If the child draws big hands. If a child does not like to draw at all, how to inspire him

Many parents say: my child does not like to draw. Most often this applies to preschoolers. Parents are concerned about the situation for various reasons.

First and foremost: adults are afraid of problems with writing at school. After all, if a child does not like to draw, then we have "hands-hooks" with weak fine motor skills of the fingers.

Sometimes adults say: I drew well, but the handwriting is terrible. Apparently the reason was not in fine motor skills.

Reasons for not wanting to draw

What if the child does not like to draw? There are 2 reasons for this:

1. just doesn't like;
2. can not.

On closer examination, the first reason also reduces to the second. Find time or a specialist (if financially possible). Your child's specialist will teach this. Although it happens, adults force a preschooler to draw, causing a strong protest reaction. Then it is useful to read about the stages of the formation of children's drawings. Maybe you are demanding the impossible from a child?

The benefits of drawing

Why so much attention to drawing skills? At school, your child will be able to:

1. memorize the details of writing letters,
2. present the problem in images, facilitating its solution,
3. will retell,
4. write essays,
5. understand and memorize texts using the right (artistic) hemisphere of your brain, and much more.

The main thing: your baby will learn to see the world in all its colorful diversity.

We stimulate the process

So, the preschooler does not like to draw and does not want to do it for any price. The following parenting options are available.

Coloring

Start with basic coloring. It happens that drawing imagination and observation is not enough, but coloring - with pleasure. This rather mechanical process is most suitable for starting to introduce drawing to children who do not want to draw. For kids 4 years old, pictures with a familiar subject with a minimum of details are suitable. Don't demand quality. The main thing is to take a pencil. Don't be afraid to praise. The pencil does not go, take paints.

Most often - subject pictures with a lot of small details. We also have coloring pages, but they are designed for older preschoolers. We prefer plot pictures. Events are unfolding on them that can attract "nehochuhu". Discuss the drawing, clarify everything. Do not scold if you see a red fox and purple bushes.

Working with coloring pages

How to use coloring pages to your advantage?

Colorize - what else. It's right. But you can color in different ways. For example, just give the children pencils or felt-tip pens - and do whatever you want. Moreover, pencils are safer for surrounding objects and walls. Usually kids don't like them very much, so choose soft ones. I use watercolor pencils.

Subsequence.

1. let the baby circle the object first,
2. and then paint the circled details.

Coloring pages on the computer

Not all children like to color. Among my clients there are smart kids with a weak hand or not. developed imagination and perception of form. Children do not like to draw, but they do not mind sitting at the computer. Then we combine the two. This is a game of "designer" - we work in a graphic editor. The pictures in the article are an example.

We work in Paint. But recently I read that the program will no longer be updated. There is online Photoshop, Paint.net can be downloaded.

1. Select interesting pictures and download to a separate folder, say on your desktop. (They can be printed and let the child paint with something)
2. Figure it out yourself, and then teach your kid how to work with the program without delving into it.

I believe that in this case we are additionally solving important tasks that we must first realize ourselves:

1. we show the child that the computer is a working, not a gaming tool;
2. we give an opportunity to show the prerequisites for a possible vocation.

Usually, coloring on a computer attracts with the brightness of colors, the speed of work, and arouses the child's interest in the process. In addition, the picture is painted in a short time, not exceeding 30 minutes allowed for a preschooler at a computer.

The only requirement for the drawing is that the contour lines must be closed. Otherwise, as the children say: "the paint will spill." If it is not clear what this is about (this is for grandmothers), then draw on a clean sheet graphic editor two circles. At one of them, "wipe" a hole in the circle line. Try filling them with color. Where the contour is not closed, the paint will "spill" over the entire sheet.

Keep your colored drawings in a separate folder and review them periodically. Let the child be proud of his work. But remember, this is only the first step to arouse interest. the main task- drawing itself.

Fear of a clean slate

Sometimes a child does not like to draw because of fear. clean slate. Children have this kind of fear. You will need a tablet (not a computer). A piece of plywood, a large cutting board, or something like that will do. Attach masking tape wallpaper piece. Brushes, paints, pencils.

1. Let him strike with pencils, paint all over the sheet.
2. With paints - with a wide brush - he draws something boundless: the sea, the sky, a green lawn.
3. With smaller brushes (or even fingers) sticking - clouds in the sky, flowers on the lawn ...

With the help of unconventional drawing techniques, the fear of a blank slate is well overcome. And it is best to try right-brained drawing. Watch a lesson on right brain painting

If your child doesn't like to draw, don't worry. Most The best way- draw together, helping each other and throwing ideas. Look for tricks for your preschooler. Perhaps modeling will go - a great way to develop the hand. Plasticine can be painted. You get great pictures. Or construction from a metal constructor. We wish you success

The life of children is filled with various emotions and feelings. However, it is problematic for a child to express them correctly, here art therapy comes to the rescue. In the process of drawing, the child fully reveals his inner world and expresses his feelings, experiences and other emotions on a piece of paper. The main task of parents is to learn how to correctly and regularly “read” the art of their baby, this will allow them to get to know the child better and, if necessary, turn to specialists for help in time.

What does a child's drawing say about a child and his attitude towards others?

While drawing, children do not control their emotions, they create a “masterpiece” with their soul, not their mind. Therefore, it is very important to pay attention to all the details of the picture, because this allows you to draw certain conclusions about psychological state child and his attitude to everything that surrounds him. Let us consider below how, by some features and details of a child's drawing, one can understand what the child thinks and feels.

Color selection

Each child feels very subtly and compares his feelings with a certain color. For accurate testing, it is important that the baby has the maximum set of colors to create a pattern.

What does the predominant color in the picture say?

Bright rainbow colors speak of good mood and positive emotions of the child, and a pale pattern with a predominance of gloomy colors indicates a reduced emotional state or bad mood the child may be unwell.

Pictures of people, facial expressions

In young years children draw people in the form of cephalopod circles with sticks instead of arms and legs. In this case, pay attention to the colors and the force of pressing the pencil, the proportionality of each character relative to each other. At an older age, children begin to draw the head and face, arms and legs.

• Normally, a child most often draws people of his own gender, otherwise we can talk about internal discord.
• The size of the head symbolizes mental development and abilities, and the presence of a headdress shows that the child needs protection.
• The presence of a face and the clarity of its features speaks of the openness of the baby and his sociability.
• The worse the face is drawn, the more “closed” the character of the child is.
• Ask the child about the emotions and mood of the characters depicted, this will allow you to reflect on the situation from the child's point of view.
• The presence of ears is an indicator of receiving information through hearing and the ability to listen.
• The mouth and teeth are drawn by children with an aggressive attitude, and the eyes large sizes indicate children's fears, especially if the pupils are drawn.
• Hand size is an indicator physical development, and hidden ones speak of the child's insecurity.
• Hands raised up are drawn by aggressively minded kids, and a wide swing indicates a readiness to act.
• Long legs indicate the independence of the child, and a wide setting indicates the self-confidence of the baby.
• Disproportionate torso small size children draw with a sense of inferiority.
• Demonstrativeness and expression of aggression in the drawings of children over 4 years old is manifested through the image of the genitals.

