According to the clinical psychologist-consultant Maria Yelets, at the moment when we cheer for our favorite team or national team, she personifies for us everything that we consider our own and feel involved in. And if the team loses, then it strikes at us, because someone else defeated us.
Maria Yelets, clinical psychologist-consultant
Right after the game
1. Soberly assess the scale of the event
Information about the competition is so actively discussed in the media and social networks that it seems that this is the most important thing in the history of mankind. Perhaps something will happen on them that the epithet "the same game" will be used in decades. For the fan, the situation escalates, as he feels himself involved, so emotions go wild.
It's hard to believe right after the match, but losing your team is not the end of the world. Of course, the event is sad, but not vital for you. To understand this, look at the situation more broadly. The team lost, but you still have other things that bring joy: work, hobbies, and even athletes who compete in other sports.
2. Accept your feelings, but try to control them.
Anger, irritation, despair - the loss of the team causes a strong emotional response, and this is normal. You have feelings and you have the right to experience them, allow yourself this.
But the outburst of emotions is better. Perhaps it immediately seems like a good idea to argue with "foreign" fans, throw objects, fight and behave destructively in other ways. It's not, so hold back.
3. Go for a workout
Jogging, boxing training, traditional strength training and even a dance lesson - any exercise stress good for throwing powerful emotions. Exercise stimulates the release of the happy hormone endorphin. Exercise fuels the brain's stress buffers, and this will somewhat reconcile you with the defeat of the team.
4. Play video games
You need a distraction, and a game in your favorite genre will do just fine. You can direct aggression at imaginary monsters, and a joystick or mouse in your hands will remind you that you can still control something, even if it’s not the results of your favorite team.
5. Go for a walk
Walk at a pleasant pace and breathe deeply - a combo set for. Both of these actions help restore peace of mind. Most likely, emotions will overwhelm and interfere with relaxation. To help yourself, count your steps or breaths, it will take your head. To complicate the task, you can count backwards or through a number.
6. Talk about it
It is unlikely that you were rooting for your team in splendid isolation. Sports fans are a big community, and you will surely find someone to talk to. with him about the loss, name the judges, players from the opposing team and everyone who is “guilty” of losing by their names. This will bring you relief.
After some time
7. Surround yourself with people
Depressed people tend to isolate themselves. Especially if there are acquaintances around, far from football, who continue to enjoy life, despite the loss of the team. But this is a way to worsen the mood even more. So keep saturating social contacts at the same level as before the competition.
8. Fill the void
You've been setting yourself up for a month of watching matches, but the team was eliminated from the competition early, and the feeling of emptiness will not keep you waiting. In such a situation, not only football fans. If you don't believe me, talk to the person whose favorite show was canceled in the middle of the season.
To suddenly arise in the soul black hole didn’t suck all the positive feelings into yourself, fill it with something that will take time and head just like sports. In the end, you can get busy and show everyone how to play.
9. Wait it out
Most likely, the blues and despair will pass in a few days, and before that, give yourself time to mourn.
If the sadness does not subside for a long time, and you cannot focus on anything else, it may be a depressive disorder. In this case, it is better to visit a psychologist.
We decided to start a new column, within the framework of which, once a week, the psychologist-consultant Konstantin Karakutsa will answer questions that concern us. The first issue is devoted to a problem from the field of male psychology - how to survive the loss of your favorite team. The season in most championships has already begun or is about to begin, so we believe our material will be very useful.
How to survive the defeat of your favorite football team?
The answer is simple. Get drunk with friends beer. Go look for the fans of the other team to fill their faces. Return "on the horns" home and make a scandal there for your loved one? Wake up in the morning, go to work or study, and there all day long and tell everyone about what kind of failure you experienced yesterday and how angry you are at the whole world. A familiar picture? Now, jokes aside, let's try to think about this topic more seriously.
