest and disposition towards you.
6. Mirror effect
According to psychologists, if you are not sure about the feelings of a man, when communicating with him, start gesturing and see if he repeats your movements or not. As a rule, a truly interested person will begin to unconsciously imitate your gestures. This effect occurs when a man's subconscious tends to demonstrate that he is your friend and will not harm you.
7. During a conversation, he makes eye contact.
Usually it is difficult for men to follow the logic of women's speech. But if a man is in love, he will literally listen to every word from your lips. If during your monologue a man looks into your eyes, does not make unnecessary gestures and does not look away, this indicates either his interest in you, or that you are a very good storyteller.
8. He gestures intensely
When a person is in a calm state, he uses a minimum of gestures. But if he is excited, excited or interested in attracting the attention of the interlocutor, his gestures become more expressive, brighter and more intense. If even at this moment a man suddenly starts talking a little faster than usual, do not doubt that he likes you. Thus, subconsciously, a man seeks to keep your attention.
9. He touches you
When communicating with a person who does not arouse any interest in us, we avoid touching him and keep our distance. But if you notice that during the conversation a man imperceptibly touches you, gives you a hand or holds while walking, this means that he is very interested in you. Tactile signals also indicate that he likes you sexually.
10. He speaks softly and hushed
The voice is the subconscious instrument of seduction. If a man needs your attention, he will speak softly and in a hushed voice, as if he is giving you a secret that no one else should know about.
In the early stages of dating, fear of rejection and embarrassment can "interrupt" body language. If you have a shy man in front of you, try to be the first to convey your disposition in a non-verbal way - show open palms, look into his eyes and smile. Subconsciously, a man will feel your mood, which will help him act more decisively and boldly.
Really annoying when he replies to all your messages but never texts you first. What does this mean and how to deal with it?
Does he like you or is he just playing with you? Why can't he write to you himself if he is really interested in you?
You communicate well, but you are the initiator of all correspondence. This is very annoying. Very.
But you can't make a known right choice without understanding why, in fact, everything is happening this way? Only discovering true reason, you will understand whether it is worth continuing to fight for his attention or not.
#1 He is not sure about your feelings
Guys can also be afraid that someone will break their heart. He may not fully understand how you feel about him.
Therefore, he writes to you only when you yourself start a conversation. In this case, he is sure that you also need this conversation.
#2 He doesn't want to annoy you
Some guys think they're really annoying when they always text first. If so, then these are just precautions.
He just doesn't want to seem too interested and intrusive.
#3 He's really busy
He may be busy at work or solving his personal issues, and therefore cannot write to you. It only means that you are not a priority for him.
IN next conversation just ask how his work schedule is and what he did in his free time.
#4 He keeps distance between you
Maybe he already has a girlfriend and prefers to keep you at arm's length.
#5 He doesn't want a relationship
One of the reasons he might distance himself is because he doesn't want a relationship.
Yes, he finds you funny and enjoys talking to you.
But he doesn't want you to misunderstand his intentions if he texts you first.
#6 T you text him too often
Did you give him the opportunity to write to you first or does he just not have time to do it?
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Take a break for a day or so to see if that's the reason
#7 Everything suits him
In principle, he is happy with what is happening between you. This is usually done by people who love themselves and their lives. They do not want any change in their habitual way of life.
#8 He is afraid to disturb you
Once again, he's just being careful.
Remember, did you mention in your conversation that you can’t digest obsessive guys? If so, then most likely he does not want to seem like one of them.
#9 He is trying to gauge your interest
The more you write, the more you like it.You will probably have to be the initiator of your communication until he finally makes sure that you are interested in him.
#10 He doesn't like you that much
He is not as interested in you as you might think. He likes your conversations, but not enough to start them himself.
#11 He plays. And uses dirty methods
Some guys do it for some weird reason. They believe that their behavior "puts you on the hook."
Very often, men do not admit their feelings, even if they consider you the very best in all respects and dream of growing old next to you. It would be easier if they voiced their thoughts out loud. But often a man disguises his true attitude to the girl with sharp jokes or ostentatious indifference. So we girls have to guess: “Does he really like me?”