Figure sizes

The more important a person or object is for a child, the larger he depicts them and vice versa. The figure depicts the most significant characters in the life of the baby.

Often a manifestation of aggression or a protective form of behavior is the image of large fists, traced nails and teeth, the presence of a threatening posture and even weapons.

Line outlines

• Clear, bold and straight lines, drawn confidently and without doubt, testify to the child's self-confidence and that he is happy.
• Weak pressing speaks of the indecision of the young "artist", his fatigue, emotional sensitivity and unstable psyche.
• Strong pressure and frequent breaking of the stylus is characteristic of aggressive children.
• Different pressing force while drawing indicates a frequent change of mood.
• Soft in nature, the baby uses sinuous and smooth lines, and in the presence of a strong-willed character, the figure is dominated by angles and straight, clear lines.
• A sign of impulsiveness is lines that have not been completed to the end or a sweeping, careless manner of writing.
• Self-corrections, especially if they did not lead to an improvement in the image, indicate increased anxiety of the baby, which is also evidenced by shading.

Layout of a drawing on a sheet

Self-doubt in children is manifested in the layout of the picture. They place it compressed in some part of the sheet, and not on its entire area. There is frequent erasure of details, the child's doubts about the correctness of the image, the border (line) of the earth or floor is drawn above the bottom border of the sheet.

Drawing of my family

• Children begin to draw a family from the most significant person for them, and the larger he is drawn, the more authoritative he is for the “artist”. It is better drawn and decorated.
• If a child has poor contact with someone, then his child does not draw, or depicts him schematically.
• The child's family is friendly if everyone holds hands, and vice versa, if everyone is busy with their own business.
• If there are separating objects between people (for example, a tree), then the child feels there is a problem in communication.
• The image of the game indicates the presence of rivalry in the family. If someone is drawn with their hands up, then aggression comes from him, or he needs help.
• The presence of false information in the picture (dead or non-existent people) indicates the child's discomfort, his desire to change the situation.
• If a young "artist" portrayed himself larger than adults, then he feels unique and significant. But about when you feel superfluous, the absence of the child himself in the picture speaks.

How to decipher a children's drawing: 5 examples

It should be remembered that the child transfers to paper in the form of a drawing what he feels and experiences at the moment. For a correct assessment of the psycho-emotional state of the baby, several drawings are required, made at different times.

It may be that the child is generally positive, open and everything is in order, but at the time of drawing he was in a quarrel or was under the influence of not very have a nice moment, of course, that a negative will appear in the figure, but this is only now. Or maybe the child draws a “cry for help” day after day, but the parents do not understand.

Examples of decoding children's drawings

Figure #1.

What does picture #1 say?

Somewhat chaotic, but at the same time bright and dynamic pattern. The child singles out the mother as the emotional center of the family, decorates her dress and places the sun (a symbol of warmth), herself and the dog nearby. The author portrays herself on an equal footing with adults, but at the same time lacking to the ground - most likely she is an impulsive, fighting girl with a boyish character. The level of self-control is low, this is evidenced by the sweeping manner of writing with strong pressure.

Figure #2.

What does picture #2 say?

The drawing is typical for children over 6 years old, therefore the child develops ahead of schedule. The family is depicted dynamically, brightly and at the same time restlessly. The color scheme suggests the gender identification of the “artist” with his father, but he is still closer to his mother. Judging by the picture, it can be assumed that the boy does not have enough space, he does not stand firmly on his feet. Wherein purple speaks of possible psycho-emotional instability and frequent mood swings. Large and angular figures indicate straightforwardness in communication and a tendency to conflict. Drawn pupils and the presence of shading indicate an existing hidden anxiety.

Figure #3.

What does picture #3 say?

The overall composition indicates that everyone is happy and the child is growing up in a friendly atmosphere. The author grouped all family members, children and cats to the right, and adults to the left of the tree, this indicates a clear hierarchy, dad, mom and grandmother enjoy great authority, only the depicted late grandfather is alarming, and the presence of a tree between him and grandmother indicates their irresistible separation barrier.

Figure #4.

What does Figure 4 say?

The girl drew her prototype. You should pay attention to a large and bright drawing, however, located in the upper part of the sheet, this indicates a positive self-esteem, activity and emotionality, high level self-control, communication and developed intellect against the backdrop of uncertainty and lack of stability (small legs and a clear emphasis on the ground line). This situation is observed in families where they pay a lot of attention to the child, which deprives him of the opportunity to show independence.

Figure #5.

What does picture #5 say?

The image in the figure indicates a positive perception of the world. Mom and dad are drawn together, although they are divorced. Dad brings flowers, which speaks of the boy's hope that his parents will be together again. The depicted birds, as a symbol of hope, only confirm this assumption. The boy wants to be like his father, this is evidenced by the similar colors of the clothes of the father and son.

Let your child draw more often, because this way he can throw out his emotions, and you can get to know your baby better, the main thing is to read the messages of the child's subconscious correctly. You can also understand your child with the help of which you can read about on our website.

In order for you to look deeper into the soul of your child and understand how he lives, what he breathes, what he thinks about, what he dreams about while in the family, if you do not have the opportunity to consult with the right specialist, spend with him one of the adapted us, especially for parents of options - a variant of the drawing technique "My family", which reveals intra-family interpersonal relationships.

Drawing technique "My family"

Give your child a sheet of paper and a set of colored pencils (black, blue, brown, red, yellow, green). Since this test is adapted for parents and a specialist will not evaluate it, a set of pencils may contain not 6 colors, but much more.

Have your child draw a picture of your family. After that, do something, pretending that you are not up to the drawing. Let him feel at least the illusion of freedom. Your gaze involuntarily makes the son or daughter "weigh" everything in the picture in favor of you. Let the painter be alone with himself. Nevertheless, "working", you need to imperceptibly for the child to observe how he draws, what he draws, where he draws.

After finishing drawing, clarify some details with leading questions. Then analyze the data of the drawing test according to the scheme below. And if you learn how to correctly interpret these data, you will be able not only to identify the nuances, but also their shades, the whole gamut of feelings experienced by the child in his family. Everything that yours carefully hides, everything that hides somewhere in the depths and is not able to tell you aloud, everything that “boils” and “boils” in him, everything that torments and worries him daily, suddenly unexpectedly, like a genie from a bottle, it “bursts” out and freezes with a “silent cry” on paper. And, freezing, silently screaming, he begs you for help. And this "cry" should be heard by each of the parents. After all, it would hardly occur to us, parents, that very often we are the culprits of all the troubles of the child.

Analyzing the drawing, it is necessary to pay attention to a number of details: the sequence of the task, the plot of the drawing, how the family members are located, how the family members are grouped, the degree of proximity and the degree of their remoteness from each other, the location of the child among them, whom the family begins to draw, on whom they finish, whom they “forgot” to depict, whom they “added”, who is taller and who is shorter, who is dressed like that, who is drawn in outline, who is drawn to the details, on color scheme etc.

Let us dwell on some features of the analysis of the figure.