Why is it so hard to deal with defeat? Well, to a greater extent it has to do with the process of identification, namely, with the identification of oneself with the group. When a person deeply sympathizes with some football team, he can seem to dissolve in what is happening to his pets. There is no more Vasya from the fifth floor, who studies economics and plays the guitar. All this is unimportant. Now attention is occupied by what is happening on the field. And a goal scored in "our" gate is perceived as a personal defeat. This goal was not scored hundreds and thousands of kilometers away. No. This goal is scored right here in my kitchen, against my goal. And I'm ready to bite my elbows from annoyance that I missed this ball.
This identification with your favorite team can be enhanced when you are in the stadium or watching a football broadcast in a sports bar with a large number of other fans. In this case, special group processes begin, which are very difficult to resist. Waves of feelings and emotions can overwhelm you. That is why people gather in places like this. But it's one thing when the team won and this whole crowd is infected with feelings of stormy fun and euphoria. Another thing is when there are losses. Here's how it goes. Either everyone will complain to each other and seek solace from a neighbor, looking for the perpetrators of the defeat, or, in a fit of collective violence, they will begin to throw out annoyance at the first person who comes to hand.
This goal was not scored hundreds and thousands of kilometers away.
No. This goal is scored right here in my kitchen, against my goal.
And I'm ready to bite my elbows from annoyance that I missed this ball.
A little about aggression. Violence is often the result of powerlessness. When a person is faced with something that he cannot influence, or when he feels cornered, a beast can wake up in him, which is ready to tear and throw, destroying everything in its path. So, back to the topic of losing. If the team we love loses, there is nothing we can do about it, and in connection with this, a feeling of powerlessness may appear in the soul. It is all the more acute, the more you have merged together with the team you support. There are two ways to help yourself get through this defeat.
First, you can try to bring yourself back from heaven to earth. You need to remember who you are, why and why. For example, it could look like this: “Yes, they lost, but my life does not end there. Actually, I have a lot of other things in life, there is a study (work) where I can succeed and feel satisfied. I have a loved one (and if not, then there is an opportunity and desire to meet him). I have many other tasks in life that are now in front of me (buy a car, an apartment, go on a trip, etc.). All this requires strength from me, and by solving these problems, I can feel like a winner in my life. The idea here is simple - to help yourself return to your own life without getting stuck in virtual world with which you are not directly connected.
And the second option is to find this connection with the world of the game, the world of football. What is meant? For example, the team lost, and you feel annoyed, do not know where to put yourself, your strength and energy. Here it is useful to ask yourself a couple simple questions: how can I personally help my team now, what can I do for it?
The answers to these questions may vary. It all depends on your abilities and creative imagination. For example, you could support and develop a fan club where you live; could organize some events or promotions on the Internet that would somehow help your team; or, for example, they would give ten good and expensive balls to the football club located near you (in order to support Russian football and its development in the future). There may be many options. When you direct your energy into a specific action and strive to do something so that your team wins in the future, this can bring you satisfaction, giving you the feeling that you, albeit not so much, but still influence the result. Agree, this is better than doing nothing, but only getting angry or suffering from defeat.
Official comment:
Direction allows you to reflect on victory and defeat in different aspects: socio-historical, moral and philosophical,
psychological. Reasoning can be connected both with external conflict events in the life of a person, country, world, and with the internal struggle of a person with himself, its causes and results.
IN literary works often shows the ambiguity and relativity of the concepts of "victory" and "defeat" in different historical conditions and life situations.
Aphorisms and sayings famous people:
The Greatest Victory- victory over oneself.
Cicero
The possibility that we may be defeated in battle should not prevent us from fighting for a cause that we consider just.
A. Lincoln
Man is not created to suffer defeat... Man can be destroyed, but he cannot be defeated.
E. Hemingway
Be proud only of the victories you have won over yourself.
Tungsten
Socio-historical aspect
Here we will talk about external conflict social groups, states, about military actions and political struggle.