If a woman likes a man, the signs will confirm this pleasant fact. Our article provides 15 main signs that will make it clear that a guy is not indifferent to you.
Signs that a man likes you
1. He is friends with you. If he is ready to communicate a lot, to provide various help and just being around, it is highly likely that he wants to take the place of not only a friend in your life, but also a little more. Studies show modern psychologists if a man wants to be friends with you, it means that he considers you attractive and considers you as a potential companion.
Why, then, does he not speak directly about his intentions? Think back to the beginning of your relationship. Perhaps even then you let him know that you are not interested in him as a man. And for this it was not necessary to voice this thought aloud. Even from your look or the fact that you slightly moved away from him during a joint trip in transport, he could conclude that he was not interested in you. And now he is afraid to hear the unpleasant truth and thinks "Let me be next to her at least as a friend."
2. "Random" meeting. It seems to you that in our time a guy is unlikely to guard a stranger under the porch who has sunk into his soul? You are deeply mistaken. After all modern men are still hunters. And when the "prey" itself goes to them, then such a relationship will not last long. But to win your princess yourself - that's a man's thing.
And also remember important point: if a man seeks his chosen one, if he has to make various sacrifices, doubt whether he is needed, then he will appreciate the girl much more, will rather offer her to marry, will be more interested in saving the marriage. Not only men, but also women appreciate much more what they didn’t get quite easily: they met, exchanged phone numbers, and now you can say “She’s mine.”
3. He compliments you, gives you unexpected gifts.. A man indifferent to you would not do this. And it is especially valuable if he presents a gift not for the New Year or March 8, but simply wanting to please you, without a specific date. The cost of the token is not important. Even if it is a small chocolate bar or one rose. The main thing is that the guy is not indifferent to you.
With compliments, everything is not so clear. There is a sort of men who are used to telling all the women who pass by how great they look. If this young man does not belong to the category of womanizer, if he notices such nuances in your appearance and character that none of your former loved ones spoke about, this is a great sign.
4. He invites you to the movies. The cinema is one of the most popular places for a first date. In a dim room, even a shy guy can easily find an excuse to touch your hand or lightly hug you. But even if the young man did not make any attempts to kiss you, but watched the melodrama of your choice to the end, you can be glad: he could sit through the entire Titanic only because he was pleased with your presence in the next chair.
5. He touches you. And it's not about intimate parts body. Even a touch on the arm, shoulder or back can be sensual and signal: you are attractive to this man, he is not indifferent to you. You, too, can use the power of touch to let a guy know that the feeling is mutual. Just watch, don't overdo it. Let the initiative still come from him, not from you.
6. His behavior with you is different than with other people.. Options are possible here: he can start joking and fooling around, or, on the contrary, become shy and silent. He may even start to make fun of you, not allowing himself to do this with other people. Do not rush to be offended or quarrel with him, just think: “Maybe he is not indifferent to me? Maybe he likes me and wants to get my attention, but doesn't know how best to do it.
7. He looks at you more than other girls.. Moreover, this is not only a gaze when he cannot take his eyes off you. You may also notice that a man looks at you furtively, and when he sees that you have noticed this, he immediately turns away. The exchange of glances is one of the very effective techniques flirting. If a man often stops his eyes on you, pay attention to him.
8. He reacts when you mention another guy in front of him.. The reaction may be different, depending on the character and temperament of the man. Someone may start asking directly what you have in common with this young man. A more restrained man will simply flash sadness on his face. Or maybe he will start defiantly transferring the conversation to another topic, talking about an attractive mutual friend or his favorite actress. In each of the above cases, it is likely that the man is in love with you.
9. When talking about his plans for the future, he mentions you.. Even when we are talking not about plans for the next few years, but just about going to a concert next week, if he would like to go with you, then he likes you. You may not be interested Soccer game where they want to take you, but if you like a young man, agree, you won't regret it.