1. The sequence of the task. As a rule, after receiving the installation, he immediately begins to draw all family members and only then the details that complement the drawing. If, for some unknown reason, an artist suddenly focuses his attention on anything other than his family, "forgetting" to draw his relatives and himself, or draws people after depicting minor objects and objects, you need to think about why he does this and what lies behind all this. What is the reason for his indifference to his loved ones? Why does he delay the time of depicting them? Most often, the "casket" is opened by leading questions and clarifying shades of family relationships, and other methods. As a rule, the absence of family members in the drawing or the delay in their depiction is one of the symptoms of the child's mental discomfort in the family and a sign of conflicting family relationships in which the artist is also involved.

2. The plot of the picture. Most of the time, the plot is very simple. The child depicts his family in the form group photo, where all family members are present or someone is absent. All present are on the ground, stand on the floor, or, for some reason, having lost their support, hang in the air. Sometimes in the picture, in addition to people, flowers bloom, grass turns green, bushes and trees grow. Some place their relatives in own house among furniture and familiar things. It is not uncommon for someone to be at home, and someone on the street. In addition to the frozen monumental group portraits, there are also drawings in which all family members are busy with business and, of course, the most important -. These drawings are usually overflowing with expression and dynamism.

As mentioned above, sometimes they simply refuse to draw or confine themselves to some, especially seemingly abstract plot, where there is no family (see Fig. 1 below). But this is only at first glance. Drawing of a family "without a family" - a child's cry of protest and the distress signal given by him in this way - SOS. In the drawing we propose, a ten-year-old girl, jealous of her relatives for the younger children in the family, hid all family members in a house behind thick walls. She placed herself, like Carlson, somewhere on the roof (a detailed interpretation of the figure will be given below). When yours draws a "no family" family, drop things and solve the charade. Think - why? Build bridges. Otherwise, you may "miss" something significant in your child and lose the "key" to him.

If a child’s drawing of a family is associated with something pleasant, with warm, tender memories, it illuminates all family members or one of them with a bright sun - a symbol of affection, kindness and love. If over group portrait families are dark clouds or it is pouring rain, then most likely this is due to the discomfort of the child.

3. The sequence of location of family members. Usually the first person depicts either his most beloved family member, or, in his opinion, the most significant and authoritative in the house. If he considers himself the most significant, he, without hiding it, draws his figure first. The sequence of arrangement of other family members and their serial numbers indicate the attitude of the child towards them, or rather, their role in the family in the eyes of the child or their attitude, in the opinion of the painter, to him. The higher serial number the depicted family member, the lower his authority in the child. Usually the most recent relative drawn has the lowest authority. Therefore, if he intuitively feels himself rejected and unnecessary by his parents, then he portrays himself after everyone else.

4. Sizes of figures of family members. The more authoritative in the eyes of the child is the member of the family portrayed by him, the higher his figure and the greater the size. Quite often, young children do not even have enough paper to accommodate the entire figure completely, entirely. With a low authority of a relative, the size of his figure, as a rule, is much less than the real one in comparison with the rest of the family members. Therefore, the neglected and rejected usually depict themselves as barely noticeable, undersized, tiny little boys with a finger or Thumbelina (see Fig. 2 below), emphasizing with all this their uselessness and insignificance. In contrast to the "rejected" idols of the family do not spare space for depicting their figures, drawing themselves on a par with mom or dad and even above them (see Figure 3 below).

5. The size of the space and its dimensions between the image of individual family members indicate either their emotional disunity or their emotional closeness. The farther the figures are located from each other, the greater their emotional disunity, as a rule, reflecting a conflict situation in the family. In some drawings, they emphasize the sense of disunity of loved ones by including in the free space between family members some extraneous objects that further divide people. To reduce disunity, he often fills in the gaps, in his opinion, with things and objects that unite close relatives, or draws among family members unfamiliar faces to him.

With emotional closeness, all relatives in the family are drawn almost close to each other and are practically not separated. The closer he portrays himself in relation to any member of the family, the higher his degree of attachment to this relative. The farther away from a family member, the less his attachment to that member. When he considers himself rejected, he is separated by a considerable space from others.

6. The location of the child in the figure- a source of important information about his position in the family. When he is in the center, between mom and dad, or draws himself first at the head of the family, this means that he feels needed and necessary in the house. As a rule, he places himself next to the one to whom he is most attached. If we see in the picture that he depicted himself after all his brothers and sisters, away from his parents, then this is most often just a sign of his jealousy for other children living in the family, in relation to his beloved mother or father, and maybe both together, and, distancing himself from everyone else, the artist tells us that he considers himself superfluous and unnecessary in the house.

7. When for some reason he "forgets" to draw himself look for a good reason in your family relationships. They are usually not quite exemplary and, obviously, painful for the child. The child's image of a family without himself is a signal of conflict between him and someone in your house or the whole family as a whole, and in this regard, the child does not have a sense of community with other people close to him. With his drawing in this way, the artist expresses his reaction of protest against the rejection of him in the family. Intuitively guessing that he has been rejected by you for a long time, that you have almost “forgotten” him, taking care of others in the family, he “revenges” you on paper, not realizing that by refusing to draw himself, he gives out his secrets, involuntarily throwing out the discomfort bubbling in him .

8. When for some reason "forgets" to suddenly draw one of the parents or other real members of his family, then, most likely, none other than the "forgotten" relative of the child is the source of his discomfort, worries and torment. Deliberately "forgetting" to include such a loved one in his family, as if showing us the way out of conflict situation and to defuse the negative family atmosphere. Quite often, in this way, the artist “eliminates” competitors, trying to extinguish, even for a moment, the jealousy that boils in him for other children or for parents of his own sex. Especially stubbornly "revenges" and does not draw on paper that family member who constantly suppresses and humiliates him in the house. Therefore, usually the question: "Where is this family member?" - , continuing to "revenge" him, he responds with solid fables, absurdities and absurdities, such as the fact that this relative takes out the trash, washes the floor, stands in the corner .. In short, in this way, albeit naively, he dreams of taking revenge, although would mentally humiliate a loved one who constantly humiliates him really every day.

9. When for some reason "supplements" his family with non-existent relatives or strangers, then by this he tries to fill the vacuum in the feelings that were not received in the family, or use them instead of a buffer that softens the feeling of his inferiority in the circle of relatives. Often this vacuum is filled by those individuals who, in their opinion, are able to establish close contacts with them and enable them to somehow satisfy their needs for communication. Therefore, "modeling" the composition of his family, he involuntarily offers us its improved, improved and chosen option by him, and not by anyone else.

In addition to strangers, the artist often "complements" his family with the animal world: we see birds, animals, but most of all devotees and necessary to a person cats and dogs. And if in these "additions" there is no identification with a real member of the child's family, and if cats and dogs ... are simply fictional, the artist does not actually have them, but he dreams that they would be and replace his relatives and friends, then it means that he longs to be needed by someone. From birth, he needs to be loved and that he, in return, also loved someone passionately. And if you did not satisfy him with your love, then he intuitively looks for love on the side. Therefore, think more seriously about the purpose for which yours, who seems to be not deprived of anything, stubbornly every time on all the drawings of his family stamps the ghosts of cats and dogs that do not exist and do not live in the house, which even you did not promise to buy him. Think seriously. And regard this as a symptom that tells you about the lack of the necessary communication and the lack of tenderness and affection that yours feels. Think about it: are you to blame for this deficit?