Peru A. de Saint-Exupery owns a paradoxical, at first glance, statement: "Victory weakens the people - defeat awakens new forces in it ...". We find confirmation of the correctness of this idea in Russian literature.
"The Tale of Igor's Campaign" - famous monument literature Ancient Rus'. The plot is based on the unsuccessful campaign of the Russian princes against the Polovtsians, organized by the Novgorod-Seversky prince Igor Svyatoslavich in 1185. main idea- the idea of the unity of the Russian land. Princely civil strife, weakening the Russian land and leading to ruin by its enemies, make the author bitterly sad and complain; victory over enemies fills his soul with ardent delight. However, the defeat, not the victory, is described in this work. ancient Russian literature, because it is the defeat that contributes to the rethinking of the previous behavior, the acquisition of a new view of the world and of oneself. That is, defeat stimulates Russian soldiers to victories and exploits.
The author of the Lay addresses all the Russian princes in turn, as if calling them to account and demandingly reminding them of their duty to their homeland. He calls them to defend the Russian land, "to block the gates of the field" with their sharp arrows. And therefore, although the author writes about defeat, there is not even a shadow of despondency in the Lay. The "Word" is as concise and laconic as Igor's appeals to his squad. This is the call before the fight. The whole poem, as it were, is turned to the future, permeated with concern for this future. A poem about victory would be a poem of triumph and joy. Victory is the end of the battle, while defeat for the author of the Lay is only the beginning of the battle. The battle with the steppe enemy is not yet over. The defeat should unite the Russians. The author of the Lay calls not to a feast of triumph, but to a feast-battle. This is written in the article "The Word about the campaign of Igor Svyatoslavich" D.S. Likhachev.
The "Word" ends happily - with the return of Igor to the Russian land and the singing of glory to him at the entrance to Kyiv. So, despite the fact that the “Word” is dedicated to the defeat of Igor, it is full of confidence in the power of the Russians, full of faith in the glorious future of the Russian land, in victory over the enemy.
The history of mankind consists of victories and defeats in wars. In the novel "War and Peace" L.N. Tolstoy describes the participation of Russia and Austria in the war against Napoleon. Drawing the events of 1805-1807, Tolstoy shows that this war was imposed on the peoples. Russian soldiers, being far from their homeland, do not understand the purpose of this war, they do not want to lay down their lives senselessly. Kutuzov understands better than many the uselessness of this campaign for Russia. He sees the indifference of the allies, the desire of Austria to fight by proxy. Kutuzov protects his troops in every possible way, delaying their advance to the borders of France. This is explained not by distrust of the military skill and heroism of the Russians, but by the desire to save them from senseless slaughter. When the battle turned out to be inevitable, the Russian soldiers showed their constant readiness to help the allies, to take on main blow. For example, a detachment of four thousand under the command of Bagration near the village of Shengraben held back the onslaught of the enemy, "eight times" outnumbering him. This made it possible for the main forces to advance. The miracles of heroism were shown by the unit of officer Timokhin. It not only did not retreat, but struck back, which saved the flank units of the army. The real hero of the Shengraben battle was the courageous, resolute, but modest captain Tushin before his superiors. So thanks in large part to Russian troops the battle of Shengraben was won, and this gave strength and inspiration to the sovereigns of Russia and Austria. Blinded by victories, preoccupied mainly with narcissism, holding military reviews and balls, these two men led their armies to defeat at Austerlitz. So it turned out that one of the reasons for the defeat of the Russian troops under the sky of Austerlitz was the victory at Shengraben, which did not allow an objective assessment of the balance of power.
All the senselessness of the campaign is shown by the writer in the preparation of the highest generals for the battle of Austerlitz. So, the military council before the battle of Austerlitz does not resemble advice, but an exhibition of vanities, all disputes were not conducted with the goal of reaching a better and correct solution, but, as Tolstoy writes, “... it was obvious that the goal ... of objections consisted mainly in the desire let General Weyrother feel, as self-confidently as schoolchildren, who read his disposition, that he was dealing not only with fools, but with people who could teach him in military affairs.