10. He takes care of himself appearance in your presence. Moreover, this applies not only to neat clothes, which, in principle, should be in every self-respecting man. Various little things (hairstyle, tie to match the shirt, watches and fashionable perfume) can indicate what a man wanted to look like for you. the best way. He wants (consciously or subconsciously) that you pay attention to him.
11. He introduces you to his family.. Men can date a girl for several months, but if they do not take her seriously, then they are in no hurry to introduce her to their parents and other relatives. If he decided to get acquainted and even insists that you definitely come to Christmas dinner, then his intentions are serious, and he sees you as his companion, and maybe his wife.
12. He tells you about his personal life.. If a guy tells you details that he won't trust his friends or mom, it's a sign that he trusts you. There may be times when you didn't even ask for it. You see: he lets you know that he is single and his heart is free. You have a chance to become his girlfriend.
13. He copies your gestures. Of course, all this is not intentional. For example, during dinner in a restaurant, his hands take the same position as yours. He becomes, as it were, your "mirror", copying your gestures, the rate of speech during a conversation with him, and even facial expressions. If you notice this, know that he is interested in you and he is trying to please you.
14. He protects and supports you.. Moreover, his help can be manifested in small things: throw your jacket over your shoulders so that you do not freeze, give you your umbrella, and walk in the rain yourself. If in order to take your beloved cat to the vet, the guy sacrifices his plans, then he is in love with you. It is unlikely that he would have made sacrifices simply because of his disinterested nature.
15. He demonstrates his culinary skills. If a guy tells how he cooks pizza, pasta, or even just tasty fries potatoes, while offering to taste his culinary masterpiece, you should know that the love story is very close. Do not forget to praise his dish, even if it turned out to be imperfect from the point of view of an experienced cook.
We hope that our advice will help you decide on the feelings of a man by indirect signs and you will not have to ask the question “Do you like me?” so unloved by the stronger sex, which will immediately lower your position in his eyes by several points.
At all times, the relationship between a man and a woman was not easy and resembled a kind of game.
So today - guys and girls are not used to directly talking about their feelings, intentions, just desires.
And this happens not only because it’s not customary to talk about such things directly, but also for such a simple reason that men themselves are often not sure what they want and what they feel. However, human psychology is such that gestures, looks, behavior can give out hidden thoughts.
Therefore, a sufficiently attentive and observant girl will always be able to guess that the guy is not indifferent to her. And words are often completely unnecessary for this.
How to reliably understand that a man wants you. Especially if he does not show it in any way and does not talk about his hidden desires?
Simple signs will say everything for him!
Eat simple steps that will definitely give out male desires. Just do not confuse lust with falling in love - such a delusion often confuses women and girls.
If a man really wants a woman, this indicates that she attracted him with her sexuality, attractiveness, she attracts him and makes him dream, be in sweet fantasies.
But this does not mean at all that a man is in love, experiences some serious feelings and wants to be with this girl! Perhaps this will come later, but sexual desire often disappears after an intimate relationship.
However, wise woman knows how to turn a man's desire right. And if you use your female power, then a lot can be achieved from a lover.
Of course, if you give yourself to a man right away, then apart from a fleeting pleasure, you are unlikely to get anything. And if you show cunning and intelligence, then you can really bind him to yourself and build good strong relationships.
But for this it is worth learning to recognize the signs that give out male desires. Let's figure out how to understand that a man really wants a woman?
- He behaves with the young lady he likes differently than with the rest.
- His gaze is literally "magnet" attracted to her.
- He makes compliments, shows other signs of attention.
- The man is clearly trying to look good when meeting.
- He is looking for a reason to gently touch, to be closer, to smell a woman.
- In the general company, this man tries to stand out from the background of others.
There are many more signs, but these are the most obvious. From them, you can unmistakably understand that your friend is clearly attracted. Let's consider each sign separately.
Special treatment is a sure sign!
Communicating with a man in a company, it is easy to notice if he distinguishes you from the rest. Pay close attention to how he communicates with other members of your gender - his intonation, speech, expressions, his gestures, where his eyes look.
Therefore, compare these signs with the same, but in relation to you. If they are clearly different - you can draw conclusions.
Look at his gestures. As a rule, during a conversation, a man's hands are at the level of the abdomen or chest.