10. When for some reason, instead of a family, he draws only one of himself, "forgetting" to draw all the others, this most often indicates that he does not feel like a full-fledged member of his family and feels that there is simply not enough space for him in it.

Quite often, in the drawings of oneself, the rejection of the child by family members can be seen through the emotional background and gloomy colors. The loneliness of a rejected person at an age when they are not yet able to do without their parents is a formidable sign of an unfavorable situation in the family for your child. Sometimes the artist, when depicting a family, specifically singles out only one himself in order to emphasize his significance for the rest. This is most often done by family idols or those who do not hide their egocentrism. It differs from those rejected by involuntary self-admiration, which is usually seen in the coloring and detailing of clothes or in secondary background objects that create a festive mood.

11. To conduct a more detailed analysis, consider in detail how he draws faces and other parts of the body. The drawing of the head is especially informative. When you see that the author for some reason skips parts of the face known to him in the drawing or generally depicts a face "without a face", that is, apart from the contour of the face, there is nothing on it (no eyes, no mouth, no nose ...), then this is most often an expression of protest by the artist in relation to the family member depicted by him in this way, because of which, obviously, he is constantly overwhelmed with negative emotions.

When an artist depicts his face in this way, a face without eyes, without a mouth, without a nose, then this is a sign of his alienation in the family and a violation of communication with many people.

When only one eye is visible in the drawing from all parts of the face, then most likely you are aware that this family member is watching and watching him all the time, not allowing any of his misdeeds, childish pranks and pampering. And this relative "I see everything" is the source of most conflict situations for the child. A drawing of a close "I hear everything" can be similar, in which the author is absorbed in the image of ears that exceed the size of Cheburashka's ears. When only the mouth is singled out from all the parts, then, most likely, the "owner of the mouth", like a press, puts pressure on the artist, "educating" him with endless notations, moralizing within the framework of his own morality, and cultivates fear in him.

When you see that in the drawing the artist focuses most of all on the head and thoroughly draws all parts of the face, preferring the face to everything else, then, most obviously, he once again shows you how significant the closest relative depicted by him in this way is for him. And if yours portrays himself this way, then this is just admiring himself or one of the signs that indicates how seriously he is concerned about his appearance. Often, in this way, the artist brightens up his own physical "defect". And if a girl draws her face like this, then most often she simply imitates her mother, who, because of coquetry, constantly tints her lips, powders her nose, and smoothes her hair before her eyes.

In addition to the head, drawn hands can also give you great information. When their length immediately catches the eye, then most likely they belong to one of the close family members of the child who is aggressive towards him. The author sometimes depicts such a relative without arms at all, trying, at least symbolically, but to extinguish aggression.

When we see the child himself armless in the picture, then, most likely, in this way the artist wants to inform us that he is completely powerless and does not have the right to vote in the family.

When in the picture he emphasizes the length of not strangers, but his own hands or draws them raised up, then by this he shows his aggressiveness or his desire to be aggressive in order to somehow establish himself in the family.

12. The color scheme of the picture- a kind of indicator of the palette of feelings radiated by a child when remembering loved ones whom he portrays. Features and nuances of children's emotional attitude to individual members of their family or to the family as a whole, the romance of their attachments and carefully concealed dislike, doubts, anxieties and hopes seem to be "coded" in the color that each character is decorated with. And you, the parents, need to find the cipher to the code in order to come to the rescue in time, generously stretching out your whole hand, desperately clutching at a thin straw, for one reason or another, drooping under the pressure of hard everyday life and everyday troubles, your child.

As a rule, everything that is loved and liked by the child is drawn by him in warm, affectionate colors. Their affection and romantic feelings for one of those present in the picture, without knowing it themselves, "stick out" with a bright, juicy color that involuntarily attracts your gaze. Usually, the one who the child likes is dressed up by him in a special festive outfit, which in its coloring resembles a rainbow or clothes. fairy princess dreamed in a magical dream.

And even if yours does not use the whole gamut of colors available to him, he still, wishing it or not, but singles out at least one extraordinary stroke that catches your eye of his beloved relative among all the others.

Mothers are especially beautiful. They express their love for them by designing for them such models of fantastic clothes, the patents for which, probably, fashion magazines would have bought from them. In addition to dresses, skirts, blouses, where there are ruffles, embroideries, frills, many mothers have earrings in their ears, beads on their necks and hairpins in their hair. Almost all mothers are in fashionable shoes and with unusual hairstyles. And if you look at the color of their hair, then most often you will say: this does not happen - since when the hair is orange, yellow and even blue. This does not happen in life, but it happens in a drawing, when in a flood of tender feelings that splash out in this way.

Beloved dads also have something to wear. And very often their outfits are practically not inferior to their mother's. The child also brightly dresses up all other relatives who are not indifferent to him, drawing the most the smallest details their clothes. When a child in the family is happy, he is also festively dressed up and radiates warm tones.

The cold tones depicted by the child are like red at a traffic light signaling "stop". Stop for a minute. Think what it is
means. Ask yourself mentally: "Why?"

Cold tones, as a rule, are witnesses of a conflict relationship between a child and a member of his family drawn by him with these tones. The black color is especially informative, the usual black color, most often carrying information about the child's emotional rejection of the relative in the picture whom he depicted to them. And this rejection can be overt or covert. About a clear rejection, in addition to color, a number of details will tell you. You will have to guess about the hidden, unraveling the labyrinths of the child's feelings. And if for some reason a relative whom he loves is suddenly painted in black, then, most likely, in this way, the painter involuntarily splashes onto paper everything that secretly worries, excites, torments him in relation to the member of his family depicted by him. And no matter how in these cases the artist tries to assure you that he painted from memory, almost from life, and his father really has a favorite shirt - “black”, and his mother also prefers “black” to all colors, and her sister really braids are "black", you need to carefully check and understand the reason for his "realism". Especially when in the same picture other relatives are fabulously dressed and their hair is fabulously painted.

As a rule, the reason for realism is that, adoring mom or dad, no matter how much he wants, he cannot and is not able to come to terms with the fact that dad drinks, rowdy, is a source of scandals, and mom, busy with endless affairs, does not notices the child's devoted love. The sister is just jealous. And suddenly she gets more tenderness and affection ...

A signal of distress and trouble for your child can also be contour drawing to them individual members of his family or the family as a whole, even when the artist depicts the contours in different colors, and not with a simple pencil.

So, analyzing the features of the interpretation of the picture "My Family", you seemed to recognize your child again and realized that yours is a person, albeit still small, unintelligent, but a person looking at the world with his own clear eyes, having his own special angle of view on life. And this angle of view should be known to you. Otherwise, it will suddenly turn out that you and yours see everything differently and different eyes and speak often different languages. And in order for your language to be the same, you need to know its symbolism for your child, at least in the picture.

Let's look again at what means, details, nuances the artist tells you about his role in his own family and about the relationships that have developed in it between other family members.