But still main reason We see the victories and defeats of the Russian troops in the confrontation with Napoleon when comparing Austerlitz and Borodin. Speaking with Pierre about the upcoming battle of Borodino, Andrei Bolkonsky recalls the reason for the defeat at Austerlitz: “The battle is won by the one who firmly decided to win it. Why did we lose the battle at Austerlitz? .. We told ourselves very early that we lost the battle, and lost And we said this because we had no reason to fight: we wanted to leave the battlefield as soon as possible. "We lost - well, run!" We ran. If we had not said this before evening, God knows what would have happened. And tomorrow we won't say that." L. Tolstoy shows a significant difference between the two campaigns: 1805-1807 and 1812. The fate of Russia was decided on the Borodino field. Here, the Russian people had no desire to save themselves, no indifference to what was happening. Here, as Lermontov says, "and we promised to die, and we kept the oath of allegiance in the Battle of Borodino."
Another opportunity to speculate about how a victory in one battle can turn into a defeat in a war is provided by the outcome of the Battle of Borodino, in which Russian troops gain a moral victory over the French. The moral defeat of Napoleon's troops near Moscow is the beginning of the defeat of his army.
The Civil War was so significant event in the history of Russia, that it could not but be reflected in fiction. The basis for the reasoning of graduates can be "Don stories", " Quiet Don» M.A. Sholokhov.
When one country goes to war with another, terrible events: hatred and the desire to defend themselves make people kill their own kind, women and the elderly are left alone, children grow up as orphans, cultural and material values cities are destroyed. But the warring parties have a goal - to defeat the enemy at any cost. And every war has a result - victory or defeat. Victory is sweet and immediately justifies all losses, defeat is tragic and sad, but it is the starting point for some other life. But "in civil war every victory is a defeat" (Lucian).
Life story central hero epic novel by M. Sholokhov "The Quiet Don" by Grigory Melekhov, which reflected the drama of the fate of the Don Cossacks, confirms this idea. War cripples from the inside and destroys all the most precious that people have. It forces the heroes to take a fresh look at the problems of duty and justice, to seek the truth and not find it in any of the warring camps. Once at the Reds, Grigory sees all the same as the Whites, cruelty, intransigence, thirst for the blood of enemies. Melekhov rushes between the two belligerents. Everywhere he encounters violence and cruelty, which he cannot accept, and therefore cannot take one side. The result is logical: “Like a steppe scorched by fires, Grigory’s life became black ...”.
Moral-philosophical and psychological aspects
Victory is not only success in battle. To win, according to the dictionary of synonyms, is to overcome, overpower, overcome. And often not so much the enemy as himself. Consider a number of works from this point of view.
A.S. Griboyedov "Woe from Wit". The conflict of the play is a unity of two principles: public and personal. Being an honest, noble, progressive-minded, freedom-loving man, the main character Chatsky opposes the Famus society. He condemns the inhumanity of serfdom, recalling "Nestor of noble scoundrels", who exchanged his faithful servants for three greyhounds; he is disgusted by the lack of freedom of thought in noble society: "Yes, and who in Moscow did not shut up lunches, dinners and dances?". He does not recognize servility and sycophancy: "Who needs it: for those who are arrogant, they lie in the dust, and for those who are higher, flattery, like lace, was woven." Chatsky is full of sincere patriotism: “Will we ever rise again from the foreign power of fashion? So that our smart, peppy people, although by language, do not consider us Germans. He strives to serve the “cause”, and not individuals, he “would be glad to serve, it’s sickening to serve.” Society is offended and, defending itself, declares Chatsky crazy. Its drama is exacerbated by a sense of ardent but unrequited love to Famusov's daughter Sofya. Chatsky does not make an attempt to understand Sophia, it is difficult for him to understand why Sophia does not love him, because his love for her speeds up “every heartbeat”, although “the whole world seemed to him dust and vanity.” Chatsky's blindness with passion can justify him: his "mind and heart are out of tune." The psychological conflict turns into a social conflict. Society unanimously comes to the conclusion: "crazy in everything ...". Crazy society is not terrible. Chatsky decides to "search around the world where the offended feeling has a corner."