And when he talks to a woman he really wants, all his gestures will be concentrated in the pelvic area (if he is sitting). This is psychosomatics, and you can’t argue with it: gestures give out inner desires and thoughts.
Also, a man can make involuntary movements with his hips or knees, this happens very naturally and almost imperceptibly to himself. And it is the surest sign that mentally he is already making passionate love with you.
The speech and voice of the man will also be different. Listen to how he talks to other ladies and compare. If in a conversation with you he tries to be more polite, his voice is softer and quieter, this is also a clear sign of his craving for you.
The eyes will tell!
If a man looks at your lips, neck, chest, legs during a conversation, it is obvious that he wants you. Moreover, such views are most often not intentional.
This is how the stronger sex works - his eyes are simply attracted by the attractive parts of the female body, there's nothing to be done! So watch out for the eyes that have a lot to say!
And this is especially noticeable if you are on the sidelines. When a man longs for a woman, he will look at her every few seconds.
While in a common company, step aside and try to observe. While he is busy with some of his affairs or, for example, talking with someone, he will periodically cast glances in your direction.
If you work together, this is especially easy to notice: such a man will look at your legs, high heels, chest from time to time. In a conversation about business or something abstract, he will not be focused enough, and it will not be difficult to understand this from his eyes.
Signs of explicit attention
In fact, it is not difficult to understand whether a man wants you. He won't hide it much.
It is important for women not to show their sympathy and to be modest, mysterious, intrigue and make men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is arranged differently - its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent.
Most likely, a man will begin to show signs of attention, because he does not just want a woman - he certainly thinks how to get her. And in order to achieve this, you need to stubbornly look after her, give pleasant gifts and flowers, speak beautiful compliments and so on.
The presence of sexual lust will make him choose special gifts and say special words. It will be different from the romantic youthful impulses, and will certainly have a subtle sexual overtones. So you can reliably and accurately understand what is on the mind of the gentleman.
If he presented you with sexy lingerie, a negligee or a dressing gown, this is already an open offer, and not even a hint. But this rarely happens, more often a man who wants a woman gives her very cute trinkets - soft bear cubs, cute jewelry, bouquets and sweets.
It suddenly became so beautiful ...
Every man understands perfectly well that in order for you to fall into his strong arms, he must be attractive.
So all of a sudden he transforms - puts on fresh shirts, he always smells good, and you can't remember when he was unshaven.
Appearance will give you a direct answer - if he began to look always neat and fresh, going to meet you, it is likely that he is attracted and hopes to get you.
Hands reach out like a magnet ...
For every man female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, then he will first of all experience an irresistible desire to touch. Distinguishing simple, friendly touches from those that carry sexual overtones is very simple.
If his touches are gentle, very light, often as if accidental - this clear sign sexual desire.
It is also worth knowing the places to which they are drawn. man's hands. This place is slightly below the waist (a well-mannered man is unlikely to grab your buttocks, although he will certainly have such a desire), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.
Also, men are always very excited by a woman's smell. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man seeks to sniff you - to say something in your ear, while inhaling the smell of your hair, to kiss, to breathe in the scent of perfume.
He's better than the rest!
If you are with the man you have chosen in a common company, and there are other representatives of his gender, then he will clearly try to be better than the rest.
Men by nature are leaders, conquerors, it is very important for them to be the first. So he will try his best to be much better than others in order to achieve your location.
In general, it is not difficult for a woman to determine that a man wants her very much. Everything in him betrays this desire: his eyes become as if with a veil, his gaze wanders and cannot stop at your eyes, he is a little nervous, pays obvious attention and seems to be watching you like a predatory beast.
Even the most modest and timid guy will not be able to hide his desire. It is too strong, and one way or another it will still be manifested.
Another thing is how to use this knowledge. A woman is born to be admired, to be an object of desire and dreams.
But at the same time, you should remain a woman - behave with dignity and not vulgarity, do not forget about modesty and manners. Then the man will not only experience a strong sexual desire, but also want something much more ...
Author: Vasilina Serova