1. Emotional Attachment a child to one of the parents, as a rule, is depicted in such a way that it is close to this parent or next to him. The amount of space between them is minimal. Often their hands are stretched out to each other, emphasizing the complete agreement between the parent and the child who adores him. Almost always, the artist tries to draw the beloved parent as one of the first in the drawing. The figure of this parent is usually taller than all other figures, or at least exceeds the height of the child, thereby, as it were, giving the young artist a kind of security that is understandable to him alone, necessary for life. To make the parent look even more impressive, they often place him on a pedestal specially invented by them. The parent, adored by the child, is not only carefully depicted by him, but also dressed up in the most magical outfits, which, in terms of brightness of colors, are much brighter than the most bright clothes artist. There are times when the outfit of the artist and the best mom in the world or the most beautiful dad in the world are identical. During the first romantic love to parents, usually girls draw themselves next to dads, and boys - closer to moms. During the period of the child's imitation of the parents of the same sex, this pattern changes and the girls are already close to their mothers, and the boys are close to their fathers. Moreover, the parent, adored by the child, is not drawn with contours and strokes, but emerges literally to the details.

When for some reason, suddenly drawing himself next to his adored parent, he involuntarily leaves an empty gap between this “row”, then, most likely, this gap is a reflection of the invisible barrier between the two loving people. Most often, this barrier is the character traits of the parent, pushing the child away from themselves and forcing young artist keep a certain distance, like on a leash, when communicating with a parent.

His dissatisfaction is usually expressed in black or at least one gloomy stroke. Take a look at the drawing of a teenage girl (see figure 4 below). Here, the black color of the adored dad's trousers testifies to the child's worries about the fact that dad began to drink alcohol.

When the affection of the child is mutual, he is happy, reaching all the peaks of bliss.

When a child's love is unrequited, it is an unsmoldering source of mental discomfort for a young artist. Therefore, analyzing the drawing and "figuring out" who the child needs the most, you try to take a step towards him. Let him feel how necessary he is.

2. Rejection of the child in the family(emotional rejection). When he feels superfluous and unnecessary, outcast in his family, he either simply does not want and does not want to draw his family, or
draws her, forgetting to draw himself. In some cases, the artist places his small and nondescript figure away from everyone, thus emphasizing his loneliness among relatives. Quite often, between a distant child and members of his family, there are some unnecessary objects that increase the disunity of the drawn people. Often an empty gap is suddenly filled with those relatives who do not exist, or who really exist, but are very distant. The role of a buffer is also often played by cats and dogs.

When he feels superfluous and unnecessary in his family, his figure is the smallest, his clothes are gloomy and inconspicuous. Such one often simply depicts himself with contours and strokes, without dwelling on the details, drawing himself at the end of the plot. In those cases when, in spite of everything, he is nevertheless attached to one of the parents or to both at once, he paints them in warm tones, without stinting on affectionate colors. And these warm tones, in contrast to the cold tones that the artist depicts, are witnesses to the abyss that has already formed or has begun to form between the child and his family.

In figure 5 (see below), a six-year-old girl, offended by the coldness of her parents and considering herself unnecessary to them, drew them festively and beautifully, deliberately "forgetting" to draw herself next to them. At the request of the experimenter, she then nevertheless finished drawing her figure, depicting it with a contour and a black pencil, reducing the actual size. Then, after thinking for a moment, she suddenly brightened herself with joy and drew grass. And all of her appearance in the picture now he was saying to everyone: look, look how small I am. I still need to be loved. And if the parents do not understand this, let at least the sun replace them.

As a rule, outcasts usually "forget" to draw the member of their family who, in their opinion, rejects them.

3. Conflict situation in the family. It is known that the younger and more sensitive, the more often he considers himself the culprit of conflicts in his family, regarding them as retribution for pampering, disobedience and children's sins. The child, feeling guilty, is rejected in his own eyes, so his drawings almost always resemble similar drawings with emotional rejection of children in the family. Most often, the artist "forgets" to draw that of the relatives, because of whom, as he believes, the conflict arose. And if he nevertheless draws that person, in order to draw attention to him, he depicts him above or below everyone, standing nearby, in cold, mournful tones. Often, in a conflict situation in a family, all relatives are drawn only with contours, and their disunity is visible in the fact that they are all separated from each other by unnecessary objects, empty gaps, as if they do not exist all together, but each with himself.

When, during conflicts, he suddenly “forgets” to draw himself, then by this, as it were, he punishes himself. When, unexpectedly for you, he depicts himself next to those relatives for whom he does not have warm feelings, then in this way he most often wants to reduce, neutralize, and maybe completely hush up the conflict.

4. Jealousy towards one of the parents in the family. When he feels jealousy for one of his parents, he tries to disguise it by suddenly “forgetting” to suddenly draw an “unnecessary” parent or, drawing him, pushes him into the background by all means. As a rule, the "interfering" parent is much shorter than everyone else, nondescript and sloppy dressed. Often a child has the patience only to depict him at least with contours. The “interfering” parent in the figure is most often “inactive”, while the beloved is busy with a common task with the child.

5. Jealousy for brothers and sisters. The harder it is for a child to cope with a sudden feeling of rivalry towards other children in the family, the more clearly he betrays this feeling, despite the disguise. Usually the younger one is jealous of the older one, and the older one is jealous of younger child in the house. But the hardest thing is for the average: his love for his parents is shared with him by two at once - both the youngest and the oldest. It is even more difficult for little jealous people in large families. Often a brother is jealous of mom and dad for his sister, a sister is jealous of her brother. In short, in any family with several children, there is always a soil on which jealousy grows. And you, parents, must remember this in order to uproot even its first sprouts.

Usually the one to whom they are jealous is drawn close to their parents or close to them. Often a drawing begins with this child in order to draw your attention to the "pet"; a jealous person either carefully, literally to the details, outlines his entire figure, increasing his height and dressing him up in catchy clothes, once again emphasizing how the “darling” lives well in the family, or, forgetting about all the precautions and “cracking down” on his “tormentor” "at least on paper, depicts him with contours in mourning colors to make it clear to you how the "favorite" is unpleasant to the artist himself. If jealousy is so strong that yours is unable to cope with himself, he inadvertently suddenly “forgets” to include either a brother or a sister in his family circle, or even both at once, although he remembers their existence in the house. There is another option .. To attract the attention of parents, a jealous person, carefully drawing brothers and sisters, leaves no room for himself in the drawing or depicts his fragile figure away from everyone, emphasizing that he is superfluous.

If there are several children in your family and one of them during the test in the drawing only depicts brothers and sisters next to you, "forgetting" to draw himself, or draws himself away from everyone, think about what is the reason for the young artist's discomfort and is it your fault.

6. Incomplete family. Probably a particularly severe injury in childhood is the divorce of the parents. The child simply does not understand how his beloved dad can do it (most often dad leaves) or mom, without whom
it is generally impossible to live, to leave home, and for a long time, forever. And somewhere in the depths of his soul, considering himself the culprit of the events, he wants and dreams of returning the past, placing everything in the old, former, places so convenient for him.

In addition, he wants to hide the conflict from outsiders, especially when you are not conducting the drawing test. Therefore, usually all family members are present in the figure, even if they are already former. Moreover, the parent who does not live in the house is portrayed last, after lengthy reflections, pauses, nibbling pencils. The child, like Hamlet, has to make a choice: "to be or not to be"... draw... or not worth it... And if the choice is made to draw anyway, the missing family member is drawn as if he is real and very often even bears many resemblances to the artist himself. Often such a member of the family is depicted as a vague outline, and between him and everyone else there are various objects, pets, neighbors, relatives and friends or friendly strangers - the phenomena of the magical dreams of a child, in short, all those who can soften the fate of the young artist.