I.A. Goncharov assessed the finale of the play as follows: “Chatsky is broken by the number old force, inflicting on her in turn death blow the quality of the new power." Chatsky does not give up his ideals, he only frees himself from illusions. Chatsky's stay in Famusov's house shook the inviolability of the foundations Famus Society. Sophia says: “I am ashamed of myself!”
Therefore, the defeat of Chatsky is only a temporary defeat and only his personal drama. On a public scale, "the victory of the Chatskys is inevitable." The “past century” will be replaced by the “current century”, and the views of the comedy hero Griboyedov will win.
A.N. Ostrovsky "Thunderstorm". Graduates can reflect on the question of whether Katerina's death is a victory or defeat. It is difficult to give an unambiguous answer to this question. Too many reasons led to a terrible ending. The playwright sees the tragedy of Katerina's position in the fact that she comes into conflict not only with Kalinov's family customs but also with itself. The straightforwardness of Ostrovsky's heroine is one of the sources of her tragedy. Katerina is pure in soul - lies and debauchery are alien and disgusting to her. She understands that, having fallen in love with Boris, she violated moral law. “Ah, Varya,” she complains, “I have a sin on my mind! How much I, poor thing, wept, no matter what I did to myself! I can't get away from this sin. Nowhere to go. After all, this is not good, because this is a terrible sin, Varenka, that I love another? Through the whole play, there is a painful struggle in Katerina's mind between the understanding of her wrong, her sinfulness and a vague, but more and more powerful sense of her right to human life. But the play ends with Katerina's moral victory over the dark forces that torment her. She expiates her guilt immeasurably, and escapes bondage and humiliation by the only path that has been opened to her. Her decision to die, if only not to remain a slave, expresses, according to Dobrolyubov, "the need for the emerging movement of Russian life." And this decision comes to Katerina along with internal self-justification. She dies because she considers death the only worthy outcome, the only way to preserve the higher that lived in her. The idea that Katerina's death is in fact a moral victory, the triumph of the real Russian soul over the forces of the "dark kingdom" of the Wild and Kabanovs, is also strengthened by the reaction of other heroes of the play to her death. For example, Tikhon, Katerina's husband, for the first time in his life expressed his own opinion, for the first time decided to protest against the suffocating foundations of his family, joining (even if only for a moment) in the fight against " dark kingdom". "You ruined her, you, you..." he exclaims, turning to his mother, before whom he has trembled all his life.
I.S. Turgenev "Fathers and Sons". The writer shows in his novel the struggle between worldviews of two political trends. The plot of the novel is built on the opposition of the views of Pavel Petrovich Kirsanov and Evgeny Bazarov, which are prominent representatives two generations that don't get along. Differences on various issues have always existed between the youth and the elders. Same here, rep. younger generation Evgeny Vasilyevich Bazarov cannot, and does not want to, understand the "fathers", their life credo, principles. He is convinced that their views on the world, on life, on relations between people are hopelessly outdated. “Yes, I will spoil them ... After all, this is all pride, lion's habits, foppery ...”. In his opinion, the main purpose of life is to work, to produce something material. That is why Bazarov disrespects art, sciences that do not have a practical basis. He believes that it is much more useful to deny what, from his point of view, deserves to be denied, than to watch indifferently from the side, not daring to do anything. “At the present time, denial is most useful - we deny,” says Bazarov. And Pavel Petrovich Kirsanov is sure that there are things that cannot be doubted (“Aristocracy ... liberalism, progress, principles ... art ...”). He values habits and traditions more and does not want to notice the changes taking place in society.