When he is already getting used to it and resigns himself in his own way, that he has incomplete family, he draws everything as it really is. And in order to show us once again that he doesn’t care, he compensates for the absence of a parent with some other important things for him. this moment details for him. As a rule, an incomplete family depicted by a child almost always has a buffer zone in the picture, a zone of hope, a zone of conjecture and dreams of the child, therefore, at any moment, an incomplete family can turn into a complete one.

7. The only one very often draws himself between mom and dad. When there are no conflicts in the family, he is the main link in the unification of parents. The smaller the distance between the child and the parents, the closer the members of the whole family are to each other, the stronger the kindred feelings that bind them. When not all is well in the family or during a period of romantic love for parents, the family idyll in the form of a triad - mom, yours, dad or dad, yours, mom - collapses. And in the drawing of a young artist, the sequence of arrangement of all family members can have many options. And in a chronic conflict situation, with a pronounced lack of communication in the family, like an alien, he is looking for new contacts outside the family and "complements" his family with those who have never lived in their house, but with whom he can at least take his soul away in difficult times . Most often, the only one, talking about the family, depicts the type of parental upbringing.

Recognition of types of education by drawings

Here are examples of the most common variants of drawings of various types of parenting.

1. The idol of the family. With this type of upbringing, most often he begins to draw a family from the image of himself, and his figure is in the center of a sheet of paper. Parents are a little further away, admiring him. The size of their figures is lower or on a par with the size of the figure of their idol. The artist distinguishes himself with bright outfits; a crown often flaunts on his head. And little girl idols almost always identify with young princesses. The outfit of the parents is much more prosaic and serves as a gray background for comparison. Against this background, the idol looks like a holiday among everyday life (see Fig. 3 below).

2. Overprotection. The child begins to draw a family from the one who takes care of him the most. Then he draws himself next to him. Usually overprotectives are close to mom and dad, or at least hold their hands tightly. Rather, mom and dad themselves hold the child’s hands tightly. When he does something in the picture, his parents admire him, not taking his admiring glance off him. With this type of upbringing, they are shorter than their parents, only sometimes being on a par with them. His clothes are very similar in color to the outfit of mom or dad, and sometimes both at once: he does not strive, like an idol, to be a holiday against the backdrop of everyday life, knowing full well that overprotection for him is a kind Chinese Wall, inspiring once again self-confidence.

3. Hypoprotection. With this type of upbringing, most often expresses its attitude to what is happening various options drawings. It is not uncommon for him, carefully portraying his entire family, to suddenly “forget” to draw himself among everyone. And to the questions: "Where are you?", "Why did you forget?" - comes up with the most ordinary versions that justify his absence at the moment: "In kindergarten"," I'm walking in the yard, "" The teacher detained me at school.

The polar version of this option, when for some reason, of all family members, he prefers to draw only himself, while arguing that no one is at home: his parents went to the cinema, to visit someone, did not come from work ...

When he nevertheless draws his family in full, he once again emphasizes the disunity of its members at large intervals.
spaces between them, involuntarily suggesting that each member of the family here exists only on his own, he does not care about others, especially the young artist. Drawing completely his family, he places himself at a distance from everyone, rather apart and lonely. And this creates the illusion of his simultaneous presence-absence among others.

Quite often, with hypo-custody, they depict themselves only with contours. Their figures are much lower than the figures of others, even when these "others" are actually lower than the young artist. As a rule, a drawing with hypo-custody contains both cold and warm tones, their different nuances and shades. When an artist, in spite of this method of education, idolizes his parents, he does not spare them the most. bright colors. Even dressing up, he does not see himself festively dressed. In his outfits there is sure to be at least one detail, but painted in cold colors, and of all these tones, black predominates.

4. Neglect. The neglected most often refuse to draw. They just don't know what a family is. After much thought, succumbing to persuasion, agreeing to participate in the test, he draws himself in the form of a small, tiny person in a huge space. All alone, a man who can be viewed under a microscope, dressed in clothes of cold tones. The mourning color of these tones is like his soul, turned inside out, overflowing with loneliness. Hopelessness and uselessness emanates from this soul.

5. Vos like "Cinderella". With this type of upbringing, the family usually begins to draw from that brother or from that sister to whom or to whom he is opposed in the house. Parents are drawn behind a brother or sister, and the artist himself leaves a place for himself somewhere far away from everyone or does not leave it at all, emphasizing that he is superfluous and unnecessary in his own family. Everything in the picture is focused on the child's opponent. His figure is taller than the drawing one, more monumental, more significant. He is either in the center, surrounded by relatives, or he is the first among all. He is admired, admired ... especially when he does something (see Fig. 6 below). And even if "Cinderella" does some tasks a hundred times better than him, parents do not attach "her" tasks special significance. With this type of upbringing, he does not know how and is unable to hide his undermining jealousy. Therefore, the drawing is full of cold tones. And, taking revenge on an opponent, the artist often dresses him up more prosaically and more casually than himself, often making it difficult for you to analyze and interpret this drawing.

6. "Hedgehog gloves". With this type of upbringing, it is very difficult for a child to draw a family as a whole. Fearing one of the parents or both at once, he wants to "neutralize" his fear, at least on paper. Therefore, usually in the picture there is not exactly one of the members of his entire family who holds him in these "mittens". On the other hand, he surrounds himself with any relatives other than his parents, and even distant acquaintances, in short, those people who, at least to some extent, are able, even if only temporarily, to mitigate his fate by reducing the degree of discomfort. When a child in a drawing has to portray his parents, then usually he does not leave room for himself in his plot, in any case, he does not reveal the true reason.

With this type of upbringing, the size of the figure in the child in the figure is much lower than the size of the figures of his parents, and not just lower, but deliberately underestimated.

As a rule, the member of the family who holds the young artist in "hedgehogs" is depicted by him with an unusually large mouth, most often open, or with huge clawed hands.

When this type of upbringing by parents is literally brought to a white heat and is so afraid of them that, although he wants to, he does not dare to "forget" to draw a "tormentor", then he draws him most often without any mouth at all or without hands at all, so that at least in such a naive way to reduce the fear that captivated him.

As a rule, the drawing is filled with cold tones. All warm tones belong only to those who give affection and feel sorry for the young artist, at least a drop making his life easier.

7. Vos by the type of increased moral responsibility. At first glance, it usually seems that all the drawings of such children are just one of many copies of a typical overprotective drawing. But this is only at first glance. In fact, with increased responsibility, the artist, just like with hyper-custody, dreams of showing himself to us in a light favorable to him, either doing something, or doing something, in order to pay at least part of our attention to this.

However, without realizing it, as a rule, he highlights in such drawings all the nuances and shades of parental upbringing in the family. And if, with hyperprotection, parents are really unable to take their admiring gaze away from the actions of a young artist, with this type of upbringing, their gaze is not at all admiring, rather evaluative and even slightly biased. And the color scheme in the picture is very different. However, more often than not, the family member who laid the foundation for increased responsibility in the child is colored by him much colder than others. At least, there is always at least one dark stroke on it, most likely black - a kind of indicator of the child's true relationship to the member of his family depicted by him. A simple, ordinary indicator that breaks all the masks.

Take a look at Figure 7 (below). You see a kind of arbitration court. The trial of a child who brought home a three for the first time. The eyes of the parents, like the muzzles of pistols, are ready to shoot at one target. And this target is a first-grader, huddled in an armchair, dreaming of merging with him, disappearing, dissolving in him, so as not to see this furious look of his parents. Look-torture and look-punishment. A look that speaks more than words. The plot is saturated in black. All people look like blacks. And only a vase with bright colors on the table and the flashing "fire" of the carpet give us some hope. The child will cope someday, a little later, with the heavy mission of increased responsibility suddenly assigned to him. He will endure, he will endure, he will win.

8. Vos "in the cult of disease." And in the figure, a cult is always a cult, whatever it may be. Even though it's just a disease cult. With this type of upbringing, the drawing seems to be permeated with an all-consuming egocentrism. Rules over all. And you involuntarily concentrate your attention on his figure. Like an idol or as with hyper-custody - in such a picture, most often in the center. Around him are those who constantly look after him in the house. Usually this is a mother or grandmother. The share of other family members is rarely left on paper. Quite often, even in the drawing they are depicted as they are ill, and next to them are those who take care of them every day and night, or rather, constantly. But no matter how sad such a plot sometimes seems to us, the "sick" prefers to paint it with warm colors.

9. Vos by the type of "crown prince"."Crown Princes" are the first to draw things. The world of materialism surrounds them from all sides literally from birth, the world of materialism, and not the world of people. Then the "crown prince" usually depicts himself in the drawing, playing with these things. He rarely remembers his parents. Much more often, he places his friends next to him, who are able to share loneliness with him, playing with his little "crown prince" with his overseas, priceless toys. It is not uncommon for "crown princes" to "replace" a drawing own family drawing of a room with things..

10. Controversial. This type of upbringing is quite difficult to capture in one picture. The child most often "groups" individual family members into small groups. He places himself next to those to whom he is most attached. And those of the relatives who "interferes" with him are usually placed at a distance. It is not uncommon for an artist to draw his grandparents in the form of a "buffer" even when they are no longer alive.

11. Changing parenting patterns(see figure 1 below). The drawing most often reveals the reason for the change in the type of upbringing of the child, and not the type itself, the type that actually does not exist.

When a newborn appears in the family, the former idol usually "forgets" to draw him among his relatives or, depicting the baby next to his parents, leaves no room for himself. When dad leaves home forever, he continues to draw him in the family for a long time, as if nothing had happened, often even starting his drawing with his father. He probably just remembers the good and beautiful past, which he would like to return and make it present again.

		Rice. 1. Drawing of a 10-year-old girl Saule R. "My family". The type of upbringing is a change in upbringing patterns. An idol who was rejected due to the birth of other children in the family. And although the main one in the picture is the House, its Hearth, like Carlson, is somewhere on the roof of the house (or behind it). And in the house there is simply no place for a former idol.
Rice. 2. Drawing of a 6-year-old girl Lera E. "My family". Type of upbringing - neglect. Lonely, useless, outcast. And even the fragile figure of the girl resembles the letter "I". I, I'm all alone in the world. And is there really not even a person in the city who would need me ...
		Rice. 3. Drawing of a 7-year-old girl Olya M. "My family". Type of education - the idol of the family. The idol of the family in all its monumentality.
Rice. 4. Drawing of a girl 6 years and 7 months old. Sveta T. "My family". The type of upbringing is closer to hypo-care. A child who often feels lonely in the family, jealous of his parents for his younger sister, to a sister who gets not only the caresses of mom and dad, but even their flowers. Dad's black trousers suggest that the girl is worried and bad habits father - the source of scandals in the house.
		Rice. 5. Drawing of a girl 6 years 5 months. Lera G. "My family". Type of upbringing - hypoopeka. Another example, when, as if in a completely prosperous family, even admiring mom and dad, he feels superfluous, believing that they do not need him at all. Against the background of festively dressed parents, all the time busy only with themselves, he agreed only at the request of the elder to portray himself as a faceless silhouette.
Rice. 6. Drawing of a 13-year-old girl Lena K. "My family". Vos on the type of "Cinderella". No matter how Cinderella tries to attract the attention of her parents to herself by playing the piano, mom and dad don’t care about her, and they are completely absorbed in the family by her brother’s pranks and pranks.
		Rice. 7. Drawing of a boy 7 years 6 months. Aidana S. "My family". Vos by the type of high moral responsibility.
Rice. 8. Drawing of a 10-year-old girl Saule R. "The family I want." The rejected idol (see Fig. 1) dreams of returning the past, so that the family would be the same as before, with one child, of course, to them. But, speaking in black strokes on the figures, the harsh reality haunts him: it is unlikely that this will be possible again in his family.
		Rice. 9. Drawing of a 6-year-old girl Lera E. "The family I want." Dreams and dreams of a neglected child. At least the holiday brought the family together again. Let mom and dad finally see that they have grown up, become their equal and dream of living in their family.
Rice. 10. Drawing of a girl 6 years 9 months. Tanya B. "The Family I Want". Dreams and daydreams of a girl, whom her father keeps in "hedgehogs" (see the text for explanations).
		Rice. 11. Drawing of a girl 6 years 8 months. Oli B. "The Family I Want". I want a family soaked in the sun, so that we are always only together, so that everyone is for everyone, and everyone is for one!

Modification of the drawing technique "My family" - "The family I want"

So, you have taken only the first steps to diagnose family relations according to such a simple and so universal at the same time test "My family". However, in order to look even deeper into the child's soul, you can also use our version of this test, modifying it into the "Family I Want" method.

To do this, after yours has finished drawing his family, turn the sheet of paper over to the other side and give him a new task: let him draw another family with the same pencils, but not the twin family, but the one that he would like to have, in other words - "The family I want."

"The family I want"... With your task, you managed to unwittingly press the levers of the child's fantasy, remove the brakes, lift the veil of his secrets, seeing what is hidden even for a child. And if the first of the drawings is most often something like a lock, which is not always possible to open because of the cipher, then the second drawing is the key to the castle, the code to the cipher. The second drawing is a positive after the retoucher worked with the negative of the first drawing. The second drawing is the "entrance" to what you want, the "entrance" to the "Beautiful Far Away", which you would not mind having now. You will not find in the second picture even a hint of the silhouettes of the future husband or future wife artist. You will not find his future children in the second drawing. The child is just you are not yet able to portray yourself.

"The family I want" he represents only in the present. "Beautiful Away" is desirable for him today. And in order for it to become obvious, it is only necessary to remove the obstacles that hinder the path a little. And he easily "eliminates" them on paper, "neutralizing" them with his own methods. Therefore, usually in the picture "The Family I Want" someone from the child's true family often "disappears" or dubious relatives appear, about which few people knew. The artist either "shortens" or "lengthens" his family, producing in it only a replacement and a change of scenery that he understands. When there is no visible replacement, then usually in the second picture the sequence of the arrangement of the figures of the child's parents, as well as his brothers and sisters, is different and differs much from the one we saw during the "My Family" sample. As a rule, almost all relatives for some reason change places. And if suddenly the artist's father held him in "hedgehogs" and because of this he was the first in the drawing "My Family", then the second test arranges everything as it should. So when it does decide to new family"leave" even such a dad, then he draws him away from everyone and after everyone.