Bazarov is a tragic figure. It cannot be said that he defeats Kirsanov in a dispute. Even when Pavel Petrovich is ready to admit his defeat, Bazarov suddenly loses faith in his teaching and doubts his personal need for society. "Does Russia need me? No, apparently I don't," he reflects.
Of course, most of all a person is manifested not in conversations, but in deeds and in his life. Therefore, Turgenev, as it were, leads his heroes through various trials. And the strongest of them is the test of love. After all, it is in love that the soul of a person is revealed fully and sincerely.
And then hot and passionate nature Bazarova swept away all his theories. He fell in love with a woman whom he highly valued. “In conversations with Anna Sergeevna, he expressed even more than before his indifferent contempt for everything romantic, and left alone, he indignantly recognized the romance in himself.” The hero is going through a severe mental breakdown. "...Something...was possessed in him, which he never allowed, over which he always mocked, which revolted all his pride." Anna Sergeevna Odintsova rejected him. But Bazarov found the strength to accept defeat with honor, without losing his dignity.
So all the same - did the nihilist Bazarov win or lose? It seems that in the test of love, Bazarov is defeated. First, his feelings and himself are rejected. Secondly, he falls into the power of the aspects of life he himself denies, loses ground under his feet, begins to doubt his views on life. His life position turns out to be a pose in which, however, he sincerely believed. Bazarov begins to lose the meaning of life, and soon loses life itself. But this is also a victory: love made Bazarov take a different look at himself and the world, he begins to understand that life does not want to fit into a nihilistic scheme in anything.
And Anna Sergeevna formally remains among the winners. She managed to cope with her feelings, which strengthened her self-confidence. In the future, she will build a sister well, and she herself will successfully marry. But will she be happy?
F.M. Dostoevsky "Crime and Punishment"."Crime and Punishment" is ideological novel, in which non-human theory collides with human feelings. Dostoevsky, a great connoisseur of the psychology of people, a sensitive and attentive artist, tried to understand modern reality, to determine the degree of influence on a person of the then popular ideas of the revolutionary reorganization of life and individualistic theories. Entering into polemics with democrats and socialists, the writer sought to show in his novel how the delusion of fragile minds leads to murder, shedding of blood, maiming and breaking young lives.
Raskolnikov's ideas are generated by abnormal, humiliating conditions of life. In addition, the post-reform breakup destroyed the age-old foundations of society, depriving human individuality of connection with long-standing cultural traditions society, historical memory. Raskolnikov at every step sees a violation of universal moral standards. It is impossible to feed a family with honest labor, so the petty official Marmeladov finally becomes an inveterate drunkard, and his daughter Sonechka is forced to trade herself, because otherwise her family will die of hunger. If unbearable living conditions push a person to violate moral principles, then these principles are nonsense, that is, they can be ignored. Raskolnikov comes to this conclusion when a theory is born in his inflamed brain, according to which he divides all of humanity into two unequal parts. On the one hand, this strong personalities, "super-humans" such as Mohammed and Napoleon, and on the other - a gray, faceless and submissive crowd, which the hero awards with a contemptuous name - "trembling creature" and "anthill".
The correctness of any theory must be confirmed by practice. And Rodion Raskolnikov conceives and carries out the murder, removing the moral prohibition from himself. His life after the murder turns into a real hell. A painful suspicion develops in Rodion, which gradually turns into a feeling of loneliness, rejection from everyone. The writer finds a surprisingly accurate expression characterizing internal state Raskolnikov: he "as if with scissors cut himself off from everyone and everything." The hero is disappointed in himself, believing that he did not pass the test for the role of the ruler, which means, alas, he belongs to the "trembling creatures".
Surprisingly, Raskolnikov himself would not want to be the winner now. After all, to win means to perish morally, to remain with your spiritual chaos forever, to lose faith in people, yourself and life. Raskolnikov's defeat was his victory - a victory over himself, over his theory, over the Devil, who took possession of his soul, but could not forever displace God in it.
M.A. Bulgakov "Master and Margarita". This novel is too complex and multifaceted, the writer touched on many topics and problems in it. One of them is the problem of the struggle between good and evil. In The Master and Margarita, the two main forces of good and evil, which, according to Bulgakov, should be in balance on Earth, are embodied in the images of Yeshua Ha-Notsri from Yershalaim and Woland - Satan in human form. Apparently, Bulgakov, in order to show that good and evil exist outside of time and for thousands of years people live according to their laws, placed Yeshua at the beginning of a new time, in the fictional masterpiece of the Master, and Woland, as the arbiter of cruel justice, in Moscow in the 30s. XX century. The latter came to Earth to restore harmony where it had been broken in favor of evil, which included lies, stupidity, hypocrisy and, finally, betrayal that filled Moscow. Good and evil in this world are surprisingly closely intertwined, especially in human souls. When Woland, in a scene in a variety show, tests the audience for cruelty and decapitates the entertainer, and compassionate women demand to put her in her place, the great magician says: “Well ... they are people like people ... Well, frivolous ... well, what same... and mercy sometimes knocks on their hearts... ordinary people... - and loudly orders: "Put on your head." And then we observe how people are fighting because of the gold coins that fell on their heads.
The novel "The Master and Margarita" is about the responsibility of a person for the good and evil that is done on earth, for his own choice life paths leading to truth and freedom or to slavery, betrayal and inhumanity. It all-conquering love and creativity, elevating the soul to the heights of true humanity.
The author wanted to proclaim: the victory of evil over good cannot become end result social and moral confrontation. This, according to Bulgakov, is not accepted by human nature itself, should not be allowed by the entire course of civilization.
Of course, the range of works in which the thematic direction"Victory and defeat", is much broader. The main thing is to see the principle, to understand that victory and defeat are relative concepts.
Wrote about it R. Bach in the book "Bridge Through Eternity": “The important thing is not whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we change because of this, what we bring out for ourselves, how we can apply it in other games. In a strange way, defeat turns out to be victory.”
Everyone can fail. Such a foundation of life. People can lose a hundred times. But they can also expect a grand victory. It is impossible to know exactly how the adventure will end. You have to try to find out.
The need for failure
The life path consists of victories and defeats. This thorny path. Fate can lift high, and then unexpectedly lower to the ground. If a person does nothing, then he will not succeed in climbing to the top. Even a successful person can one day lose everything due to the fact that he stopped acting. Often you have to try again to go to success. The more failures a person can survive, the stronger he will be internal. You need to be worthy of yourself in any situation. Even a loss becomes an experience that will help in the future.
Decent behavior of book characters
There are also worthy examples of defeats in the literature. Take at least the work "Fathers and Sons". Pavel witnessed the kiss of Bazarov and Fenechka. He decided to defend the honor of the girl and challenged the man to a duel. His opponent didn't think it was effective way decide, but agreed. Bazarov knew how the duel would end, because he was younger than his opponent. Pavel was wounded. It was Evgeny who provided Kirsanov with first aid.
Paul behaved with dignity. He accepted his defeat with all his courage. He joked about his condition. This is a kind defensive reaction. The man did not begin to spread why he had to challenge Bazarov to a duel. He didn't want to hurt the young girl. This defeat was necessary for Kirsanov to understand his mistakes. He revised his views on life, saw that in many situations he behaved stupidly. Life has improved a lot throughout the house.
The hero of the work "Crime and Punishment" was also able to adequately survive the defeat. Raskolnikov was a dreamer. He believed he had the right to kill. Main character sincerely believed that his act would benefit society. But his theory failed. And Raskolnikov managed not only to accept this, but also learned a certain life lesson from this. His dreams were shattered, but he himself only became stronger.
Failure is inevitable in our lives. But you need to be able to accept failure with dignity. Otherwise, our existence will be miserable. How to live in this cruel world, if defeat can break us.