That relative, whom for some reason "forgets" to portray in "The Family I Want", as a rule, is the source of his discomfort, the cause of all experiences and hardships. And, having "excluded" him independently from the members of his own family and thus accomplished his "judgment", the artist, as it were, suggests to us a way out of this situation and "hints" how to carry it out.

Take a look at the picture former idol(see fig. 8). In "My Family" (see Fig. 1) he only portrayed himself. But in "The Family I Want" he seems to be restoring the past. And dad and mom are next to him again, and not as before, behind closed door. Indeed, "My Family" is indeed often a locked door. But "The Family I Want" is a gate wide open for others. And now the outcast (see Fig. 2) dreams of uniting the family with a holiday, in which he himself would be like a holiday (see Fig. 9) And the one whom the father kept in "hedgehogs" takes everyone except dad for a walk , accidentally "forgetting" to call his father with him (see Fig. 10), and sends his older sister on urgent, urgent and important matters for her, in order to finally be alone with her beloved mother.

Oh, if only the fairy tale came true! Oh, if reality suddenly turned into a fairy tale! And the sun would always shine on the family. And everyone could not live without each other (see Fig. 11). I want a family soaked in the sun. I want a family like the sun. I want HOPE, FAITH and LOVE to always live in my family!

Probably, you have convinced yourself that most often the “masks” from the analysis of the picture “My Family” are “teared off” only by the picture “The Family I Want”. And if you suddenly had to limit yourself to one drawing, you would doubt your own guesses. Therefore, when it suddenly becomes difficult to decode the "My Family" drawing sample, use its "The Family I Want" version of it.

Questions:
1. in the title of the post. son Vlad, 4 years old, has not yet voluntarily drawn (without help and outside participation) a single person, no dog, no cars - nothing. I don't mean "drawn like" - at least somehow ... Only (occasionally) - road, "pattern", rain, etc.
2. How to develop fine motor skills if the child does not aspire to this? no interest. but it is necessary to develop, hands, fingers are weak. knows how to dress, but does not like, maybe. this is one of the reasons.
3. went to class. gone for a month or so. lesson of 2 lessons - fine art and dancing. the teacher is friendly (in art), in dancing, she just conducts a lesson, she doesn’t fit everyone, but she’s also pretty.
once a week. son refuses to go. In general, I have already decided not to force him. maybe in vain?

Few details. Paints and other things for drawing have always been available (since a year). Plasticine, salty dough, played with cereals. Our classes weren't on schedule. I could get carried away with something for a short time, I could both offer and show, and no interest. I also lost interest after that. Now Tyoma, the youngest, has become interested in wax crayons, felt-tip pens, so he can draw kalyaks for the company. But often he just scatters pencils or starts to carry them like loads in cars. I recently offered a book with stickers - I seem to like it, we even do tasks. But ... a book about transport! Whether other topics will do so well is also a question.
From the constructor builds roads and "buildings" flat (the same road, only placed vertically). I like the "Tomik" cubes, which are with painted windows. he asked me to sculpt at one time, he only smeared the plasticine on the board, or inserted cereal / buttons into the plasticine. ask to roll a ball or "sausage" - there will be no way.
At the art lesson, he often gets distracted, starts playing with what is cooked on the table. We do tasks together, but I have to bring him back to the topic constantly. At dances - the same thing (we are the only ones in the group, but there were no comments). When the music plays, he stands nearby or asks to be held. Movements without music (playing with a cat, a frog, etc.) can be repeated. We listen to music at home, he knows some songs and sings along.
He doesn’t like going to classes, but he is cheerful on the way, after class we walk together, it seems that there is nothing unpleasant.
On the last iso, he didn’t get involved in the work at all, he lay on the table, played with crayons. They didn't go to the dance.
Tonight she started talking about plans for tomorrow - she said that she didn’t want to, “I don’t know how to draw because” (no one forced me, didn’t evaluate badly).
In the garden I talked with the teachers - she also often happens to be "on her own wave", does not want to do it or is distracted.

off topic ... Here I read about topics, who draws how and why. And I remember how I drew myself ... Why does the fence around the house mean closeness ... yes, there was nothing to do, I sat and thought, what else to add ... the smoke from the chimney also appeared that way, the curtains on the windows too. When drawing a family, someone could turn out very big or small, but just because they didn’t calculate, they didn’t fit on the page ... I didn’t draw hands because it’s difficult to draw, you draw and it’s not beautiful ... it’s better to put them behind your back ... .When I read books that children's drawings say a lot .... God, I thought that they would think of me when they saw my drawings ... according to my drawings, you can say that my childhood was terrible and I had a lot of problems and complexes ahem ... and all because I drew this squiggle ... but I was guided by quite banal things ... The desire to embellish and regret that I finished drawing, but I want to draw something else ... or simply not the ability to draw and, as a result, the unwillingness to detail some moments....

Doesn’t anyone have the feeling that what is written about these techniques according to the drawings does not correspond to the present ... didn’t you really draw a handle on the door to the house because you are a closed person .. or drew curtains on the windows because you are secretive? I see by myself a lot of problems that could be read in my drawings as a banal embellishment and inability to draw.

And I’ll add about colors .... sometimes I chose the colors of pencils - simply because it’s better sharpened ... and that’s it .. bright ones were grinded faster .. and, accordingly, there was a period of drawing with dark pencils .. And a psychologist, looking at time in time space, would say o- oo! the girl has obvious problems and depression during this period ... 02/08/2005 14:38:18, Shtuchkina Masha

“I didn’t draw hands because it’s difficult to draw, you’ll draw and it’s not beautiful” - and why for this child is it important that EVERYTHING be beautiful, while for most children it is important that the little man has EVERYTHING (that is, the presence of arms, legs and ears, it doesn’t matter if it turned out beautifully or not)?
"bright colors were sharpened faster .. and, accordingly, there was a period of drawing with dark pencils" - again, why does this child prefer to draw with dark colors instead of sharpening his favorite light ones? I (and most of the children I know) didn’t like to draw dark, I sharpened my favorites, asked my parents to buy a new box of pencils - felt-tip pens (I remember, I could not draw for a week or 2, because there was no red felt-tip pen, it always ended first)
That is, a too abstruse approach to the interpretation of drawings is too much, but to deny this science as such - it is also too much. 08.02.2005 18:03:20,

I completely agree with the last paragraph, that's what I wanted to convey .. the theory is there and really works, but sometimes excessive dripping leads to false impressions ... if you want to find anything in the picture, you can.
PS, by the way, I was the first to run out of yellow%) ... I didn’t sharpen because I didn’t know how, and adults were sometimes busy at the moment when it was impatient to create, we can say that with these dark colors I poured out my grief about the yellow pencil%)))))) ))))))))) 02/08/2005 18:59:23, Shtuchkina Masha